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Brit sex mistress tells ALL about her kinky Fifty Shades Darker dominatrix life

A DOMINATRIX has spilled Brits’ darkest and wildest sex secrets – with kinky lovers enjoying an X-rated “Fifty Shades” lifestyle behind closed doors.

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

UK – Fifty Shades Darker is on everyone’s lips as the eagerly awaited sequel is released in cinemas across the globe.

But S&M is more than just a fantasy for lovebirds – and it’s not just in the bedroom.

Daily Star Online revealed randy revellers are piling into London’s raunchy sex clubs.

Now Britain-based dominatrix Adrianna – or “Mistress” as she prefers to be called in the bedroom – has opened up on the UK’s fetish clubs.

“It is like being in a kinky candy store and choosing the slave you wish to punish,” she told The Express.

“The men are looking for a goddess to worship for the evening.

“I knew I loved it from the first time I punished quite a few men, spanking bottoms and crushing them in the trample cage.”

The Mistress has also worked one-on-one with clients who she has introduced to the “sensual” and erotic world of the dominatrix-submissive lifestyle.

She opened up on her X-rated experiences with an adrenaline-junkie who would ask her to tie him up as he tried to escape her “clutches”.

But the kinky lifestyle nothing to be afraid of, she said.

The sex expert added: “My world is not disturbing, it is about conjuring up a whole host of emotions.

“There is often fun and much laughter, and always a sensual release.”

Adrianna’s book The Story Of Control is now available in stores.

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Broadchurch actress transforms into dominatrix for racy S&M sex scenes in BBC comedy

PHOEBE WALLER-BRIDGE looked worlds away from her Broadchurch character as she stripped down to a black corset and suspenders for a role in BBC comedy How Not To Live Your Life.

Source: Express.co.uk.

UK – The actress swapped her role as lawyer for an S&M loving dominatrix who dated lead character Don (played by Dan Clark) in the 2010 series.

In the episode entitled Don’s Posh Weekend, she treated him to a naughty weekend as she pushed his boundaries in the bedroom.

Don found himself at the mercy of Felicity who went as far as using a candle as a sex toy as they got it on as well as introducing him to water sports.

Taking place in her childhood bedroom, she whips out all sorts of surprises as they enjoy a very kinky sex session.

Phoebe’s best assets looked as though they were about to fall out of her plunging black corset as she threatened Don with a leather whip in the BBC series.

Her character Felicity also gagged Don as she paraded around in her lingerie which she accessorised with a string of pearls.

The role is worlds away from her prim and proper character Abby Thompson in ITV’s Broadchurch, which saw her defend murderer Joe Miller (Matthew Gravelle).

While the series is set to return, Phoebe has not yet officially been announced as part of the cast.

However, she has been busy in the US with her comedy series Fleabag, which has been picked up by Amazon Prime.

She plays a young woman trying to cope with life in London while coming to terms with a recent tragedy.

And, she is set to become even busier if reports that she is in talks to take on a “key role” in the upcoming Star War film are correct.

Broadchurch returns to ITV later this year.

See more larger photo’s & video: www.express.co.uk.

From the dungeon to the multiplex – how bondage has gripped the nation

Source: Theconversation.com.

UK – The surge of popular interest in BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism and masochism) that has resulted from the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy of novels has been something of a revelation. Beginning as texts whose relative marginality initially seemed ensured by both theme (BDSM) and format (online fan fiction), today they are so popular that millions are anticipating the adaptation of the second book to hit cinemas next week – just itching to get that mask out.

The original book set the record for the fastest-selling paperback ever, topping bestseller lists all over the world and being translated into more than 50 languages, eventually resulting in the first film adaptation in February 2015. It was the guilty pleasure holiday reading for many people in 2012.

Such popularity indicates a growing mainstream appetite for discussion of things that would previously be considered “deviant” pursuits. And understanding the ways in which countercultural pursuits such as BDSM gain mainstream popularity is important for commercial offerings that could benefit from incorporating them.

