CANADA – A senior Metropolitan police officer who resigned from the force after having a ‘sex and whips’ romp with a dominatrix in the office, called a colleague an ‘Asian babe’ in a series of ‘racially and sexually explicit messages’, a misconduct panel heard.
Detective Sergeant Stephen Redgewell, 54, ‘abused his position’ as deputy general secretary and treasurer of the Met Police Federation by ‘behaving in a predatory manner’ towards a female colleague.
Among 2,000 texts shared between the pair over a two year period, a police watchdog found evidence that Redgewell sent ‘numerous racially and sexually charged messages’.
Redgewell is said to have made references to the woman’s race in a ‘sexual context, calling her an ‘Asian babe’ and suggested the woman should leave her husband’, The Independent Office for Police Conduct (IOPC) found.
‘He also sent pictures of a sexual nature, non-sexual pictures of himself, photographs of an officer he referred to as a ‘Muslim babe’, messages relating to that officer’s race, and messages which can be categorised as anti-Semitic, racist, homophobic and sexist,’ the watchdog said.
The former officer resigned from his role at the Met Police in November 2018, after allegations emerged that he had sex with a ‘dominatrix’ in the headquarters of the Met Police Federation in Bromley, South London.
The misconduct hearing found Redgewell would have been sacked for the text messages to his colleague, between October 2015 and September 2017, if he were still a serving officer.
IOPC regional director for London Sal Naseem said: ‘At a time when a vulnerable colleague needed assistance, Stephen Redgewell, who had risen to the senior position of deputy general secretary and treasurer within the Metropolitan Police Federation, abused his position by behaving in a predatory manner.
‘This type of appalling behaviour corrodes the public’s trust in policing and I have no doubt will appal fellow officers, the wider policing community and members of the public.
‘The former officer abused his senior position to send racially and sexually explicit messages to a colleague when she was at her most vulnerable.
‘The colleague told us he manipulated her and made her feel dependent on him to the extent she had to engage with him in order to receive the assistance she required from the Metropolitan Police Federation.’
A police misconduct panel on Wednesday found DS Redgewell’s actions amounted to gross misconduct and said he would have been dismissed without notice if he was still a serving police officer, but will now be placed on the barred list.
Commander Paul Betts, of the Met’s Directorate of Professional Standards, said: ‘The actions of former DS Redgewell fell well below the standards expected by the Met and the public we serve.
‘He abused his position as a federation representative to pursue a relationship with a female officer, who he was assisting with a work issue.
‘This unacceptable behaviour was compounded by the fact DS Redgewell knew the woman was vulnerable at the time.
‘The language used in text messages and conversations over the period of this relationship were also extremely offensive and have absolutely no place in the Metropolitan Police.
‘The Met has a zero tolerance policy for any behaviour that is racist, sexist or homophobic and it is right DS Redgewell would have been dismissed without notice if he had still been a serving officer.’
Redgewell quit the force in November 2018 after reports emerged in the Sunday Mirror about him having sex with a ‘dominatrix’ in the office of the Met Police Federation in Bromley, South London.
The Federation represents rank-and-file police officers.
According to the 2018 reports, Redgwell had kinky trysts with vampire-loving Denise Pearce, who admitted bringing ‘whips’ and being ‘more dominant’.
However the pair rowed after he refused to leave his family home, after promising to marry her at Dracula’s Castle in Romania, the paper reported.
NORTHIRELAND-BELFAST – FRUSTRATED swingers are planning to get their Christmas kicks despite the limited relaxation of restrictions over the festive period.
Sunday Life can reveal a Belfast-based dominatrix is planning a kinky get-together on December 27, with more than 30 people expressing an interest.
Organised online and due to be held at house in Ballyclare, the ticketed event could have a mini-dungeon, stalls and one-to-one sessions.
According to host SmMistress, it is sponsored by local fetish furniture specialist Don’t Be Shy and will feature “very special guests” named only as Temptress Tina and Mrs Jessica Rabbit.
