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Meet the College Professor Who Moonlights as a Dominatrix

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 04:05:39

Mistress Snow only makes $30,000 a year as an adjunct professor—so she’s been forced to take a very different job on the side. She opens up about balancing teaching and BDSM.

Source: Thedailybeast.com.

USA – When you think of a college professor, you don’t usually think of a dominatrix. And, you also don’t usually think of someone who is so underpaid that they don’t know how they’re going to afford rent or groceries. However, due to college administrators’ relentless drive to cut labor costs via outsourcing college instruction to freelance “contingent faculty,” the latter is increasingly common. And for that reason, at least one professor—whom we’ll meet soon—has taken up BDSM as a side job.

More than half of all college professors are now “adjuncts”: part-time freelance instructors who often have the same PhDs as their tenured and full-time colleagues, but who get paid low amounts on a per-course basis, with few or no benefits and little job security. Typically, adjuncts (also known as “contingent faculty”) string together gigs at multiple colleges, which pay an average of $3,984 per course. Three courses a semester, or six per year, is considered a full teaching load—though many adjuncts report it’s difficult to get this many courses—which comes out to a typical yearly income of $23,904 for the “lucky” adjuncts with a full-time-equivalent teaching load.

For reference, full-time baristas at Starbucks make an average of $27,030 per year, and are eligible for benefits including health insurance, dental, vision, 401(k), paid time off, parental leave, and even emergency financial assistance during family crises; adjunct professors typically receive noneof these benefits.

So, many adjunct professors now find themselves needing to find significant side-work to stay afloat within academia. I came across the lively Twitter feed of Mistress Snow, PhD, whose bio reads, “Professor by day, pro-Domme by night—let me teach you a lesson.”

Last December, Mistress Snow—who says her field is in the humanities—wrote a personal essay for the Chronicle of Higher Education, entitled “I Told My Mentor I Was a Dominatrix: She Rescinded Her Letter of Recommendation.” The summer before the article came out, she found herself without a teaching gig—which is common for adjuncts. “I had about a week to cobble together a couple grand before rent was due,” she writes. “The clock kept ticking; there was no lifeboat in sight. I was hungry. So I swallowed my pride, reluctantly dusted off my corset, and dialed up the old dungeon. By the end of the week, I was back in the sex trade, beating, humiliating, and degrading men (and sometimes women) for $90 an hour, plus tips.”

Mistress Snow refers to her mentor by the pseudonym “Anne” in the Chronicle article. Having developed a close personal bond with Anne over seven years—and thinking Anne would be supportive, as she worked on class and labor issues in her research—Mistress Snow decided to divulge her secret to Anne. To Mistress Snow’s surprise, Anne took it horribly, telling her, “Academia and sex work are mutually exclusive.” In an email that Mistress Snow shared with me, Anne wrote to her: “If this information comes out in any way, shape, or form, it will destroy your academic prospects… In the age of FB and everything being on the internet, you don’t want this out there—ever. This is what I mean about blowing up the part of your life that matters most. You will lose all credibility. Time to stop.”

Strangely, after expressing this concern, Anne then tried to ensure Mistress Snow wouldn’t have an academic career by rescinding her letters of recommendation, which are the main currency of academic job searches.

I had the opportunity to interview Mistress Snow recently via Zoom about juggling two very different jobs.

Why do you think your mentor felt that using your sexuality to support yourself was “mutually exclusive” in relation to academia?

It’s totally hypocritical, because faculty regularly encourage women to use our sexuality to pursue the life of the mind. An academic job mentor I was randomly assigned once—it was someone other than Anne—said to me, “Make sure you bring ‘fuck-me’ boots to the interview.” The amount of preparation I have to go through every time I have a job interview! “Is this too sexy?” “Is this too boring?” All of which has nothing to do with my academic research. It’s just another way of policing women’s bodies. Right before I told Anne about my work, I was teaching four classes, and only making about $30K a year from that. I needed more to pay my bills and student loans, so on top of teaching four days a week, I dommed three days a week. I was running each day from one campus to another, and then to the sex dungeon. I would get home from the dungeon at 2 a.m., and then I’d have to go teach an 8 a.m. class. It was a nightmare. I would be shaking. I couldn’t see straight. My contacts would fall out of my eyeballs because my eyes were so dry. The body is very much necessary for the life of the mind; if the needs of the body are ignored, the mind can’t do its work.

Shaming adjuncts for using their bodies to make money is actually a way of shaming and weeding out adjuncts from poorer backgrounds, who don’t have family support and have to take second and third jobs. A second job for an adjunct needs to be highly flexible, due to our teaching schedule—it’s not going to be some consistent office job. Most flexible jobs rely heavily on the body—such as waiting tables, retail, bartending, or sex work. I think there’s this fantasy that many academics have, that their mentees are little carbon copies of them. When I started doing something with my body that my mentor found so repulsive, she had to distance herself as much as she could.

Why do you think your academic mentor had such a problem with you domming?