Cheese and whips

The trend for BDSM tourism has both a past and an emerging future. The term BDSM only came into use in 1969, but unsurprisingly, the practices predate the term by at least 5000 years. Some of the oldest references to this kind of sexual behaviour are found in Sumerian cuneiform literature (c. 2500 BC) describing the ritual punishment, moaning and ecstasy in worship of the goddess of fertility, Inanna. And, in Ancient Greece, Plutarch, Xenophon and Plato all discussed examples of BDSM. One in particular was the cult of the diamastigosis where young men were flogged under the guidance of priestesses whilst trying to remove cheeses from an altar. Well, everyone needs a hobby.

Popularisation came with Hindu guide to love and desire, the Kama Sutra (from “kāma” the Hindu goal of desire and “sūtra”, a collection of aphorisms), written in Sanskrit by the Vedic philosopher Vātsyāyana. Historians believe that the text was probably composed between 400 BCE and 200 CE and collected into its present form in the 2nd century CE. More than just a sex manual, it is a guide to gracious and virtuous living and focuses on the nature of love, what triggers desire, what sustains it, and how and when it is good or bad. It also explains different kinds of discipline during sex, undoubtedly contributing to the spread of many sexual practices, including BDSM, around the globe.

In contrast to this rich history, in the UK today just walking past an Ann Summers shop might make one feel a bit prudish and guilty. Yet we are a changing nation. Christian Grey and friends have smashed open Pandora’s box, and it’s full of whips, tethers and blindfolds.

Who’s the deviant?

Our particular interest here is in BDSM as an emergent tourism product. From a sociological perspective, the nature of deviancy represents a paradox. We tend to view the participants of practices such as bondage from a distance and consider them to be deviants. But their apparent deviancy is structured and normal for them – they have a community, an identity within that community that they seek to uphold, and a set of social rules to which they adhere.

But as their community grows and others enter, these others are free of the burden of the social structures of their own, mainstream, community, and therefore free to be truly deviant from themselves. The notion of being “apart together” is facilitated by tourism products and, as BDSM enters the public consciousness, it registers as something people are willing to do as a means of “escaping” – something businesses are keen to package as a valuable proposition to customers.

Just like BDSM, other types of risk, thrill, pain and pleasure have all been commodified and popularised into tourist attractions. We don’t bat an eyelid at the idea that people regularly jump out of a perfectly serviceable aircraft, attach elasticated roped around their waists and fling themselves off bridges, or even tie two planks of wood to their feet and push themselves down snow-covered mountains.

But all of these were, at one time, no doubt considered deviant, minority pursuits. Today, tourism destinations in Scotland offer “Dirty Weekends”: dedicated Fifty Shades of Grey-themed package holidays. Similarly, sex-themed hotel rooms are becoming more common – hotels are acknowledging that sex is high on the agenda for certain guests. This echoes a long-established trend in the Far East for so-called love hotels.

As Rihanna sings: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me.” BDSM is an activity that has entered the mainstream in recent years – and commerce is never far behind popular culture.

See more larger photo’s & video: Theconversation.com.

For Pittsburgh dominatrix Aiden Sin Flame, dominance is good business

“It’s fucking great to have someone pay you to smell your dirty shoes.”

Source: Pghcitypaper.com.

USA – PITTSBURGH – Aiden Sin Flame didn’t set out to be a career dominatrix six years ago; it actually happened by chance.

“Initially, I was on a fetish site that was similar to FetLife [a social-networking site for those into fetishes],” Flame says. “I saw girls, their profile was basically an ad where they were charging for [camera] time as a domme. I just kinda kept thinking, ‘I could do that,’ and it just kinda went from there.”

That was in 2010, and now the 24-year-old has moved beyond camera work to real-time sessions with a developed client base. While maintaining her domme business, she also works as a hair stylist.

