As I’ve discovered, it’s normal for politicians to visit dominatrixes

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UK – When I took up professional domination, I had heard about the stereotype: clients are usually powerful men who want to relinquish their burdens of responsibility, and entrust their bodies and desires to someone else for an hour or so. Instead, I’ve learned that clients come from all walks of life. They are mostly men though, young and old: workers, students, soldiers, sailors and pensioners.

Having said that, politicians are often interested in domination. When the news broke that Culture Secretary John Whittingdale had dated a dominatrix, the media roared. But I wasn’t surprised. It showed how much society stigmatises sex work and fetish. Some argued that Whittingdale’s association with a dominatrix may have influenced his regulatory judgement, even if he had never actually used her services. Others thought it was unprofessional. I would argue the opposite.

There’s nothing wrong with a politician getting involved with a dominatrix. In fact, it’s completely understandable why a powerful man might want to relinquish control for a bit. To understand, ask not why a politician might want to see me, but why anyone might.

The answer is complex. Some people come to see me to escape mundane life, but some come because their lives enclose them in a forced performance of normality. For them, my studio is a place of controlled magic, where they can finally be themselves. This release of power can be helpful, especially for political types. Some people just want to try something different, while others find that it helps them to reclaim power afterwards. The politicians that visit me run the whole, raucous, fascinating gamut. Like all of my clients, each of them is different, each a world entire.

The desire to submit, to serve, to be punished, whipped, humiliated or controlled, exists across cultures and throughout history. In the age of Fifty Shades of Grey and kinky social media sites like FetLife, it’s easier than ever for people to find partners with whom they can realise their fantasies. But for a politician, the demands and strictures of a life in the public eye sometimes make it easier to explore these fantasies with a sex worker.

Politicians are busy people, often working long, late days. Seeing a sex worker can fulfil the drive for sex and companionship without the time commitment of dating. Sex workers, like politicians, run our lives by our diaries, respecting our clients’ time and our own. Politics has forged marriages, but, like many other jobs, it can also break relationships. I see a travelling salesman a few times a year whose only other chances for human touch are handshakes. I imagine that there are many politicians in a similar situation.

As professionals, sex workers respect the privacy of our clients; cases like the tell-all tale of George Osborne’s dominatrix friend are the exception, not the rule. Politicians hire us, in part, for a discretion that tends to be reliable. We plebeians might experiment in a way that is out of the norm, but if politicians dare to try the same, without the promise of discretion, they risk being torn down. But if we put moralism aside and let our politicians be human beyond Parliament, we might get better service from them in their sworn duties. There’s no reason why politicians and dominatrixes shouldn’t be natural bedfellows.

Margaret Corvid is a writer and professional dominatrix.

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