“This will be a promotional night for femdoms, doms, subs, bottoms, tops, sissys, TVs and CDs,” she added.
“Possible stalls to be confirmed, also a mini-dungeon.
“Come along and meet, greet and have fun. I will also offer-mini sessions for 15 minutes if you’re lucky.
“The location had to be changed. The original house had to change the dates, so I decided to change the location.
“I will send everyone that has paid for their ticket a private message #wewillnotbecancelled.”
Contacted by this newspaper, SmMistress said the date was provisional and the party would not go ahead until the guidelines were relaxed.
“It’s been postponed like four or five times – the date keeps being changed,” she added.
“The date is not the actual date. The website tells you to put a date in, so I just put that date in.
“Also, it’s not a f***ing sex party. There’s no nudity and there’s no sex. There are rules against that.
“What are people concerned about? Who cares if somebody’s walking around in a bit of sexy lingerie?
“The one-to-one sessions are mini-sessions. It’s called foot worship. If you want to kiss my feet, come on ahead.
“That’s not sex and it has f*** all to do with sex. There’s no sexual intercourse involved. It’s definitely not a sex party.”
SmMistress also rejected suggestions the event could spread Covid-19.
“What virus? Are you crazy? Listen to yourself. I’ve got lots of hand sanitiser. There’s nothing to be concerned about. I would ask you not to come, but you’re more than welcome to join us,” she said.
In a profile on a fetish website, SmMistress describes herself as “a new mistress in the Belfast area looking for regular, reliable and trustworthy clients to help me with my business”.
She adds: “I love having my feet worshipped and have a very nice collection of shoes you can play with.
“I really like forced feminising, humiliation, sissy maids and spanking.
“I find the trust and bonds that are built between a sub/slave and their mistress fascinating.
“If you have any questions at all, please feel free to ask and I will get back to you as soon as possible.”
She also implores fans to sign up to a subscription-only site to help her get “the dungeon we all deserve”.
Apparent event sponsor Don’t Be Shy’s website reads: “This is a page for those who are interested in kinky furniture. There seems to be a lack of such in Northern Ireland.
“I’ve been into wood building for as long as I can remember. I love building things and have done for myself and others, as seen in my pictures.
“If you want something, give me a shout and we’ll work something out. I charge less for items because I use used or scrap wood.
“Anything I make will not be as high-quality as a professional but, rest assured, anything made will be fit for purpose.
“Now, to let you all know, I’m not a professional joiner. I’m just a hobbyist who loves building things and is rather good at it.
“I still have contacts to make on where to get certain things such as padding and there are some things I’ve never made before, but I’m a very creative guy. I’ll figure it out. I could maybe even make sex toys like paddles and floggers.
“I am based in Belfast, but I will send to anywhere. Postage costs will be calculated beforehand.
“Don’t pay for a pro job, don’t get a pro job. Just get something that will do the job.”
Under the terms of the latest coronavirus regulations, people from three households will be allowed to meet indoors during a five-day period over Christmas.
Anyone travelling to or from Northern Ireland may only meet with their Christmas bubble between December 23 and 27.
UK- KENT – Tracey Whitmore has been selling more bondage kit and sex toys than ever before – and she says it’s because people want more entertainment during lockdown than just Netflix
The owner of a Kent sex shop says she feels partly responsible for an apparent coronavirus lockdown baby-boom.
Tracey Whitmore, who runs Vibez Adult Boutique in Aylesford, says there was a surge in sales of sex toys designed for couples, and bondage gear when the second lockdown was announced.
She believes that there’s only so much Netflix and banana bread you can take before looking for an even fruitier ways to pass the time.
Speaking to KentLive, she said: “People are getting more involved in the scene, there’s only so much Netflix you can watch isn’t there?
“They were trying to keep themselves occupied, there’s been a baby boom which I partly feel responsible for.”
There is currently no evidence of a Brit baby boom, but some are expecting maternity wards to be brimming next year.
