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10 Must-Haves For Your Kinky S&M Sex Toy Kit

Source: Yourtango.com.

USA – Fetishes have a bad reputation. Some people instantly imagine the worst: vampires and corsets, pain and darkness, and straight up whipping.

While, yes, some sex fetishes include these components, there is so much more to this vast sexuality spectrum.

Sensation play and bondage sex are among just a few of the highlights involved within fetish, allowing the two (or more) partners to use some incredibly wicked toys to heighten the nerves and allow the players to heighten their experiences.

With that said, here are the kinky girl’s top 10 best sex toys for the perfect fetish/bondage starter pack so you can surprise your partner with an incredible time!

1. Wartenberg Pinwheel

The Wartenberg pinwheel is a wondrous item that’s absolutely essential to any fetish kit. One of the most awesome things about fetish is the aspect of sensation play. Blindfolding your partner leaves them vulnerable for your touching — or lack thereof.

While this creation may appear scary at first (a wheel of needle-looking-things?), it is actually quite fabulous … just ask my partner!

2. Spreader Bar

The spreader bar is an item that’s often overlooked if you have a four poster bed, but who has that other than the characters in 50 Shades of Grey? This makes it easy to have someone submissive to your will practically anywhere.

A great addition to every fetish starter kit, this is a fun way to spread their arms or legs — for you!

3. Nipple Clamps

Despite what you might think, nipple clips are not for the faint-hearted. Simply put, these are pinchers for your nipples. They have the same effect as a cock ring, constricting the blood flow to a specific area, which can ideally enhance the sensation. Use it to your advantage! This is not just for women, it can also be quite fun for men!

And the best part about these? The beginner nipple clamps (not the clover clamp … those come later) come with screws that you can use to tighten them, so start loose!

4. A Cupping Set

Cupping is another fun way of creating amazing sensations for both you and your partner, and has worked its way up the fetish set list for me! Typically, you find these sold as a complete set, which includes varying sizes and a suction gun.

Using suction to segregate sections of the skin, it enhances nipples and other sensitive areas of the skin to bring you to the edge of the bed (and maybe over!). Also, turns out Michael Phelps is into it.

5. Antibacterial Soap

There should be no confusion as to why this HAS to be on the list. Not enough emphasis is put upon the proper cleaning of toys and tools, and no one wants a UTI or raging bladder infection, right?

6. Paddles

Of course, everyone needs the perfect paddle! Whether it’s a super large waffle paddle or a riding crop, the object of discipline is a fun addition to the bedroom. Some people enjoy seeing the red mark of a hand while others enjoy seeing the bruising from a stiff paddle with words carved into it.

No matter how you slice it, a good chunk of people with fetish kits have at least one paddle tucked away in their kit. Heck, get a few and try them out — you won’t know what you like until you try it!

7. Rope

This is a must. Although not everyone is interested in learning Shibari (fun and beautiful Japanese rope play), a staple of the fetish world is restraining your partner’s hands so that you can have your way with them.

Rope is a whole lot of fun, but don’t forget it can also be dangerous! A very important saying in the fetish world is “Be sane, safe, and consensual” — so keep it that way!

8. Blindfolds

Another mandatory item, and you can find every shape and style possible! Placing a blindfold over your partner’s eyes adds a sensual freedom, as they have no choice but to trust you in those sexual moments.

This intensifies both the interaction and the sensations that you put them through at that point!

9. Handcuffs

For those who don’t care for rope, these are another alternative.

The most important part of the having and using handcuffs is to NOT LOSE THE KEY! Have multiples on hand — you can easily find just the keys to purchase. Don’t be afraid to swallow another spare key, just in case!

10. The Perfect Dildo and/or Vibrator

Depending on the type of orgasm you prefer (clitoral, from penetration, etc.), this could vary. No matter what, get one that you will enjoy, whether it has a clitoral stimulator or not.

All in all, if you aren’t having fun, your partner won’t be having fun either — and nobody wants that!

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Into bondage? It could be because of your cat, study finds

You could develop a “higher attraction to bondage and violence”

Source: Independent.co.uk.

UK – You may have thought that the worst a pet cat can do is leave you scratched and covered in fur, but according to new research, your cat could be having a much more serious effect on you without you realising.

Owning a cat could be having an impact on your sexual behavioural patterns, and specifically, could make you more likely to be aroused by sadomachism, a new study published in the Journal of Evolutionary Psychology revealed.

