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A Bondage-Inspired Edition of ‘God Save Sex Pistols’ Celebrates the Band’s 40th Birthday in Style

Source: Billboard.com.

USA – The Mexican Summer label and a cultural historian team-up to archive music history.

God Save Sex Pistols, a visual history of the titular band originally published by Rizzoli, is intended as a celebration of the meteoric crater left by one of rock and roll’s most divisive and storied bands on the occasion of the group’s first single “Anarchy in the UK.” A new ultra deluxe edition is being published by Anthology Editions, a joint venture between the Mexican Summer label and cultural historian Johan Kugelberg’s archival Boo-Hooray venuture.The new entity is producing historic-minded hardbound books, heavyweight vinyl, exhibitions and ephemera. God Save Sex Pistols, out today, marks the imprint’s first music-based project.

The edition costs a pretty penny at $650 (a deluxe edition is $160), and includes a bondage-inspired rubber slipcase designed by French street artist Zevs, a limited edition print of the iconic Queen Elizabeth image signed by designer Jamie Reid and, naturally, a safety pin book display stand. (Thanks, Malcolm.)

When asked about some of the non-academic bells and whistles included with God Save the Sex Pistols, the historian reveals something of his impartiality. “We’re such fans that it’s meant to be a gregarious celebration of the band,” he says, “that’s why we’ve done something that’s as fantastic and wonderful as this package.”

1977 was, infamously, the year that punk broke — the Pistols released their seminal debut Never Mind the Bollocks, Here’s the Sex Pistols the same year — and Kugelberg notes that 2017 will likely bring a number of other commemorations. It’s practically science.

“The trajectory of how subcultures and alternative cultures are documented, studied and understood,” he says, “usually has a one-and-a-half generational shift, because you want to document these things before everybody who was involved in it are dead and the materials go into the dumpsters.”

Kugelberg has created or contributed to dozens of books, monographs, archives and exhibitions, many for academic institutions filled with documents on everything from the early histories of hip-hop and punk (both now at Cornell University) to the Velvet Underground, Scandinavian black metal and the Sunset Strip.

He may speak like a historian, but Kugelberg defies the stereotypes. When Billboard spoke with him, he had just been surfing at Rockaway Beach and had recently met with Ian MacKaye, co-founder of the foundational Dischord label central to Washington, D.C.’s historic punk scene.

Then there was Lou Reed, who teased Kugelberg mercilessly for his archivist’s instincts.

“Before Lou Reed passed away we would have endless conversations about the archiving of the Velvet Underground,” Kugelberg says. “Lou used to burn his notebooks. He was always pretty stoked when he could tell me, ‘Hey Johan, burned another of my notebooks, what do you think of that?’ And I would go, ‘I think that’s completely ridiculous because it belongs in a museum.’ But I see Lou Reed’s point that he, as a poet, only wanted to present finished drafts to a public and he couldn’t be bothered looking in the rear view mirror on his cultural life and all of that.”

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There’s a huge SNEEZING fetish community – and they’ll do anything to get a cold

Thousands of people are titillated not just by their own sneezes, but also by watching others sneeze too

Source: Mirror.co.uk.

UK – The saying goes, “when life gives you lemons, make lemonade”.

So with this wisdom in mind, if you’re currently battling a horrid cold, there is a way of turning it to your advantage.

Sneezing to you might simply be your body’s way of expelling snot and germs – the sort of bodily function pretty common at this time of year – but to a lot of people, it is SO much more.

Some people like sucking toes, others enjoy swingers parties – and thousands of people get their kicks through sneezing.

Turns out, you can quite literally fetishize anything.

As fetishes go, sneezing is incredibly popular, and the Sneezing Fetish Forum is a dedicate web space for members to share their enthusiasm and discuss their preference at length.

So what’s the life of a sneeze fetishist like?

For some forum users, they view it as a sexual preference, with one man saying, “I realised that I had ‘something’ for sneezes when I was around eight years old.

“I would search for people sneezing on the computer almost constantly. When I would get home I would instantly go on the computer and look at stuff about sneezing for hours.

“Back then I had no idea why I was feeling so ‘weird’ but when I was 11 I figured out what a fetish was and I accepted that I had one.”

