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‘SEX GAMES’ Amanda Knox says being whipped by dominatrix was a ‘very positive experience’

BDSM Media News Posted on Sun, September 19, 2021 04:21:07

Source: The-sun.com.

USA – CLEARED murder suspect Amanda Knox has told how she stripped to a thong before being whipped by a dominatrix on a cross.

She said she was doing research for a podcast and found it a “very, very positive experience”.

The American author, 34, was wrongly convicted and spent almost four years in jail over the 2007 murder of British student Meredith Kercher, 21, in Perugia, Italy.

Speaking in her latest podcast, she told how she took part in the dominatrix session while researching what “good sex games look like”.

She said: “A part of me was worried the tabloids would find out.

“That it would be yet another headline about Foxy Knoxy and sex games.”

See larger photo: The-sun.com.


Real-life dominatrix: Did Kim Kardashian or Madonna wear BDSM best?

BDSM Media News Posted on Sun, September 19, 2021 04:04:28

Source: NYpost.com.

USA – Those trendy red carpets at the VMAs and the Met Gala are known for hot, cutting-edge fashion — and the stars who attended both bashes flaunted a variety of looks that were razor sharp.

Or should we say whip smart? At least three women celebs wore risqué numbers inspired by the titillating world of the dominatrix at Sunday’s 2021 VMAS. The black leather fest came a day after Kim Kardashian channeled “The Gimp” from the 1994 movie “Pulp Fiction” while entering a Manhattan hotel ahead of Monday’s “American Independence” Met Gala.

Sa a lot more larger photo’s and video’s on: NYpost.com.

But, according to two real-life dominatrixes in NYC, not all the BDSM-inspired ensembles were created equal. They applauded a couple of the kinky get-ups and dismissed another as “Dominatrix Light.” One blasted the zip-eyed hood sported by the multi-millionaire ex of Kanye West as “cheap” and “something you’d buy from Amazon.”

So, how would socialites Kim Kardashian, her older sister, Kourtney, singer-songwriter Kim Petras and showbiz veteran Madonna fare in a dungeon full of masochists? The Post asked Mistress Marley and Mistress Kimi Inch to rate each of their trendy styles.

Which suggestive garb would have their paying guest quaking in his boots? And which would be as intimidating as a highly flammable Halloween costume from the bargain rail at Ricky’s?

Marley and Inch gave the curvy mom-of-four a firm thumbs down for her “inauthentic” top-to-toe leather creation. Marley said the ill-fitting hood was “too loose and like a shower cap” while Inch ventured it was purchased from Amazon and had “restrictive” eye slits which could cause an unladylike stumble. “Did she have someone leading her by a leash?” Inch quipped. “Because how can you even see in that thing? The only advantage is that she didn’t need to do her makeup.”

The pair also criticized 40-year-old Kardashian’s trench coat – an item no working dominatrix would wear. “She must be dying from heat exhaustion in there,” added Inch. “While I’m impressed by her pushing boundaries, it just feels like she is trying too hard.” Marley concluded: “The whole thing comes across as a gimmick.”

Note: Kim’s controversial full-face mask look at Monday’s Met Gala eschewed black leather in favor of softer fabrics — but her look still dominated the event’s beige carpet with a highly “I am very in charge here” vibe.

Madonna at the 2021 VMAs

Neither dominatrix could fault the raunchy bustier which complimented the enviable figure of the 63-year-old “Vogue” singer. “She has the quintessential liquid leather look and I can see myself wearing it for a play session,” said Marley, adding that Madonna’s biker cap was the perfect suggestive accessory.  “Her outfit showed off her bum and legs and it’s clear that she’s proud of her figure. There’s a lot of cleavage on show, which pulls the whole thing together.”

Kimi Inch, who explained that Madonna’s 1992 “Erotica” album sparked her interest in BDSM when she was in middle school, said the mega star “nailed it” with her plunging bodysuit, fishnet tights and Louboutin heels. “All she needed was a riding crop or a flogger in her hand,” said the Texas transplant by way of NYC.

Kourtney Kardashian’s VMAs corset

Inch also admired leather-clad Kourtney for her nod to the frequently misunderstood world of the dominatrix. However, she felt the 42-year-old “could have pushed the envelope further.” Inch said: “It would have been more fun if she’d shown up in knee-high boots instead of heels.”

“The whole thing comes across as Dominatrix Light,” Marley agrees, explaining that the look would better suit a trendy nightclub than a cellar full of chains and handcuffs. “It’s nice and cute — but it doesn’t spell dominatrix to me.” She recommended the addition of a spike-studded choker to add a sexy taste of BDSM.

Kim Petras’ latex balaclava

The dominatrixes were divided on the 29-year-old’s outfit, which was dominated by a latex balaclava that completely covered her platinum blonde hair. Marley liked the liquid-looking mask but described the rest of the ensemble as “absolutely horrible.”

She said the “frumpy” dress reminded her of the TV show “Little House on the Prairie” and the white shoes needed to be replaced by black leather boots. “It’s like Kim’s saying: ‘OK, I want to look like a dominatrix, but I’m not confident enough so I’m going to throw on this hideous dress.’”

