EXCLUSIVE: Mistress Valentina is a dominatrix and doesn’t mind the world knowing it. Although, that doesn’t mean that dating and friendships are easy to manage
Source: Dailystar.co.uk.
UK – A dominatrix admitted that dating is difficult as men are ‘jealous’ of her kinky job.
Mistress Valentina, who is in her 20s, took the total plunge into the sex industry after she turned to flogging naughty snaps while she was battling cancer. Now back to full health, the Brighton-based kink-enthusiast has cemented her place in the world of fetish and beyond with her unique services – like Locktober.
Despite earning an average of £8,000 a month from degrading men, Valentina doesn’t have the easiest time when it comes to relations outside of work. She finds that people only see a job, and not who she is as a person away from the whips, chains and chastity cages.
Valentina says she’s upfront about her job, but that does not prevent men and even potential friends of all genders to be driven away. In an exclusive interview with Daily Star, Valentina revealed the highs and lows behind the BDSM mask of a dominatrix.
“It’s very difficult to hold down a relationship when you do this job,” Valentina candidly admitted. “There can be a lot of jealousy, it definitely takes a very strong man to be able to be with someone in my line of work.
“It’s really difficult dating, a lot of men find it very intimidating what I do and the level of independence that I have because obviously I don’t really need a man in any way.
“And they’re almost repelled by the idea that I don’t need them which is really weird.”
The dominatrix is not ashamed of her job, although it’s a ‘repellent’ for others. She’s been told she should ‘tone’ her persona and even stay schtum about what she does.
But, Valentina is a dominatrix loud and proud – she’s not changing for anyone.
She continued: “I’m very upfront with everyone I meet about my job because at the end of the day, if somebody has an issue about it then I don’t want to be around them.
“If anyone that I’m friends with and starts to go into opinions on they don’t like my job – my job is part of me. But I’m more than my job, it’s just a job and I’m proud of what I do.
“I don’t have any tolerance for people that tell me to ‘tone it down’ or tell me to be quieter about it. It’s not like I scream about it all the time but I will be upfront because actually a lot of people don’t want to be around someone like me.
“Even though I’m a person, and it’s just a job.”