Vibez, which is located in a huge warehouse on an industrial estate, stocks everything from classy lingerie to £4,000 “Samantha” sex dolls.
And she says her customers were desperate to get their hands on some new kit after being left to amuse themselves indoors for months.
She said: “When we opened up again after the first lockdown it went crazy. People had been cooped up far too long.
“With the warning we had for the second lockdown people knew they’d need to properly get their orders in.
“It was a bit of everything really, our mechanical aid machines were big sellers.
“We also sold a lot of couple toys and bondage equipment.
“We do sell face masks but you can’t really social distance with the products we sell.”
Tracey, who has run the shop with her son for 15 years, added that she had adapted her business in line with changing consumer needs after they were caught out by March’s mothballing of non-essential businesses.
She arranged a delivery service for the next wave of restrictions, with a predictably cheeky name.
Tracey explained: “With the second lockdown people stocked up, we were very busy just before we went in to it.
“We started to offer some services. One was called Deliverooh which was a free local delivery and come and collect.
“With that and the website sales we did OK and it helped that our customers stayed very loyal.
“Obviously we weren’t as busy as when we had the shop open. In fact just before we closed in March business was really booming.”
UK – Unapologetic and unabashed, clad in a risque bikini with her jet black hair cascading down her back and bangs accentuating her long face, a brazen and playful smile complementing the jutted out pose, Bettie Page or the Queen of Pinups, is considered one of the biggest icons of women empowerment and the sexual revolution. Being a fascinating figure for the heterosexual male gaze, Page has also served as a symbol of liberation from inhibitions, self-love and body positivity, having a remarkable influence on young girls and women, making them a lot more accepting of themselves and their bodies. Although this beauty passed away in 2008 at the age of 85, her legacy continues to be celebrated today, making her one of the most posthumously influential people in the world. A pop-cultural icon, she has not only been the inspiration for singers like Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Beyonce and Madonna but also for various avenues such as fashion, film, comics, shows and more, popularising the “Bettie bangs” and bondage culture.
Mark Mori directed a wonderful film named Bettie Page Reveals All in which Page serves as the narrator. Page, who can be considered a symbol of resilience, self-confidence and determination, had a very difficult childhood, being subject to constant abuse at the hands of her father. Despite being bogged down by neglect, abuse, poverty and oppression, Page managed to rise above the ashes, managing her responsibilities while graduating with top marks and earning a college degree at Peabody College before being the successful self-made icon she would subsequently become. Fun fact, Page was voted “Girl Most Likely to Succeed” at her high school which foreshadowed the immensely successful career she would soon embark on. Page had married William E. “Billy” Neal in 1943 but divorced after a brief conjugal period of four years in 1947. It was 1947 that changed the course of her life completely.
In the 1940s, with the advent of laws that made nudity and pornography a criminal offence to prohibit them, “camera clubs” came into ostensible existence. Under the pretext of promoting artsy photography, they sold pornography under-the-counter. Page had an encounter with NYPD officer and avid photography enthusiast Jerry Tibbs who advised Betty to style her hair with bangs in front; this later became an iconic look for Page. Tibbs helped her make a pin-up portfolio free of cost. Soon, Page entered the wondrous world of “glamour photography”, where she became one of the most sought after camera club models due to her bold poses and lack of inhibition which was a rare find in the erotic industry. Having worked initially with Cass Carr, Page gradually began working with Irving Klaw. The latter was responsible for Page’s popularity as a bondage model.
“I wasn’t trying to be anything. I was just myself.”
Clad in sexy lingerie, Bettie Page would even comply to “special order requests” that were usually hailed from high-profile socialites, judges, doctors and more. She would indulge in various fetishistic positions which included “oops-I-dropped-my-panties” scenarios or that of abduction, slave-grooming, bondage, spanking, handcuffs and more. The preference lay in “passive” helpless girls who would stare on like a virgin nymphomaniac. Page shone through in these crude postures; she would oscillate back and forth between being a playful minx to a “stern dominatrix”. Despite being restrained or ball-gagged, the look in her eyes would subvert the general expectations that people had from the models; she was always in charge irrespective of the kind of clandestine feature she posed for. As Buszek said, “she was a partner in the process, not someone who was being exploited”.