Inch, meanwhile, leapt to Petras’ defense. “She’s creating some kind of duality with what looks like a religious garment over the top of a latex bodysuit which suggests an erotic energy,” she said. But she did concede that, in common with Kim Kardashian, the talented German — who sported a more demure “cowgirl” look at the Met Gala — must have been overheated. “Latex isn’t breathable so she probably sweated off 20 pounds over the course of the evening.”



Dominatrix, 47, reveals how couples can still have sex while kids are at home

BDSM Media News Posted on Sun, September 19, 2021 03:46:15

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

UK – EXCLUSIVE: Mistress Sandy Star, 47, is a dominatrix who is also an ambassador for OnlyAccounts. Here she reveals her kinky sex tips for parents struggling to find time for the bedroom

Being a parent is challenging at times, especially if you have certain needs to fulfil.

And with the school holidays in full swing, when do you ever have time to do the dirty?

See more and larger photo’s: Dailystar.co.uk.

One dominatrix has revealed her sex tips for couples who are trying to fit in some jiggy time while their kids are at home.

Mistress Sandy Star, 47, is an ambassador for OnlyAccounts, who specialises in turning on men half her age.

She’s known as a “MILF” in the sex industry, where scores of clients tune in to her content to satisfy their needs.

Now Mistress Sandy, from Hertfordshire, UK, has shared her tips for parents who can’t find the time for each other romantically.

“When kids are around it’s really hard, if an opportunity arises you have to take it with both hands – literally!

“Finding new places to have sex is fun, adventurous and feels a bit naughty… it can be a huge turn-on.

“Locking doors arouses suspicion and kids are very inquisitive humans!”

Although she recommends locking the doors, the dominatrix admits it’s not really her cup of tea.

Instead she enjoys having quiet sex which she describes as “being a fun and sexy challenge” in itself.

But while it’s important to be experimental with where you do it, Mistress Sandy believes you should be willing to do it anytime.

She explained: “Be willing to give it a go at any time of day – there are no rules when it comes to great sex.

“If you have kids, try and find some time when they’re at school (this is a huge perk of working from home).

“Another advantage to day-time romps? Creators on OnlyFans are international and lots are active throughout the day!”

Mistress Sandy added: “If you like watching porn when you’re being intimate with your partner, this will provide you with an endless variety of videos.

“Plus, by searching for performers using OnlyAccounts, you can quickly find live creators who tick all of your fantasy boxes.”



Bondage fan who was suspended as Royal College of Nursing chairman over claims he was ‘openly hostile’ towards women says scrapping of conference is not to do with him

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 04:00:08
  • The Royal College of Nursing scrapped three-day annual conference in Liverpool
  • Decision followed what it described as ‘serious allegations of sexual harassment’
  • Suspended chairman and bondage expert David Dawes denies it is linked to him 
  • Nurses took to Twitter to express shock asking the union to explain more clearly 

Source: Dailymail.co.uk.

UK – The bondage expert suspended as chairman of the Royal College of Nursing over claims he was ‘openly hostile’ towards women today insisted the cancellation of its annual congress is nothing to do with him.

David Dawes, 53, who is openly polyamorous, has been under investigation for almost two months but insists he is innocent of any wrongdoing and will be cleared in the next week.

He has been accused of being ‘openly hostile’ towards women, allegedly being dismissive of staff concerns about discrimination and faced complaints about ‘sexual references on his own social media account’, according to The Times.

Mr Dawes, a rope bondage expert who has led workshops on techniques who became one of the youngest chief executives in the NHS‘ history at the age of just 31, today denied the decision of the RCN to cancel its annual meeting of members in Liverpool following ‘serious allegations of sexual harassment’ is not related to him.

He said: ‘I haven’t been notified that they are about me. If there are genuine allegations against individuals, I would imagine that those individuals would have been notified.’ 

His words came after the unprecedented move where his union announced it was moving its annual conference online, after taking ‘independent legal advice’.

The RCN, which represents some 465,000 health workers, said that ‘as a matter of urgency’ it was ‘undertaking a full review of all safeguarding policies and procedures as part of our cultural change’.

The RCN Congress was due to be held in Liverpool across three days from September 18.

It did not provide details of the allegations, but said it took a ‘zero tolerance approach’ at all times.

Carol Popplestone, chair of the RCN Council, said: ‘We have acted fast and took a unanimous decision that protects all attendees.

‘We know that many members planning to attend were looking forward to seeing each other in person for the first time in two years.

‘But this decision was made with members’ safety at the top of our minds. That is what we are here to safeguard at all costs.

‘I am absolutely determined that Congress will still be its usual fascinating mix of debates, events and speeches.

‘Getting together virtually won’t stand in the way of that.’ 

Miss Popplestone took over the RCN’s governing body last month after complaints were made against her predecessor David Dawes.

Mr Dawes had also been RCN council member for the North West region but was suspended from both roles pending an investigation.

Days earlier his suspension was announced, the Nursing Times reported that several ‘concerns and complaints’ had been received by the college about Mr Dawes’ conduct following a live question and answer session with members.

Sources said Mr Dawes was alleged to have made ‘derogatory and inflammatory remarks’ in relation to colleagues.

Mr Dawes said last month that he ‘fully intended’ to clear his name.

The RCN said it was taking the complaint ‘extremely seriously’ but it is unclear whether the two investigations are linked.