I can read it for you [laughs]. Here’s a snippet from one of the last emails Anne wrote to me:

“About sex work—well, there are many arguments in favor of legalizing sex work and for accepting it, on the grounds that it is often between consenting adults (though very often not), that people have a right to experiment sexually, and that sex workers have a right to be paid fairly, etc. I understand that those arguments exist, but I am not going to make them because I mainly don’t believe in them… Money is always nice to have, but it doesn’t sound to me like this is about the money. It strikes me as being an outcome of being sexually abused, and an attempt to take back agency while also expressing your anger. Is that really what you need to do?”

Where do I even start? First of all, if it’s not between consenting adults, then that precludes it from being sex work, bitch. Then it’s trafficking; it’s not work. Then there’s her line about having a “right to experiment sexually.” Again, she’s not perceiving sex work as work. As if this is just about sexual experimentation for me, not about money. I don’t see it as experimenting with my sexuality at all, because it’s not about my sexuality; it’s about paying rent. Even if my client is getting off, I’m at work, and it has nothing to do with my own sex life. It’s not like I’m sitting there thinking, “Man, I wonder what it feels like for someone to suck on my toes. I’m going to go down to the dungeon and find some random dude to suck my toes and try it out.”

Then there’s her line, “Money is nice to have, but it doesn’t sound to me like this is about the money.” Like most tenured faculty, Anne is a boomer. She went to college and got her PhD decades ago, when college was comparatively cheap, before there were the mountains of student debt we now have, and before the whole adjunctification trend really started. She has no idea what it’s like to try to live as a contingent faculty member with no benefits, hustling teaching gigs semester by semester, paying down six figures of student debt, on $30K a year.I make way more money per hour *playing* a professor in the dungeon than being one in real life.

Did you do sex work before you were an adjunct?

Yes. The summer between college and graduate school, I was working retail. I was able to afford cereal and shit, but not, like, dinner. So I was going on two dates a day—lunch dates and dinner dates—just to get the free meals. At a certain point, I was like, “I’d rather just have the cash than the meals with these guys.”

When I got to graduate school, I tried to find a dungeon to start working in, but there weren’t any I could find in the city. I started doing some independent work, but then I had a really violent client, whom I didn’t screen properly, and I was like, “Fuck this shit, I’m done.” I stopped domming, maybe my second or third year in grad school. I picked it up again in the summer of last year. I needed cash ASAP. I started domming independently again because I didn’t have time to start in a dungeon, but I got into a dungeon after about a month.

What’s your specialty? Did you train formally in BDSM?

I shadowed more experienced Dommes. Some clients like being watched, so it works out. But there are so many Dommes, typically younger ones, who will go into sessions thinking, “Fake it till you make it!” Which is fine… if you’re not dilating someone’s urethra, or trying to give an enema. I didn’t give an enema until I watched several other people give enemas. [laughs]

My specialty is corporal punishment: flogging, caning, paddling. The thing I really like about corporal sessions is that, for me, the adrenaline rush is far greater than with, for example, a humiliation session. It’s fun to flog the shit out of someone. I was domming at the dungeon right up until the pandemic started. Since then, I’ve been doing a bit of online and phone work. And I still teach my college classes virtually.The thing I really like about corporal sessions is that, for me, the adrenaline rush is far greater than with, for example, a humiliation session. It’s fun to flog the shit out of someone.

Have you ever had a close call, like a student of yours or a colleague walking into the dungeon?

No, fortunately not. I’ve definitely had recognizable academics as clients though. It pisses me off. These men aren’t going to face any repercussions for coming to pay me in the dungeon. But I could get fired from my academic job for taking their money.

Do your clients know you’re a professor? And do you ever do professor/student role-plays with your clients in sessions?

Yes, I sometimes tell clients I’m a professor beforehand if I think it’ll be a selling point. Some of them are really into the professor/student role-plays. And it’s always so awkward, because all I can think of is how unethical this would be if I was actually doing it in real life. But we’re in a dungeon, so I’m like, “Fuck it.” I make way more money per hour playing a professor in the dungeon than being one in real life.

What do you think is the psychology of a guy who fantasizes about a professor dominating him?

A lot of the men who come to see me have a desire to feel vulnerable and to feel like women have institutional power over them. For many successful men, the last time they had a woman wield institutional power over them was probably in school. Teachers already get so much parental shit projected onto them—which I say because I have a strong theoretical background in psychoanalysis. These dynamics make sense to me.

What response did you get from your Chronicle of Higher Education essay?

Dozens—maybe even hundreds—of sex workers in academia wrote to me. A few were adjuncts, but most were graduate students, and some had left academia. Dominatrixes, strippers, escorts. On the one hand, it didn’t surprise me, because not just some, but most of the Dommes at my dungeon were grad students. On the other, it did surprise me, because I felt quite isolated as a sex-working academic and could have used this kind of community. I had one academic I deeply admire write to me and say, “I don’t even know you, but if you want me to write you a letter of recommendation, I’m happy to, because this is bullshit.” Coincidentally, she had actually been my professor in college, which made the connection far more realistic.

The best thing to come from the article is that I feel like adjuncts, who consistently hold our tongues for as long as we can hold out hope for an academic career, can talk more honestly about the exploitation of our labor. If this profession has any hope of surviving after the havoc that’s been wreaked upon it over the past twenty years, these are the conversations we need to be having. And I’d like to say that my platform has helped to destigmatize sex work, but there were already so many brilliant sex workers organizing and educating before I came on the scene, and we should be listening to them regardless of whether they have a degree after their name.



