Men drive for hours to meet Nancy, sometimes for just minute
Source: Thesun.co.uk
UK – A FORMER beauty salon owner now earns thousands of pounds kicking men in the balls in car parks, then telling them to “f*** off”.
Mistress Nancy’s clients even include a millionaire lottery winner who requested a two-hour foot worship session while they watched Antiques Roadshow.
The 34-year-old says becoming a professional dominatrix is the best decision she ever made. She makes up to £14,000 a month on average.
After investing thousands into her beauty business only for clients to slowly start to dry up, Nancy – who did not wish to give her real name – needed a change.
“I’ve never had less than two jobs at a time, I’m autistic and have ADHD, so I always like being self-employed because I can’t hold a normal job,” she told The Sun.
“I work to my own schedule.
“I invested about £15,000 into my beauty business, renovating the premises and everything.
“I put a lot of time and energy and money into it and financed it myself. I loved it but because of the economy I wasn’t getting the clients I used to get in a few years ago. It was getting to the point where it was affecting my mental health.
“I thought, I need to follow where the money is.”
Over the years, she’s worked in various roles throughout the sex industry, namely as a dancer in strip clubs across Yorkshire. But she said the sector is changing, and not necessarily for the better.
Then, she suddenly found a strange niche emerging just for her.
“I would get guys come in that wanted to just like rub my feet and for me to humiliate them,” Nancy explained.
“They’d come in with just their pants on, and at the time I thought this is a bit unusual, but it just kept happening and I found that I was really good at it.
“I kept getting those clients to come back, and I just enjoyed it a lot more than actually dancing.
“That’s when I started thinking maybe I’d enjoy being a dominatrix full time and I do, I love it. Just the variety is good for my ADHD.”
Since beginning the venture in January, Nancy has also found a passion not just for BDSM but the human psychology aspect of the job.
“What brings people into the stuff they’re into, I find it absolutely fascinating,” she said.
Her social media following was already very big and she quickly rebranded, initially trying to juggle the beauty business too.
“When the beauty business started declining a bit, I thought I’m gonna go full toffee with this now, really try to build my brand,” Nancy explained.
“Now I’ve got guys who just send me hundreds, sometimes thousands because they get off on it.”
A particular focus of hers is referred to as ‘findom’ – or financial domination – where men send her large sums of money, often without ever meeting her.
“Sometimes it’s a couple of hundred, sometimes it’s three grand,” she said.
“I’ve never done more than three grand on a drain. My goal is 10 grand,” she added.
“I do most of it on Twitter. That’s where I get most of the findom guys.”
Nancy said some men will send her “loads of money” online and then suddenly deactivate their social media accounts.
“They’re probably thinking, I’ve spent too much, my wife’s going to give me a b******ing – then they’ll pop up again weeks later,” she explained.
“They come off Twitter so there’s no temptation, which I understand, it has to be ethical as well. I don’t want to make anyone go into debt.
“I am the type of dom that gauges how much someone can afford.”
‘CASH MEETS’
‘Cash meets’, meanwhile, are a version of findom where men meet her in public and hand over cash, often in car parks. Then she tells them to get lost.
“You go to an ATM, they withdraw money… at one point I stood on a guy and he gave me his card; I put the card in the machine and spat on him, and he was absolutely loving it,” she explained.
“That one gave me about 700 and I told him to eff off. Then he messaged me on Twitter and said ‘that was amazing, Mistress, thank you so much’.”
She added: “Honestly, I had one guy, this was last month, he drove from Wales to Sheffield and he was literally there for 10 minutes.
“He gave me a grand and he was licking my boots. He was loving it. He said to me ‘I’ve overstayed my welcome. I’ll come back with more money’. I said, right okay, that’s fine, f*** off then.”
“With cash meets, it’s all systems go,” she explained. “I get out of the car and I’m already talking to them like a piece of s***, basically. That’s what they want and it only lasts a few minutes.
“A lot of them enjoy being ballbusted. They’ll pass me the cash, I’ll tell them to say thank you then, kick them in the balls, and then tell them to do one.”
Such public meets are done in slightly more discreet places, including areas just off car parks where “people are nearby and it’s in the daytime”, Nancy said.
“Sometimes I take a friend with me. I always tell somebody close to me where I’m going to be.
