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Married air traffic controller accused of bondage sex in Australian control tower

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Wed, March 30, 2022 22:35:44

The man was alleged to have been handcuffed to his chair while on duty in the control tower while having sex with a married woman.

Source: News.com.au.

AUSTRALIA – An air traffic controller who had sex while on duty and instructing pilots.

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The director of the Civil Aviation Authority cancelled the man’s Air Traffic Control Licence following an inquiry, where it was alleged he was handcuffed to his chair while on duty in the control tower while having sex with a married woman, the New Zealand Herald reported.

The decision was appealed and a judge has ruled in favour of the man, finding while he did have sex while on duty, it wasn’t as risky as the director believed.

Judge Chris Tuohy found the man hadn’t been handcuffed so was not physically prevented from doing his job, following a three-day hearing in the Wellington District Court in December 2021.

The judge imposed strict suppression orders, meaning the man and other parties cannot be identified, and neither can the location of his workplace.

An affair between the woman, who lived in another part of the country, and the man, who was also married, began in early 2017 after the pair met on a dating website.

The sexual liaison between the pair involved pre-planned meetings at hotel and motels and was uninhibited, including an exchange by text of short videos and consensual recording of their sexual activity.

While the duration of the relationship was disputed, there was no argument it had ended before the woman texted the man’s wife to disclose the affair. His marriage broke up.

The woman later called the man’s wife detailing how the pair had sex in the control tower and how she had performed a sex act on him while he was handcuffed to a chair in the control room.

Concerns were raised with the CAA, which launched an investigation into the allegations.

The woman repeated her claims about the sexual encounters, including having handcuffed him to a chair while he worked in the control room, to the investigator.

A decision to suspend the man’s ATC licence was conveyed to him in December 2018 and, in March 2019, notice of a proposed decision to revoke his licence was made.

In an interview in February 2019, the man admitted the affair and said he had been alone in the control tower with the woman on three separate occasions during two days but denied sex had taken place.

“He acknowledged that [a sex act] while he was in handcuffs had occurred during the sexual relationship but in a hotel room, not in the control tower.”

He also detailed how the woman had tried to blackmail him by threatening to ruin his life if he didn’t pay her $50,000.

The CAA director recorded that “on the balance of probabilities” he believed the woman’s account and was concerned by the man’s risky behaviour while he should have been focused on what he was doing.

“He categorised this behaviour as highly irresponsible, intolerable and demonstrating extremely poor judgment.”

The decision to revoke the man’s licence was made mid-2019, and was subsequently appealed.

While Judge Tuohy said he had reservations about the woman’s credibility and reliability, he maintained her core allegation the pair had sex in the tower while the man was on duty was inherently plausible.

The evidence was however not sufficiently strong or cogent to satisfy the judge of the most serious aspect of the allegations, that he allowed himself to be handcuffed in his chair while on duty.

“The appellant voluntarily engaged in distracting behaviour which must have impinged on his capacity to react but, in my judgment, it is not sufficiently proven that he engaged in the even more risky and irresponsible behaviour of allowing himself to be physically prevented from doing so.”

Judge Tuohy ruled it had not been established the man was not a fit and proper person to exercise the privileges of his ATC Licence.

“I have reached that conclusion despite my finding that he did undertake risky behaviour while on duty, although not quite as risky as that which the Director relied upon.”

The judge had taken into account the relatively short duration of the man’s behaviour, it was unlikely he would engage in such behaviour in the future and his successful and incident-free career as an air traffic controller spanning many years.

Judge Tuohy reversed the CAA director’s decision to revoke the man’s ATC Licence.



MONEY IS POWER 

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Wed, March 30, 2022 22:21:34

What is a findom fetish and why is it called that?

Source: The-sun.com.

USA – MANY fetish cultures have been becoming more mainstream since Christian Grey graced our screens in 2015, including findom.

See more and larger photo’s on: The-sun.com.

Findom is a fetish where a submissive will give extravagant gifts and money to their financial dominatrix.

What is a findom fetish?

A findom fetish uses the submissive/ dominant relationship dynamic of many other fetishes.

The submissive is usually well off or fincancially stable, although they do not have to be, and give gifts and money to a financial dominant.

These submissives are sometimes called finsubs (financial submissive) or money slaves.

While the relationships often involve other BDSM practices, there is no requirement of intimacy in a findom relationship.

Although this is similar to a sugar baby or other monetary fetishes, those are often not a dominant relationship whereas this is based on a total power exchange.

In extreme dynamics, the finsub might grant all their money and other aspects of their autonomy to the dominant.

Why is it called findom?

The name findom comes from the blending of the two key aspects of this fetish – financial domination.

In fetish communities, dominance and submissive relationships are the basis for a lot of other fetishes.