Sordid ‘sex slave’ priest who ‘spent church funds on urine-drinking BDSM romps’ dies

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 03:56:32

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

USA – Disgraced Reverand Peter Miqueli was accused of stealing church money to pay for $1,000-a-go sex romps with a bodybuilding BDSM master who made him drink his urine

A party-loving sex slave priest accused of embezzling $1 million (£775k) from his church on a bondage “master” so he could drink his urine has died of alcohol abuse.

The disgraced Reverend Peter Miqueli, 57, was found dead at his New Jersey home in July, four years after he resigned from his role when parishioners sued him for stealing their money.

They claimed he used their donations to pay his BDSM master, Keith Crist, for $1000 (£749)-a-pop sordid romps.

The lawsuit was not resolved but he was cleared of wrongdoing by The Bronx District Attorney’s Office.

Churchgoers claimed Miqueli blew $60,000 (£44,949) of the stolen funds on ­”illicit and prescription drugs”.

He also allegedly used the cash to buy his $264,000 (£198k) home and to pay Crist’s rent for his apartment.

In a civil suit, it was revealed that the sex loving master would force Father Maqueli to drink his urine.

The priest stepped down and was suspended by the Archdiocese of New York three years later.

New York Daily News reported that the results of the disgraced clergyman’s autopsy revealed he died of arrhythmia due to occlusive coronary heart disease associated with severe cardiomyopathy.

The condition is often caused by excessive drinking.

Coroners also noted a “massive liver steatosis consistent with chronic alcohol abuse,” the Daily Mail reported.

Filed in 2015, the lawsuit against Miqueli claimed that he used stolen cash – some of which was donated for a new church organ – to fund his sex sessions and go on holidays to Europe.

He is said to have paid Crist to go to his house in New Jersey for sessions.

In text messages to his ex-girlfriend, Crist called the priest a “clueless a**hole” and said he was paying his rent.

He said he wanted to be publicly humiliated by him, laughed at and degraded.

It’s unclear if Miqueli was living with anyone when he died.

See more and larger photo’s: Dailystar.co.uk.


Let’s Discuss What You Need to Know About Being a BDSM Switch

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 03:46:15

It’s like a lil bit of dominant + a lil bit of submissive.

Source: Cosmopolitan.com.

USA – ICYMI: BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. This is where the whole dominant (sometimes called a “top”) and submissive (a “bottom”) dynamic comes into play.

“A top is simply someone who leads/guides the scene and the bottom is there to receive the experience,” explains Mistress Rogue, professional dominatrix and headmistress of The Dom House. (The dominant and submissive terms can also be used when there’s a power dynamic as well.)

And while you might be most familiar with what a dominant and submissive do, there’s another term you might not be as familiar with: a switch. Let’s dive deeper.

What is a BDSM switch?

A BDSM switch is someone who goes back and forth between dominating and being submissive, says Rogue. The dynamic change depends on the mood, circumstances, and the vibe between the partners, she adds.

And while the term is used commonly in the BDSM community, it’s important to note that switching—just like being dominant or submissive—isn’t always sexual. It’s merely about an exchange of power, which could be anything from doing chores to consensually ordering your partner around. What’s done in the bedroom is like an ~added~ bonus.

How do you know if you’re a switch?

If you’re wondering whether or not you’re a switch, the answer is actually pretty simple: Just think about what turns you on.

If sometimes you feel more eager to take control in the bedroom (e.g. riding your partner, tying them up, etc.), and other times the idea of your partner running the show (e.g. spanking you, tying you up, or just managing the positions) sounds better, there’s a good chance you’re a switch, says Rogue.

If you’re still unsure, chatting with your partner(s) can help you figure it out. “It’s about being honest with yourself and with your partners so that you both are receiving as much pleasure from the interaction as the other,” says Florida department of health sexual health educator, Jasmine Akins. “As long as you have partner communication and honesty, you should be able to self-identify.”

What are the perks of switching?

The most obvious perk of switching is having the opportunity to play in different ways with potentially different partners. Not only will it give you more chances for connection (and uh, orgasms), but it will also give you a more well-rounded perspective, which can make you an even better dominant or submissive.

“The best dominants often start as subs and then find their way up to being a top or a dom,” says Rogue. “In fact, this was how I became a dominatrix. I was introduced to BDSM by a dominant, and I learned and built skills knowing what I wanted as a bottom, so I could become a better dom.”

In addition to honing your skills, switching can also be majorly liberating in a mental sense. You can explore different head spaces and free yourself from playing the role you think you have to play during sex, says Akins. This can aid in communication, decrease boredom, and stimulate creativity.

Are there any downsides or risks?

The major concern with switching—other than becoming addicted to it, lol— is making sure everyone is continuously onboard and you’re practicing safely. “Being a switch means learning double safety information for BDSM practices. Keeping everything SSC (safe, sane and consensual) is vital,” she explains.

Any BDSM play can involve risks, which is why things like constant consent and safe words are integral. Partner communication is vital in any sexual situation, but especially if you’re adding some new kinks to the mix.

