This is what it is like to make a living as a financial dominatrix
SHE blackmails men, uses their credit cards and even completely drains their bank accounts, but no-one is complaining. WARNING: Graphic content

Source: News.com.au.

AUSTRALIA – THE internet has made it easier to shop, find recipes, read restaurant reviews and play online games.

Then there are people like Olivia Coxxx who use the internet to make a tidy income.

She isn’t a tech entrepreneur with an innovative start-up but a dominatrix who helps men explore their deepest fantasies in what she describes as a safe and professional environment.

Her speciality?
She’s not offering to inflict pain on anyone. Instead she prefers to punish and humiliate beta males — especially financially — and she has plenty of customers than happy to pay for the experience.

Customers can pay $100 per 20 minutes of contact on Skype or meet her in person at a cost of $450 for one hour or $800 for two.

The 25-year-old from Melbourne said she works out the terms and conditions prior to payment and once the funds clear in her account, she goes about delivering a service.

WHAT TYPE OF THINGS DO PEOPLE WANT?
The services offered by financial dominatrixes are complex to say the least.

Olivia said one of the most basic is “ignoring” — a service where clients pay for access to her webcam so they can watch her buy herself gifts online with their credit card.

“A client will pay me to have a session where I sit around and ignore him, usually I’ll be on the phone to girlfriends talking about ‘pathetic beta males’,” she told news.com.au.

“I think the appeal here is clients want to be powerless against an attractive woman.”

From here, things get a little kinkier with Olivia using blackmail to extort her clients — only it’s not as nefarious at it sounds.

“This is where a client will organise to be consensually ‘blackmailed’ into performing sex acts or paying money,” she said.

“I can go through private things like Facebook and threaten to tell their friends and family their dirty secrets.

“Limits and terms are always worked out before the booking.”

The rabbit hole of financial domination also leads to another popular one of her services known as “gay escorting” — where the men become sex workers themselves to raise funds for her services.

“I am one of the only sex workers in Australia that offers this service. I get so many requests for this, but very few will actually do it,” she said.

“Often clients will ask to do this if they are interested in fin domme [financial domination] and don’t have funds. It can be difficult as the client needs to follow sex work laws for the state that they visit me in.

“Often it’s just a fantasy they want to talk about in session but never actually eventuates, however I have had a few lifestyle slaves that have very much enjoyed escorting for my benefit.”

FINANCIAL DRAINING
The concept of Olivia’s profession is not new, with a number of dating sites for people looking to receive gifts or money for being in a relationship.

But from the perspective of a fin domme, the purpose is always about giving the client a rush from “serving a higher entity”, which just happens to be her.

While this might sound like an easy way to make money, the 25-year-old admits this is far from a get-rich-quick scheme.

“The misinterpretation about fin domme is that clients will just ring up asking to give you exorbitant amounts of money for nothing. In real life there’s actually a lot more to it,” she said.

“Because this is a lifestyle choice for a lot of my clients, they often don’t have a lot of money -even if they have well paying jobs/careers, usually they serve a number of mistresses.”

Olivia says she spent a number of years building a career for herself in the unique subculture.

“This isn’t something I do everyday, I might work a few times a week,” she said.

“I’m very stringent about vetting new clientele. In saying this, it is certainly a profitable industry.”

Just like any profession, there is good with the bad.

In Olivia’s case, the bad often comes when her customers try to get the money back.

“I’ve noticed a lot of clients can experience ‘buyer’s remorse’ after a heavy draining session,” she said.

“They get off and are consenting to being financially drained in the moment, but afterwards they will try and reverse transactions or ‘scam’ service providers.

“This is hugely problematic — imagine if you did your job and then your employer suddenly, at the end of the week decided he didn’t want to pay you.”

Olivia said for this reason it’s very important to keep clear boundaries, work out exactly what the client’s limits are and ensure payments have all cleared before they are given any time.

When it comes to the extent of the spending, the dominatrix admits she has been responsible for completely draining her client’s bank accounts — a fact she feels no guilt over.

“We are two consenting adults that have pre-decided all limits and terms of the arrangement. I am doing my job — they have actively found me to do this, I don’t approach them, they approach me,” she said.

“Does a lawyer feel bad when they hand an invoice to their clients? I hate that suggestion, it implies that money obtained through sex work is less valid than other industries.”

THE REALITIES OF HER PROFESSION
Olivia had always been curious about the sex industry and just after her 18th birthday she tried escorting for the first time, before trying stripping and being a cam girl.

But it wasn’t until recently that she started focusing on developing her skills as a humiliatrix and fin domme provider.

“I really love this work. It is my passion and if it was more socially acceptable, I would say I’d do this forever,” she said.

“Hopefully the stigma around sex work changes. It makes applying for things like rentals and loans very difficult.

“It’s an everyday battle to school people about the realities of sex work so they can understand it’s a legal and valid profession.”

Olivia is thankful for the internet as it has changed the industry over the years, making it easier to connect clients with people to fulfil their fantasies.

However, the internet does have its downfalls when it comes to concealing sex worker’s identities — something she learnt the hard way

“I used to hide my identity mainly to protect my mum from knowing the full extent of my involvement in the industry,” she said.

“However, my identity was ‘outed’ to my mum by an ex-partner and another worker recently, so I now choose to disclose my face in my advertisements.”

Thankfully, her mother and friends have been supportive, even if they do worry about her safety.

“I do sometimes experience the stigma and alienation from acquaintances, but once I have a chat to the individual and they learn more about the industry, they are usually pleasantly surprised.”

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LINKS:
Website: Oliviacoxxx.com.
Twitter: Twitter.com/ausoliviacoxxx.