Seductive and bold, Page came to be known as ‘The Queen of Curves’ and ‘The Dark Angel’, having won the title of ‘Miss Pinup Girl of the World’. However, Page quit modelling shortly after due to the “concocted witch-hunt” that was a result of society’s orthodox and repressive McCarthyism towards sex and nudity. A teenage boy reportedly died of accidental autoerotic asphyxiation and then-Senator Estes Kefaveur, a radical opposed to the “indecency” projected by nudity and gambling, and his committee, drew an expansive link between her bondage modelling and the boy’s death, trying to convey Page’s contribution in “juvenile delinquency”. Shortly after, page vanished from the face of the modelling industry causing a severe blow to Klaw’s business. She became a devout Christian, attending church services. As Page has been quoted saying in the film: “I don’t even believe God disapproves of nudity. After all, he put Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden naked as jaybirds.”
Page’s retirement, however, ushered in a new dawn of a sexual revolution in the United States, where people began raising their voices against the “repressive sexual authorities”. With the beginning of the women’s liberation movement in the 1960s as well as the sexual revolution, Page has been credited for being the flagbearer of the latter, propagating the tenets of being a sex-positive feminist. An actual badass, Page never believed in concealing her bodily imperfections. She loved embracing her own flaws which were quite revolutionary and ground-breaking. She served as a perfect foil to the common mentality where women had to be the epitomes of perfection. Her unconventional beauty included “imperfect teeth and a slightly droopy eye” and curvy stature, which made her even more desirable. Exuding raw charm and confidence, Page was a different kind of sexy.
“I love to swim in the nude and roam around the house in the nude. You’re just as free as a bird!”
Bettie Page championed the cause of nudity. She loved embracing effort bare all not only for the sake of her profession and others’ entertainment but also for the sense of freedom and empowerment she derived from it. She wanted “to be remembered as the woman who changed people’s perspectives concerning nudity in its natural form” and boy, she did. She had been arrested for public indecency while posing nude on a beach. She refused to let the court of law bog her down and pleaded not guilty until she wore them down. Page also firmly disapproved of calling a woman’s body indecent. It was quite an irony to see how women’s bodies were used as commodities to please the heteronormative desires but would be shunned if used for personal pleasure. Page, who was the perfect example of a “virgin nymphomaniac” with the look of sex and innocence in her eyes, became the symbol for female sexuality triumphing over anxiety and insecurity. Embracing the female form the way it is was quite alien to women before Bettie Page showed them the way. As Angelica Luna had been quoted saying to The Atlantic, “Step down, Marilyn. You had nothing on Bettie”.
Bettie Page was soon “penniless and infamous” before her sudden resurgence which throned her as the queen she is. Her comeback story is inspiring and reeks of vibrance, exuberance, resilience and strong will. Despite the insurmountable obstacles that adorned her path, including her 10-year saga with schizophrenia, sexual assault as well as tumultuous personal life, Page managed to stay afloat in this vicious industry, with pride and courage. She was quite shocked and overwhelmed to know how celebrated she was even today. “It makes me feel wonderful that people still care for me… that I have so many fans among young people, who write to me and tell me I have been an inspiration,” she once said.
Page, who was also a talented artist, was her own hairstylist and often made her clothes and bikinis during shoots. The scanty and risque bikinis were quite scandalous and unseen at those times, disrupting the taboo norms, Bettie continued being the renegade, indulging in whatever she felt comfortable in: “I never kept up with the fashions. I believed in wearing what I thought looked good on me.”