Finally, just like with any sort of sexual activity, reducing the risk of STI transmission is always essential. “You should be tested whenever you have a new partner, and if you’re in a monogamous relationship, I recommend testing at least once a year,” advises Akins. Utilizing barrier methods is a smart idea for some forms of BDSM play where penetration or fluid exchange is involved.

Now, here’s how to try switching for the first time

If you think you might like to switch up the power dynamics in the bedroom, don’t be afraid to explore those desires, even if they seem like a curveball in your relationship.

“The first step is being interested in it, so don’t feel like you have to be the BDSM king or queen the very first time,” says Akins. “Do your research and ask questions.”

Both experts agree: Educating yourself is key to a successful switch. And luckily, there are tons of resources out there to get you started—just don’t reach for Christan and Ana’s story as a guidebook.

And if your research leads you to believe switching might be for you, let your partner know. While it might seem hot to spring it on them mid-session, it’s actually important to talk things out ahead of time so you’re both on the same page.

Plus, you will need consent to test out a new dynamic. You never know what triggers someone might have, or what emotions might be stirred up within yourself, so communicating throughout (and checking in with yourself) is vital.

Then when it comes time to go at it, take things extra slow.

“If you’re a newbie, feel free to ease into it. You can start with a simple blindfold to heat things up. As you get more comfortable with the idea, you can expand your play options with yourself and with your partner,” suggests Akins.

“The [desire] may develop [or deteriorate] over time, and since this will probably be a pretty different experience for both of you, don’t expect to know right away whether you like the dynamic or not. “It’s okay to try new things, and it’s okay to absolutely adore them or hate them,” Akins says. “It’s your body, and you have the final say. Always.”

See larger photo’s and do the tests on: Cosmopolitan.com.


6 Kink-Friendly Dating Apps You’ll Want to Download ASAP

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 03:35:56

Because being sexually adventurous = totally healthy and normal.

Source: Cosmopolitan.com.

WORLD – A kink is broadly defined as an act or desire that falls outside of the widely accepted normative ideas of vanilla sexual practices—everything from choking, to BDSM (bondage/discipline, dominate/submissive, sadomasochism/masochism), to cuckolding, foot fetisheswater sportsbondage, and more.

And as you can see, there are tonnns of elements that fall within its sexual realm.

But even though nearly 61 percent of Cosmo readers say they’ve dabbled in some form of BDSM play, there still remains some societal stigma and shame for wanting to be adventurous in and out of the bedroom.

This is exactly what we don’t want, fam. Because being sexually adventurous (in whatever way that means to you) is completely healthy and normal. In fact, it’s highly encouraged in an effort to prioritize your pleasure and what feels good to you.

So if you’re looking to expand your sexual taste—or just see what is out there— sometimes turning to a dating app is the best and easiest way to explore. And whether you’re just looking to spice up your online dating game or you’re fully a master in BDSM practices already, here are six kinky apps to help jump-start your experience.

Just remember, in all forms of sexual contact (kink or vanilla), consent it is always mandatory. Like engaging in any new sexual experience, communicating your boundaries and hard limits prior to beginning is a must.

1. FetLife

When it comes to exploring BDSM and kink in general, FetLife is the go-to for these kinds of activities. (The Canadian-based company literally describes itself as being like “Facebook but run by kinksters.”)

Similarly to other social media platforms, users can create profiles, interact and “Friend” other members, post pics, vids, status updates, and join more specific groups based on sexual interests and kinks. Trust me when I say the free website really allows you to cater your kink experience and find exactly what you want—whatever that may be.

DOWNLOAD HERE

2. Kinkoo

If you’re looking for a dating app more fetish-specific (think: feetvoyeurismexhibitionism, etc.), Kinkoo may be the best one for you. In your profile, you can indicate what you’re looking for and how you’d describe yourself, like, say, if you are more of a submissive or dominant. Match with people all around the world for free or upgrade to the VIP membership for $16 per month.

DOWNLOAD HERE

3. Whiplr

Okay, so the app is pretty clever—I mean, its name doesn’t exactly disguise what the app is intended for, lol. But once you sign up, users are free to choose from a list of over 230 kinks (230!) to add to their profile. The free app also features a chat, video, and call component, similarly to what you may experience on a more mainstream dating app. Use it to find a virtual playmate or to chat it up with other kinksters across the globe.

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4. Kink D

Another app geared toward the fetish community, Kink D is a super sex-positive space for those looking to explore. Whether you’re into BDSM, foot fetishes, or whatever else, odds are, you’ll find a willing partner here. It’s free to download, has a super user-friendly interface, and can help you connect with singles all over.

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5. Kinki

Kinki prides themselves on being super inclusive, especially for folks apart of the LGBTQ+ community. The app, which costs $12 per month, gives you a range of options to pick from in terms of both fetishes and what you’re looking for (whether it be long-term, short-term, or just a hookup.) It also authenticates people’s accounts, gives you filters to search by location, and allows you to Like photos of people as well.

Unfortunately it’s not in U.S. markets quite yet, so this one’s for all of you outside the states.

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6. Feeld

This platform offers a tonnnn of options for gender identity and sexual orientation. And while Feeld has gotten some buzz primarily for those interested in threesomes, it’s also super friendly to those in polyamorous relationships or looking to explore a more kink-friendly lifestyle. If you’re into just dipping a toe into the BDSM waters, this free app is a great sex-positive place to get started.