The decision to cancel the conference received a mixed reaction amongst members, with some praising the union’s decision to prioritise their safety. But others accused the RCN over overreacting and suggested it should have banned any individuals who were the subject of allegations from the event, rather than cancelling it entirely.

One member told the Nursing Notes website: ‘Banning individual men who may pose a risk (to the membership) is one thing, cancelling an entire event based on the ‘alleged’ actions of one, maybe two people, is totally absurd and utterly unacceptable.

‘Many have made plans to attend Congress on their own time and expense.’

The decision is likely to detract from the key issue facing the union – nurses’ pay. It has been lobbying for a 12.5 per cent pay rise.

Last night, nurses expressed their disbelief on Twitter. Learning disability nurse Catriona McIntosh wrote: ‘Are RCN Council announcing they believe the risk of sexual assault at Congress outweighs the effective running of our union? Would that not be a criminal matter for the police, not Council? Why are you not concentrating on the pay campaign?’

Another, Paul K Watson, wrote: ‘This isn’t a Council matter it sits with the police… My confidence in this organisation has gone.’ But others backed the decision.

The last time the RCN held its annual meeting in person was in May 2019, also in Liverpool.

It was held online last year due to the pandemic. Normally around 3,000 people attend but the union was expecting smaller numbers, in the hundreds, due to the hybrid nature of the event as planned. 

See larger photo’s on: Dailymail.co.uk.


Mistress Marley: ‘I’m a Financial Dominatrix—Men Pay For My Home, Bills and Vacations’

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 03:17:48

Source: Newsweek.com.

USA – I’m originally from a small town in North Carolina and I have a very close knit family who very much encouraged me to express myself. My first love was fashion and I first moved to New York in 2017 for a graduate school course in fashion marketing. Afterwards, I had jobs in fashion retail and temporary marketing roles, but nothing permanent.

One day, I was on Craigslist and I saw a listing for a hostess at a swingers club. I applied, went in and got the job. I had a background in sex work as I had done some stripping in North Carolina while I was in college but that club opened my eyes to the sex industry in general. For the most part, the clientele were 50 and above and the whole club was white. Coming in as a younger Black woman and seeing older white people having sex was a little strange at the beginning. But I’m very open-minded.

At the time, there was a dominatrix who worked at the coat check in the club. She was the first dominatrix I had met in person, and she was amazing. She told me so much about her work.

Eventually I came to a point where although I was working that side job, I lost my retail role and I was having to call my parents each week to pay for groceries. Even trying to pay rent was almost impossible. But I’m a determined person and I refused to move back to North Carolina; I’d told my parents I was going to make it.

See video and larger photo’s on: Newsweek.com.

I went online and typed in: “How to make money online as a woman, being sexy.” I knew about webcam sex work, but then I saw the term “financial domination.” I researched and saw that financial domination—or findom as it’s known—is a psychological kink where submissive men give their money to dominant women, but get nothing in return. They are basically paying women to exist.

I had the same initial reaction that everyone has now when I tell them what I do: I thought it couldn’t be real.

But I went onto Twitter, typed in “#findom” and saw so many financial dominatrixes. One thing that stood out to me was that I didn’t really see that many Black women in the space. At first, that discouraged me a little, but I’m also someone who doesn’t believe in being held back by anything, so I made my own Twitter page.

When I started, I would occasionally reach out to other dommes asking for advice and offering to tip them for their time. Most of the time, other white dommes would either block me or be super rude. No-one really talks about the trauma that Black women often have to go through to even get into these spaces.

Still, within my first week I made $50 from an anonymous sub—I still don’t know who it was. In findom, we don’t ask, we demand. We say: “Hey. I just went out and spent $50 on dinner. Reimburse me.” That’s what I did. I posted my receipt on Twitter and said that someone needed to reimburse me. And I received $50.

The money started increasing, from $50 to $100 to $200. Sometimes these submissive men send you something called a tribute; it’s a tip or token of appreciation. They’re saying they love your page or they’re grateful for you. I’ve gotten so far in my career that the standard now is that you have to send a tribute to even have a conversation with me. Tributes can range from $5 to $500.

I also do wallet draining sessions, which is when you’re on a video call or talking on the phone and you’re draining a sub’s digital wallet as you’re talking to them. It could be a 30 minute session where they start by sending $10 and then two minutes later they send $20, and so on. You’re literally draining their wallet.

In the Spring of 2018, I had my first in-person “cash meet.” That’s where you meet with a sub in a public place. For safety reasons, I always select somewhere public. I go up to the sub and humiliate them by saying something like, “loser, give me your money.” They give you the money, you might slap them if that has been agreed, and then you walk away.

It’s humiliation. The men get sexual satisfaction from the loss of control. They know they’re giving their money to someone they’re not going to meet and who doesn’t truly care about them. Something about that makes them sexually aroused.

But this all happens between two consenting adults and usually, a responsible domme will make sure that they are checking in with their subs to ensure they can still afford it. You’re never forcing anyone to send you money. At the end of the day, the subs have to log into whatever app they are using and send you the money themselves.