Dommes, or dominas, as she prefers to call herself, are professionals who are paid to create power-exchange scenarios for their clients. Some of the activities listed on Flame’s application for potential clients, or “slaves,” are public humiliation, needle play, orgasm denial and couples’ sessions. Sessions are negotiated on a client-by-client basis.

“Foot fetish is definitely the most vanilla fetish, but it’s the most requested,” she says.

While it is considered sex work, Flame’s profession isn’t prostitution and isn’t subject to the same laws. She works from her apartment, where her living room serves as her dungeon.

Her typical equipment includes whips, riding crops, a spanking bench, wooden shackles and floggers (a short-handled, multi-lashed whip). “The rest of my stuff I have in storage until I can get a bigger place,” Flame says, smiling.

She receives a lot of her equipment and clothes as gifts from clients as a form of tribute or as thanks for a session. Financial domination of different degrees is common for slaves, who enjoy buying presents or handing over bank-account information as an act of submission.

In order to schedule a session, Flame requires potential slaves to fill out an application. If she accepts it, an in-person meeting is set up before a session is scheduled. She also requires an upfront deposit for initial meetings to protect her from clients with last-minute cold feet. Safety, in all aspects of the exchange, is highly important to her.

“I get asked a lot how to do this safely. It really comes down to common sense. If something seems shady, just don’t do it,” she says.

Flame checks up on her clients’ information before meeting with them, and during sessions, cleanliness, sanitization, routine check-ins with the client and using a safe word are musts.

“You can’t just wing this,” she says emphatically. “Especially with BDSM. If you don’t know about something, don’t do it.”

Most of her clientele are middle-aged white men. Flame says minority and female clients are rare. “Women can get it for free. The women who I have had, they wanted more of a professional experience,” she says.

Maintaining a client base takes a tremendous amount of work, which Flame does with a robust social-media presence. “People tend to come and go,” she says.

Most of Flame’s relationships with her slaves are friendly. “I do develop some sort of caring or bond,” she says. However, maintaining the power dynamic is such an integral part of the work and fantasy-building that she has to be careful to maintain her emotional distance. “I had a really loyal slave, who I saw on a weekly basis. We became too close in a friendship, and it kind of ruined everything,” she sighs.

Make no mistake — domming isn’t all strutting around in high heels and humiliating clients for top dollar. It takes a tremendous amount of time, work, learning from mistakes, and energy to have a successful career.

“I spent a really long time before I ever did real-time [sessions], working online and researching things. I wasted a lot of time, I got ripped off a lot, I got lied to a lot,” she says. “I went through a lot of crap to get to the point of knowing what I know now.”

Flame herself worked with another domme when she first started doing real-time sessions with clients. The arrangement allowed her to both feel safe and learn.

“It’s a lot of fun, honestly,” she says, “If it’s not fun, you really shouldn’t be doing it. It’s fucking great to have someone pay you to smell your dirty shoes.”

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LINKS:

Website: Goddessaiden.net.

Twitter: Twitter.com/goddessaiden.

Facebook: Facebook.com/aiden.flame.

Vine: Vine.co/u/1279471742364061696.

Fetlife: Fetlife.com/users/3955606.

50 Shades Darker stars Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson banned from kinky talk by movie bosses

Execs behind bonkbuster prove prudish by forbidding cast from making sexual and graphic references in promo interviews

Source: Thesun.co.uk.

USA – FOR the purveyors of the most famous erotic film franchise in history, the bosses behind bonkbuster Fifty Shades Darker are oddly prudish.

I can reveal that execs at Universal Pictures have banned the cast from making sexual and graphic references in their promo interviews.

The BDSM film’s stars including JAMIE DORNAN and DAKOTA JOHNSON have been forbidden from any kinky talk and forced to push the romantic elements of the movie instead.