DOWNLOAD HERE

Oh, and if you want to explore even more sexy BDSM fun, check out Cosmo’s Fantasy Sex Games. It’s the ultimate guide to exploring sexy role-playing scenarios, including NSFW sexcessories, new positions, and even a yes/no/maybe list to play with your partner.

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Dirty den discovered: Stunned urban explorers find dungeons, cages and bondage gear in abandoned swingers club

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 03:23:54
  • Dom Jennings, 29, from Stoke-on-Trent came across abandoned swingers club in Staffordshire in lockdown
  • Utopia was closed in 2007 and boasted a swimming pool, jacuzzi and sauna along with many private rooms
  • Dom also found a salt bath, sun beds, caged rooms, membership forms for the venue and drinks menus

Source: Dailymail.co.uk.

UK-STAFFORDSHIRE – An urban explorer stumbled across dungeons, BDSM tables, wigs and old stilettos at an abandoned swingers club.

Dom Jennings, 29, from Stoke-on-Trent, has visited dozens of old buildings, including Utopia – an old swingers club in Staffordshire – and began taking pictures of the sites as a hobby during lockdown

While exploring the venue he came across a salt bath, caged rooms, membership forms of those who visited the club, stilettos, wigs and BDSM apparatus. 

Utopia was closed in 2007, and boasted a swimming pool, jacuzzi and sauna room along with a host of private rooms for guests to enjoy each others company in. 

Father-of-two Dom said: ‘I started exploring in my spare time as something to pass the time during lockdown.

‘I’ve always had an interest in it and when I learnt about this building, I quickly made my way to it to see what I could find.

‘It was really creepy to walk around, the whole place was falling down and I could see all these different X-rated rooms, god knows what went on here.

‘I stumbled across wigs, and what I think were sex dungeons, they were little rooms with caged entrances and they looked like jails.

‘I did some research and found the name out, it closed a while ago and at one point caught fire and has been left alone since.

‘I came across a BDSM table which I opted not to touch because of who had probably touched it in the past, the whole place was like a museum to its former self.

‘The most interesting thing I found was the membership forms. The rules stated that all recording equipment was banned and you had to confirm you were not working for the media.

‘I’m guessing the last thing these members wanted was anyone reporting on what was happening inside, which does make me wonder what they were getting up to, and who came here.

When Dom posted the images online, along with a photo of the member forms, it still had the details of one man who joined the club on it.

Dom, said: ‘A man messaged me on Facebook and asked me to take it down immediately because it showed his name.’ 

Speaking about the swimming pool on the premises Dom added: ‘It had a really eerie feel, but everything looks expensive and the pool was huge, although I’m not sure I would want to swim in it myself.’

See more and larger photo’s: Dailymail.co.uk.


Rough Trade: COVID-19 Has Put Denver’s BDSM Businesses in a Bind

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 03:11:35

Source: Westword.com.

USA-DENVER – The pandemic is giving Denver’s BDSM community a flogging — and not the fun kind, says Denver dominatrix Elle, co-owner of Mile High Dungeon, which has closed because of both safety concerns and economic challenges.

While other businesses have found some government relief, Elle says that her operation, though legal, is excluded from federal financial support programs. COVID-relief loans and grants are not available for businesses that are “prurient,” according to most application guidelines.

Now, people in the erotic industry are negotiating an impossible bind: whether to keep operating at risk of spreading the virus, or shut down temporarily and possibly lose their employment permanently.

Elle has been a sex worker for the past 21 years. It’s her calling, she says, and she hopes to hang up her thighhighs and retire as a professional dominatrix when she hits 65 — if COVID-19 doesn’t continue to wreck her professional plans and eat up decades of savings, strapping her with debt.

Her story, which parallels those of many working in the legal sex industry and even underground, is one of liberation. “Through the work I did, I was able to get on my feet and do something amazing and become a healthy, thriving person,” she says.

While the religious right and prudish politicians have targeted sex workers, prostitutes and the publications that advertise their services, Elle insists that the sex-slavery stereotype they’re crusading against is hardly an accurate depiction of her world. And she should know: Not only has she offered her own services as a pro-dom, but she’s been an outspoken advocate for sex workers’ rights nationally as well as in Denver.

She and other dominatrixes opened the Mile High Dungeon five years ago. There, Elle taught clients about the BDSM lifestyle, consent and scene negotiation. She helped people explore their kinks, and even worked in conjunction with therapists to guide their patients in addressing childhood traumas. She’s been part healer, part educator, part kink provider. The experience was transformative, she says, both for the people she dominated and for herself.

Back in February, after watching news reports of the coronavirus upending life in Wuhan, China, Elle worried it might come stateside. So Mile High Dungeon shut down operations, with hopes of reopening in a few weeks. Weeks later, the state implemented a stay-at-home order, and the coronavirus has been flagellating the physical and economic health of people in the United States ever since.

Even as other businesses reopened, the dungeon stayed dark.