Many are also on a quest to keep sneezing, which of course means making some sacrifices – i.e. being ill.

“I know this is weird,” another user admitted, “but I just like being sick and my immune system is ridiculously strong.

“Maybe I just need some exposure to the cold weather to put me over the edge. So tonight I’m soaking my feet in cold water and going for a run outside.”

Discussions also delve into the minutiae.

In a discussion called “Preferred Number of Sneezes”, members voted and, it turns out, sneezing twice is the ideal number.

However, when enjoying watching others sneeze, it seems the sky is the limit, with over five sneezes being voted top.

It’s easy to write fetishes off as being bizarre, even unpalatable sometimes. But is there any scientific grounding in sneezing being enjoyable, sexually?

There is the popular urban myth that a sneeze is one tenth of an orgasm.

But while humans are conditioned for that release a sneeze brings – and a feeling of satisfaction after, there’s no truth in the theory.

“I think the myth has to do with the erectile tissue in the nose, and how that relaxes once you’ve sneezed,” Dr Alexis Jackman told Women’s Health . “But it’s definitely not the same as the erectile tissue in your genital area.”

So there you go. Medically speaking, sneezing has nothing to do with having an orgasm, but can still be enjoyed nonetheless.

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Bondage club operates near pre-school, church Brentwood

Source: Aol.com.

USA – Brentwood – MO – There’s a club in Brentwood where you can get tied up and whipped, right next to both a church and a preschool.

Fox 2 News obtained exclusive video from a woman who calls herself a “submissive.” She fears the activity at the club could turn abusive.

Inside the club, you can hear the sound of human flesh being lashed with leather. You can hear yelling as dozens of people drink alcohol, watch, and sometimes participate in the activities.

These parties happen one Saturday night a month in the American Legion Hall off Manchester and Brentwood. It’s suburban St. Louis County, near St. Mary Magdalene and next door to the Schnucks shopping center. The legion hall shares a driveway with the Elaine Rossi Academy for Children. A playground sits directly behind.

The monthly event is called FLOG. When you enter, it becomes immediately obvious the event lives up to its name.

The woman who recorded the video does not want to be identified.

“That is an out of control, dangerous place where people can walk in, appoint themselves a ‘dom’ (and) say, ‘Oh, I’m a dom. I’m an expert at this. I know what you need, bend over, and let me give it to you,'” she said.

She lives this lifestyle and considers herself a submissive in the world of BDSM. Her fear is the alcohol at the events, leading her to question whether the participants are really consenting adults.

“People being hit to the point where they’re leaving welts and marks, sometimes blood, and then in the other hand they’ve got a beer,” she said.

Fox 2 News contacted Brentwood City Hall to ask if FLOG had a liquor license. A city hall operator confirmed the group does not and doesn’t need one, but that the Legion Hall has one. However, once we identified ourselves as a reporter, the representative at city hall stopped talking. The bondage club then posted the following warning on a website called Fetish Life: “Fox 2 has contacted Brentwood city hall inquiring about the parties.”

We then attempted to get answers in person. The Brentwood City Administrator would not talk. Her assistant told us she was in a meeting. A representative at the legion hall said, “There’s parties here all the time. I don’t know what goes on, you know, if there’s a wedding reception up there, I don’t know what`s going on. I think you need to leave.”

Attorney Dan Emerson, who spent a decade prosecuting violators of St. Louis City’s liquor laws, believes FLOG’s parties could classify under state law as a cabaret, a “sexually-oriented business.”

“There is certainly fertile ground for violations of the sexually-oriented business state statute, as well as their ability to maintain a liquor license with the State of Missouri,” he said.

Missouri revised statutes defines “adult cabaret” as an “establishment in which persons regularly appear in a state of nudity … or semi nudity in the performance of their duties.” “Typically, alcohol sales are prohibited at a place like that. Plus, adult cabarets can’t be close to a school,” Emerson said.

Joe Kriegsman runs a legal bondage business called The Facility. He operates on Broadway in an industrial area of St. Louis, away from churches and schools.

“We are not allowed to have any alcohol on the premise at all. You don’t want to be impaired because some of the toys that are used are very dangerous,” Kriegsman said. “They can kill you, they can hurt you, they can do a lot of damage if you’re impaired.”

