THE NETHERLANDS - HEEMSKERK - Everyone has that phase in life when everything seems to be going wrong.
On Thursday, November 14, I (Tom Verhoeven) delivered my 30-year-old autistic son to the psychiatric hospital in Bakkum after an anxious car ride during a very intense, terrifying psychosis.
After 4 months of struggle with small ups and many downs, things really didn't work anymore and he posed a danger to himself and those around him.
So Thursday evening my wife and I were crying like a little child.
On Wednesday my mother received bad news: cancer were found in her lymph nodes. So go to the AVL (Amsterdam Cancer Hospital) on Monday afternoon to find out what her chances are.
My 34-year-old son-in-law has esophageal cancer and it would be a miracle if he makes it to New Year's Eve. So the sadness of those two hurts us.
Finally, I am still waiting for a call from the pain clinic because of the pain in my left ball and lower back where, according to the ultrasound, there is a damaged nerve.
So in between all the hustle and bustle, take a lot of painkillers and lie down a lot.
That is why BDSM Radio is at a very low level. Well, and real BDSM is something I can only dream of or longingly watch on Fetlife in the hope that the storm will pass soon.
I console myself with the thought that there are people who have many more disasters and that I have to be strong for my family and mothers. Plus all the lovely people who help us.
So in the near future there will be an old BDSM Radio band playing again between Sundays 8-10 p.m.(CET) and Wednesdays 9-11 p.m.(CET) on https://www.mixcloud.com/live/BDSMradioEU/.
USA – A former librarian who ditched books for sex work has revealed the weirdest requests she has received from her ‘submissive’ male clients.
Lindy Myles, 36, from Oklahoma, volunteered in libraries as a teenager and continued to work in them for 12 years as an adult, even completing a Masters in Library Science.
But soon the bookworm realised she was ‘no longer happy’ in the public library sector and decided to take on a ‘new challenge’.
INDIA – The pomegranate is indubitably the favourite fruit in art history. A treasury of symbolism that vibrates power, passion, it has been used as a metaphor for femininity, death, desire and even cannibalism as a form of romance – to offer oneself (literally) for the sustenance of your beloved. Some have also called it the perfect fruit for horror. Throughout history food is employed in art, literature & film as reliable allegories for the human body, life & mortality. Through visual and textual surrealism, this parallel between the two has inconspicuously expanded our understanding of existence and our place in the world.
Drawing upon the same visceral connection, ‘Edibles’ is a triptych that intersects two very similar instincts of humanity: hunger and desire. The photo series by artist duo Rhea and Mayank was produced under the mentorship of Apurva Kulkarni and presented at his second series of online workshop titled ‘Everyday Objects Shriek Aloud’. Designed to honour surrealism’s centenary, Edibles transforms ordinary items into provocative symbols.
USA – This may seem odd coming from someone with this job. But I’m not particularly kinky. I don’t need the costumes or the whips and the chains in my sex life. I’m just happy to be there and hope we can both enjoy ourselves. I think that context is needed for my review of “Master of Slaves ⛓🖤” (@femdomalexxxvip), who as you can probably guess, is quite a bit more toward the whips and chains side of things than myself. Beyond that even. I do not wish to be pegged, whipped, sniff anyone’s shoes or be clamped in a cock cage (something I didn’t know existed until just recently), but I will evaluate the mistress as objectively as I can in the headspace of someone who does.
Being a Domme online seems like a difficult task. Much of the stuff she prides herself in would require her physical presence, but she navigates the virtual Domme realm expertly. It’s one thing to torture a “little fucking bitch” when you’re in the room with him, but Alexandra makes a damn convincing pitch that you should torture yourself. Every time she posts she has a new sexy outfit on, often leather, and a new degrading hypothetical for your dirty mind to explore. From licking her ass on the nice end, to being whipped or pegged on the meaner end, and licking her armpits or shoes on the downright strange end. I can imagine doing something like that to get to the sweeter parts of her body, but apparently you have to be a good little sub to even deserve an armpit licking. One of my favorite posts has her posing her ass in stilettos with the tantalizing question; “What would you suck first, my heel or my ass?”. Seems like an easy question to me, but I’m sure some would choose the heels. Her chosen pronouns seem to be queen/goddess, which I would call her without even needing to be whipped. Her content is very strap-on heavy, a great variety of size (mostly pretty big) and material for you to suck and take up your hoop. She does a great job as a Domme, but if you don’t want a giant leather cock in your ass, I might look elsewhere. But I can’t imagine a better page if all that is your speed. I’m including this screenshot with no context (does it need any) because it made me smile amongst the other posts and messages that kind of hurt my feelings. It’s criminal she only got $15 in tips for that.
