Source: Dailystar.co.uk.
UK – Ever wondered how you can incorporate some kink into your sex life? Daily Star Online spoke to dominatrix Mistress Iris who shared her saucy bedroom tips
Are you trying to mix things up in the bedroom?
If so, a dominatrix has revealed her kinky sex tips for tantalising your partner under the sheets.
Mistress Iris was just 19 years of age when she met a boy who was naturally more submissive.
As a teenager, the model knew she was more dominant – despite not having an experience in BDSM.
After six years of experimenting and honing her new set of skills, Mistress Iris decided to become a dominatrix.
Now speaking exclusively to Daily Star Online, the sex expert has shared her saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom.
She said: “Soon after [I became a dominatrix] I started posting artistic femdom photography I created to promote my career.
“I received a lot of messages from kink curious followers thanking me for inspiring them to explore their sexuality.
“Also I realised how much of a gap there was in representation of kink and BDSM outside of porn.
“So I really began to invest my energy into creating femdom art photography and short films.”
Mistress Iris shared five saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom:
- Explore what turns you on – you can’t work out your likes and dislikes unless you experiment
- Have a willing participant – find someone who consents to explore power play with you
- Talk to your partner(s) about what you both might want to try – always set your boundaries first before getting jiggy
- Give your partner an out – picking a safe word is important for keeping both parties happy
- Take care of your partner afterwards (aftercare) – once you’ve finished experimenting, have a debrief and talk through what worked and what didn’t
She says it’s important to bring up your desire to explore your dominance if you have an existing partner.
And since people aren’t mind readers, talk about what you’d like to try under the sheets.
When it comes to BDSM, Mistress Iris claims it’s very important to agree on a safeword so know a real “no” from a playful one.
The dominatrix continued: “Don’t think about what other people might think of you.
“Pay attention to what really turns you on and be kind to yourself about it.
“Maybe there are things you’ve seen or thought about but quickly dismissed because it was too embarrassing or weird to you.
“Revisit those thoughts and start searching for how-to videos, articles, etc. I’m sure you’re not the only one with those inclinations.”
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It can be a good source for diving “deeper” into what turns you on.
Mistress Iris also collaborated on a short film with their talented director Kayden Kross called the “Interview“.
She recommends watching it if you’re curious about domination that is all about the psychology of power play, and not the whips and chains you typically associate with BDSM.
