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Dominatrix who took part in BBC documentary about sex workers is forced to defend her lifestyle after viewers branded it ‘disgusting’ and labelled her husband a ‘pimp’

*Sex worker Charlotte Rose was featured in BBC documentary about the industry

*The mother explained how she enjoyed sex and earned her own money

*Clip divided viewers on Twitter with some branding Miss Rose’s partner ‘a pimp’

*The couple defended Miss Rose’s lifestyle and said their critics were ‘frustrating’

Source: Dailymail.co.uk.

UK – A dominatrix who took part in a BBC documentary about the sex industry was forced to defend her lifestyle after she was blasted by viewers.

Charlotte Rose, from London, spoke out after dozens of outraged viewers took to Facebook to brand her ‘disgusting’ and call her partner a ‘pimp’. Viewers also criticised the BBC for broadcasting what one said was ‘an ad for prostitution’.

Miss Rose and her partner Colin Chapman hit back at critics on the social media site before filming an interview together, branding the backlash ‘frustrating’.

In the interview with RT, Mr Chapman criticised those who judged his wife and explained why he supported her decision to be a sex worker.

He said: ‘It’s frustrating because clearly everyone thinks that someone in the sex industry is incapable of having a normal, loving relationship, which we’ve very, very much got.’

Miss Rose, an award-winning dominatrix, was one of six sex workers featured in the six-minute long BBC3 feature called Things Sex Workers are Tired of Hearing.

The show saw them answer questions like: ‘How much money do you make?’ and ‘What happened to you to make you choose this?’

Miss Rose, who praised her clients as ‘great’, said taking part in the show gave her an opportunity to ‘debunk’ common misconceptions about her job.

The programme sparked widespread debate when it was shared on the BBC3 Facebook page.

Some praised Miss Rose for her candidness and honesty, saying: ‘Thank you for being brave and being in the video’.

However dozens criticised the clip, saying it belittled the suffering of trafficked sex workers.

One disgusted viewer wrote: ‘I am unhappy that my licence fee is promoting prostitution and you’re advertising this is a potential career choice to teenagers.’

The viewer added: ‘A man that pays a woman for sex is also paying for his power over her, that’s what the money does.’

After Miss Rose joined the online conversation, some attacked her and her family personally. Miss Rose and Mr Chapman have five children together.

One viewer said: ‘Imagine being her child’.

Miss Rose and Mr Chapman tried to respond to the questions on Facebook before agreeing to be interviewed on camera.

Miss Rose said: ‘I think it was really disgusting that a lot of comments that were made were classifying my partner as a pimp.’

Mr Chapman stepped into explain his own position, saying: ‘I am not happy that she is treated the same as a normal person in a normal job.

‘The fact that she has no protection in place in her work and I’d like to see more legislation to help sex workers in the industry and also to get rid of the stigma.’

Miss Rose added: ‘The comments that have been put on to this work are a perfect example on why we need decriminalisation.’

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How To Turn Your Bedroom Into The ‘Red Room’

Source: Huffingtonpost.com.

USA – For lovers, BDSM can be an amazing experience and, really, anything goes as long as it’s safe, sane and consensual.

Americans are probably more educated, informed, and enthusiastic about sex today than we’ve ever been, and yet we can still sometimes feel closed or uncomfortable expressing our sexuality in certain ways. BDSM — a world I stumbled into, learned to understand, and have grown to love — is definitely one of those uncomfortable areas.

Before the Internet, many people assumed that fantasies and fetishes beyond “vanilla” sex were only for the perverted and abnormal. People who felt such desires rarely or never expressed them, and many must have felt completely alone. Today, though, we are more honest with each other and with ourselves — we know that most fantasies and fetishes are actually quite common. What’s more, the online world has empowered revolutionary sex positive movements and entire communities of people who are interested in exploring sexuality in previously forbidden and taboo ways.

Enter 50 Shades of Grey, a romance novel that has launched an enormous interest in bondage, domination, sadism and masochism (BDSM).

Now, many people I speak with are curious about BDSM, but don’t know how to get started. Others are afraid of it, thinking it is all about pain. So what is BDSM? How do you do it? Do I have to wear a corset? How do you even get into a latex bodysuit?!