Powerful and charming, Bettie Page defines brilliance. “Young women say I helped them come out of their shells,” she was quoted saying. The world, especially women, owe a lot to Page for being the pioneer of feminism and sexual freedom. Page’s carefree smile and mirth in her eyes, displaying her well-endowed pubic hair or while being bound, exudes sensuality and courage and the courage to embrace the body. Bettie Page should be relentlessly celebrated for being a product of rotten childhood trauma to a lovely and confident body that refused to be exploited by the male gaze and being an inspiration for women all over the world.
“I was not trying to be shocking or to be a pioneer. I wasn’t trying to change society or to be ahead of my time. I didn`t think of myself as liberated, and I don’t believe that I did anything important. I was just myself. I didn`t know any other way to be or any other way to live.”
USA – I began my professional career as a performance artist with a circus in Spain, but I’ve worked in so many fields. In my early 20s I worked for the UNHCR in South East Asia doing research and then moved on to carrying out research for various organisations and people in places like Afghanistan. Eventually, I decided to make a corporate career out of that work and at 25 I joined an agency in Sydney, Australia, where I was living at the time. But I hated the corporate world.
An ex from Shanghai, where I had also lived for a time, had once told me that I would make an interesting dominatrix, but during those years working in various different jobs, I never considered myself to be sexually adventurous. I have just always been very vocal about what I want sexually and ready to ask for it. I understand now that it’s not really the norm to say what you want, which is perhaps why my ex said what he did.
I’m now 36 and I’ve been working for ten years as a dominatrix. I initially transitioned from corporate work into the sex industry in Sydney in 2010. In the state of New South Wales, sex work is decriminalised; there is an industry there, a support system and online advertising for sex workers. So, I was able to safely dip my toe into the work and see if it was for me or not.
I found Salon Kitty’s, a dominatrix “dungeon” in Sydney and on my first day there, just sitting in the waiting room of the house (as we called it) probably taught me the most. I was surrounded by 20 women who were very opinionated, ready to share their frustrations and debrief their sessions. After I had interviewed, I sat in on a lot of sessions with mistresses.
In some of my first sessions I was able to see the clients respond, and it was so visceral. I was in awe of how intense human connection can look.
At Salon Kitty’s there were a number of very popular sessions, including anything to do with the a** or feet. I became versed in those things initially and then in corporal punishment and medical play. We would do workshops sometimes; the head mistress Amanda would organise different masters and mistresses to lead us in different skills—using rope, for example.
At the end of that first day of shadowing other mistresses, a Scottish man came in and asked to see the new Asian mistresses—which was, of course, me. I initially said no, but the other mistresses told me to ask him what he wanted and let him teach me. He showed me how to tie him up, and I ended up getting pretty into the session. I remember the room was mirrored and I could see myself laughing and looking so happy. I still have that reaction now, but I hadn’t seen myself like that before.
Because I have always been willing to speak up about what I want sexually, I think my personality suits this role as a dominatrix and mistress, but it actually took a while for me to start feeling comfortable calling myself a mistress. Perhaps it was imposter’s syndrome, as I’m very hard on myself and I set very high standards for how I should perform and achieve. I worked at Salon Kitty’s for a year and a half before they closed and then spent another year and a half working on my own before I felt comfortable with the title.
After Salon Kitty’s closed, I decided to try working as a dominatrix in Singapore and Hong Kong. I had spent some time in both places growing up and I felt comfortable there. That was around eight years ago and I still have some of my best clients in those cities—although with COVID-19 I haven’t seen them for a while.
When I first started working as a dominatrix in Sydney, my clients were very varied. We had everyone from students who were just legally allowed to walk through our door, to workmen and office workers who were ducking out for their lunch break. And I had mixed gender clients. Now, because of my high price point my clients are normally white collar, C-suite professionals, definitely people who are typically travelling internationally at least twice a month, if not once a week.
They have to have the flexibility to meet me where I want, because I will tell a client when I am going to be in a certain city and that I want them to be there and book hotels or locations. You need to have a certain income to be able to do that. I usually don’t meet people in their own country, but my best clients are now in Switzerland, New York in the U.S., Australia, Singapore and Hong Kong.