In the past four years, I’ve made more than $100,000 from dominatrix work, and had everything from people putting me onto their life insurance policies, to people paying my rent. I just moved into a fabulous new three-bedroom apartment in New York City and I don’t have to pay a dime for it. People pay for my furniture and my bills and I can go to any of my subs and say that I’m going out for drinks with my girls, tell them to send me money, and they send it. The most expensive single item a sub has paid for was when I went to Tulum for my 27th birthday. The vacation cost more than $5,000 and a sub sent me all the money for it. The money I make separately is barely spent, it’s in savings and I’ve paid off loans. I’m just spending money from subs.

I went from someone who had to text their parents every week for help to buy groceries, to now buying so much for my parents. It’s truly changed my life.

Besides being a financial dominatrix I am also a professional dominatrix. I do impact play and foot worship and I go to dungeons in New York City. In findom I have 10 regular subs who send me money every morning, or we are on a weekly schedule and in my pro domination work, I have five dedicated subs, or slaves, who I work with.

The demographic for my subs is 99 percent white men. I have had Black subs, but for the most part they are into things like foot worship. BDSM is not something that is widely accepted in the Black community. I can do an event now and have a sub on a leash and a Black person will look at me, as if to say, “wow.” I love having white subs. To me, they are paying me reparations. And, a lot of white subs love to serve only Black dommes. They get a thrill from it.

But I’m also trying to do away with the idea of Black women being seen as a fetish. There are subs who will contact me specifically saying why they want a Black woman. I had one sub say that they knew Black women are mean and rude so they wanted me to be their domme. I had to block him. But I am very privileged to have never been in a position where a sub has made me uncomfortable.

In November 2019, I took sub on a leash to my college homecoming at North Carolina Central University, a historically Black university. To me it was the imagery: I was a Black woman walking an old white man on a leash in a Black school. That in itself was powerful. But I treated it as a professional session with a sub, he paid me for my services and I checked in on him throughout to make sure he wasn’t in pain. It’s not like I disregarded him because I was in a public space.

People were definitely shocked. A video of that moment went viral, although I didn’t realize it was being filmed. Overnight I went from 1,000 followers on Twitter to around 13,000. My DMs were flooded with Black women asking me to teach them. I knew I had to teach so I created my Sexcademy in early 2020, and now I also earn money from teaching domination.

Because I felt like I didn’t have a safe space as a Black dominatrix, I created the Black Domme Sorority. I didn’t want other Black women to experience what I had been through. We now have 90 members across the U.S. and internationally, and are hoping to bring in 60 new members this fall. It’s the most cherished space I have ever created in my life. Along with two other members, I’m also planning to open a dungeon in New York.

The best lesson I have learned is to be able to separate work from my personal life. I’m not Mistress Marley 24/7. There are times when I have “vanilla” weeks where I want to go to museums, parks and or go shopping.

I’m also dating someone now who knows all about my work and is very supportive. In my personal relationships, I’m actually submissive. I definitely go for alpha males, but I don’t expect them to be dominating and tell me what to do. It’s still all about me, but I’m definitely attracted to confident, secure alpha men.

I always want to be part of the dominatrix community; I’ll always have a place here. I want to be taking money from men and whooping a** until I’m 100 years old.

Mistress Marley is a financial dominatrix and professional dominatrix based in New York. You can find out more about her at thechocolatedomme.com or follow her on Instagram @__mistressmarley. Mistress Marley’s identity has been protected in this piece due to safety concerns.



Victoria man acquitted in bondage trial

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 03:02:12

Source: Timescolonist.com.

USA – A Victoria man has been found not guilty of sexual assault, unlawful confinement and threatening to harm a young woman he met online in November 2018.

Consent was the main issue at Nicholas Johnston’s week-long trial in B.C. Supreme Court. On Thursday, Justice Brian ­MacKenzie was unable to decide whether the young woman consented to be bound with zip ties and blindfolded during sex with Johnston on the night of Dec. 2, 2018.

Faced with two dramatically different versions of what happened, MacKenzie said he was unable to reconcile conflicting evidence on the salient points.

“I find the evidence of Mr. Johnston, in combination with the evidence of [the young woman], does leave me with a reasonable doubt as to whether she consented to the mask or her wrists being bound during sexual activity, or if she did consent, whether that consent was obtained by force, or threats, or fear of force from Mr. Johnston,” said MacKenzie.

The woman, whose identity is protected by a court order, testified that she endured a planned, savage, prolonged confinement and sexual assault that left her fearing for her life.

Johnston denied the allegations, saying the woman consented to the sexual activity, including the zip ties and the sleeping mask.

He testified that he told the woman on the drive to his home that he had a fantasy about wanting to bind and blindfold her. He asked her if she had ever used restraints before and he testified that she said she had used soft handcuffs.

The woman testified that Johnston didn’t suggest to her that he wanted to get involved in bondage sex. She testified that he brought zip ties and a mask into the bedroom and “he was suddenly straddling her, putting a pink sleeping mask on her and putting his hand over her nose and throat and trying to suffocate her.”

She testified that he forcibly took her arm and tried to put a zip tie on her wrist but she struggled to prevent him from doing that.

“I think he said something like ‘The harder I make it, the harder it will be,’” she testified.

The woman did not agree to have her wrists bound but “I couldn’t get away from him,” so she relented, keeping her wrists far apart so the zip tie wouldn’t be too tight, she testified.

Johnston’s version was dramatically different, MacKenzie noted.

He testified that he came into the bedroom and asked the woman to move her hands behind her back so he could put a tie on her wrists. The young woman asked if she could take the tie off and he said she could if she wanted to.

