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Why The Influence Of BDSM On Fashion Is So Important

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:23:21

Why The Influence Of BDSM On Fashion Is So Important

Source: Bustle.com.

USA – Before Fifty Shades Of Grey made everyone and their moms aware of the depravity of kink, much of fashion used BDSM references repeatedly in order to make bold style statements. This use of a subculture’s motifs within society’s mainstream style or in high fashion is far from a first — something anyone who’s seen a Vivienne Westwood collection will likely tell you. Designers have long found inspiration from punk, goth, and rave cultures to influence their creations, and BDSM is no different.

BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism. It’s a sexual kink that places partners in two positions — either the submissive or the dominant — and is all about playing with power dynamics in a relationship. While often physical, many practitioners feel that submission is a mental space, too. This fetish scene also utilizes a lot of specific costumes and materials, including latex, leather, and rubber.

When it comes to the adoption of specifically sexual imagery or themes, BDSM is the one and only fetish that can be witnessed again and again in style. At times, I cannot help but wonder whether BDSM itself is often robbed of its sexuality through its transformation into wearable looks. But for the time being, its utilization in fashion only seems like a hugely important thing.

This day in age, BDSM themes can regularly be seen in editorials and clothing campaigns. As soon as Kylie Jenner hit 18, for instance, several of her photoshoots enacted bondage themes: There was that sexy photoshoot on her website that flaunted both her boobs and booty, and the many controversial pictures she took for InterviewMagazine. From the runways to photoshoots, BDSM can indeed be found everywhere.

But as of late — by which I mean the past couple of years — BDSM style has taken itself off of the runways and onto our favorite celebrities, which in turn has lead to the materials and outfits of the fetish scene appearing in the mainstream.

On red carpets and in stores alike, materials like PVC and occasionally latex are being seen more and more. Chokers with rings, bondage-themed straps, and all-leather-everything aren’t just for couture anymore, let alone for underground sex clubs. Even everyone’s favorite fashion-forward family, The Kardashians, has been spotted wearing high-end latex designs at events and on their Snapchat stories.

Of course, just because the celebrities are wearing certain items doesn’t always mean that our peers are. To prove the popularity of these designs in the mainstream, I wish I could take you to the club so you might see them for yourself. Instead, a simple search within fast fashion and independent brands will prove my point: Latex, bondage, and other aesthetic aspects of BDSM are being represented in fashion on every level in a way that they never were before.

What’s Yer Fetish Collar Necklace, $45, dollskill.com

The fascination with fetish-wear doesn’t just stop with our club clothing, either. Subtly, it has found its way into our day-to-day wardrobes.

Swimsuits with millions of meaningless straps can easily be perceived as inspired by bondage harness-wear, for example. Even more overtly, we’re seeing fashion harnesses and body necklaces sold both as underwear and outerwear. The similarities between Ashley Graham’s swimsuitsforall “Liaison” suit and a “super revealing slave harness” are also more common than the differences.

Paranormal Harness Bra, $17, vixencurves.co.uk

But what is it about these designs, whether inspired by or directly taken from fetish-wear, that appeals to us so much? Were these concepts — picked up by fashion designers and trickled down from celebrities to the high street — always stylish, or is it their origins that make them so alluring?

The taboo and sexuality inherent in this subculture are arguably not seen in other alternative cultures, because other subcultures aren’t necessarily fetishes. BDSM is first and foremost a sexual practice, with fetish-wear being merely a part of the sexual act. Other subcultures — like punk or emo, for example — are rooted in political and social statements: There may still be a taboo involved in practicing them (a misalignment with the mainstream, perhaps) but there is not a sexuality.

When it comes to the allure of BDSM fashion, however, I feel that there are two possible reasons we could be attracted to the scene’s style: Either the taboo, sexual subtext within this clothing, or the high fashion element that seemingly removes the sexuality and makes it all about the style.

In discussion with Fashion Magazine, BDSM educator and PhD student Andrea Zanin of Toronto’s York University revealed that she sees the exploration of kink within style as an act of pushing boundaries, rather than demonstrating specifically sexual interest.

“Basically, the mainstream has always been, and will always be, interested in things that are on its own edges,” she commented. “What’s interesting is the way the edges constantly change. The most recent example is Fifty Shades Of Grey, but there was Gaultier dressing Madonna in fetish gear in the ’80s and ’90s and motorcycle culture in the ’50s. The mainstream keeps rediscovering kink as being that edge.”

Perhaps, then, our fascination doesn’t lie with the inherently sexual, but with the inherently taboo. Just as dressing as a punk used to be controversial — and just as women wearing trousers was once incredibly subversive — so too is BDSM perceived as radical by a relatively vanilla audience. Or rather, an audience that is largely beginning to feel that it has “seen it all.”