Right now I have 10 or 12 clients who I see on a regular basis, and they are all men apart from one woman. These clients are considered my slaves, and are typically people who are a little more ready to serve me long-term. Some people are not; perhaps Americans who have never left America and may not be as aware of hierarchy or the strictness of how I run things. I am quite a high protocol mistress with my slaves—which means I am strict and have a lot of rules to be followed.
I definitely have some married clients but I don’t see them as often as my divorced or single clients, because I demand more than just an hour here or there. To get into my inner circle of slaves is pretty difficult. I have an application process rather than just accepting appointments and I don’t accept a lot of people.
My application form asks lots of questions and as the years have passed I have become really picky. If someone passes that first stage, they have to meet me at a location of my choosing for lunch, and pay for the lunch and my time. Then I spend the afternoon with them, which they also pay for. If I’m OK with them after that, they can start coming to me for maybe one day to five days at a time. A day with me is US$10,000, so I will probably do a week of dominatrix work a month, as well as having online revenue streams. I earn more than I ever thought I would.
When I first started, I was only working an hour here or there and I kept the boundaries very strict; no intimate contact and various other rules. Now, it’s really on a case-by-case basis and it changes over time. I consider myself polyamorous, but if I see people getting too attached I may need to create some space if it’s not mutual, or, if it is mutual I might invite them in a little more in certain ways. The one rule I am very strict with is that if people come to me through the professional application route there will always be payments. I let that go into a grey area once and it got confusing.
Currently, I have my slaves who exist in that professional/personal relationship capacity. I have professional clients who I only see for an hour or so here or there and I am also just coming out of a marriage that I was in for a few years.
When I first met my husband he understood what I did as a dominatrix, but he did have an issue initially with the fact that I have previously done escort work. However, over the five years of our relationship and marriage it seemed that he was very supportive, and I think for the most part, he was. Perhaps ultimately, it was just too challenging to be with someone so practiced in being assertive when he seemingly was not.
Now, as well as my slaves and other professional clients I have two partners who didn’t come to me through the professional route, here in Bali where I live. I am busy, but I think it depends how authoritarian you want to be. I tell my partners, slaves and other clients what I need from them, how I need it and what I want. I think it would be harder and more time consuming if I was more flexible.
It took me seven years and the support of a therapist to tell my parents that I was a dominatrix—I think I was scared I was going to disappoint them. I was going to organize a trip to Singapore and tell them, but I ended up sharing the news over WhatsApp in a family group chat. My stepdad hasn’t said very much about it, but about a month after those messages, I took my mom on a trip to Margaret River in Australia and when we were on our own, she immediately started asking really great questions like: What the client’s motivations are? What my motivations are? What do I get out of it and how often did I see the clients? She wanted to build a bigger picture, so maybe I should have given her more credit? She loves me and cares about me so much, so she pushed past her own barriers as a bible school teacher.
I have had so many friends in so many different places, and the majority of them didn’t react well when I told them about my dominatrix work when I came out to them about it, which is sad. For the longest time, I only had friends who were in the sex industry. But in the past year or so, I have started to find accepting friends outside the industry.
I have no plans on stopping dominatrix work any time soon, because I want these people and these dynamics in my life for a long while. There are other things I want to do but because of how stigmatized sex work is, my options are limited. I think it’s unlikely I will end up on any boards of the charities that I try to work clandestinely with any time soon.
I’m actually working on a project at the moment where I’m collecting voice stories from sex workers in Asia. One of the questions I ask them is: What is the one thing that you would say about sex work?
I answered that question myself in my own recording and my feeling is that people should be aware that each sex worker is an individual, we all have a different perspective. People have different feelings about their profession to someone else in the same industry, and sex workers also all have different feelings about our profession.
To paint sex workers with a specific brush based on their industry isn’t fair to our individual experiences, emotions and reality. Like everyone else, from day to day or week to week we have different motivations.