Oscar-winner MARCIA GAY HARDEN, who plays the mother of Jamie’s character Christian Grey, let slip the stuffy stipulations after landing herself in trouble for jokingly tweeting about sex toys.

In a new, thankfully unfiltered interview, Marcia said: “We can’t talk too much about nipple clamps.

“I used to send out some naughty little tweets, along the lines of this ‘sweater clasp’ and I was told by Universal that I couldn’t do it any more, but I’ll tell you one anyway.

“I’m a good girl, I fell in line. Because it’s supposed to be more about the ‘romance’.

“Maybe I went too far . . . I don’t know.

“I sent out a picture of a sex toy and I was like, ‘Dear Christian, thank you so much for that lovely bracelet under the Christmas tree. Perhaps it wasn’t meant for me.

Oh well, so pretty.’

“And all the fans would write back, ‘No that wasn’t for you Mama Grey, oh no.’ That was a lot of fun but it was shut down.

“It is a love story after all — I don’t think they want us being too overtly sexual in interviews.

The Sun told last week how the sequel to Fifty Shades is far raunchier, with 15 minutes of erotic action including two bondage scenes.

One graphic, X-rated moment involving a sex toy lasts almost three minutes and had members of the audience at last week’s LA premiere laughing and screaming in horror.

Another explicit scene sees Dakota’s character Anastasia Steele strapped to a stainless steel bondage bar with foot restraints for a love-making session in Christian Grey’s infamous Red Room of Pain.

The film’s UK premiere is in London on Thursday before hitting screens here the following day.

It’s a clean, family-friendly, romantic flick . . . honest.

See more larger photo’s: www.thesun.co.uk.

Randy Italian priest ‘with 30 lovers’ faces the sack for ‘organising wild S&M orgies on church property

Fr Andrea Contin, 48, is said to have carried a briefcase full of sex toys and bondage gear to visit widows and holidayed at a naturist swingers resort with some of his ‘harem’

Source: Thesun.co.uk.

ITALY – PADUA – A RANDY Italian priest faces the sack after being accused of staging S&M orgies in his rectory, pimping out some of his 30 lovers on wife swapping websites and concealing home-made sex tapes in covers bearing the names of popes.

Father Andrea Contin, 48, is said to have carried a briefcase “full of vibrators, sex toys, masks and bondage equipment” to visit widows and divorcees and holidayed at a naturist swingers’ resort with some of his “harem” of female friends.

One woman accused the priest of encouraging her to have sex with a HORSE and beating her in the rectory on two occasions.

Police are investigating Fr Contin on suspicion of living off immoral earnings and psychological violence following complaints from three of his congregation.

Now Catholic church bosses say they have begun proceedings to have him defrocked and whatever the outcome of the criminal case he will lose his job as parish priest of San Lazzaro church in the northern city of Padua.

Claudio Cipolla, the Bishop of Padua, said Fr Contin’s alleged activities were “unacceptable for a priest, for a Christian and even for a man.”

Cops found a variety of sex toys in his house along with videos allegedly showing kinky orgies on church premises.

The clergyman is also said to have farmed out some of his lovers to male customers on wife swapping websites.

And he enjoyed lavish holidays with some of the women including one stay at a naturist village in the French town of Cap d’Agde.

One of the priest’s alleged lovers, a 49-year-old church volunteer, told how they had sex in his rectory.

“There were a lot of women hovering around him. I didn’t understand that at first, only later,” she told the newspaper Il Mattino di Padova.

Fr Contin is said to have carried a satchel full of sex toys and bondage gear on pastoral visits to widows and woman whose marriages had collapsed.

Instead of giving spiritual guidance, he allegedly seduced before pressuring them into participating in extreme sexual activities involving other men which he filmed.

One woman – said to have borne the churchman a child – told cops he “wanted sex night and day” and tried to force her to have sex with a horse.

She said in her police statement: “He always carried a briefcase full of vibrators, sex toys, masks and bondage equipment.”