Kriegsman’s ‘Certificate of Occupancy’ in St. Louis states “for use as BDSM/safety/education/training/ meeting hall.”

He says alcohol takes away somebody’s ability to consent.

“You can be raped. You can be sexually assaulted. Once you’re bound to a one of these pieces of around here, how are you going to get loose? They can do what they want with you,” Kriegsman said.

FLOG did not respond to my request for comment, but Susan Wright did. Wright is with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. She said it’s in FLOG’s rules:

– You must leave if you’re intoxicated.

– No nudity.

– No sex.

“What we do is we teach people about affirmative consent and that means getting agreement before you actually start anything,” Wright said. “That means finding out what somebody likes, what they don’t like, what their limits are, how to stop what’s happening at any time.”

Wright said she agrees alcohol presents a problem with consent.

“Volunteers are constantly watching,” she said.

And she points out FLOG is a nonprofit club, not a business, that would be subjected to liquor laws. She said FLOG suggests a $10 donation.

“Some people certainly don’t pay to get in,” Wright said. “We do not want to restrict this kind of education because you can’t afford the $10 fee to get in the education is the important part.”

“There’s a reason people don’t know about FLOG in Brentwood,” she said. “We can’t be in a place for 15 years without ever having the police called once to FLOG, without it being a testament to the fact that we follow rules.”

No one from Brentwood ever did respond to Fox 2.

FLOG’s website claims city hall says, “As long as there (is) no nudity, sex, prostitution, drug use or selling, and the group remained a non-profit organization, there is no need to acquire a business license or permit.”

The pre-school next door did not give me an official comment, but an employee said they are aware of FLOG and that the monthly event does not take place at a time when there would be anything going on at the school.

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9 Things Everyone Gets Wrong About BDSM

Christian Grey should not be your only source for this.

Source: Self.com.

USA – Hello and welcome to almost 2017, a time when millions of people have pledged their hearts (and vaginas) to a fictional character named Christian Grey who likes to engage in BDSM. Although the 50 Shades of Grey fervor is alive and well, especially as the second movie’s premiere approaches, tons of myths about BDSM persist.

“‘BDSM’ is a catch-all term involving three different groupings,” Michael Aaron, Ph.D., a sex therapist in New York City and author of Modern Sexuality, tells SELF. First up, BD, aka bondage and discipline. Bondage and discipline include activities like tying people up and restraining them, along with setting rules and meting out punishments, Aaron explains. Then there’s DS, or dominance and submission. “Dominance and submission are more about power dynamics,” Aaron explains. Basically, one person will give the other power over them, whether it’s physical, emotional, or both. Bringing up the rear, SM is a nod to sadism, or liking to inflict pain, and masochism, liking to receive it. It’s often shortened to “sadomasochism” to make things easier.

Got it? Good. Now, a deep dive into 9 things everyone gets wrong about BDSM.

1. Myth: BDSM is a freaky fringe thing most people aren’t into.
“There’s a lot of misunderstanding about how common this is,” Aaron says. “A lot of people may think just a small minority has these desires.” But sex experts see an interest in BDSM all the time, and a 2014 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine also suggests it isn’t unusual. Over 65 percent of women polled fantasized about being dominated, 47 percent fantasized about dominating someone else, and 52 percent fantasized about being tied up.

“It’s 100 percent natural and normal [to fantasize about BDSM], but some people come and see me with shame,” certified sex coach Stephanie Hunter Jones, Ph.D., tells SELF. There’s no need for that. “It’s a healthy fantasy to have and one that should be explored,” Jones says.

2. Myth: BDSM is always about sex.
Sex isn’t a necessary part of the action. “BDSM doesn’t have to be sexual in nature—some people like it for the power only,” Jones says. It’s possible to play around with BDSM without involving sex, but for some people, incorporating it into sex ratchets things way up.

3. Myth: You can spot a BDSM fan from a distance.
All sorts of people like BDSM, including those who seem straitlaced. For them, it can actually be especially appealing because it offers a chance to exercise different parts of their personalities. “Some of the most conservative-seeming individuals are into BDSM,” Jones says.