Today, I want to give you some expert tips for how to turn your bedroom into the Red Room.

First of all, don’t panic. Remember that this is about giving yourself permission to experiment and play, and you should be enjoying yourself, not stressing out.

Let’s start with a good working definition of BDSM. (Spoiler alert: It’s not actually all about pain.)

Generally, BDSM is about dominance and submission. One person plays the “top” or dominant role, while the other plays the “bottom” or submissive role. These roles often coincide with each person’s natural tendencies or come from a particular desire they feel to dominate or submit. It’s also possible to be a “switch,” which means that you can play both roles naturally. Sometimes it’ll be easy to figure out which roles will work best for you and your partner, while other times it will require a little bit of experimentation — and that’s okay! Give yourself plenty of time to figure out what feels best. You might be surprised by what you find sexy and exciting, but you have to give yourself permission to be vulnerable and adventurous first.

The first step toward incorporating BDSM into your sex life, then, is communication.

It is absolutely necessary to talk with your partner first, before you ever start online shopping for bondage rope or floggers. Spend some time thinking about fantasies you would like to explore, and then tell your partner about them. Ask them to share theirs. Be honest. This kind of authenticity, by the way, is often the scariest part of the whole process, but it’s also an amazing exercise in trust.

Once you’ve talked about your fantasies (ideally over champagne and chocolate-dipped strawberries), do some research. Read up on what other people have tried, and come up with a plan that sounds like fun to both of you. Think about what mood you want to create, be it raunchy, lighthearted, or dark.

Discuss what your boundaries are, and it’s important to have a “safe word” to make sure you don’t cross the line. Good communication is necessary, as is respect.

Then buy the bondage rope.

When you’re first experimenting, start out small. Try a little name calling, some spanking, or light bondage and then work your way up from there. Whatever you decide to try, make sure to practice safely and use common sense. For instance, when tying someone up, be sure not to constrict their circulation, and remember that spanking is to stimulate rather than harm.

If you’ve read this much and are still at a loss for how to get started, here are some ideas to inspire your research.

A role play using elements that excite one or both partners is always a great place to begin. Your role play can involve:

• Light elements (you pretend to be complete strangers or forbidden coworkers who risk it all for one wild night of passion) • Dark elements (spice it up with props like warm wax, smoking, gags, or an edgier role play narrative) • Tying up (scarves and neckties can both work as restraints and blindfolds) • Spanking (with your hand is best or with a paddle that fits the scene you’ve chosen) • Caning and/or whipping (once you’ve had a lot of practice on pillows and such as in training, training, training) • Name calling (using names that your partner has told you make them feel sexy, powerful, or at your mercy) • Body worship (using hands, nose, lips, tongue, and any other body parts you can think of to caress, massage, and “worship” part of your partner’s body) • Tease and denial (make them want it so, so bad) …And so much more.

For lovers, BDSM can be an amazing experience and, really, anything goes as long as it’s consensual. Nothing can make you more vulnerable than revealing your deepest fantasies, and the acceptance that follows will strengthen your bond, giving you a stronger, deeper connection than you ever thought possible.

Sandra is an expert in personal and professional reinvention, authentic living, communication, and bridging the gap between sexuality and a lifestyle that focuses on holistic health of the mind, body and spirit. She is the CEO of Attainment Studios, a sex positive business directory website designed to bring together members of the sex-positive community, and for finding solutions for your professional and personal needs. Her recent book Switch: Time for a Change, is a memoir of her journey from holistic practitioner to professional dominatrix at 55-years-old after losing everything, and her passion and purpose is to empower others towards healthy authentic living. To learn more about Sandra and receive your FREE eBook “5 Steps for Better Communication, Sex, and Happiness (Did I mention better sex?) visit http://sandralamorgese.com.

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Lateysha Grace courts nipple flash going braless in plunging dominatrix get up

FORMER Valleys star Lateysha Grace loves a wild night out.

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

UK – And Saturday was no exception for the bubbly reality hottie.

The Celebrity Big Brother star stepped out in Birmingham with her pal Erin Budina for a personal appearance.