As the mainstream embraces more and more taboos — with a story centered on BDSM becoming a blockbuster hit and one of the best-selling book series of all time — I wonder where else fashion can possibly turn. Will we be seeing adult baby-themed collections one day? How far can the edges be pushed before celebrity and mainstream style alike no longer see these designs as edgy, but rather “too much?”

With the ebb and flow of the popularity of BDSM, bondage, latex, and leather, I’m sure that we have more than a few years left of exploring harnesses and kink inside and outside of the bedroom before high and fast fashion brands see the need to move on. Personally, I hope the taboos get pushed further by the industry and eventually the mainstream. By experimenting with subcultures like these, the public can hopefully learn to respect and understand them even more — and subsequently, learn to respect and understand the people whose sexualities are unlike their own. Even if that respect has to start with a new leather corset or a necklace.

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TRANSEXUAL SEX CASE A female transexual was spared jail despite ‘bondage sex’ with a child when she was a man

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:16:16

TRANSEXUAL SEX CASE A female transexual was spared jail despite ‘bondage sex’ with a child when she was a man

Gina Owen, 61, from Leigh, near Sherborne, Dorset, triumphant as she walks free from Taunton crown court in Somerset

Source: Thesun.co.uk.


UK – LEIGH – A TRANSEXUAL woman has been spared jail despite confessing to sex offences with a child when she was a man.

Gina Owen, 61, from Leigh, near Sherborne, Dorset, admitted two counts of causing or inciting a child to engage in sexual activity.

The offences took place 12 years ago, before Owen underwent her sex change.

She was accused of involvement in a sick bondage sex session with an underage boy.

The boy was allegedly convinced to tie her up, urinate in her mouth and humiliate her by hitting her “then male” genitals.

Owen had denied the charges, but changed her plea on the first day of her trial after the wording of the indictment was changed.

She pleaded guilty the two counts of abuse of trust at Taunton crown court, Somerset.

No further details of the precise nature of the admitted offences were given.

The only information provided was that the first charge related to the period between 1 May 2004 and 14 August 2004, while the second related to the period between 14 August 2004 and 31 December 2004.

Owen sensationally walked free from court after being sentenced to a two year conditional discharge.

She was also ordered to sign the sex offender’s register for two years and pay £500 in victim compensation.

Speaking after the case outside court, she said: “I am free – that is all there is to it.

“I was slaughtered by the press before all the facts were known and was treated appallingly.

“I am not going to say anymore as me and my family have been through enough.

“I am free and I have walked out of court – what does that tell you?

“The judge set me free.

“That’s the end of it and I will now move on.”

Despite her comments about the facts of the case not being known, Owen refused to expand on the circumstances behind her conviction.

See more and larger photo’s: www.bustle.com.



Disturbing moment two commuters take part in bizarre bondage ritual on the London Underground

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:12:55

Disturbing moment two commuters take part in bizarre bondage ritual on the London Underground

It seems some people will bend over backwards to get a comfortable seat on the tube

Source: Thesun.co.uk.


UK – LONDON- ANYBODY who uses the Tube in London knows you have to contort your body into some pretty strange positions just to get on board during rush hour.

However, it looks like these two are taking things a bit too far by performing a full blown ‘suspension bondage ‘ session in one carriage.

The couple’s very public exhibitionism took place in front of other tube passengers sitting just feet away.

Suspension bondage is practised by those into S&M and is increasing in popularity across the globe.

In partial suspension the person is bound in a way that part of their body weight is held by suspension ropes, cables or chains.

The classic partial suspension position is to have the person balancing on one foot with part of their weight supported through a chest harness and the other leg pulled up in some direction.

In full suspension (as seen here) the person is completely supported by suspension ropes, cables or chains so they have no contact with the ground.

The position of the person’s body in a full suspension is only limited by their endurance and the skill of the binder.

The main effect of suspension bondage is to create a heightened sense of vulnerability and a feeling of no escape.

The amazing images were captured by a shocked commuter and posted on Instagram.

See more and larger photo’s: www.thesun.co.uk.



Stephanie Corneliussen Talks Mr. Robot Bondage, Trilingualism, and Joanna’s Forebears

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:08:23

Stephanie Corneliussen Talks Mr. Robot Bondage, Trilingualism, and Joanna’s Forebears


Source: Vulture.com.


USA – There were a lot of scenes that had viewers talking during the first season of USA’s breakout thriller Mr. Robot, and one of them involved a ball gag. Stephanie Corneliussen’s Lady Macbeth–like villainess, Joanna Wellick, demanded that her husband Tyrell strap her in for a BDSM session. Since then, we’ve seen the character played by the Danish actress get even more adventurous, engaging in knife play with a boy toy a few weeks ago, but we’ve also seen her get more complex. Joanna seems to be deeply in love with her hubby, yet is willing to cut him off and rat him out, and she’s doing everything she can to protect her and her child’s financial well-being. Vulture caught up with Corneliussen to talk about Joanna’s machinations, her willingness to get kinky on set, and the fact that she and Martin Wallström’s Tyrell aren’t actually speaking the same language to each other in their scenes together.