The reason is that a common brain parasite from cats, Toxoplasma gondii, which causes toxoplasmosis, is linked to sexual arousal by fear, violence and danger in humans.

Around a third of the world’s population are infected with the parasite, and transmission from pet cats (through their faeces) is one of the most common causes.

The study of 36,564 people in Slovakia and the Czech Republic – both those infected with Toxoplasma and parasite-free – found that “infected subjects are more often aroused by their own fear, danger, and sexual submission.”

What’s more, the researchers discovered that people with Toxoplasma have a “higher attraction to bondage, violence and, in men, to masochism and raping.”

The parasite succeeds in using the fact that sex-related stimuli and fear-related stimuli affect very similar circuits in the brain. “Even without Toxoplasma, there will be some relationship between fear and sex,” lead author Jaroslav Flegr explained.

Although toxoplasmosis is so common, it’s rarely reported as there are no real symptoms – around 350 cases are reported in England and Wales annually, but the NHS believes the actual number of infections could be as high as 350,000.

Toxoplasmosis can be diagnosed by undertaking a blood test.

See more larger photo’s: www.independent.co.uk.

3 Couples Try Bondage For The First Time And Dish All About It (videolink)

“When I used the whip, I might have done it too hard.”

Source: Huffingtonpost.com.

USA – There’s nothing wrong with vanilla sex ― but there’s also nothing wrong with spicing things up in the bedroom.

In the surprisingly cute (possibly NSFW) BuzzFeed video above, real couples experiment with bondage for the first time.

“I’m not putting these on my nipples,” one women tells her boyfriend while holding up nipple clamps. “It’s not happening… maybe.”

Watch the clip to see how it all unfolds.

See video: www.huffingtonpost.com.

[NSFW] BDSM Photography Breaks Out of the Bedroom

Source: Thecreatorsproject.vice.com.

USA – Visual evidence of BDSM dates back to the 5th century BC, meaning erotic role-play hasn’t always been as taboo as one might think. Still, contemporary images of consensual sadomasochism seem more visible today than at any other point in human history. Long after the writings of the Marquis de Sade and the rise of post-WWII leather culture, BDSM is finally enjoying its time in the light, and works by photographer Ian Reid exemplify the ways in which bondage, discipline, dominance, and submission have become a larger part of the cultural landscape.

A Brooklyn native, one-time graffiti artist, and near-lifelong skateboarder, Reid began taking photographs when he was 15 and first garnered attention for his portraits of New York’s skate scene. Since then, he’s shot for brands like Nike and Converse, and his editorial work has appeared in publications like Vogue, Vibe, and In-Style.”

Reid’s examination of BDSM started when he photographed a neighbor deeply invested in the subculture. He’s since continued to capture images of participants enacting fantasies in public places. In A Days Work: Photographs by Ian Reid, LA gallery These Days offers viewers a selection of Reid’s transgressive images. In addition to his portraits, the exhibition includes three limited-edition skateboard decks displaying Reid’s fetish photography, all released by the Girl Skateboard Company.

While taking a break from “tying up a nice young lady,” Reid tells The Creators Project, “I grew up in a subculture that has now become as mainstream as where I’m from in New York: skateboarding and Brooklyn.” But when it comes to the subculture he’s chosen to document in his most recent work, Reid is more reflective. “BDSM has become more visible and acceptable through fashion and the wide use of the internet,” he observes. “A lot of fashion designers […] use aspects of it in their accessories or details for retail or shows. When you dig into how the designers come up with some of these elements, it traces back to the fetish world and things that were typically kept very private.”

BDSM is “now just another form of expression,” Reid believes. “But also, with so many people having celebrity status and being out-and-about with things that are usually kept secret, it just gradually becomes acceptable.”

A Days Work: Photographs by Ian Reid is on view at These Days in LA through December 4. Check out more of Ian Reid’s work on his website.

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See much more larger photo’s: Thecreatorsproject.vice.com.

‘Kink Yoga’ involves whips, cuffs, Downward dog and a Dominatrix

Source: News.com.au.

AUSTRALIA – WHEN hard-core fetish involving whips, straight jackets and leather chaps meets the downward dog and child’s pose — it’s probably not a combination that springs to mind when you sit down for your daily dose yoga.

But for a small group of people in Sydney, combining all of the above is how they meditate — and reach a realm of relaxation and mindfulness that usually comes with an hour or two of ‘traditional’ yoga.

It’s called Kink Yoga — and involves a Downward-facing Dog like you’ve never seen before.

