EXCLUSIVE: Femme Fatale, an ambassador for the sexting platform Arousr, has discussed the most popular kinks and what they really mean about your personality
Source: Dailystar.co.uk
UK – Ever wondered what your favourite kink says about you?
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It turns out our wants in the bedroom can determine a lot about our personalities.
Now in case you’re wondering, we’ve spoken to a sexpert to find out more about desires between the sheets.
Femme Fatale is an ambassador for the prominent sexting platform Arousr so it’s safe to say she knows her stuff.
With the platform promoting a non-judgemental approach to dirty talk, all users are able to experiment in a safe environment.
Here Femme has provided her experienced insight into what their favourite kink might say about them.
So are you ready?
Cuckolding
If you enjoy watching your wife have sex with various partners, this means that you are adventurous and open-minded.
Femme said: “By watching your wife experience pleasure with another, you feel you have also done your part in helping please her.
“So you may have a smaller than average penis. Who cares!
“Instead of taking a trip down the shame spiral, you find a more suitable sexual partner for your wife to enjoy while you watch.”
Sissification/Feminisation
You might be straight, but behind closed doors you enjoy exploring a more feminine side.
Femme claims these people have the most thrill in taking off their work clothes and slipping into a pair of women’s panties.
She added: “The secrecy of your feminine indulgence is part of what arouses you.
“Far from ever wanting to be a drag queen, you prefer to operate as a sissy boy in private.
“You quite enjoy being bossed around by a dominant female and playing dress-up with her.”
Humiliation
People who are into humiliation are more often than not in positions of power.
If you have a certain degree of power, you’re more than likely in need of a way to release some of your personal responsibilities.
The sexpert said: “Your power in your daily life is constantly being validated, by anyone from employees to your significant other.
“You hold all the cards and make all the important decisions; if not for your strict control, everything might fall apart.
“Vanilla sex is simply not enough to satisfy your urge to be slapped in the face and spat on.”
Bondage
Being into bondage means you enjoy being constrained and love an element of servitude.
Femme reckons this means you enjoy being dominated and used for sexual gratification.
She continued: “You find joy in being a subject of external power and control from a more dominant partner in play.”
Leather Play
If slipping into leather is something that turns you on, it may be that you have hyphepillia where you’re aroused by a material.
Leather as a textile can also signify an association to the BDSM community, as leather play is not only restricted to this textile.
It can also serve as your gateway to whips, paddles, chains, and bondage.
Chastity
Those who are into chastity adore restraint and denial.
Getting close to climax but never being able to finish is what keeps lovers of this kink coming back for more.
But according to Femme, guys who are into this like to be withheld from sexual gratification.
She added: “The longer one restrains from climax, the more they yearn to be controlled and make this feeling of control last.
“This is not a standard sex practice, but it shares similarities to an ancient one you may know as Tantra.”