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Devout porn film maker thinks Church of Eng­land should not hide away from talk­ing about sexu­al­ity

Source: Pressreader.com

UK – THEY are per­haps unlikely bed­fel­lows. Yet Chris­tian­ity and kink have, accord­ing to one churchgo­ing dom­in­atrix, rather a lot in com­mon.

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Melissa Todd, 49, has been a sex worker for 30 years, hav­ing dropped out of her PPE course at the Uni­versity of Oxford to work at a table dan­cing bar in Lon­don’s Pic­ca­dilly. Since then, she has mod­elled for a spank­ing magazine and cur­rently works as a dom­in­atrix specal­ising in “domestic dis­cip­line”.

Mrs Todd, a reg­u­lar church­goer who also makes about 800 porn films a year, said that she has had a lot of reli­gious cli­ents, includ­ing mem­bers of the clergy – “who get spanked as well”.

“I abso­lutely love it, I always have,” she said. “I always thought that even­tu­ally I’d get a proper job, but you know, it just never happened. You just get used to being rich and happy and not hav­ing to work too many hours either.”

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However, she has now spoken out urging Church of Eng­land wor­ship­pers to enjoy sex and wel­come those with “altern­at­ive” life­styles, as well as insist­ing that Chris­tian­ity is closely aligned with kink cul­ture.

She said: “Many people think that there’s no pos­sible com­pat­ib­il­ity between a kink­ster and Chris­tian­ity, but I’ve come to see that there really can be and we do share much in com­mon.”

Kink cul­ture encom­passes the val­ues, prac­tices and com­munit­ies centred around con­sen­sual sexual or romantic interests or fantas­ies that fall out­side of tra­di­tional norms.

“They both rely on hon­esty and con­sent,” Mrs Todd added, “and, I think most import­antly, it’s vital that the

Church has these dis­cus­sions and doesn’t just hide away from talk of sex and sexu­al­ity, because I think too often the church sees sex as a prob­lem to be solved or an issue to be ignored.

“And wherever humans are, desire and power is an issue, so you have to acknow­ledge that, and it will make the church a safer place for every­body, par­tic­u­larly people who aren’t con­sidered cap­able of con­sent, like chil­dren, for example. So we should all be talk­ing about sex much, much more, I think.”

Mrs Todd, who mar­ried a Chris­tian almost nine years ago but has only really engaged with her faith for the past five years since attend­ing the lib­eral and pro­gress­ive, Union Church Mar­gate, made the com­ments as she pre­pares to host a talk entitled: “Kink and Chris­tian­ity” at Green­belt Fest­ival. The annual Chris­tian arts and music fest­ival is

‘I always thought I’d get a proper job, but it never happened. You get used to being rich and happy’

based in Northamp­ton­shire in August. Mrs Todd will also be giv­ing the same talk at her church which is the hub of a vibrant Meth­od­ist com­munity on the south­east coast, as well as explor­ing the topic in her one woman Edin­burgh Fringe show, Gag Writer.

Her inclus­ive church is pop­u­lar with the LGBTQ+ com­munity. In Janu­ary, Madonna atten­ded with her friend, Dame Tracey Emin. Mrs Todd said the Church of Eng­land “def­in­itely needs to get with it”, regard­ing embra­cing same­sex and non-bin­ary believ­ers. “I think this is the way for­ward,” she said, adding that lots of people who prac­tice altern­at­ive life­styles come to her church in Mar­gate “and they’re just wel­comed and feel loved and neces­sary, which is all any of us need, I guess.”

The Church of Eng­land declined to com­ment.