Mistress Anna and her “kinksters” opened the doors for The Feed on SBS, and allowed journalist Patrick Abboud into their secret world of ‘Kink Yoga’.

Mr Abboud has never been into kink, bondage or any form of S & M — but he is into yoga.

So much so, that he decided to give this relatively unknown workout a try — and find out how two polar opposites could come together and create a single form of mediation.

Anna, who is a yoga instructor, personal trainer and professional Dominatrix, lead the class of around 10 participants through different movements and poses, before launching in to their desired fetish.

“Everything in the class is action,” Mr Abboud told news.com.au.

“People are being flogged, whipped and tied up. They hold a pose while their kink stuff is played out.

“There was a man into Furry Play, a cross-dresser ‘Irena’ in his 50s, another man in late 20s who dressed as a puppy and even someone into food play (sploshing), where it’s smeared all over the body.

“Any kink gets played out during the yoga class.”

While it may sound like a group of people with fetishes getting together to act out their kinks, the start of the class is like any standard yoga meet.

“Basically, the participants walk in and the room looks like a standard yoga class,” Mr Abboud said.

“People are in their active wear, they roll out their mats and the meditation begins.

“We start with a prayer pose, and it just feels like a normal yoga class — but then it gets more and more kink focused.

“And while I’m not into fetish or bondage, I had to allow Mistress Anna to tie me up and whip me.”

Calling ‘mercy’ if it all gets to much, Mistress Anna walks around the room in a latex bodysuit while holding a riding crop, and is perhaps the most intimidating yoga instructor you’d come across.

But the Sydney-based dominatrix, personal trainer and yoga instructor admits that coming together to combine yoga and kinks allows people who may be “scared, nervous or ashamed” of their fetish to meditate in a safe place.

“So whether it’s sploshing, pony play or puppy play, shibari rope, they can cross dress or do yoga in the nude as well as getting fit and healthy,” she said.

Smearing or throwing food onto the slave or the sub, Mistress Anna picks up a cake and wipes the icing over her hands and allows select participants to lick the food off her fingers.

In another corner of the dim-lit room, Dan the tradie has clamps pressed onto his nipples for pleasure while he lies flat on the floor.

“Dan enjoys being tied by a female mistress and being in service to me,” Mistress Anna said.

“The better he is at flexibility and core strength, the more suspension and heavier bondage he can take.”

Dan, who says the yoga class is a place where he can work out in an environment that’s accepts him for who he is, as well as feeling safe — is what brings him back to see Mistress Anna on a weekly basis.

But Mr Abboud, while appreciating the alteration to his yoga regimen through whips and ropes, felt the pain factor meant he couldn’t relax like he would in a typical class.

“For a lot of people in the, kink yoga allows for endorphins to be released — and feel amazing at the end.

“It’s a safe space for them to live out their fetishes, feel good and have the same experiences others would have in a normal yoga class.”

Irena, who has been Cross Dressing most of his life, said the class provided a safe environment for him to act out his fetish.

The documentary was the first time he came out publicly about his kink.

“My fetish, service sub-maid, likes to cross-dress,” Irena said.

“With a little bit of pain. This is the first time I’ve publicly acknowledged what I do, and my parents and brothers and sisters don’t know what’s going on.

“Everyone wants to be accepted,” Mistress Anna added.

“We’re bringing kinky yoga into the public eye so people understand us better.

“We’re not freaks, we just like doing things a bit differently. We are all people underneath our kink.”

When Irena isn’t, well, Irena — he’s “just an ordinary bloke”.

“I’ve got a regular job, I have beers at the pub with my mates.

“I don’t want to hide it all my life. We’re all different, don’t knock it until you try it.”

But while yogies out there may not see this as a traditional form of the ancient practice, Mistress Anna says ‘Kink Yoga’ helps to transform the body and be able to handle different variants of bondage.

“Kink Yoga has helped John through his illness by using the breathing technique as a relaxant,” she said.

“I feel like I’m empowering [participants] and opening doors for them to take a step on becoming more of who they are, and not worry about being judged by other people.

“Kink and bondage requires really deep breathing to handle the pain,” Mr Abboud added.

“That’s the crossover. A lot of the class is about being able to hold the poses for longer and take more pain. This is really meditative for people into kink, and while it wasn’t for me — people who are into kinks, a form of meditation clearly comes into play.”

See much more larger photo’s: www.news.com.au.

LINKS:
Website: Mistressanna.info.
Twitter: Twitter.com/_mistressanna.
Facebook: Facebook.com/mistressanna.anderson.