Johnson testified that he asked her if he could put the mask over her eyes and she agreed. He testified that he said: “If you’re uncomfortable, tell me to stop.”

The young woman testified that Johnston took her upstairs, where under her blindfold, she could see a white sheet and tarp on the ground. She freaked out, pulled her wrists out of the zip ties then took the mask off and saw a camera on a tripod.

She threw his laptop downstairs. Then he became angry and punched her in the stomach.

“I think I asked: ‘Are you going to kill me?’ ” she testified. But he did not respond.

The young woman testified that she realized if she wanted to survive she needed to be calm so she apologized to Johnston for acting crazy. She went downstairs and had sex with him while fearing for her safety.

Johnston testified she wasn’t bound or blindfolded when he took her upstairs. He agreed he was angry when she threw his laptop downstairs, but denied punching her in the stomach.

They went downstairs and he apologized for yelling at her. He testified that they went to the bedroom because the woman wanted to have sex.

During cross-examination, Johnston acknowledged he prepared for his fantasy by buying black cable ties, a sleeping mask and duct tape to bind the woman’s wrists if she agreed. He set up a camera and tripod in the loft to take photos of the woman in bondage or the two of them having sex.

Johnston also acknowledged he had a dental dam and a speculum in his home to use in sexual activity with willing partners, but testified he did not plan to use either device with the young woman.

MacKenzie found Johnston to be consistent and not shaken in his evidence. “Mr. Johnston was forthright about the use of medical and dental devices if he had a willing partner to participate in sexual activity with these items. His acknowledgment of this unique sexual proclivity was straightforward and honest, even though it portrayed him as a deviant in certain sexual practices,” said the judge.

MacKenzie also found the young woman to be a relatively forthright and credible witness.

ldickson@timescolonist.com

See larger photo on: Timescolonist.com.


The Secret to Playing With Hot Wax During Sex

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 02:44:30

Heat things up in the bedroom with these tips.

Source: Menshealth.com.

WORLD – For anyone looking to heat up their sex life, wax play is here for you. And no, we don’t mean waxing hair off your body. , it’s a form of temperature play or sensation play originating from the BDSM community, according to sexologist Shamyra Howard, LCSW, a member of the Men’s Health Advisory Board. Temperature play could mean melting ice cubes on your body, freezing sex toys, and of course, dripping wax.

It’s a common misconception you need to be a professional or part of the BDSM community to try wax play, Howard says. Newsflash: you don’t! In fact, you can perform wax play with yourself or with a partner, all in the comfort of your own home. And it doesn’t require many materials to get started.

But before you start dripping wax all over yourself, know the techniques and the tools you need to play safely. Go in with a plan in place so you don’t get burned…if you know what we mean.

Get your wax ready.

Don’t just pick up any scented candle you have lying around. That nice-smelling one you got as a gift years ago? It’s not what you want dripping all over your skin. Those candles burn at high heat and could cause burns. Howard says you need specific candles for wax play, which burn at a lower heat and are made for close contact with your body.

If you’re just starting out, Howard says body massage candles are great for beginners. You light the candle, wait for 15-30 minutes, blow it out, let it cool, and then you’re good to start dripping.

If you want to level up to a hotter temperature, go for a soy-based candle. Paraffin candles also provide an extra sting. “Those are hotter than massage candles, so you want to be careful with them,” Howard says.

And if you’re looking for an alternative to massage candles, Howard says there are other wax items to burn, some of which you may already have in your home. Crayons and birthday candles are good to use, since they have low-burning temperatures.

Test out the temperature.

Before you start dripping wax all over yourself or a partner, you need to make sure it’s the right temperature. Light the wick, then let the wax drip onto your forearm from six inches above. (If you’re trying it on a partner, the same idea applies.)

“Allow yourself to feel what that sensation feels like; if it’s not comfortable, keep raising your arm [holding the candle] up higher until it feels comfortable for you,” Howard says. The greater the distance between the candle and your body, the less of an intense sensation; the wax won’t be as hot by the time it reaches your skin. The less distance, the more intense the sensation.

Avoid dripping the wax on sensitive areas.

As you explore the sensation of the wax, keep it away from your face, hair and genitals. It’s difficult to get wax out of hair (or hairy regions of the body), and it can burn sensitive areas. Legs and arms are easy to reach places where you can apply wax on yourself or a partner. Places like the stomach and thighs can be more sensitive, so proceed with caution.

Always, always communicate.

An important note: if you’re performing wax play with a partner, or anything involving sex, you have to communicate. A simple system Howard suggests is traffic lights. Saying “green” means go ahead, “yellow” means pause and check in, and “red” means stop immediately. Don’t assume your partner is okay, even if you’ve done wax play before. “Always have a safe word system when engaging in wax play,” Howard says.

Here are a few ideas on how to use the wax during sex.

Once your wax is hot and melty and the temperature feels good, it’s time for the main event! There are tons of ways to use wax during sex, including:

  • Using a massage candle to give your partner an erotic massage. (Start by rubbing their back; then, if they’re into it, you can work your way down below the waist.)
  • Dripping it on different erogenous zones (as long as they’re no the sensitive or hairy spots we mentioned earlier).
  • Using the wax to make shapes or patterns on the body.
  • Dripping the wax on yourself during masturbation to mix up your usual routine.
  • Incorporating it into your blindfold or bondage play. While one partner is blindfolded or restrained (or both!), the other can drip hot wax onto their skin.
  • Using it as a form of BDSM punishment.