More than 30 women have added their names to a complaint since the first three came forward to cops in December.

Pope Francis is said to have summoned Bishop Cipolla back from a church trip to South America to investigate the scandal surrounding Fr Contin, who fled on holiday to Croatia with his parents.

Complaints were reportedly first made to the local diocese last summer but church authorities failed to contact the police, saying they had not yet completed their own investigation.

Another priest, named as Father Roberto Cavazzana, is said to have admitted to taking part in and “occasionally” filming orgies.

Bishop Cipolla said Cavazzana’s case is “different” since “his involvement was only partial and occasional – though not acceptable for a priest” and he was probably keep his job.

See more larger photo’s: www.thesun.co.uk.

BDSM isn’t just confined to the silver screen

Source: Thepostathens.com.

USA – Ropes, handcuffs, whips and floggers — those are just a few of the many props used in the Fifty Shades of Grey series, and they can all be used in any real-life BDSM relationship.

BDSM is an overlapping acronym for Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission and Sadism and Masochism, according to Cosmopolitan. The number one rule for those who practice BDSM is “Safe, Sane and Consensual,” and that plays a huge role in everything the members do, Nathan Hammerle, a freshman studying integrated social studies, said.

The first Fifty Shades of Grey book in the trilogy came out in May 2011 and the movie came out in February 2015. The second book, Fifty Shades Darker came out in 2012 and the movie is set to release Friday. Controversy has surrounded the topic since its release concerning the realistic depictions of people who participate in BDSM.

“It is a good opener for people who did not know about the community,” Hammerle said. “But it is not represented well enough for a full representation of BDSM.”

BDSM has always existed, but when the series came out, the topic was brought into a new light.

“A lot of new people have become part of [the community] because the movie came out,” Hammerle said.

Hammerle kept a positive attitude when talking about the Fifty Shades series comparing it to a “gateway drug.” Other people do not have such a positive outlook on the series.

Meredith Thompson, the co-owner of Honey, 13 W Union St., felt the writing was really bad.

“I don’t know why it is so popular,” Thompson said, “There is a lot of better erotica out there.”

There is a section in the store with bondage gear and other pieces of equipment, such as whips and handcuffs, that could have been featured in the Fifty Shades series. Thompson said the section has always been there, but people are just now starting to notice it and call it the “Fifty Shades section.”

Elizabeth Harklerode, a sophomore studying special needs education, said the movie is a good representation in some ways, but not in other ways.

“I feel like each experience is different,” Harklerode said. “One couple’s experience with BDSM is completely different than another couple’s.”

She said the movie doesn’t talk about a relationship as a whole, just the sex side of it. The movie doesn’t dig deeper into the relationship, rather only looks at the surface.

Harklerode said people started to look at BDSM as a “shiny new toy” after the books and the movie came out. It became more accepted and well-known.

“People can do things that are considered BDSM but don’t realize that’s what it is,” Harklerode said.

The problem of consent became a big factor surrounding Fifty Shades of Grey, questioning whether the lead character Anastasia Steele (Dakota Johnson) really consented to what Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan) was doing. In reality, consent is one of the biggest keys in a BDSM relationship.

“It is always a verbal and auditory ‘yes’ or a word that means ‘yes,’” Hammerle said, “It can also be ‘no,’ and that’s where safe words come in.”

A safe word is a pre-arranged signal from one person to the other giving the sign to stop or slow down. It is all agreed upon before any sexual activity takes place, Hammerle said.

“If you don’t consent, you’re not going to have a fun time,” Harklerode said, “And this sort of thing is supposed to be fun.”

Whether the Fifty Shades of Grey series is a realistic depiction or not is up for debate, but it is getting a conversation going about the topic of BDSM where there wasn’t much talk about it before.

“People are realizing that they weren’t the only ones that do it,” Harklerode said.

See larger photo: www.thepostathens.com.