Have you guys wrapped shooting at this point?

Yeah, finally. We wrapped on the 19th, so actually four days after the season premiere.

Sam Esmail cuts it pretty close.

Oh yeah, absolutely. I don’t know when that man sleeps. We’ve been doing this block shooting, where you can end up having four or five scenes in one day, and that can turn into 18-hour days. And I know he edits a couple of hours before and after a shoot day, so where are we at? He must have, like, an hour and a half of sleep. [Laughs.] I don’t even understand how he’s still walking.

Speaking of Sam: When he recruited you, what did he tell you about Joanna?

I had such limited information about her. I think cold-blooded was one [word used]. Manipulative was one of them. Then, Sam and I had a conversation where Lady Macbeth popped up and we both had that thought about her. A lot of the composing posture you see in Joanna I actually took from Lauren Bacall from To Have or Have Not. I absolutely adored that movie as a kid and I just remembered this woman who was so statuesque, and I was like, I want to do that. I wanted Joanna to be like that. I want her to have that complete, cool-cucumber effect on people, as Lauren Bacall did in that movie. She was originally supposed to be Swedish.

She was?

I actually auditioned in Swedish — I speak Swedish as well, some Danes do. On set the very first day, Martin [Wallström] and I were speaking to each other. We speak Danish and Swedish to each other when we talk on set, and Sam comes over and he’s listening to us for a second and he looks at us and goes, “Are you guys speaking the same language? It sounds different?” First off all, I was very impressed that he could actually hear that. I was like, “Actually, no: I’m speaking Danish and Martin is speaking Swedish.” And he was like, “And you guys actually understand each other?” and I was like, “Yeah.” For some people, especially if you live in Copenhagen and Stockholm, where Martin lives, we understand each other pretty well. Then [Sam] was like, “Do you want to do it in Danish? Do you want to make Joanna Danish?” And I was like, “Are you fucking kidding me, that would be amazing!” Sam asked if it would make sense, and I was like, “Yeah, I’d make sense, I have multiple friends who are Swedish and Danish and who are married.”

So in scenes when Joanna and Tyrell are talking to each other, Martin’s speaking Swedish and you’re speaking Danish?

He’s speaking Swedish and I’m speaking Danish, and then Martin and I decided that because they have been together for a long time, they are going to sometimes implement a little Danish and a little Swedish words to each other [instead of their respective native languages]. Some of the words are very different, so we decided that, if you’re having a casual conversation with your spouse and you want to make sure that you’re understood, if it’s easier to slip in a Swedish word, or for him, a Danish word to me, so that I would guess exactly what he’s saying, that’s what they’d do.

We can’t talk about Joanna without talking about bondage. When did you find out you’d be doing bondage scenes, and what was your reaction?

Well, that was the scene I auditioned with, the one where [Tyrell and Joanna] are in bed and she’s in bondage. As an actress, I was really intrigued by it from the get-go. I was like, Who is this chick? If she is such a dominant character, why would she take the role of the submissive? Joanna is such a both/and character. There is no either/or with her. She has this complete obsession with control and power, and I don’t think it’s an actual obsession in her head — that’s literally just how she is wired. And to be in that much control and power, those moments in the bedroom where she can relinquish control and be completely submissive, I think that’s her escape. But at the same time, she is still calling the shots. It’s odd, right?

It’s what’s referred to as “topping from the bottom,” or so I’m told.

I’m happy to have the lingo down. [Laughs.]

Do you feel especially exposed when you’re doing those scenes?

As Stephanie?

Yeah. Obviously, Joanna is into it. But how do you feel when you have your clothes off and a ball gag in your mouth?

It’s a closed set. We’ve a minimum amount of people on set, and they do everything to make me feel comfortable. There’s a person standing with a robe if I want to be covered. But I think this plays a lot into my culture and my background as a Dane. I am very liberal and fairly exhibitionistic. I don’t really have a problem with nudity or anything like that. But also, I’m so in the mind-set of Joanna that it doesn’t affect me personally. I definitely think that it’s easier for me because of my nationality, where we don’t fret too much about nudity and all that stuff. I think we were the first country to distribute commercial porn.

When you’re getting slapped, is it all TV magic or is there any actual pain that happens?

Sometimes you’ll have actors such as myself and a few other actors on the show who are willing to go to that extent that says, “Just for one take, slap me right.” Sam’s not crazy about that, but I mean, sometimes, to get into it and to feel it, we’ll do it. I like to go and to push it as far as I can without it being dangerous, obviously, but it helps you as an actress.