4. Myth: If you’re into BDSM, your past must be one big emotional dumpster fire.
“One of the biggest misconceptions is that people do BDSM because of some sort of trauma in their background,” Aaron says. People who engage in BDSM aren’t automatically disturbed—a 2013 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine actually found that BDSM proponents were as mentally sound, if not more so, than people who weren’t into it. “We conclude that BDSM may be thought of as a recreational leisure, rather than the expression of psychopathological processes,” the study authors wrote.

5. Myth: BDSM is emotionally damaging.
When done properly, BDSM can be the exact opposite. “I often use BDSM as a healing tool for my ‘vanilla’ couples,” or couples that don’t typically engage in kink, Jones says. She finds it especially helpful for people who struggle with control and power dynamics.

To help couples dig themselves out of that hole, Jones will assign sexual exercises for them to complete at home. Whoever feels like they have less power in the relationship gets the power during the role play. “This has saved relationships,” Jones says, by helping people explore what it feels like to assume and relinquish control first in the bedroom, then in other parts of the relationship.

6. Myth: The dominant person is always in charge.
When it comes to dominance and submission, there are plenty of terms people may use to describe themselves and their partners. Top/bottom, dom (or domme, for women)/sub, and master (or mistress)/slave are a few popular ones. These identities are fluid; some people are “switches,” so they alternate between being submissive and dominant depending on the situation, Jones explains.

Contrary to popular opinion, the dominant person doesn’t really run the show. “In a healthy scene [period of BDSM sexual play], the submissive person is always the one in control because they have the safeword,” Jones says. A safeword is an agreed upon term either person can say if they need to put on the brakes. Because a submissive is under someone else’s control, they’re more likely to need or want to use it. “Whenever the safeword is given, the scene stops—no questions asked,” Jones says.

7. Myth: You need a Christian Grey-esque Red Room to participate in BDSM.
Christian should have saved his money. Sure, you can buy BDSM supplies, like furry blindfolds, handcuffs, whips, paddles, floggers, and rope. But there’s a lot you can do with just your own body, Jones explains: “You can use fingers to tickle, you can use hands to spank.” You can also use things around the house, like scarves, neckties, and stockings for tying each other up, wooden spoons for spanking, and so on. Plus, since your mind is the ultimate playground, you may not need any other toys at all.

8. Myth: If your partner is into BDSM, that’s the only kind of sex you can have.
When you’re new to BDSM but your partner isn’t, you might feel like you need to just dive in. But you don’t have to rush—people who are into BDSM can also like non-kinky sex, and it can take some time to work up to trying BDSM together. And much like your weekly meals, BDSM is better when planned. “BDSM should never be done spontaneously,” Jones says. Unless you’ve been with your partner for a long time and you two are absolutely sure you’re on the same page, it’s always best to discuss exactly what you each want and don’t want to happen, both before the scene happens and as it actually plays out.

9. Myth: BDSM is dangerous.
The BDSM community actually prides itself on physical and emotional safety. “A number of discussions around consent are integral to individuals in the community—people have negotiations around what they’re going to do,” Aaron says. People in the community use a couple of acronyms to emphasize what good BDSM is: SSC, or Safe, Sane, and Consensual, and RACK, or Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.

Of course, sometimes it’s still a gamble. “A number of things people do have some danger—boxing, skydiving, and bungee jumping are all legal—but it’s about trying to be as safe as possible while understanding that there’s some inherent risk,” Aaron says. It’s up to each person to set parameters that allow everyone involved to enjoy what’s going on without overstepping boundaries.

If you’re interested in trying BDSM, don’t feel overwhelmed—you can take baby steps.
“There are a number of entry points for people,” Aaron says. One is FetLife, a social media website for people with various kinks. You can also look into Kink Academy, which offers educational videos for different payment plans starting at $20 a month. Another option is Googling for “munches,” or non-sexual meet-and-greets for kinky people in your area, along with searching for kink-related organizations in your city—most big cities have at least one major resource. They usually go by different names, like TES in New York City and Black Rose in D.C., Aaron explains, but when you find yours, you may be on the road to opening up your sex life in a pretty exciting way.

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