Do Hetero Men Prefer Women Sexually Powerful or Passive?

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Wed, March 30, 2022 22:12:30

The answer may surprise you.

Source: Psychologytoday.com.

KEY POINTS

  • The dominant narrative today about men, women, and power is that men prefer women to be subservient.
  • In truth, many men respect, love, and are excited by strong women.
  • Most people, regardless of gender, seem to desire a lover who can hold their own both in and outside the bedroom.

USA – A dominant narrative today about men, women, and power is that men prefer women to be subservient. But in my sex therapy practice, I frequently hear otherwise. Many men respect, love, and appreciate strength in women. They enjoy interacting with strong women, having sex with them, and fantasizing about them. But guys in my therapy room aren’t the only ones with these sentiments. Here are a few other examples.

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Femdom porn

Pornhub is the most popular English-speaking porn site in the world. It publishes an annual report categorizing who is searching for and watching what kind of porn. In the 2019 list of “porn searches that define 2019,” guess what slid in at No. 10? Femdom porn. In case you don’t know, femdom porn is exactly that—porn depicting a person identified as female assuming the dominant sexual role. Out of the hundreds of porn categories out there, femdom is strikingly high on men’s list of favs. If men really preferred passive women, it’s very difficult for me to believe this would be such a popular outlet for their arousal.

The simp phenomenon

Urban Dictionary defines simp in several ways, including “when a male is overly submissive to a female and gains nothing from it. So overly submissive that other guys cringe and feel ashamed when seeing them. This applies to males in relationships when they are so submissive that they say literally anything to be in favor with the female.” This phenomenon has been getting a lot of airplay in the last few years. “Simps” are considered hetero guys who take pleasing their dominant female partner very seriously. Again, not a group of men who we would generally describe as disliking powerful women. Instead, pleasing a powerful woman becomes a priority in their lives.

The younger guy trolling for older women

It seems increasingly common to hear stories of a 30-something guy on dating apps trolling for older women. So often when 40- or 50-something women enter the online dating scene, they are hit up by younger guys. Some women find it appealing and complimentary, while others find it offensive or pitiful. Nonetheless, the fact of the matter is that it’s hard to be a confident, independent woman on a dating site and not get this kind of male attention. Men who dislike powerful women would not seek to date or hook up with more mature females.

The sexual challenges of couples in long-term relationships

I work with many couples trying to keep their long-term relationship sexually satisfying. So often I hear hetero guys tell me they love their wife’s or girlfriend’s power and intelligence—they like the challenge of being with a strong woman both in and outside the bedroom. They are excited by a lover who knows what she wants in bed and isn’t afraid to get it—a woman who has sexual experience and isn’t shy or careful between the sheets. If anything, these men hope that their partners will gain sexual power from seeing me for sex therapy. In my close to 25 years of private practice, I recall very few men who felt their partners needed toning down in the bedroom.

Ironically, I often hear these same sorts of comments about power from hetero women in my therapy room. Women tend to want more confidence and assertiveness from their men in bed, not less. I rarely hear women say they want their partners to be more careful, more polite, or more passive between the sheets. Instead, I hear women wishing their hetero partners would take charge in the bedroom, lead rather than follow, and touch them with confidence and passion. It’s unlikely that I’m the only sex therapist hearing this message. Yet, sadly, this is not our cultural narrative, and it’s not how we are guiding men today.

Today, most people seem to desire a lover who can hold their own in the bedroom. Of course, there will always be a subset of people who identify as male and people who identify as female who prefer submissive sex partners. But I don’t hear most men (or women) say that they want more passive, subservient lovers. If anything, it’s the opposite. Let’s look at the facts and recognize that many modern men love and are turned on by dominant women. It’s time for our cultural narrative to reflect reality.



‘We can have all the fun we used to have’: Ex-dominatrix’s gift to Surry Hills (Australia)

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Wed, March 30, 2022 21:57:18

Source: Smh.com.au.

AUSTRALIA – SIDNEY -A deconsecrated church once used for “wild parties” organised by notorious Sydney dominatrix Gretel Pinniger will be turned into an entertainment venue, co-working space and cafe/bar under plans approved by the City of Sydney.

See more larger photo’s on: SMH.com.au.

A 26-room boarding house will also be built behind The Kirk on Cleveland Street in Surry Hills “designed with the motif of a dragon in mind”, according to planning documents, to symbolise new life brought to the historic church building.

A local planning panel last week approved Ms Pinniger’s $5.6 million plans to redevelop The Kirk – despite objections from some residents concerned about the overshadowing, noise, privacy and parking.

Ms Pinniger said she hoped The Kirk would once again be a venue for musicians and artists where “we can have all the fun we used to have”.