Was that your thigh in the season premiere, when Derek draws blood with the knife, or was that a double’s?

No, that was mine. That was my leg. I have a wonderful double, but that was me doing it. This was a very intricate prop with like a little hose filled with fake blood. Sam is not really happy with putting us in real danger. I’m all for it. I don’t think I would mind being cut a little bit.

In this week’s episode, Joanna offers to rat out Tyrell. Does she actually love him? That’s a shitty thing to do to someone you love.

Oh, she loves him absolutely and she misses him. The thing is, Joanna has a numero-uno objective, and that’s her child. Something hormonally and biologically switches in Joanna as soon as she has this baby. It becomes her everything. Somebody of her mind-set will always have something that is to an extent an obsession. In season one, it’s Tyrell. Now she has her baby, and she will go even further and through even more to protect this child. She’s exploring every avenue to try to get a little better control over this mess she’s in.


Speaking of love: Does Joanna love Derek, her sweet little boy-toy?

She says she does, but the thing with Joanna is we never really know what she means when she says something. I feel like a lot of the things that Joanna says that come out so forcefully, it sounds like this is exactly what she’s saying, and it is, but it could also mean 7,000 other things. Is it real love? Is it her thinking, “Maybe I can change my life now and try something new?” We don’t know yet. Only time will tell.

Joanna is probably the best-dressed character on the show. How does your mind-set change when you get into one of her outfits?

Kim Wilcox, who was our costume designer on the first season, and I initially had the conversation about Joanna’s wardrobe. We could very easily dress her up in black and make her look very villainous, but I told Kim, “I want Joanna to be a wolf in sheep’s clothing.” Kim already had this idea of these light ethereal Scandinavian colors and that was the concept that we developed. You see this completely dominant, powerful, villainous character who’s walking around in these beautiful, floral, light-beige colors. She looks so nice and accessible and approachable. She doesn’t seem as intimidating until she stares in your eyes and tries to kill you.

In your mind, do you think Joanna comes from money?

We get a little bit of a taste in season one when she’s talking about adopting away her first child. Then, when she’s talking to the sweet boy-toy, Derek, in tonight’s episode, she says to him, “You don’t have any money, but I had all those things before.” Putting the pieces together shows that coming from a family where teen pregnancy is unacceptable and talking about this wealth that she’s had, I think she comes from a very prestigious and very privileged lifestyle. Now that Tyrell’s missing, this is the first time in Joanna’s life where she’s actually struggling for money. Not having it is really frustrating to her and making her more dangerous in the sense that it’s making her desperate.

One last thing: In the season-one finale, why does Joanna speak to Elliot in Danish for a few words?

I want to lead this into a multiple-outcome situation. It could be many things. It could be that she expects him to understand her, or when you’re making a death threat to someone that you’ve just met, saying it in another language is just pretty ballsy. She knows he’s not going to understand. Or is he going to understand? At this point I think that we will get more answers to that later on.

See larger Photo: www.vulture.com.



‘I Cross-Dress. Do You Still Love Me?’: The Secret Lives of Sissies

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:04:12

‘I Cross-Dress. Do You Still Love Me?’: The Secret Lives of Sissies


Source: Broadly.vice.com.


USA – Sissy men don’t try to ‘pass’ as women. For some, the thrill and exuberance comes from being forced—typically by a dominatrix—to wear women’s clothing in public. For others, it’s just kinky fun.

n spent the majority of his adult life working as the facilities manager of a high school in Michigan. Ken was responsible for routine maintenance, building repair, and the beautification of athletic fields. No one ever suspected that Ken harbored a deep secret: He fantasized of being forced into women’s clothing by a female dominatrix. Ken viewed his cross-dressing kink as a crucial facet of his identity, but feared that no one in his small Michigan town would understand. It was this need for understanding that inspired Ken to travel over 2,000 miles to attend “Sissy Night,” a unique BDSM event in San Francisco hosted by noted dominatrix Alice In Bondage Land.

“I like ‘forced fem,'” Ken explains to me in the backroom of Wicked Grounds, a famed Bay Area “kink cafe” and the location of Sissy Night. “Somebody who has to be forced to look like a woman, against their will…and into the bondage area.”

Ken wears a black T-shirt, dark jeans, and speaks in hurried, clipped sentences. He made the trip to San Francisco completely alone, a sort of BDSM pilgrimage that was the first item on his post-retirement “bucket list.” He seems both thrilled and slightly terrified to be here, surrounded at last by men who share his desire.