CUBA – ‘Felix runs a weekly class teaching the art of Japanese bondage in Havana. It was his idea to have Katy smoking a cigar. They’re part of a subculture most foreigners don’t know exists’
Ibecame interested in Cuba 30 years ago and made numerous visits over the years, some of them photography related. I never showed any of that early work: the country has been photographed so much it was hard to find a new voice. But a few years ago, I started seeing things I’d not seen before – subcultures that most foreigners don’t even know exist.
The perception of Cuba – mostly because of the communist regime – is that it’s very normative. I remember being told that it was illegal in some Soviet countries to listen to rock’n’roll or wear jeans. Foreigners think that in Cuba there’s no personal expression and that everything is bland and uniform. And it’s not true.
USA – FLORIDA – The attack is said to have taken place in Ormond-by-the-Sea, Florida, with the victim leaving behind a trail of blood after running down a road to wave down a deputy on Wednesday night
The attack is said to have taken place in Ormond-by-the-Sea, Florida, with the victim leaving behind a trail of blood after running down a road to wave down a deputy on Wednesday night. According to an arrest affidavit from the Volusia County Sheriff’s Office the man was described as shirtless and ‘frantic’ while yelling at passing cars.
GERMANY – BERLIN – A year has passed since the first edition, and our Kinky Market has developed into something much bigger and nicer than the original market-idea. In fact, it was evident already from the very first event, that this is exactly what the Berlin kinky and sex-positive community always needed: a daytime mingle, with time to talk, exchange, get educated, and of course – also upgrade the wardrobe. This year, on the first of advent, you can already erase Christmas shopping from your to-do list. While doing so, you will find the warmest and most welcoming introduction into the kinky scene, as well a place to develop and expand your connection to it.
With this edition of our Kinky Market, we will return to the heated Sage Berlin, and will take over both the cosy restaurant area, and the beach tent.You will find roughly 30 talented, local designers, offering fashion, accessories, toys and jewelry. In addition, you can enjoy our unique program of performances, workshops, and talks. With us this year, in alphabetical order:
USA – Bonding is a Netflix show that has won several fans for its different take on the BDSM community. It follows a New York-based dominatrix and her gay best friend and the duo is called Mistress May and Master Cater. Netflix described the show: Chains, whips, and hilarious quips! For grad student/dominatrix Tiff (Zoe Levin) and her cash-strapped gay best friend Pete (Brendan Scannell), S&M is a business, not a pleasure. Well, maybe there’s a little pleasure. Their professional relationship redefines their friendship, but more importantly, helps them find themselves. According to E! Online, the dark comedy first hit Netflix in April 2019 and is loosely based on creator and Barry actor Rightor Doyle’s experience working as a dominatrix bouncer. Each episode in the series runs under 20 minutes making it an easy show to binge-watch. The show explores Tiffany and Peter’s friendship and looks into the emotional aspect of the community as well. Although it did receive some flak for its first season as it didn’t take topics like consent and boundaries into careful consideration. But according to Bustle, the second season has been “praised for leaning less into humor and more into its emotional core.” So will fans get a third season?
Will There Be ‘Bonding’ Season 3?
Unfortunately, ‘Bonding’ won’t be returning for season 3. The show is among the list of Netflix shows canceled last year. As usual, Netflix did not reveal the reason behind the cancelation. It also seems unlikely for the show to be picked up by another studio/streamer. Hence, we now have to say our last goodbye to Tiff and Pete.
UK – A FORMER beauty salon owner now earns thousands of pounds kicking men in the balls in car parks, then telling them to “f*** off”.
Mistress Nancy’s clients even include a millionaire lottery winner who requested a two-hour foot worship session while they watched Antiques Roadshow.