Ms Pinniger is best known for her outrageous alter-ego Madam Lash, but she also dressed up as the Virgin Mary to become the Immaculate Lash. The reality, she said, was “I’m a bit of a recluse”.

“I’ve led a fortunate life, and I’d really like to share it,” she said. “I’d like to be remembered for the girl I really was. I’m an art lover by my own definition.”

Ms Pinniger said she had fond memories of “totally wild parties” at The Kirk, which was used as a gallery and concert space from the early 1970s until she purchased the gothic-style building in 1986, using it for burlesque shows and sex parties.

AC/DC’s Let There Be Rock was filmed inside the church in 1977, with Bon Scott standing in the pulpit.



Former Dominatrix Who Blamed Occult-Like Interests on Marilyn Manson Gets Life in Prison for 2018 Murder of Ex-Boyfriend

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Wed, March 30, 2022 21:17:26

Source: Lawandcrime.com

USA – Julia Enright, 24, was sentenced to the maximum penalty under Massachusetts law on Friday for the 2018 murder of 20-year-old Brandon Chicklis, a former classmate and boyfriend.

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Worcester Superior Court Judge Daniel Wrenn sentenced the defendant to life in prison with the possibility of parole after 25 years after hearing victim impact statements from nine of Chicklis’s family and friends, according to MassLive’s court reporter Erin Tiernan.

One after another, each of the nine described the hole that was left in their lives following the young man’s brutal murder. And, in turn, each asked for the judge to return the harshest penalty against Enright.

Chicklis’s mother, Trisha Edwards-Lamarche, explained her grim and daily predicament, according to reports from the courtroom.

“Every day when drive to work, I get to choose: Do I drive by where she dumped my son’s body today, or do I drive by where she dumped his car?” the grieving mother told the judge.

“I love you Brandon, you’ll always be my bumble bee,” the deceased man’s grandmother, Louisa Rocha, said in court.

Chicklis was stabbed at least 10 times inside the Enright family’s Ashburnam, Mass. treehouse on June 23, 2018, the trial revealed.  His body was found by a jogger on July 10, 2018 on the side of Route 119 in Rindge, New Hampshire, a town just across the state line from Massachusetts.  The corpse was in an advanced state of decomposition by the time it was discovered — which became a key point of discussion during the trial due to Enright’s uncontested fixation with dead animals, decomposition, and death, in general.

During trial, one witness reportedly testified the defendant would occasionally try to speed up a dead animal’s decomposition by leaving its body out in the elements and wrapped up in a tarp.  Prosecutors tried to use the testimony to suggest a parallel to how Chicklis may have been treated.

In her defense, Enright told jurors her occult-adjacent interests were a side effect of her then-obsession with shock rocker Marilyn Manson.

The trial also featured some focus on the defendant’s side business as a dominatrix – much to the defense’s chagrin and prior protestations.

Enright herself lodged an unsuccessful claim that she killed Chicklis in self-defense in response to an alleged attempted sexual assault in the treehouse. Jurors didn’t accept that version of the story.

Prosecutors argued the slaying was a “gift” for John Lind, the defendant’s then-boyfriend.  Lind was indicted by a Worcester County Grand Jury for accessory after the fact to murder, misleading a grand jury, and perjury earlier this year. Originally charged in December of last year, he is alleged to have shared many of the same macabre interests as the convicted woman.

Lind first made waves in the case months prior.

In October 2021, Lind pleaded the fifth during one of Enright’s pre-trial evidentiary hearings when asked to account for what, exactly, moved his girlfriend to replace part of the carpet in the treehouse. Previously, he allegedly told police the textile had been replaced due to a sex act between the two that resulted in damage from human feces.

Evidence later suggested there was never any carpet in the treehouse before the murder at all. And, in the area where the carpet had allegedly been replaced, investigators found Chicklis’s blood and DNA.

“His DNA is in your treehouse,” a state trooper told Enright during her second interview with the Massachusetts State Police on the day she was arrested. “How could his DNA, his blood, be in your treehouse?”

She got up and tried to leave at that point but, from that point on, would remain in the custody of law enforcement.

As for Lind, during trial she testified he helped her get rid of the body.

“There is not a day that goes by that don’t think about this or don’t wish I could go back,” Enright said in a bid to lessen her sentence. “Maybe you need to hear me say this: I’m sorry to everyone. His parents, his siblings, his loved ones, my parents, friends, everyone.”

According to MassLive, she never said her victim’s name and only turned to slightly address his family in court on Friday.

“I want you to know how much I’ve thought about everything,” she continued. “I need you to know I mean it. I need you to know that every night I pray for my family. I’m praying for yours too.”

“I won’t lie and pretend like being with my family and loved ones isn’t the only thing I want,” she went on.

But her plea for mercy fell flat.

[image via WCVB-TV screengrab/YouTube]



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