Ken, you see, is a sissy. Most individuals think of the term “sissy” as a macho epithet utilized by schoolyard bullies. Yet on Sissy Night, the word takes on a different meaning. In the BDSM community, “sissies” are men who cross-dress, often for sexual pleasure. Many of these men engage in “sissification” or “forced feminization,” where a female dominatrix will switch her male submissive’s gender role. Though every sissy/femdom relationship is wildly different, the common denominator is usually the forced cross-dressing of the male submissive—anything from lingerie to evening gowns. Some “sissies” simply enjoy dressing up, and have no interest in BDSM. Others desire a kinkier feminization, one that is accompanied by spanking, pegging or bondage.

“Growing up I always had a bondage fetish. I remember playing cops and robbers games with girls. I think it materialized in the fact that I wanted to be the damsel in distress the whole time.”

It is Ken’s first time at Sissy Night, but he is instantly embraced by the attendees. After our interview, a dominatrix wielding a wooden paddle cozies up to him and the two chat like old friends. Sissy Night is qualified as a “munch,” which is a BDSM term for a meet-up in a public place that serves food. Wicked Grounds is a common “munch” location in San Francisco and hosts events for many different factions of the BDSM community. In most respects, the venue resembles your typical cozy/shabby coffee joint: freelancers sit on mismatched furniture, working on laptops and eating food. But tonight, behind a red curtain that separates a small backroom from the rest of the shop, sissies are assembling.

“There’s a confessional aspect to ‘munches’ sometimes,” says Alice In Bondage Land, the femdom hostess for the evening who is decked out in a floor-length rubber gown and tight corset. Despite her extreme attire, Alice’s demeanor is overwhelmingly kind, a sort of BDSM momma bear looking out for her sissy cubs. “There is the pretense of sharing a meal together, which normalizes the awkwardness of strangers meeting and having very intimate conversations,” she says. “It’s a way to get to know people without it being in a sex club or a bar where there’s a pressure to hookup.”

There is a sense of warmth and camaraderie at this particular “munch.” Men help each other with makeup, squeeze friends into latex catsuits, or adjust the wigs of strangers. Sissy Night is a safe space where these men can embrace their authentic nature in public—a luxury most don’t have in their daily lives.

“I don’t go around work in a dress. But I did get ready for Sissy Night at work, and blew the security guard a kiss.”

“There are a lot of people here who are deeply closeted,” says Alice. “This venue lets us arrive however we’re comfortable in the outside world, then change into whatever selves we want to be for the night. There’s a lot of people who are in a relationship or come right from work or don’t want their neighbors to see them walking to their car [in women’s clothing].”

“Rose” is one of the first men to appear on the scene, and does not arrive in female attire. He is in his early 30s and—with his stocky build, baritone voice, masculine garb, and black messenger bag—it seems as if he has stumbled into the wrong room after getting off work at one of the city’s many tech startups. But Rose (who wishes to be identified by the female name given to him by his first dominatrix) is in the right place. Alice welcomes him as he nervously explains that this will be his first time dressing up in public. She ushers him into the backroom, where he changes into a calf-length skirt, a brown-striped sweater, and a long black wig. He then sits at a table and begins doing his makeup. Annelise, a middle-aged man in an orange rubber go-go dress, swoops in to offer some application tips.

As the backroom slowly fills with sissies, I approach Rose and ask if we can chat. He agrees, though he requests that I conceal his identity. Rose is a heterosexual male, and the only individuals who know of his fetish are the women he’s dated. I ask Rose to describe the experience of coming out to his recent girlfriend.

“When I first dropped the bomb, it was very emotional. There was crying involved, mainly on her part,” Rose recalls. “I told her, ‘Listen, I cross-dress, and I don’t want that to affect the actual relationship.'” Initially, his girlfriend was tolerant, but ultimately failed to give Rose the support he needed. “She wasn’t the kind of person to go out [in public] with me. She was not actually my partner in crime as I had hoped. She was OK if I went by myself, but she wouldn’t be next to me.”

The relationship ended, and Rose is once again on the search for a “partner in crime,” who will accept what he describes as an innate desire to experience bondage dressed in women’s clothing.

“Growing up, I always had a bondage fetish,” Rose says. “I remember playing cops and robbers games with girls. I think it materialized in the fact that I wanted to be the damsel in distress the whole time.”

Rose’s story is not uncommon within the world of BDSM. Many individuals in the BDSM community describe themselves as innately “kinky,” often recognizing this aspect of their identity in childhood or teen years.

Though Rose has had difficulty finding a romantic partner who is accepting of his lifestyle, some of the sissies here have long-term partners who embrace their fetish. I speak with Kendra, a San Francisco local who has been married to a woman for eight years. Kendra’s wife not only accepts his fetish, she celebrates it.

“My wife is just awesome. Really open, really accepting—we both are—so there was no gray area around my cross-dressing,” he says. “There wasn’t really a coming out. When we would have kinky sex, it would be like, ‘Hey, let’s do this or that.’ It organically happened. I wasn’t like, ‘I gotta tell you something very important: I cross-dress. Do you still love me?'”