While Elle has worked with a couple of customers, observing strict mask-wearing and sanitation measures, she has largely avoided appointments. That hasn’t just hurt her bank account, but clients: Inexperienced people inclined toward bondage, domination and sado-masochism need an outlet and a proper schooling in boundaries and negotiation, she says, so that their sexual desires — often mired in shame and taboo — don’t land them in trouble.

njoyed sex workers’ services. Democrats and Republicans alike have gone after the industry, so the likelihood of a political solution is improbable.

Now, with COVID-19 cases breaking records again in Colorado, Elle realizes that reopening Mile High Dungeon anytime soon isn’t feasible, so she’s reassessing how to move forward until a vaccine becomes available.

It’s not just sex workers who are being hit. The entire BDSM scene, which relies heavily on social gatherings, is struggling. Christine Winnie Wenglewick, owner of the Denver Sanctuary, a dungeon and social club, says that old-timers in the BDSM community have largely stepped back from play parties — or they’re holding private gatherings in their homes. Newcomers who show up to her club’s events, which are operated under rigid social-distancing guidelines that are not exactly conducive to community romps and stomps, are often left wondering what the point is of paying for a party when no more than twenty people are allowed in at a time.

COVID has delivered Wenglewick a double whammy because she also owns Denver’s Dangerous Theatre. Like every performing arts venue, it’s suffered during the pandemic. And Wenglewick’s strategy for covering the cost of her underground plays — funding them with proceeds from the Denver Sanctuary — is now failing.

Long before getting involved with BDSM, Wenglewick was active in the theater scene. In Orlando, she ran a space that served as both a hair salon and performance venue. Shortly after moving to Colorado in 2001 to be near her ex-partner and child, she stumbled into the kink scene and found a second home.

Wanting to introduce newbies to the lifestyle, she started a meetup and play party called Gateway. The group started out meeting at people’s homes, but soon outgrew those and needed a larger spotWenglewick asked the now-defunct Denver Harbor, a BDSM club, if she could hold Gateway parties for newcomers there, and the owners agreed. Three months later, they came up short on rent money and asked Wenglewick if she wanted to take over the warehouse dungeon. At first she was hesitant, but then she realized that she could eventually use the space for experimental theater performances in the early evening hours and transform it into a late-night place for sexual exploration.

In 2007, she launched Dangerous Theatre out of her dungeon. She’s produced more than thirty experimental plays there and also hosted hundreds of workshops, BDSM parties and gatherings where people into kink built community.

“It’s not been a conventional business plan,” Wenglewick says. “But up until COVID, it was one that worked.”

Like most businesses, the Denver Sanctuary and Dangerous Theatre both shut down in mid-March. A sole proprietor, Wenglewick did not consider applying for various small business or arts grants or loans. She was closeted about how the theater and dungeon shared a warehouse, and says she was afraid that potential funders looking at her books would wonder how a small theater that seats no more than fifty could be making so much money.

But not anymore. With both businesses shuttered for months, she found herself $12,000 behind in rent. If she cannot pay that debt by the end of the year, her landlord will give her the boot.

“I can’t fault her too much,” says Wenglewick. “I can’t fault any landlord who lets a dungeon in her space to begin with.”

To raise rent money, Wenglewick has offered some demonstrations and classes in consent and scene negotiation, BDSM 101 and more — though she only charges $10 a pop, hardly enough to pay what she owes. In normal times, the Denver Sanctuary would be hosting workshops in every manner of BDSM play. Now the only hands-on activity that can be done with COVID-19 precautions in place is fire play: teaching people how to light each other on fire…safely.

Dangerous Theatre has also been hosting a handful of productions, from comedy nights to more traditional plays. And now, as Denver again clamps down on capacity, Wenglewick is shifting much of her theatrical work online and streaming shows.

In the weeks to come, she’ll be performing Drunk Storytime With Caroline, during which she’ll get drunk and act out various popular children’s stories, including Dr. Seuss tales and “The True Story of the Three Little Pigs”; she’ll also host virtual comedy, kink nights and more.

“Every time I make a business plan, two weeks later [I realize], ‘Oh, that ain’t going to work,’” she says. “I’m constantly having to readjust.”

Some members know that the Denver Sanctuary is on the verge of being kicked out, and wonder if Wenglewick will try to reopen the club elsewhere. “People are like, ‘Are you going to find another space?,’” she says. “I say no. I’m not going to find another landlord who’s into this stuff. If I were to take another business somewhere, it would be opening another theater, not opening another dungeon.

But even doing that seems uncertain without a vaccine. “Given COVID, I don’t know the reality of opening another theater,” she admits, adding that at least her cosmetology license is up to date, so “I could always go back to hair.”

As Elle packs up the Mile High Dungeon that she and her fellow doms built, she’s been thinking about how sex work has given her so much personally and taught her about the world. “I was standing in my studio the last couple of nights, because I’m saying goodbye,” she says. “I’m thinking back on all the different things I’ve witnessed and the people I’ve worked with.

“I’ve learned so much about myself and humanity and life,” she says. “It’s really powerful work, and I hope one day our culture can acknowledge it for what it is.”

For more information about the Denver Sanctuary, go to Denver Sanctuary’s website. To find out more about Dangerous Theatre’s upcoming online schedule, go to Dangerous Theatre’s website.

See more and larger photo’s: Westword.com.