“Everyone knows what I do, my friends, my family. I’ve got a lot of measures in place to make sure we’re not disrupting the public either. I never have any problems.”
WHAT IS FINDOM?
Financial domination – or Findom – is a fetish lifestyle in which a financial submissive desires to give gifts or money to a financial dominant.
Participants in financial domination can be of any gender but in practice the dominant person is more likely a woman, and the submissive is almost always a man.
Financial domination became more widespread and took on its current form after the introduction of the Internet.
The relationship between the two parties (including paying) often takes place solely via online communication.
Moneydoms present themselves on their own websites, relevant web portals or social networks.
In the majority of cases the two never meet, since findom is primarily a form of “distance domination”.
In rare exceptions, the submissive may accompany the dominant while the dominant shops with the submissive’s money.
She also does more traditional dominatrix activities, including ‘femdom’, which refers to real-time sessions that might last for hours at hotels or her home.
These will see the ‘subs’ asked to be kicked in the balls but also whipped or ‘pegged’ – a form of anal sex where the woman penetrates the man with a strap on dildo.
But these sessions are more paced.
“There’ll be peaks and falls and stuff, it’s a bit different,” Nancy explained. “Especially if they’re new. I can ask what limits they’ve got and what they’re comfortable with and not.
“I will give them 15 minutes at the end and have a cup of tea and calm down. It can get very intense when you’re having a long femdom session.”
A femdom session costs £200 an hour. But some realise it’s not for them.
Nancy had one client – a young aerospace engineer from Dubai – who paid for her to have her nails done before their meet, and paid £800 for four hours.
But halfway through he told her “I don’t think I’m into this”.
“He drove from Bristol and he was just like ‘I’m gonna go, it was my first time and I don’t think I’m into it’. I was like right, okay,” she explained, laughing.
“I could write a book and I’ve not even done it that long.”
LOTTERY WINNER
One client, a lottery winner, aged around 25, was only interested in foot worship.
“This sounds like I’m making it up,” she said. “He wanted a foot worship session – I went into this really nice hotel and he was lovely.
“I’m into humiliating people while they’re doing it, but he said ‘oh no, sit back and relax, and watch TV. I just want to rub your feet.’
“There was Antiques Roadshow on in the background and while he was doing that, we were guessing how much the antiques were worth. It was brilliant.”
She has plenty of regular clients and loves to have a “laugh and a bit of banter”, and has formed a “friendship situation” with many.
“I prefer that, it’s great when someone pops up and sends me a couple of thousands pounds and then fucks off again,” she said.
“Having the same person around and having a laugh, you know what they’re into, it’s easier.”
She uses a traffic light system in which they say ‘amber’ if it’s too much or ‘red’ if they completely want to stop.
“That’s usually for “ball busting and caning,” she said.
“When they come in I usually get them comfortable, and ask if there’s anything we need to talk about.
“Then I start by telling them to get on your knees, pass me the cash and count it out.
“Tell them they’re lucky to be there, and say thank you.
“I usually give them a balaclava if we’re filming and they want to stay anonymous.”
Nancy said if a sub is a “sissy”, then she tells them to change into a suitable outfit.
“I’ll get them to clean my whole house and I’ll just be there thanking them or if they don’t do it quickly enough, berating them.
“If it’s a longer session I’ll make a list on my phone so it doesn’t get awkward, but often I just go with the flow.”
With cash meets, it’s all systems go. I get out of the car and I’m already talking to them like a piece of s***, basicallyMistress NancyDominatrix
In terms of her outfits, she said generally she chooses them herself. But sometimes clients will request something, often latex or something shiny.
“Most of the time I make it up as I go along,” she admitted.
“Some want you to dress normally because it’s like the mean girl next door, it’s more realistic. That’s common.
“A lot of them like gym outfits for some reason.”
But the boundaries are always clear. She said: “If I don’t want to do something I say no. If they want something sexual, like sexual contact, I say no. I’m fully in control at all times.”
She never takes off her clothes either. “They don’t actually want that. A big part of it is denial. I’m not allowed to see her naked because I’m a pathetic loser. That’s a kink, and it’s good for me because I don’t want to do that.”
Asked what the most popular services are during such sessions, Nancy said: “A lot of guys like pegging. There’s a huge stigma around that because straight men think, I’m not doing that, it’s gay.
