HEEMSKERK – As many may not know, we have Spotify and Youtube music lists to listen to and watch your (BDSM) music for days!
The BDSM music is searched for and selected by Rubberron. On Spotify there are now 780 BDSM songs and on Youtube 462. The Youtube BDSM Songs list has now been viewed/listened to more than 400,000 times!
Of course likes, tips, requests and fan mail are always welcome! If you make songs yourself, always Use my name Tom Verhoeven on top. Unfortunately, it is impossible to sift through all spam from record companies!
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THE NETHERLANDS – HEEMSKERK – March 22, 2023 – In this old broadcast, old BDSM Media News, abduction fantasy with Mistress Tanja, an interview from 2005 with Bert Wibo from the BDSM Magazine Massad.com and an interview with Mistress Darcy from an old Kamasutra fair. Extra long broadcast next week with other repeats from 7 p.m.
On the photo: Mrs Tanja, slave x and yours truly Tom Verhoeven
Replay of an older interview with Mistress Madieanne (advertisements/calls in broadcast are no longer valid). BDSM Record story themed the history of BDSM. air date: 2023-03-15
Netherlands – Tonight was an emergency live broadcast by Tom Verhoeven because Nathalie had to go to the hospital urgently. Get well wishes are welcome! The first 1st hour live music and the second hour a repeat of the BDSM Record Story from 2015 with the story of Danique Domina.
UK – LONDON – Organisers of the controversial British-based “CABA-BABA-RAVE” bondage-themed drag queen show for one and two-year-old babies and their mothers have cancelled an upcoming show after intense public backlash.
Footage posted by conservative presenter Dominique Samuels earlier this week showed scenes from a drag show in London in which male performers in thongs and leather bondage gear performed acrobatics in front of parents and small babies.
NETHERLANDS – EMMEN/HEEMSKERK – After a few years of silence, BDSMradio.EU is back with weekly live broadcasts that you can watch and listen to right away.
On Sunday, January 1, Alwin & Nathaly will bite the bullet with their weekly live broadcasts between 8-11 p.m. You can chat with them on the screen and of course request requests, you can also call in live with the number on the screen. The shows are in dutsch but we can speak english.
On Wednesdays from 4 January I (tom Verhoeven) can be heard and seen between 21-23 hours.
You can also participate in the broadcast via the chat in the screen and/or request requests. But that is also possible via Facebook BDSMradioEU or via my personal page on and Twitter @BDSMradioplay. We are ON Fetlife as an event and of course you can always make friends with all the DJs on BDSM Radio. The shows are in dutch but i can speak some stonecole english.
For the rest there is a quiz where you can win a nice thing, BDSM News from the Media and, if available, a BDSM story. Do you have a compelling story? Send it to BDSMradioEU@hotmail.com.
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THE NETHERLANDS - HEEMSKERK - There is another update of the list of BDSM Songs on Spotify and Youtube. Thanks to rubberron. Do you have any tips or fan mail? Let me know radio sub tom Verhoeven via bdsmradioeu@hotmail.com
Dear BDSM friends,
Again we have a Christmas in Covid misery.
Still, I (tom Verhoeven) want to wish you happy kinky holidays and a very healthy 2022 full of BDSM.
As far as BDSM radio is concerned, the plans are unfortunately not that great.
My physical ailments and therefore financial position make it impossible to make music radio 24/7 again.
Unless I win a big lottery prize.
However, I will keep the Spotify and Youtube lists up to date with Rubberron so that you will not be without music.
I will continue to update the BDSM media news from the newspapers and media, hopefully once a month.
Of course, tips and "fanmail" are always welcome at bdsmradioeu at hotmail.com
Kinky greetings,
tom verhoeven from the Netherlands
USA – AN alleged recruiter for Jeffrey Epstein has confessed she introduced him to three women and shopped for sexy outfits — but denies she took part in any abuse.
Rina Oh, 41, confessed in the podcast Broken: Seeking Justice that she dated Epstein and that he requested she bring him good-looking women including former model Marijke Chartouni.
However, Oh denied allegations from Chartouni and Virginia Roberts—another accuser who mentioned Oh in her memoir—that she perpetrated or or directly participated in any sexual abuse they experienced.
“I’m just letting you know that what she accused me of doing is a complete fabricated lie,” Oh said of Roberts’ memoir.
In the podcast reported by the Daily Mail on Wednesday, Oh admitted that she participated in numerous activities involving Epstein, the American financier and convicted sex offender who died in August 2019.
Oh opened up about Epstein apparently asking her to take Roberts, then 17, on a shopping trip to find a “little school girl outfit.”