Adults Only viewers stunned as dominatrix electrocutes 72-year-old’s penis

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 02:58:31

Adults Only star Jenny astonished viewers as she revealed she squashes men with her bottom and electrocutes their penises

Source: Mirror.co.uk.

UK – Channel 5’s Adults Only viewers were shocked as dominatrix Jenny explained what her clients ask her for in her steamy sessions.

Jenny showed her friend Mistress Sofia her array of sex toys and torture devices including a paddle, whips, and a breath play mask.

“What do you do most of?” asked Mistress Sofia.

Jenny replied: “Whipping, a lot of breath play, sitting on them, some just like to be sat on, they like to feel the weight.

“I had this one guy, 84 years old, bless his heart, he was a real frail old man, must have weighed about eight stone, I’m 19 [stone].

“His fantasy was to struggle under the weight of a big woman, but when he started to really struggle for breath I thought, “Oh I’d better roll off now!’

“A**e worship that is my biggest thing, they like to get on their knees and like me to push their faces against the wall, and squash them with my big a**e.”

She continued: “I get this 72-year-old come in for electrocution on his nipples, on his b****nd, on his b**s and one up his a**e, and I control the voltage.

“I’m usually a bit wicked and I pinch the end of his b****nd at the same time, he screams! That’d make you dance!”

One stunned viewer tweeted: “I honestly don’t know who would pay for that! #AdultsOnly “.

“What 72! dirty old git… Electrocution……” remarked another.

A third wondered: “Watching this #adultsonly programme.. anyone want to pay me to do weird stuff?”

Mistress Sofia recently appeared on This Morning, where she told hosts Holly Willoughby and Phil Schofield: “There are so many different aspects to it, some [clients] could want punishment, some want to be dressed in a beautiful little maid’s outfit, some just want to be submissive, they want to be humiliated.

Some do it because it’s a little quirk, for others it’s a need, they need to be submissive, in their home lives they are not, they have high powered jobs.

“I have got everyone from judges down to dustman, it doesn’t matter what your lifestyle is, if it’s in you it’s in you to be submissive, and not all women want a submissive partner.”

* Adults Only is available to watch now on My5

See more larger photo’s and video on: Mirror.co.uk.


Former college student faces multiple charges over ‘bondage mummification’

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 02:48:16

Source: Thejakartapost.com.

INDONESIA-JAKARTA – A former student of Airlangga University (Unair) accused of sexually assaulting multiple victims after tricking them into helping him for academic “research” is facing multiple charges at the Surabaya District Court in East Java.

In a hearing held virtually on Wednesday, prosecutors indicted the 22-year-old defendant, identified only as Gilang, with three different charges.

Prosecutor I Gede Willy said Gilang had violated articles 27 and 45 of the 2016 Electronic Information and Transactions (ITE) Law, which prohibits individuals from sharing videos or other electronic information containing extortion or threats.

Gilang was also charged under Article 82 of the 2016 law on child protection for allegedly threatening minors into performing obscene acts and Article 289 of the Criminal Code on obscenity, which carries a maximum sentence of nine years in prison.

The defendant did not file an exception request against the charges.

His case gained nationwide attention in August after several victims took to Twitter to share their alleged accounts of being tricked by Gilang into performing an act referred to as “bondage mummification” under the pretense of academic research.

One user with the handle @m_fikris wrote that he and his friend agreed to participate in his thesis “research” about “wrapping” in July after Gilang persistently begged him, saying he was at risk of failing his studies for not finishing his thesis. The defendant was in his fifth year of university at that time.

Gilang reportedly sent instructions for @m_fikris and his friend to take turns covering each other’s bodies, including their mouths and eyes, with duct tape. He also instructed them to wrap their bodies in jarik (traditional Javanese cloth) and later asked them to record the process and to send him the footage afterward.

Another victim who spoke to The Jakarta Post said that when they were both university freshmen, the defendant had drugged him, covered his entire body with a blanket and groped him when he was sleeping at Gilang’s rooming house after a university event in 2015.

Unair expelled Gilang shortly after the case went viral.

The defendant told police investigators that he had conducted such actions since 2015, claiming that he developed the fetish as a child.(nal)



Dominatrix lifts lid on kinky work – and giving men space to explore sexualities

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 02:34:53

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

USA – Mistress Iris, 32, is a dominatrix from Japan who is an expert in satisfying men’s urges. She lives in LA where she educates the public about the inner workings of BDSM.

A dominatrix has lifted the lid on her kinky line of work.

Mistress Iris, 32, who is from Japan but lives in LA, US, is an expert in satisfying men’s urges.

She educates about the inner workings of BDSM as she offers men a safe place to explore their sexual power dynamics.

Speaking about the dark secrets of her trade, Mistress Iris said: “Much of sex is about power.

“But so is much of everyday life – power suffuses all our interactions and leaves its dirty paw prints all over the place.

“Submission and domination are ways to directly confront, acknowledge and playfully embrace the reality of these power dynamics.”

She added: “Nowadays, we’re in denial about the workings of power but we’re lots more open about sex.

“So it makes sense to draw more attention to the way power works.”

The dominatrix also enjoys educating the public about the inner workings of BDSM.

Her latest project and collaboration with Vixen Media Group’s (VMG) Deeper brand is a short film.

It explores the culture of femme dom/domme and subs called “Interview”.

