NEW ZEALAND – WELLINGTON – A man who was the dominant partner in a bondage and discipline relationship insisted one of his submissives wrote an essay about what \u201ckink\u201d meant to her, had sexual relations with other people and branded his name on her wrist.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n But his efforts to allegedly strangle two women until they lost consciousness resulted in him defending charges of strangulation and injuring with intent to injure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The man, who has name suppression, denies the charges in the Wellington\u00a0District Court<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n Crown prosecutor Janielee Avia told a jury the charges arose from an unusual context and all three were interested in BDSM<\/a> – involving bondage and discipline, dominance and submission.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She told the court that during the man\u2019s relationship with the two women, who he met on Tinder, they engaged in various consensual BDSM activities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cThis is not a case of BDSM gone wrong. Both women say being strangled until they lost consciousness wasn\u2019t something they consented to,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Crown says in November 2018 one woman was having sex with the man when he began applying pressure to her throat until she passed out. She came to on the floor and was in a state of shock. They continued to have sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But the Crown said the strangulation during sex was unexpected. The woman didn\u2019t consent to being strangled, let alone until she passed out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n On the second occasion between December 2019 and February 2020 the man is alleged to have strangled another woman from behind while they had sex in the shower. When the woman regained consciousness she was on the shower floor and was also in a state of shock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The Crown said they hadn\u2019t discussed that prior and it wasn\u2019t carried out in a way that it had been previously. It says the man\u2019s actions were intentional and deliberate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But the defence said neither incident ever happened. Lawyer Adam Couchman said the women had got to know each other before making allegations to the police at the same time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He said they had done this because both had fallen out with the man for different reasons, but his client denied either incident had ever occurred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In a video interview with police played to the jury one of the women described how she had met the man when they matched on Tinder at the end of 2018. In 2019 they met for coffee and discussed forming a dominate, submissive relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n They decided to do a BDSM session, but in order to do that she had to \u201cearn\u201d points from him. This involved him setting \u201ctasks\u201d for her such as writing an essay about what \u201ckink\u201d meant to her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She said at their first session she was quite taken aback at how real the scene was, describing it as more violent and less role-play than she had ever experienced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cMost times, when you are doing a kink scene it\u2019s quite obviously role play, there is an element of realism, but it\u2019s role play,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But he told her she was special and said he wanted to do another \u201cscene\u201d with her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n After that session, the man gave her a set of rules on how to behave and said the ownership of her body belonged to him. He also set her more tasks including arranging sex liaisons with men to accrue points. After three months she had his name tattooed on her wrist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She explained that if she didn\u2019t follow the rules the relationship would end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She also described how he had allegedly strangled her in the shower, adding that it differed from other \u201cbreath play\u201d they had done, where the airflow is restricted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But the woman said she fell out with the man after the Covid lockdown, when she was able to talk to other submissives the man was seeing. She was also uncomfortable when she met the man\u2019s partner because she seemed unaware he was seeing other women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She said it wasn\u2019t until she left the relationship that she realised how vulnerable she was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The trial before Judge Bruce Davidson is expected to continue into next week.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Catherine Hutton is an Open Justice reporter, based in Wellington. She has worked as a journalist for 20 years, including at the Waikato Times and RNZ. 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