Wind down with aftercare.

And remember, we’re dealing with hot wax here, people. Make sure you have a towel and a cup of water on-hand to clean off the wax. Then, whether it’s yourself or your partner, relax post-wax session with a cup of tea, cuddling, or another calming action. (If you didn’t already swap massages with the hot wax, now could be a good time, Howard says.)

As a final word of wax play advice, Howard says not to let what you see online determine what you do in the bedroom, since it may be unsafe or entirely fictional—like people placing wax candles in or around their genitals.

“Social media and the internet gives us ideas and we run with it,” Howard says. “But please, don’t do that!”

See more and larger photo’s on: Menshealth.com.


Founder of Russian feminist punk protest band Pussy Riot reveals new career as dominatrix & joins OnlyFans to sell raunchy snaps

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 02:29:49

Source: Rt.com.

RUSSIA – The founder of Russian protest group Pussy Riot, Nadezhda Tolokonnikova, has announced that she has started an account on OnlyFans, a paid membership site famous for empowering women to create and sell pornography of themselves.

In a Twitter post on Friday, Tolokonnikova simply wrote: “Crazy Empress.” According to her account on OnlyFans, a subscription to see the Pussy Riot leader’s racy snaps costs $10 per month.

The account appears to have been initially created in July, and thus far, membership grants access to 53 pictures and one video.

Tolokonnikova, commonly known as ‘Tolokno’, shot to international fame in 2012, when her band Pussy Riot was arrested after performing a punk song in Moscow’s Cathedral of Christ the Saviour. The three performers – Tolokonnikova, Maria Alyokhina, and Yekaterina Samutsevich – were charged with “hooliganism motivated by religious hatred” and were eventually sentenced to two years behind bars. They were released in 2013 before completing their sentences after the Russian parliament signed an amnesty law.

Since she regained her freedom, she has continued to campaign, and even authored an autobiography.

OnlyFans was created by British entrepreneur Tim Stokely in 2016 as a means to help performers provide clips and photos to followers for a monthly subscription fee. In the years since, it has become incredibly popular for adult content and is now owned mainly by Ukrainian-American pornographer Leonid Radvinsky.

Last week, in an interview with Vice News, Tolokonnikova revealed that she would like to replace President Vladimir Putin as leader of Russia, and has already planned a run in 2036.

“For now, I’m not able to run for president because I’m a convicted criminal,” she said. “Even though I already served my time in prison, I’m still not allowed to take part in any elections.”

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Pub reopens as an upmarket sex club complete with a bondage dungeon, bar and sauna

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 02:03:17

Source: Mirror.co.uk.

UK – DEVON – A run-down Devon pub has been converted into an upmarket sex club complete with a bondage dungeon, sauna and dance floor.

Within Temptation opened as a private members’ club that caters for single people and “swinging” couples.

It has a fully-equipped bondage dungeon, a swimming pool, showers, “play rooms” with space for 30 or more people at a time and a pole-dancing area, DevonLive reports.

It also has a bar, a dance floor and a sauna.

The owners say people are travelling hundreds of miles to see what the former Hop and Grapes pub is like as membership is skyrocketing.

Nikki, one of the partners behind the “lifestyle venue” venture, told DevonLive: “It’s all about enjoyment.

Dave, the other owner, added: “It might not be everybody’s cup of tea, but it will be for a lot of people.”

The venue transformed over the lockdown after a £370,000 revamp and opened in July.

Nikki and Dave say they were encouraged to renovate the old pub and invest it by the council.

They also had no problems with licensing.

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Renowned dominatrix complains about quarantine before ‘Royal Tour’ to Worcester’s Pain Palace

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 01:51:48

Source: Worcesternews.co.uk.

UK – WORCESTER – A RENOWNED dominatrix will be bringing her tour to Worcester – and there is a chance to be her film slave.

Lady Bellatrix will be coming to Worcester’s Pain Palace as part of her Royal Tour from August 18 to 20.

The Paris-based performer will be spending two days at Pain Palace Studios in Worcester and tells fans she is available for Femdom sessions.

The location of the Pain Palace dungeon is a secret which is only revealed to customers once they have booked a visit.

Lady Bellatrix told fans: “For some time I have been wanting to return to the United Kingdom and never has this been more confusing or complicated.

“But now, I can FINALLY confirm dates of the Royal Tour 2021. It has been a whole year since I last returned.

“In all the border crossing confusion, I have changed my arrival date three times in the past week.

“It really sucks *** that as a double vaccinated British national, I have to quarantine upon arrival.

“But I will be arriving on August 4 nonetheless.”

If you miss out on her visit to the city, Lady Bellatrix says she will also require film slaves while she is in the UK.

A film slave ‘tribute’ is mandatory and slaves will also be required to sign a model release and provide Government-issued ID.

Lady Bellatrix is described on her website as “the most highly recognised international Mistress in Paris”.

“As a strict British Dominatrix now living in Paris, I bring a level of sophistication and elegance to My style of Female Domination never before seen in My new adopted city.”

For more information on how to book visit the website ladybellatrix.com.