When podcast host Tara Palmeri asked Oh if she thought it was strange that Epstein wanted a 17-year-old young woman dressed like a school girl, Oh responded, “I wasn’t asking questions. I just did as I was told.”
Oh was evasive when Palmeri followed up on why she did not find Epstein’s demands alarming.
The mystery recruiter said, “I’ve brought three people to, to that place,” referring to Epstein’s mansion in New York, and that “when I’m, ready to talk about it, I’m gonna I talk about it.”
Oh said Chartouni, whom Epstein sexual assaulted, was one of the women she presented to him.
But Oh insisted: “My side of the story is I did not abuse anyone, period. People that knew about him wanted to meet him. And I brought those people there, period.”
“I met her very briefly. We didn’t really know each other too well,” Oh said of Chartouni.
“And I brought her because he kept asking me to bring your friends. So I brought her once.”
But in a subsequent interview for the podcast, Oh changed her storyline.
“I was in the room when Marijke and I were both victimized by Epstein,” Oh said.
Oh pushed back on claims Roberts made in her memoir and said, “I was nothing but nice to this girl.”
“And I actually wanted to hang out with her and she declined to hang out with me,” Oh continued.
“So we actually never spent any significant amount of time together except for that one shopping adventure.”
A draft manuscript of Roberts’ memoir that was among court documents that became public last August stated that Epstein met Oh at an art gallery where he bought some of her pieces.
The memoir alleges various sexual encounters, including that Epstein asked Oh to help Roberts massage him.
Oh, at the time about 21 years old, “loved bondage, whipping, hitting and cutting her sex partner with little sharp knives until they subdued (sic) to her punishment in agonizing pain,” Roberts wrote in the memoir.
In addition, the manuscript states that Epstein was “absurdly taken” with seeing Oh use whips and toys on Roberts, and rented an apartment for Oh.
Epstein had Oh and Roberts go shopping for “sexy outfits, sex toys and bondage material,” it states.
Roberts said that Oh “fit into the subservient category” that Epstein liked and that she had a “bubbly persona.”
Oh spoke on the podcast after being found in her New Jersey home by Chartouni, who has acted as a private investigator for Epstein’s victims.
USA – There’s a dominatrix that’s helping to convert Donald Trump supporters into Joe Biden supporters.
There’s really something new every day in 2020, especially with the upcoming presidential election. Both parties are pulling out all the stops to get Trump out of office. The Daily Beast reports that groups such as the Lincoln Project and Republican Voters Against Trump are gathering all anti-Trump Republicans to help sway fellow members of their party. On the opposite end, Democratic-leaning groups like Vote Trump Out are also pushing for Biden to win.
But there’s also another force of nature that’s at work, and that’s Trump supporters who have an interesting sex kink. According to the Daily Beast, kinky, submissive male Trump supporters with humiliation fetishes are reaching out to one woman to dominate them into voting for Biden. Empress Daisy Delfina is a Las Vegas-based professional dominatrix who has created “Trump Conversion Therapy,” a treatment for pro-Trump men.
Her ad for the therapy reads as follows: “Here’s your chance to get berated for being the degenerate Trump supporter you are. I reverse the brainwash you’ve succumbed to that made you into a Simple Stupid Drone. By using lethal mind f*cking language and making you repeat dumbass chants like your Bullshitter in Chief made you do to warp you into submission, I transfer your ownership to me for my personal gain and entertainment. Embrace that you need to be saved from being a Trump-bot. Call now to begin your Trump Conversion Therapy.” The therapy costs $1.99 a minute.
Delfina says the idea for Trump Conversion Therapy was sparked from her arguments with Trump supporters on Twitter. “I was already doing webcam and film work with humiliation fetishes. Ever since Trump got elected, I saw I was arguing with his supporters on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. I found my accounts getting banned for certain language. There was just so much rage on both sides, and I found myself in the comments humiliating the Trump supporters and just mocking their stupidity. I mocked how they’re not capable of independent and critical thinking. The fact that they can be sold anything. How easily they were manipulated and sold a bill of goods,” she said.
“I saw an article about Mike Pence talking about supporting programs targeted at gay people to get them to “change their sexual behavior”—which was widely interpreted as a dog-whistle for conversion therapy. So I tweeted out to the Trump supporters I was arguing with, ‘Hey, if you think gay conversion therapy works, let’s try Trump conversion therapy.’ Of course, the Trump supporters went ballistic over that. But they’re already on a pro Domme’s page—so I wasn’t too surprised when a few of them slid into my DMs saying they were interested in it. I was already doing small penis humiliation with a lot of these guys, so jumping to political humiliation wasn’t that much of a stretch.”