Consider how complex as you feel as an individual—we are the same.
Mistress Eva Oh is an international dominatrix currently based in Bali. You can follow her on Twitter @youwillpleaseME
LUXEMBOURG – A Luxembourg City man who was approaching the end of a session with a professional dominatrix has begged her to escalate his pain by showing him local property listings, according to sources.
The man, who has been a renter since moving here nine years ago, visits the Kirchberg BDSM dungeon at least once a week.
On Wednesday, the hour-long session started with bondage and then moved on to the more painful practice of mocking the man about his small salary and inability to get a home loan.
As usual, this was followed by the dominatrix forcing the man to calculate all of the money he’s spent on renting over the past nine years.
While beating him with a leather snake whip, she forced him to repeat the figure – 160,920 euros – over and over until he could hardly breathe. Still, the pain and humiliation weren’t enough.
“Mistress Dawn, please show me the homes for sale in Luxembourg City,” he said. “I need it.”
After several minutes of pretending not to hear him, the dominatrix produced an iPad and scrolled through the local listings, slowly reading the enormous asking prices while the man moaned in agony. Still, it wasn’t enough.
“Mistress Dawn, on my street there’s a two-bedroom flat that sold five years ago for 450,000 euros,” he said. “I had thought about trying to buy it because it was the only place remotely in my budget, but I decided it was simply too ugly.”
“This morning, I noticed it was back on the market,” he continued. “Mistress Dawn, please, I need to know how much it’s going for today.”
The dominatrix patted him on the cheek, saying he had been a good boy and she didn’t want to hurt him anymore.
“Mistress Dawn, I’ve been a very bad boy and I deserve my punishment,” the man said. “Please, tell me the price.”
“It’s doubled,” the dominatrix said, causing the man to scream and howl. “To almost one million euros.”
“Bubble,” he said at last, using the safe word they had agreed would put an end to the torment. “Property bubble, Mistress Dawn. Property bubble.”
USA – Proving that love is blind, and sometimes kooky, a bodybuilder from Kazakhstan has tied the knot with his dearly beloved — a sex doll he dated for eight months before proposing a year ago.
Clad in a black tux and bow tie, Yuri Tolochko is seen planting a gentle kiss on Margo, who appears a bit stiff in her revealing white gown as she clutches a bouquet of flowers and stares into the distance.
The couple also shared a romantic first dance in front of dozens of guests who attended the traditional ceremony, which was shared on Instagram, the Sun reported.
“It’s happened. To be continued,” the actor and bodybuilder wrote after slipping a ring onto his bride’s finger.
The unconventional couple got engaged in December 2019, when the bald, blue-eyed hunk — who described himself as a “sexy maniac” — popped the question.
Images shared on social media illustrate the couple’s romantic lifestyle, including sunny vacations and bubble baths, captioned with hashtags including #ideal_relationship, #true_love and #happy_wife_happy_life.
In one post of them working out together, Tolochko wrote: “Couples need to talk less and connect more. With time and experience, Margo and I realized that it takes more than words to have a conversation.”
He added: “Your partner sure deserves the best, but they have to do their part.”
Tolochko said he met Margo at a nightclub, where he rescued her from some unwanted attention, adding that they had planned to take the plunge in March before the coronavirus pandemic hit.
He told the Daily Star that the wedding was delayed again after he was attacked during a transgender rally in the Kazakh city of Almaty on Oct. 31, when he suffered a concussion and a broken nose after dressing as a woman for the event.
Tolochko, who identifies as a pansexual, told the Daily Star that “our story turns me on much more than sex itself.”
He added that he also enjoys BDSM — bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism.
“I love being tortured, I can endure a lot of pain. I love to dominate too. Margo is capable of what other people are not capable of,” he said, according to the news outlet.
The only requirements for a wedding to take place in Kazakhstan are that both consenting partners have to be male and female over 18 years old — with no mention of whether dolls are included.
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