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GRAVE RIDDLE Mystery as found in makeshift grave in forest months after disappearing as murder probe launched (Mistress Stella)

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, August 12, 2021 04:26:22

Source: The-sun.com.

RUSSIA – POLICE have launched a murder investigation after the body of a missing dominatrix was found in a makeshift grave months after she disappeared.

Investigators found Ekaterina Plotnikova, 31, wrapped in bedsheets and buried in a Siberian forest this week, five months after she went missing.

espite not initially suspecting foul play, Russian cops are now probing a theory that a mystery client could be behind the killing.

The temptress, who concealed her career from her family, was reported missing in February by her mother Larisa Plotnikova, 51.

The geography teacher had raised her concerns for her daughter, who needed daily insulin injections, but authorities refused to open a criminal investigation as they believed she had gone on a trip with a client.

Larisa was “shocked” to be informed by police that her daughter had been working as a dominatrix using the name ‘Mistress Stella’ in Novosibirsk, the country’s third-largest city.

“Understand, I am her mother. The main thing for me is to find her, everything else is unimportant.

Larisa PlotnikovaEkaterina’s Mother

According to her advertisements, she offered clients “dominatrix” services while “taking into account the limits”.

“Naturally, I did not know about such details of her life,” Larisa explained.

“I learned about this from the police. My daughter told me that she worked in a beauty parlour providing electrolysis services.”

After tracking her initial route on the day that she disappeared, cops originally said they “expect and hope she will appear soon and explain the reasons for her absence.”

Ekaterina’s phone was used five days after she left home, and there was reportedly a sighting of her after this. 

But her mother slammed police for being “inactive” and failing to start a search for the 31-year-old when there was a chance of her being found alive.

“Understand, I am her mother. The main thing for me is to find her, everything else is unimportant,” Larisa said before the body was discovered.

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Rising model Lovisa Lager channels Namio Harukawa’s femdom heroines

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, August 12, 2021 04:03:16

Source: Dazeddigital.com.

Photographer Rémi Lamandé and stylist Kyle Luu conspired to give the Japanese fetish artist’s works a contemporary fashion spin

Chances are, if you’ve ever seen one of Namio Harukawa’s works, the image is now permanently etched in your mind’s eye. 

The subversive Japanese artist was known for his radical sketches depicting voluptuous women dominating far smaller, subservient men – their ample breasts and buttocks swallowing up these diminutive thrill-seekers as they sit on their faces or clasp their heads tightly between their thighs. Defiant in their disregard for conventional beauty ideals, his images are a celebration of the divine feminine power and beauty fat women – and particularly fat Asian women – hold. To label them simply ‘fetishistic’, as they so often are, is to do them a total disservice. 

While Harakuwa passed away last year, his influence lives on in a new generation of creatives. Landing this week comes a new fashion editorial steered by photographer Rémi Lamandé, which draws inspiration from some of his most recognisable works. Featuring rising curve model Lovisa Lager, the images see Lager hold one man, stripped to his underwear, in a headlock, while in another, she flees the scene wearing black lingerie as two men lie in a heap on the floor.

A further photograph, perhaps the most provocative of the series, depicts the model leaning against a bar as a kneeling subservient buries his face in her bum. With Lamandé behind the camera, stylist and Solange-collaborator Kyle Luu, hair stylist Evanie Frausto, and make-up artist Raisa Flowers made up the team bringing the shoot to life. 

“I think the first time I came across (Namio Harakuwa’s) images was in the bathroom of a club in Paris,” explains Lamandé. “Kyle was often posting his images and we’d been talking about doing a project around this idea for a while. What really attracted us to his work is the raw power and peaceful confidence of these girls. It’s a very different angle from the way Asian girls tend to be portrayed and stereotyped. His women are in charge – they go on about their lives and their sexuality doesn’t define them.”

With COVID restrictions allowing for only the smallest of shoots to take place, the team worked from a tiny set, which served to imbue the final photographs with a deep sense of intimacy. “Kyle and Lovisa were already good friends, and we were all very happy to be creating these images – it was a case of friends working together and trusting each other,” Lamandé adds. 

With the series getting its debut on Instagram yesterday, the social media platform was quick to remove images it deemed inappropriate thanks to the sexual content depicted in them. “It’s really frustrating,” says Lamandé. “We did expect a couple of them to be taken down to be honest – especially the one where Lovisa is using a boy’s face as a human stool – but I was very surprised that some of the less sexual images were still getting banned.” 

With Instagram facing criticism for removing images of larger bodies while allowing similar posts featuring smaller women to stay up, the series once again highlights the conversation around censorship and its parameters on the sharing platform. For now, however, Lamandé and his team just want us to drink in the series’ “sexual confidence, power, and happiness”. “These are happy pictures,” he concludes.

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Financial dominatrix earns fortune draining men’s bank accounts and doesn’t feel guilty (Diamond Diva Princess)

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, August 12, 2021 03:50:43

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

USA – LOS ANGELES – A shrewd businesswoman says she’s earned millions by draining men’s bank accounts. The financial dominatrix is lavished in cash by blokes who have a fetish for submission.

A shrewd businesswoman is earning a fortune without even lifting a finger.

The financial dominatrix, who goes by the name Diamond Diva Princess, is lavished in cash by her “money slaves”.