She added that the free attention she was giving Trump supporters made her want to capitalize off of it. “At one moment, I realized, “Wait a minute, I think this guy’s getting off on it.” Because here I am, a hot girl humiliating him, and he’s getting the attention for free. That’s when I decided, “I should get paid for this shit.” And also try to get them to vote for a different leader, a Democrat. So that’s when I put my ad for Trump Conversion Therapy up.”
During “Trump Conversion Therapy” a number of things can happen; Delfina says she may just argue with someone or the person may want to be punished for supporting Trump. “Maybe half the guys just want to argue. They’re not open to getting converted at all. They just call to start berating my liberal politics. And I’m like, ‘Hey if you want to pay me $1.99 a minute to argue with me, go right ahead. You’re not getting anywhere with me, and I’m happy to profit off your stupidity—just like your leader did.’”
She continued: “But the other half—the half I care about—is actually open to being persuaded. Many of them see what Trump has become, what he’s done, and regret their vote. So I tell them, ‘I can help you. You’ve been brainwashed. I can deprogram you.’ I studied cults in college, and when I saw Trump and his rallies, I thought, ‘This is just what cult leaders do.’ So his followers need to be deprogrammed, just as if they’d been in a cult—because they have.
She then described some moments from her sessions. “I had one Southern man call me and tell he was regretting his Trump vote. I asked him if he’d been to Trump rallies, and he said he had. So I asked him, “Which chant did you used to like the most at the rallies?” They like to chant—that’s part of the whole programming. With cults, do you notice that? All the chanting. Same thing with religion—chanting helps with the brainwash.
“He used to chant, ‘Lock her up! Lock her up!’ So I said, ‘Let’s make up a new one for you. Now you need to chant, “I’m Putin’s bitch!” So he starts screaming, ‘I’m Putin’s bitch!’ And then I start having him sing it—so he’s singing, ‘I’m Putin’s bitch!’ He has to sing it because music helps with the brainwash. I call it deprogramming, but in a way, I’m kind of brainwashing them myself. I started to notice that these Trump supporters were very easily influenced—they’re the kind of people who are susceptible to a cult. You can manipulate them. You can sell them anything, just like Trump did to get their votes. I’m pretty much using the same tactics that Trump used to manipulate them, except I’m manipulating and re-programming them to go the other way.”
Delfina shared some of her background and that her parents are from Puerto Rico. “My father is white, born on the island, and my mother is Black, born in Brooklyn. I was born in New York. I’m a Brooklyn girl. I grew up very poor, and started stripping when I was 18 just to survive. A client encouraged me to apply to college, and helped me fill out my applications. It took me eight years to graduate, as I studied part-time while I stripped to pay for it. After college, I moved to Las Vegas to continue my stripping career. I’ve been in the skin business for 24 years now. I started camming about 10 years ago and continue to this day. I do clips, phone sex, and private Skype sessions. I’m an activist with sex workers. And also I rescue dogs.”
When it comes to the racist Trump supporters, Delfina says she knows how to handle them. “One of the guys I was deprogramming—he had loved chanting ‘Build the Wall’ at Trump rallies. So I made him chant that, while he was sticking a hot pepper up his ass. I made him break it in there.”
USA – IOWA – Uberkinky’s Periodic Table of Kinks has 151 blocks and is equally important as — if not more than, in my opinion — the Table of Elements. Various kinks are sorted into 12 categories, including torture, restraint, role play, butt stuff and vanilla. Everything from tickling to poop play is represented.
Mom, Dad, tread lightly with this one.
Kinks — sexual desires attached to specific objects, acts or body parts that aren’t necessarily sexual in and of themselves — tend to be taboo at the dinner table, but they’re more common than you might think. The Journal of Sex Research found one in three people have experimented with paraphilia, or unusual sexual interests, at some point in their lives. A 2016 UK survey indicated as many as 75 percent of people harbor a fetish.
Probably the most prevalent and certainly well-known kink is BDSM. The acronym is up for debate, but generally refers to erotic bondage, discipline, dominance/submission and sadomasochism. Riding crops, handcuffs, ball gags, harnesses and black leather garments are BDSM tools as well as part of the subculture’s aesthetic.
The organized kink/BDSM community in Iowa is small, but it exists. Iowa Leather Weekend, which takes place in October, is an all-out kinky bonanza, including a vendor market, entertainment pieces and a contest in which participants compete for four Iowa Leather titles: Ms., Mr., Bear and Pet. These titleholders go on to wave the leather pride flag (black-and-blue-striped, with one white stripe cutting the center and a red heart in the upper left corner) around the state, including at the Iowa City Pride Festival.