Produced by director Kayden Kross, the video gives an unflinching insight to the psychological side of human sexuality.

Mistress Iris continued: “I have seen all too many times how many men are in need of a safe space to conduct that exploration.

“Men require help to access and express vulnerable feelings that they’ve been implicitly or explicitly taught to seal tightly inside them.”

And she believes that 9-5 jobs are hotbeds of suppressed kink.

She revealed: “It’s a setting for those raised to feel that one’s success is the most important factor in determining societal value.”

It also happens that workplace scenarios are very popular among clients.

She detailed: “The job interview role play is one of the most frequently requested scenarios in femdom.

“The moment in which you face a person who has the power to make your life more valuable, or make you a ‘failure’.

“For some, it’s one of the most vulnerable moments and consequently, suffused with power and ripe for sexual exploration.”

Since the coronavirus pandemic, the sex industry has been forced to find new ways of working.

See more and larger photo’s: Dailystar.co.uk.


World’s oldest dominatrix charges clients £120 an hour to do her cleaning and DIY – and doesn’t have sex with them

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 02:24:26

Source: Metro.co.uk.

UK – A woman who declares herself to be ‘the world’s oldest dominatrix’ has baffled This Morning viewers by revealing she doesn’t sleep with clients – just humiliates them.

Sherry from Swindon – who goes by the name Mistress Sophia – has high-rising clients including surgeons and politicians who turn to her to fulfil their desire to be mistreated and relinquish control.

Charging £120 an hour, Mistress Sophia uses them to clean her house, do her DIY, before flogging them, putting them in shackles and dressing them up in embarrassing costumes.

As a result, she is left feeling empowered, and declared: ‘I’m a masochist, darling.’

Speaking to Holly Willoughby and Phillip Schofield, the 67-year-old – who has previously appeared on First Dates – said that she took on the job after a divorce from her husband.

Calling herself ‘a bit of a mouse’ before taking on the role, she was forced to get creative when money became tight and her job as a chef wasn’t paying the bills.

‘I happened to see this documentary about phone chat girls, and so I spoke to my children to make sure they were okay about it and I started doing that,’ she explained. ‘I realised that so many of the calls involved domination.

‘It was actually my daughter Amy that said you’re doing it on the phone for peanuts, why not do it for real?’

While some want punishment, others want to be humiliated and be submissive, and Mistress Sophia has a series of whips, chains, shackles and costumes to put them in – even sometimes taking them out for a walk around her area.

‘It’s great because you get stuff done around the house!’ Phillip admitted. ‘I mean there’s this one guy comes over and does your DIY, then he cane him, and then there’s another one that polishes your kitchen floor while he dances in a pink dress to the Nutcracker.’

‘I just love the adoration. I like the empowerment,’ the dominatrix added.

‘It isn’t sexual for me, it is purely the dominant part. I’m a very dominant person. I didn’t used to be but I am now. It’s kind of come out as I’ve got older, really, and made me a better person for it.’

Viewers found her hilarious – and couldn’t resist thinking she’s found a nifty life hack for those odd jobs needing to be done around the home

See more and larger photo’s: Metro.co.uk.





Ken Morley imagined Corrie co-star Julie Goodyear ‘as a dominatrix’

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, November 30, 2020 01:43:19

Source: List.co.uk.

UK – Former soap star Ken Morley once “got a bit hot and bothered” over Barbara Knox’s outfit while filming ‘Coronation Street’, and he used to imagine his fellow cobbles co-star Julie Goodyear “as a dominatrix”

Ken Morley used to imagine his ‘Coronation Street’ co-star Julie Goodyear “as a dominatrix”.

The former soap star – who played supermarket manager Reg Holdsworth from 1989 to 1995 – admitted he had his own crushes on set, including Julie (Bet Lynch), who once gave him a slap after he kissed her toes.

He told The Sun newspaper: “She was another fantastic sex symbol and I often imagined her as a dominatrix – and she did at least slap me once.

“I remember doing this scene where she was on a bed and I was on the floor and I decided to kiss her bare toes, then run my tongue up her legs.

“As I reached her knee, Julie slapped me on the head and the whole place fell about laughing. It was then I realised we’d make a great comedy double act.”

The 77-year-old actor has also admitted he once “got a bit hot and bothered” over Barbara Knox’s (Rita Tanner) outfit on the cobbles.

He said: “For some inexplicable reason Barbara was wearing this fantastically sexy crinoline dress, and without thinking about it, I got a bit hot and bothered.

“As I waltzed out of camera shot, one of the floor managers came across to ask what was going on.

“When I explained something had come up, he suggested we take a few minutes’ break.”

Ken – who married his wife Susan in 1989 – also fancied Sherrie Hewson, who played his on-screen spouse Maureen, and he even had a thing for one of the ‘Corrie’ bosses.

He added: “Back then we all watched ‘Coronation Street’ in black and white, with characters like Albert Tatlock, Minnie Caldwell, Ena Sharples and Stan and Hilda Ogden.

“Leonard Swindley was a great character and Elsie Tanner, played by Pat Phoenix, we all loved her on screen.

“I must confess, decades later I fancied the executive producer Carolyn Reynolds. But we were both happily married and she was the boss.”