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Source: Theitalianreve.com

ITALY – There are stories that wait ten years before being told, not out of modesty, but to find the right moment when the voice becomes clearer and distance allows looking back without filters. “Finché nessuno muore” (Until Nobody Dies) is one of these: the autobiographical account written under the pseudonym of Vera Nevi, a former professional dominatrix, who chose to put in black and white a piece of her life lived in the early 2000s in Milan.

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In this conversation, Vera doesn’t sugar-coat it: she talks about power and submission, about men who hide unspeakable desires behind their facade, about a Milan that has lost its soul becoming a showcase for petty bourgeois ambitions. But above all, she tells how control, the kind she exercised in her sessions as a dominatrix, became writing, the only space where you can truly govern something: a story, with its questions and answers. Between nostalgia for a present she fears losing and hope for the future, Vera gives us a sincere and disenchanted portrait of someone who chose to always take the space she desired, with the right irreverence and profound awareness.

First of all, congratulations on the book, I loved “Finché nessuno muore” (Until Nobody Dies). It’s a glimpse into your personal story and direct experience, but when and how did the desire to put it in writing come to you?

It took me ten years before I sat down and started writing this story. Even though I knew it by heart (obviously) and had told it on various social occasions, at some dinners to get a smile, I wasn’t sure I knew how to write it. Then I finished a work project that left me with a lot of free time and I thought that was the perfect opportunity to try.

“Names have never been important to me, they’re all the same, you’re all the same and you all want the same thing” is one of the first sentences you read at the beginning: after all the experiences you’ve lived through, do you still think this? Or has your approach towards individuality, so to speak, towards others, individual people with their worlds, interests and ways of living, changed? Also thinking about how much society has changed compared to the early 2000s.

Unfortunately, that sentence is increasingly true in my opinion. Even more so today when, thanks to social media, we can express ourselves in all our nuances and gift it to others. I love romanticizing people, events and everything else, and I succeed at it for the time of an aperitif at most, but the truth is that we are boringly all the same. Only a few people surprise me with something really interesting to say; in fact, I still have a lot of trouble remembering names. I don’t want to sound harsh in saying this, but I chose the name “Vera” (Truth) promising myself to use it properly, so I won’t sugar-coat it!

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