“But your G-spot is in your bum, so it makes sense. The notion of having that done to you by a woman is a major kink.
“Ballbusting is one of my most commonly requested things. There are a lot of guys that like being kicked in the balls.
“There’s a lot of guys that like wearing little panties. I’ll make them do a fashion show and laugh at them.”
Ballbusting is one of my most commonly requested things. There are a lot of guys that like being kicked in the balls. There’s a lot of guys that like wearing little panties. I’ll make them do a fashion show and laugh at them.Mistress NancyDominatrix
Nancy said the men who contact her are a “varied mixture” of types, and she often doesn’t know too much about their own situation.
“When you meet them you wouldn’t be able to tell. I’ve had some very attractive, young, nicely dressed subs.
“I’ve had older ones. It depends. The common thing is usually guys who have a lot of responsibility in their lives, a lot going on.
“Very stressful, high powered jobs and it’s their way of handing control to someone else and it’s a release.
“The roles are reversed and they don’t have to think about anything because I’m thinking for them.”
She said she was uncomfortable with the whole idea at first.
“When I first started I felt awful, I thought oh my God, I can’t do this, I can’t say things like this to people, it’s horrible.
“But then I thought no, this is what they’ve paid me for. They’ve come to me and this is what they wanted to do and I’m just doing it.
“It’s just their kink. It doesn’t mean you’re a nasty person, I’m definitely not a nasty person. I wouldn’t say boo to a goose.”
Now she finds it liberating, as well as “healing and refreshing”, allowing her to grow as a person.
“Just to have a man at your feet treating you like a goddess. At first I couldn’t get my head around it, I was like what is happening.
“It’s that exchange of power. It feels like I’m taking the power back.”
And it’s seen a shift in her day to day life too.
“I’m so good at setting boundaries now, standing my ground,” she said. “If I don’t fancy doing something I’ll just say no I don’t want to do that.
“Before I was a bit of a people pleaser. It’s helped me become a very strong person.”
PROPERTY AMBITION
One of her clients has a property portfolio and gave her lots of advice as it’s an area of investment she’s keen to get involved in eventually.
In particular, she has her eyes on an abandoned 19th Century hunting lodge in the Peak District.
“That’s the ultimate goal, once I start doing property, which is what I’m aiming for,” she explained. “I’ll probably still be doing this too because I love it.”
Referring to the lodge, she said: “Hopefully in the next couple of years I’ll sign the deeds to that place.”
It’s a property that was near to where she grew up and which her dad had told her about.
One day, aged around 18, she skipped college and walked for three hours up to the building.
“I just sat up there for hours and I loved it, and I fell in love with it there and then,” she said. “It’s my Wuthering Heights. It’s what I want to do, move into the middle of nowhere, into the wild, windy moors, grow my veggies, have my dog. It’ll be lovely. Hopefully I’ll be able to go to property auction soon.”
She added: “I’ll spend half my life in trader trousers holding a trowel and the other half in latex holding a cane.
“I don’t know what it is about it, it’s peaceful and eerie, there’s been quite a few things that have happened up there, you never feel like you’re on your own up there, let’s put it that way. In a nice way.
“That has been my sanctuary, when things went tits up previously, I felt like it saved me.”
In terms of her love life, she’s single.
Nancy said: “To be honest, I am a workaholic and because I love what I do so much and I put so much time into every single day, that is what I enjoy doing.
“Because of my disabilities I am a solitary person anyway, I’ve got friends and family, I’ve got my dog. I like being on my own. That’s all I need. It’s peaceful.”
However, she’s far from lonely and has made friends with other dominatrixes.
“I’ve made a few really good friends, some amazing women, real go-getters, and we help each other out.
“I do find it hard these days to speak to people that don’t want to get ahead in life.
“I wasted years of my life in dead end jobs and thought that’s all I’m going to do.
“Get smacked in the face in care homes for minimum wage, stuff like that.
“I never thought that I could think outside the box and do something like this.
I wasted years of my life in dead end jobs and thought that’s all I’m going to do…I never thought that I could think outside the box and do something like this.Mistress NancyDominatrix
“I’ve been self employed, I’ve always got ideas, I’m very resourceful. It’s hard to relate to people who are just going pay cheque to pay cheque, doing the same job forever. Not having enough money to do things.
“I’ve been really skint, really poor, homeless.