Of course, Lateysha doesn’t do things by halves and hit the town in a jaw-dropping ensemble.

Dressed to impressed, the busty babe was spotted wearing a lace-up black and white mini-dress with a plunging neckline.

In fact, Lateysha’s neckline was so low we could nearly see naval.

However, she didn’t appear to be bothered by it.

Instead, the reality firecracker ditched her bra for the outing, revealing major cleavage as she sashayed to the event.

At one point it looked like Teesh was ready to pop out of her skimpy ensemble.

However, she managed to just about avoid exposing her modesty with a quick readjustment.

Well, if you’ve got it, why not flaunt it?

The blonde beauty was all smiles as she showed off her toned pins and added height with a pair of black strappy heels to complete her look.

It comes after it was revealed the former Valleys star has secured her own reality TV show on MTV.

We can’t wait to see even more of the feisty reality vixen.

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Philadelphia Sex Diaries: I’m a Secret Dominatrix

A college co-ed on her kinky double life.

Source: Phillymag.com.

USA – It started with dirty panties.

I was inspired by a friend — and Orange Is the New Black — to sell my worn underwear on Craigslist. I’m a college senior with a 3.61 GPA and two internships. I don’t exactly have time for a job, and hawking my thongs online for $30 a pop was a quick way to earn some extra cash. Before long, I discovered FetLife, a social networking site where people interested in fetishism, BDSM and other triple-X pursuits can chat with each other and post photos and videos. It’s like the kinky love child of Facebook and Reddit.

I connected with a guy — 30-something, works as a consultant — who asked me to Skype with him. The deal: 20 minutes for $50 in Amazon gift cards. I accepted, nervous and unsure of what to expect. I slipped on a bathrobe and chugged a glass of wine as I raced around my apartment, trying to find the perfect setup. The kitchen table was too formal, and the coffee table was way too low. I ultimately landed in the bedroom — which I happen to share with a roommate. She sat, wide-eyed, on her bed, just out of the camera’s reach. But the consultant was less interested in seeing me naked than I’d anticipated. Instead, he wanted to see my feet. And … my toilet.

Confused, I moved to the bathroom — could my white porcelain Kohler really be considered sexy? — and awkwardly circled my laptop around the toilet rim. He asked me to describe how I’d make him clean it with his tongue. And then he asked to watch me spit. So began my foray into the world of domination.

It’s a far cry from my otherwise vanilla life. By day, I’m the quiet girl who blushes when she participates in class. But as soon as I get home and log on, I become Paris Powell — a fierce, powerful woman who tells guys to lick her toilet, clean her shoes with their teeth and drink her urine. And who gets paid for it.

I currently have four “slaves,” all of whom I met through FetLife. Two pay me up to $100 a week; one sends me $50 every two weeks. (He’s also in college; I give him a student discount.) They have to buy me monthly gifts on Amazon, too. But I pay it forward: Each month, my slaves have to donate to a charity of my choice. For this, I send them derogatory, insulting text messages and videos of me doing things like crushing nuts with my boots. (This is what I’d do to your nuts, I say.) Sometimes it gets really weird: I once sent a man videos of me pooping. I also sold him a poop-stained thong for $45. Disgusting, I know. But when you can make money for something you do naturally, it’s hard not to milk it.

My fourth slave is the only one I’ve agreed to meet in person. He’s in his 60s, married, and a practicing psychologist in Philly. (Go figure.) Sometimes he pays me to meet him for coffee, just to talk as friends. Occasionally he pays me to come to his office and beat him to a pulp. All while his patients sit unsuspecting in the waiting room.

In the end, I don’t make nearly enough to live on. But I do make enough to have some spending money. And the work is strangely rewarding. The men tell me I make their lives better. I give them companionship, and the structure and rules they crave. (For example, they’re not allowed to eat meat on Sundays because I’m a vegetarian.) And they give me confidence, a jolt of energy in my otherwise pedestrian life. When I’m on the other side of the computer screen, I’m powerful. A goddess. A total badass. You know, one who lives on a pretty campus in a tidy apartment right next to an R.A. who has no idea that I’m on the other side of the door letting a guy in Alabama watch me take a dump for $45.

*Some names in this essay have been changed.

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