The 34-year-old says becoming a professional dominatrix is the best decision she ever made. She makes up to £14,000 a month on average.
After investing thousands into her beauty business only for clients to slowly start to dry up, Nancy – who did not wish to give her real name – needed a change.
“I’ve never had less than two jobs at a time, I’m autistic and have ADHD, so I always like being self-employed because I can’t hold a normal job,” she told The Sun.
USA – NEW YORK – A normal 23-year-old would be mortified to find a raunchy video starring their own grandmother – but for dominatrix Melody Mars, it was a welcome discovery.
Melody, 23, who was born and raised in the Lower East Side of New York City, recently discovered that her now-70-year-old grandmother, Mima, used to punish men for pleasure in the 80s.
While helping her gran move house in October, Melody found her dust-covered dominatrix scrapbook – as well as some naughty VHS tapes.
USA – Kink is less taboo than ever today. Phrases like “don’t yuck somebody’s yum” are part of everyday parlance. 50 Shades of Grey was a huge hit as both book and movie. Feeld, a kinky dating app, just started a glossy print magazine; The New York Timescovered the launch party, where the city’s youngest and hottest literati rubbed shoulders with, uh, Woody Allen.
Yet for all the mainstreaming of bondage or spanking, some desires remain taboo. Perhaps top amongst those is Nazi kink. Roleplaying and BDSM may be nothing to be ashamed of, but when an SS uniform is added to the mix, that seems to cross a line.
UK – When it comes to getting down and dirty in the bedroom, we might have secret kinks or fantasies that we’re interested in but haven’t quite got around to trying yet.
Whether that’s down to a lack of partner, internalised shame, nerves or otherwise, up to 90% of women are hiding a hidden sexual desire, from orgies to voyeurism and exhibitionism.
Now, new research to mark National Kink Month has found that 37% of people would go as far as willingly signing a sex non-disclosure agreement (NDA) before sleeping with a new partner to ensure that their kinks aren’t revealed to others. And another 43% would consider it.
Elsewhere, the study, from the experts at dating app Flure, found that kinks are relatively common despite the fact that some of us are still naked and ashamed, as 50% of people are turned on by the idea of public sex, while 49% are open to trying a threesome.
THE NETHERLANDS – HEEMSKERK – @rubberron is on Fetlife. Now you will say: “What should I do with that?” For lovers of BDSM Songs and BDSMradio.EU, he means a lot as the music oracle in this genre. He supplies songs for the BDSM Songs lists on YouTube and Spotify. Which means I dare say that this is one of the largest music lists in the BDSM field. You can also submit your BDSM songs for these lists by emailing: BDSMradioEU @ hotmail.com (to each other). Put in your salutation: “BDSM Songs list” so that I know @tomVerhoeven (fetlife link) that it is not music spam that frequently arrives at this email address. Thumbs, follows and comments are highly appreciated. 😉
UK – DISCLAIMER: Always get consent when trying something new. If you are unsure about any of the terms mentioned in this article please refer to our expert guide to BDSM. The views expressed in this article are those of experts and not of Cosmopolitan. If you are concerned about your safety or need advice on sex and sexuality, speak with a sexual health professional or counsellor or contact Brook for anonymous support.
Whether you’re kink-curious or consider yourself a bona fide kinxpert (that’s ‘kink expert’, in case that wasn’t clear), one thing about sex on the kinky side is that there is always more to learn. Hence why we’re on a never-ending journey to provide you with the kind of top-notch kink-ed your high school health class definitely didn’t. Which brings us to today’s lesson. Hi, let’s talk about a form of BDSM that is definitely not for the under-educated: shibari.
Shibari, or kinbaku, is the art of Japanese rope tying. It falls under the ‘B’ in BDSM — bondage. Kinbaku actually means ‘tight binding’ and shibari means ‘tying’.
UK – LONDON – A dominatrix whose clients include doctors, lawyers and financial executives has revealed her craziest requests during her seven year career.
Jennifer*, from London, first started getting a kick out of ‘bullying’ men when she was just 17 – and loved when they would ‘vie for her attention’.
A couple of years later aged 19, Jennifer got into a long relationship with her partner – and the pair now have two young and have two young sons together.
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