Kendra, who also has three children, smiles warmly when speaking of his wife. He stands before me wearing fishnet stockings, a garter belt, and a spaghetti-strap crop top which shows off his chiseled abs and muscular arms. He shifts in his six-inch heels as I ask him if he is “out” among his co-workers.

“I am and I’m not,” Kendra says. He explains that he works at Kink.com, the noted BDSM porn site. “Kink.com is a very ‘accepting-of-everything’ kind of place. I don’t go around work in a dress. But I did get ready for Sissy Night at work, and blew the security guard a kiss.”

Most sissies present don’t have the option of blowing cross-dressed kisses to their co-workers. The backroom of Wicked Grounds is now crowded with men in various states of cross-dress, the majority of whom are extremely closeted. I speak with Lexi and April, two men who arrived together wearing matching Harajuku dresses with frilly Victorian petticoats. Lexi “writes software for robots,” and April is a dentist. Neither are out in the workplace.

“I am only out to Lexi and another close, mutual friend of ours. I’m deep in the closet. This is my first time out in public dressed up,” April says, beaming in Lexi’s direction. “I’m really excited. I really have to thank Lexi for taking me out here. I wouldn’t have been comfortable alone.”

The two were friends for years, before discovering that they shared a mutual interest in Harajuku cross-dressing. “One day he accidentally showed me a picture [where he was wearing] a ‘Lolita fashion’ [Harajuku dress]. Then it was like, ‘Oh, I’m into that, too,’ and it started off from there,” April recalls.

Though both describe a sexual interest in cross-dressing “role-play,” neither are into bondage. “You see at lot of people focused on…humiliation. But you don’t have to humiliate me to make me put on a dress,” Lexi says. “I want to put on a dress. I want to find people who are into it, and not just as a humiliation thing.”

Lexi’s sexual interests may differ from many of the sissies here tonight, but he is still thrilled to be here. “[This night] is a different way of approaching cross-dressing. Before I used to just do it at home, by myself, in this purely sexual thing,” Lexi says. “It’s fun to push myself in the direction of trying to live in public a bit, and actually pass as female.”

But though Lexi and April get a rush when they “pass” in public, neither identifies as trans. In general, this tends to be the case at Sissy Night. The majority of men I speak with say they are heterosexual, though some identify as bisexual or pansexual. There are also a small number of trans women.

Dee identifies as both gender-fluid and trans. Dee is a Sissy Night regular, and a personal friend of Alice In Bondage Land. The two first met through FetLife, a social network for the BDSM community.

“When I first started interacting with Alice, it was because Alice had posted a picture on FetLife of someone she had duct-taped to a flagpole in the Castro,” Dee recalls with a gleeful smile. “The duct tape was the pride flag colors…I thought it was a really neat idea.”

The two became friends, and Dee expressed interest in staging a BDSM “scene” with Alice as the dominatrix, one that would ultimately help Dee embrace gender fluidity.

“The very first scene with Alice was a duct-tape bondage scene,” Dee says. “We started by cocooning me with duct tape in a male mode. The end result was cutting me out into a female mode…I went from wearing a stereotypically masculine T-shirt and jeans to a skirt, frilly top, and little thigh-high faux-latex stockings. It was a complete shift. At that time, I was reasonably sure about the gender-fluidity, but this scene was the confirmation that this is actually completely accurate to who I am.”

The ability to release gender-fluid butterflies from duct-tape cocoons is not a skill all dominatrixes share. That Alice was capable of such impactful gender fuckery, speaks to her uniquely queer perspective.

“I’ve been a part of the BDSM community for a long time, and we have a knack for both being accepting, but also splitting into factions,” Alice says. “I don’t want to be a part of the gate-keeping of gender. I’m not here to decide who does and doesn’t deserve a label. I think coming together under a kind of scary term like ‘sissy’ is very triggering for some people, but also liberating in the same way that ‘queer’ is a triggering word. I’m trying to create a very queer space for gender, where it’s not about what operations you’re having, what hormones you’re on…It’s much more complicated than that, and it’s very important to me that everyone is welcome here.”

Alice’s efforts have clearly been a success. It is now 10 PM, and the back room of Wicked Grounds is wall-to-wall sissies. Everyone is gearing up to head around the corner to a club called Bondage-A-Go-Go. Men apply last-minute lipstick, hike up their skirts, and shove “vanilla” masculine clothing into their work bags. The scene spills onto the street, as the sissy migration begins. I catch Alice before she leaves, and ask one lingering question.

“Why sissies? Out of the hundreds of fetishes to choose from, why specifically host a sissy night?” I ask.

“Because every boy I’ve ever fallen in love with has secretly worn panties,” Alice responds, with a boisterous laugh.

See much more and larger photo’s: Broadly.vice.com.