Bettie Rage, Ms. Iowa Leather 2020, has been in the scene for 20 years. Starting her journey in Minneapolis, she jumped feet first into the leather community after becoming fascinated with the power dynamics between submissive men and dominant women.
“When I was 21, I had a friend who brought me to a bar called Ground Zero in Minnesota, and on the weekends, they have a bondage and go-go night,” Rage said. “As soon as I walked in I had a man crawl up to me on his hands and knees and another man asked to kiss my boots. I was there every weekend after that.”
Becoming Ms. Iowa Leather is no joke. Contestants submit a resume and, if picked, undergo an audition before a panel of judges. The audition consists of a private interview with the judges, a speech, a question and a five-minute fantasy scene performed on stage.
For Boy Chris, the Mr. Iowa Leather 2020 titleholder, Leather Weekend is also a good way to discover more about certain kinks. Educational panels present people an opportunity to learn safe sex practices in a welcoming environment. Because their kink can involve intricate skills, like knot-tying, and negotiated relationships, such as that between a dom and a sub, communication and consent are tanned into the leather of BDSM culture.
“We pull in people from all over to watch the contest, and we do educational things,” Chris said. “We educate on various kinks, promoting inclusivity. We want everyone to come — our trans boys, sisters, drag queens, twinks, bears and pups. The pet scene has really exploded so we want to be all-inclusive and welcoming.”
Pet play “is a subculture within our community that allows people to let go and feel comfortable in social scenes,” Chris explained. While people with a pet kink often get off on playing the role of a submissive puppy, including wearing a collar, leash or muzzle, others prefer to portray cats, or other animals “that capture their personality.”
The list of domination-, pain- and restraint-related kinks is virtually endless, including such niche interests as cuckolding and “human furniture” (which is pretty much exactly what you think it is). To signal which kink they’re into at meetups, people put various coded items, often colored handkerchiefs, in their back pocket. A red handkerchief indicates an interest in fisting, yellow for “water sports,” hunter green for daddy play, black for BDSM and so on and so forth.
“There are plastic forks you can put in your back pocket — that just means you’re looking for dinner — and another is a sweatband which means
you’re looking for wrasslin’ fun,” said Rage, explaining the most unique back-pocket tokens she’s seen.
Rage understands how difficult it can be to overcome the fear of outing oneself as a BDSM enthusiast, particularly as a woman in a predominantly male scene. Before becoming Ms. Iowa Leather, she established a kink and coffee group at Smokey Row in Des Moines for female-identifying and nonbinary folk to have a safe space to talk all things kink without male-identifying people around.
“Running for title was important to me because there are so many spaces that are still men-only spaces [where] women and trans folks aren’t necessarily welcome,” she said. “I wanted to win this title to be a presence in the women’s community and to change things.”
The Iowa Leather title family has recently broadened its outreach, offering monthly Think Kink classes at the Blazing Saddle in Des Moines, open to anyone 18 or older. Held on the second Tuesday of every month and spanning six months, the lessons are designed for both beginner and experienced kinksters.
“The first one was consent and the next one [on Feb. 11] will be about impact play,” Chris explained. “In that topic it’s about, how do you do those things without hurting, and then teaching what consent you need to think about when using a cane to hit someone.”
Iowa Leather will also expand beyond Des Moines metro, hosting a Sash Bash at Studio 13 in Iowa City March 6-8, and an event in Waterloo at Kings and Queens Club the first weekend in April.
I felt very comfortable interviewing Rage and Chris, and told them so. As a closeted kinky queer, being sex-forward is something I crave but haven’t acted on, held back by trauma and boys who don’t respond to my 2 a.m. booty call. The Iowa Leather titleholders reassured me that the community is open to anyone, regardless of if they’re having sex or not. There’s no pressure to be anything in a place largely written off as “bad” or “perverted,” a few negative stereotypes unfairly hurled their way. Once you overcome what society has conditioned you to believe is bad, you start living.
“People have kinks. Gay, straight, nonbinary, whatever people want to identify as, they have kinks,” Chris said. “We just want to reach out and let people know they’re not alone. My title family is living our best lives and showing people you can have fun and still be an adult.”
Meggie Gates is a comedian and writer from Cedar Rapids, based in Chicago, Illinois. They write for the Chicago Reader, Consequence of Sound, Reductress and a variety of other places, including, of course, Little Village, located in their favorite city in the world. They enjoy comic books and hate sand between their toes. This article was originally published in Little Village issue 278.
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