Kinky clients have paid her millions to drain their bank accounts and take money they’ve inherited from lost loved ones.

The former model, from Los Angeles, California, has been cashing in on submissive blokes since 2003.

She’s built up her client base over the years and now charges wealthy men upwards of $50-a-minute (around £36) to chat to her on the phone.

They can also pay around $500 (around £360) for a three-minute video of the glamorous mistress spending their hard-earned savings.

According to WalesOnline, Diamond said: “They love to pay through the nose. I never offer them anything discounted.

“They pay top dollar for just a glimpse of me enjoying my lifestyle that is funded by them.

“One of my paypigs alone contributed $12,000 (around £8,500) for my Beverly Hills stay and Rodeo Drive shopping trip.

“I love caviar and Dom Pérignon – and they love to pay for it. One of my paypigs spent $30,000 (around £21,000) on me in one day.

“He gave me money gifts, electronics and furniture. Another paypig has spent over $90,000 (around £65,000) on me.”

Contrary to popular belief, Diamond doesn’t have to offer any sexual services in return or even meet her clients face to face.

She said: “I haven’t met any of these paypigs – they know I have no interest in meeting them in person.

“They are just there to cater to my lifestyle. I’ve made millions.”

Diamond also insists there’s nothing sexual about the videos she sends.

She explained: “It’s completely G-rated. They worship me from a distance.”

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Senior Met Police detective, 54, who resigned after he had sex in his office with a dominatrix, called colleague ‘Asian babe’ in racially and ‘sexually explicit text messages’

BDSM Media News Posted on Mon, December 21, 2020 23:32:08
  • DS Stephen Redgewell ‘abused position’ in Met Police Federation, IOPC found
  • Misconduct panel found 54-year-old Redgewell had acted in ‘predatory manner’
  • IOPC inspected text chain containing ‘racially and sexually charged messages’
  • DS Redgewell resigned from force in 2018 over separate sex in office allegations

Source: Dailymail.co.uk.

CANADA – A senior Metropolitan police officer who resigned from the force after having a ‘sex and whips’ romp with a dominatrix in the office, called a colleague an ‘Asian babe’ in a series of ‘racially and sexually explicit messages’, a misconduct panel heard. 

Detective Sergeant Stephen Redgewell, 54, ‘abused his position’ as deputy general secretary and treasurer of the Met Police Federation by ‘behaving in a predatory manner’ towards a female colleague.

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Among 2,000 texts shared between the pair over a two year period, a police watchdog found evidence that Redgewell sent ‘numerous racially and sexually charged messages’.

Redgewell is said to have made references to the woman’s race in a ‘sexual context, calling her an ‘Asian babe’ and suggested the woman should leave her husband’, The Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC) found.

‘He also sent pictures of a sexual nature, non-sexual pictures of himself, photographs of an officer he referred to as a ‘Muslim babe’, messages relating to that officer’s race, and messages which can be categorised as anti-Semitic, racist, homophobic and sexist,’ the watchdog said.

The former officer resigned from his role at the Met Police in November 2018, after allegations emerged that he had sex with a ‘dominatrix’ in the headquarters of the Met Police Federation in Bromley, South London.

The misconduct hearing found Redgewell would have been sacked for the text messages to his colleague, between October 2015 and September 2017, if he were still a serving officer.    

IOPC regional director for London Sal Naseem said: ‘At a time when a vulnerable colleague needed assistance, Stephen Redgewell, who had risen to the senior position of deputy general secretary and treasurer within the Metropolitan Police Federation, abused his position by behaving in a predatory manner.

‘This type of appalling behaviour corrodes the public’s trust in policing and I have no doubt will appal fellow officers, the wider policing community and members of the public.

‘The former officer abused his senior position to send racially and sexually explicit messages to a colleague when she was at her most vulnerable.

‘The colleague told us he manipulated her and made her feel dependent on him to the extent she had to engage with him in order to receive the assistance she required from the Metropolitan Police Federation.’

A police misconduct panel on Wednesday found DS Redgewell’s actions amounted to gross misconduct and said he would have been dismissed without notice if he was still a serving police officer, but will now be placed on the barred list.

Commander Paul Betts, of the Met’s Directorate of Professional Standards, said: ‘The actions of former DS Redgewell fell well below the standards expected by the Met and the public we serve.

‘He abused his position as a federation representative to pursue a relationship with a female officer, who he was assisting with a work issue.

‘This unacceptable behaviour was compounded by the fact DS Redgewell knew the woman was vulnerable at the time.

‘The language used in text messages and conversations over the period of this relationship were also extremely offensive and have absolutely no place in the Metropolitan Police.

‘The Met has a zero tolerance policy for any behaviour that is racist, sexist or homophobic and it is right DS Redgewell would have been dismissed without notice if he had still been a serving officer.’

Redgewell quit the force in November 2018 after reports emerged in the Sunday Mirror about him having sex with a ‘dominatrix’ in the office of the Met Police Federation in Bromley, South London.

The Federation represents rank-and-file police officers.

According to the 2018 reports, Redgwell had kinky trysts with vampire-loving Denise Pearce, who admitted bringing ‘whips’ and being ‘more dominant’.

However the pair rowed after he refused to leave his family home, after promising to marry her at Dracula’s Castle in Romania, the paper reported.



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