‘Vampire’ bondage fan cleared of raping two women by jury

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 02:00:56

‘Vampire’ bondage fan cleared of raping two women by jury


Source: Echo-news.co.uk.


UK – SOUTHWARK – A BONDAGE lover, accused of having a vampire fetish, has been cleared of raping two women.

Luke McCarthy, 28, sucked one woman’s blood after carving a cross in his chest, it was claimed in court.

But he insisted that any sexual activity he had with either woman was consensual.

Jurors at Southwark Crown Court agreed and cleared him of four counts of rape in relation to two women, between 2009 and 2013.

Mr McCarthy was alleged to have raped the first woman on two separate occasions at his parents’ house in Southend between August and October 2009.

The father-of-one rejected claims he had tied the woman up in his cupboard and made her sleep with her head in a cage on his floor.

He admitted once whipping a woman with a bamboo cane from his parents’ garden, but denied using the whip on this particular woman.

The court heard that although a “blood-swapping ritual” took place it was merely “symbolic” and Mr McCarthy denied having any sort of fetish.

In an interview with police one of the women claimed: “He has this vampire fetish – he cut his chest in the shape of a cross and blood came out.

Yet Mr McCarthy claimed he certainly did not have a vampire fetish.

He told police: “Not to the degree of I like going out neck biting people and stuff like that – it’s unhygienic.

“It’s not a delusion of reality, it’s not a role play environment.”

He added that the exchange of blood was “something I don’t do regularly”.

He added that the exchange of blood was something he didn’t do regularly.

Mr McCarthy, of Dorset Road, Vauxhall, London, met a second woman at Vauxhall’s goth and fetish Antichrist Club.

He claimed throughout sex was consensual and that a vampire act was “symbolic” so that the pair would have a “special” connection. Asked if S&M dominated his sex life he replied: “At the moment, yes.

“One of the things about the dynamics involved in that is the person who has the most power is actually the submissive person.”

McCarthy told jurors the second woman agreed to role play and everything that happened with the first was part of a “master and slave” agreement.

See larger photo: Echo-news.co.uk.



15 Unbelievable Photos Of A 60-Year-Old Dominatrix With Her Client (NSFW)

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 01:57:54

15 Unbelievable Photos Of A 60-Year-Old Dominatrix With Her Client (NSFW)

“BDSM involves trust, compassion, love, acceptance, erotica, and surrendering control … along with a few necessary beatings.”

Source: Huffingtonpost.com.


USA – Sandra LaMorgese was a holistic practitioner for many years before she lost her wellness clinic in the wake of the Great Recession in 2011. The now 60-year-old has worked as a dominatrix ever since.

“If you had told me 10 years ago that I would kick a man straight in the balls wearing six-inch heels, blood-red lipstick, black eye shadow, and false eyelashes, I would have kicked you out of my house,” she said.

But as a 55-year-old with no prospects and no savings, she had little choice but to be resourceful.

“I somehow understood that this line of work would set me free from my own judgmental perceptions ― formed through social standards ― of how a woman should behave and follow the ‘rules’,” LaMorgese said. “I also hoped it might get me back on my feet financially.”

After weeks of persuasion, she finally convinced a New York City BDSM dungeon to grant her an in-person interview. She started dominatrix training three days later and, just like that, became a professional.

To find out more about the work of a dominatrix, The Huffington Post was allowed to witness an hour-long session between LaMorgese and one of her clients, Joseph, 28.

In her rented-out room of submission and domination in midtown Manhattan, a throne is set against the back wall, which is painted red. There’s a bondage table, a metal cage, whips, paddles, a stockade of sorts, and various other instruments of the trade. From the outset, it was clear that sex was never part of the equation. The hour was all about asserting control over someone who enjoys surrendering their power. LaMorgese was authoritative ― but also calm and collected ― and she required her client to address her as “Mistress.”

“What am I going to do with you?” she asks hims.

“Whatever you want, Mistress,” he responds.

“That’s music to my ears,” she says, just before smacking his ass hard with a paddle.

Before long, his buttocks are fiery red.

For an inside peek at the session, scroll through the images and quotes below.

