ChatGPT breaks new ground in bondage, discipline, dominance and submission training
Source: Themessenger.com.
USA – ChatGPT can teach you how to do a lot of things, some of which you may have never considered. Here’s one: how to be a better partner in your bondage/discipline/submission/masochism relationship.
Emily Anne (her professional name) is an author, kink educator and co-founder of the BDSM Coaches site. She has also taught a class on using the chatbot as a tool to improve clients’ communication skills. “Using ChatGPT can be similar to the Dom/Sub dynamic,” she says.
In BDSM relationships, “Dom” stands for “Dominant.” That is the partner who leads, while “Sub,” short for “submissive,” is the partner who follows the Dom. Each relationship can look a little different depending on what the parties agree to, but the overarching role of the Dom as the one making demands remains constant.
If you squint, this could be the way to describe the relationship between humans and ChatGPT. Humans, aka Doms, tells ChatGPT what they want. ChatGPT, the Sub, is tasked with following that prompt to the best of its abilities, with certain restrictions in place.
Not all parts of a BDSM relationship are sex-focused, despite what “50 Shades of Grey” injected into the zeitgeist. And ChatGPT has many controls in place to prevent it from responding with any sexual content, so practicing remains chaste.
But being assertive even in a non-sexual space takes practice for most people, according to Emily Anne. Trying out using concise language with a chatbot can be a good place to iron out some kinks, so to speak.
“Practicing with a machine can show you it’s not that hard to ask for what you want,” she said.
This is not a wildly divergent use of ChatGPT: There is already role-playing going on in prompting. You ask ChatGPT to “act as if” it is an expert in a subject to coach users or to pretend it’s a friend so users can practice hard conversations. What’s different about Emily Anne’s approach is connecting what is learned from prompting back to being a Dom in real life.
For her clients, Emily Anne demonstrates a method of practicing on a chatbot with a framework that starts with the Dom having a desire or request. The Dom articulates it. ChatGPT tries to please the Dom. The Dom gets pleased.
For a BDSM practitioner working on their command chops, that might start from a bad prompt like “Tell me what’s fun at the beach” and then getting to the point with a prompt like: “I love being social at the beach with my girlfriends, and my 26th birthday is coming up. Describe three fun scenarios that I can plan on a sunny beach weekend.”
This final example has clearer instructions that set up the ChatGPT to give a response that would be more targeted and helpful.
What that progression might look like in a real-life Dom/Sub situation is instead of the Dom saying “I want you to please me,” clarifying that to “Tell me how you will please me.” Or better yet, according to Emily Anne, something like: “Tell me two things you will do to make Daddy (or Mommy!) happy at dinner time tonight.”
ChatGPT has only been out a year, but it is now a staple in Emily Anne’s toolkit for her clients, with more classes in the works. This isn’t even just a tool for someone practicing to be a better Dom, she explained. This practice could help people be more assertive in their regular life or jobs.
“We are socialized not to be direct, especially women,” she said. “But with ChatGPT, you have to be direct to get what you want.”