“At first, the idea was nothing more than an off-hand joke between me and a friend — one of those ‘Well, you could always become a circus clown’ kind of comments. I was 55 and didn’t think I could ever do something like this at 55.” — Sandra

“At the time, though, I was working to earn my PhD in Metaphysical Science, studying female sexual empowerment and researching the transmutation of sexual energy, and more I flirted with the idea of becoming a dominatrix, the more logical it seemed. It would be the ultimate way for me to walk the walk and talk the talk of my studies. Slowly, the idea took root in my mind.” — Sandra

“There is a classic stereotype of a dominatrix — and I totally get why. Whenever the media portrays a fetishist or a ‘Domme,’ as we’re called in the industry, she is typically dressed in leather, wearing thigh-high boots and a mean scowl, and covered with tattoos. And while I do own such garments, my look and attitude only scratch the surface of the relationship I have with my clients.” — Sandra

“I think a lot of people consider it taboo because they just look at it from an outside perspective … that oh, this guy likes to get his ass beat or this guy likes to get dominated … and they don’t realize the health benefits that person is receiving by submitting for an hour-long session.” — Joseph

“Being a dominatrix isn’t really about the look or the badass attitude at all: It’s a power and sexual energy exchange, and for the most part, it’s not what I’m doing that really matters. What matters is how I make my client feel. The props and the costumes are there to increase the drama, but the real play comes from my relationship with my client.” — Sandra

“A true professional dominatrix never has sex with a client and a true submissive would never expect sexual favors from a Mistress. Internet BDSM porn created that misconception.” — Sandra

“We all follow the rules, even if we don’t realize we’re doing it. Women have had a lifetime of society’s conditioning and training in the rules of how a women should behave. I worried constantly about my appearance, my reputation, and the way others perceived me. Even now, after years of actively pushing against those restrictive ideas, I still can’t go down to the grocery store without putting on a proper bra.” — Sandra

“Every day, though, I’m learning to change how I think, feel, and believe about being ‘proper,’ and I am slowly setting myself free from the external and internal influences that stifle my authenticity of being me.” — Sandra

“It takes a lot of energy [to be a dominatrix] and if you are a true professional and you enjoy your work you are really in it with the client. My mind is not on different thoughts like the electric bill or other things that could be taking my thoughts and feelings away from the session. I am putting all my energy and emotions inside that session. So at tops I can see maybe two clients a day.” — Sandra

“This is no different than going to get a massage for an hour. It’s no different than people who say they go to the gym for therapy. It’s just another form of human expression. It just happens that you may or may not get your ass beat for an hour. People kind of look at that as, oh, that’s not healthy. But there are numerous medical and mental benefits that come from this.” — Joseph

“I knew that becoming a dominatrix would truly teach me to fully accept authentic, non-judgmental sexuality. I knew, however, that I struggled with the many negative social influences that cast aside expressive sexuality and especially BDSM as wrong and taboo. I didn’t want people to think I was abnormal or strange. At the same time, though, I suspected that the experience could empower me as a woman, and deep down, I somehow understood that it would set me free from my own judgmental perceptions of how women should behave and follow the ‘rules’.” — Sandra

“We’re not here to hurt anyone. Actually, I always say to everyone, ‘I’m not in the pain business, I’m in the pleasure business’.” — Sandra

“The practice of BDSM involves trust, compassion, love, acceptance, erotica, and surrendering control …That, along with a few necessary beatings.” — Sandra

“As far as laws go, there can be no sexual acts (including foot jobs) and no penetration (anal, catheters, needles). When it comes to the ‘tribute’ (gift of appreciation for the Mistress’s time to even consider giving the sub any of her attention … sometimes she will receive a gift card by email just because she deserves nice things. Price varies for different areas, however the range for NYC is between $200-$500 an hour. High-case characters are always used when referring to a Mistress. It’s a superior thing.” — Sandra

“The older I get, the more my ideas about age change. I recently turned 60, but unlike when I turned 40 or 50, my age no longer feels like an important part of my identity. When I was younger, I worried more about my age because I was so worried about becoming ‘successful in life,’ and in many cases, society gives us a deadline for those accomplishments. At 60, though, I feel more free, empowered, and happy than ever before, and that’s all that matters. I no long place myself in the ‘age box’ So, instead of thinking of myself as 60, I see myself more as a spirit traveler, who has been on a journey here for 60 years.” — Sandra

See much more larger photo’s: www.huffingtonpost.com.

LINKS:

Website: Sandralamorgese.com.

Facebook: Facebook.com/sandra.lamorgese.
Twitter: Twitter.com/sandralamorgese.



I was hogtied and bound in the name of Zen (videolink)

BDSM Media News Posted on Fri, August 05, 2016 01:52:41

I was hogtied and bound in the name of Zen (videolink)


Source: NYpost.com.


USA – NEW YORK – Finding peace through rope bondage might seem questionable, but Brooklyn-based rope mistress Erin Houdini believes that the practice is a form of New Age kink, and she intends for it to bring peace to the stressed-out New Yorkers flocking to her for private and group sessions each month. Although Houdini’s roots in bondage were inspired by her love for BDSM, she insists that the rope bondage she offers her students is more about pushing the practitioner, lovingly called the “bottom,” to explore other states of consciousness than it is about having a sexually erotic experience. But of course it should be noted that if you’re interested in the latter, that can be arranged.

Twitter: https://twitter.com/sandralamorgese


See video on: nypost.com.