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Kinky rescuer invites a ‘whole city’ to bondage party with his team’s Facebook

Source: Metro.co.uk.

ICELAND – A kinky rescuer accidentally invited a ‘whole city’ in Iceland to a bondage party through his rescue team’s official Facebook account. While most people found it funny, others called for Magnús Örn Hákonarson to get sacked after he sent out the invitation to a BDSM event in Kópavogur from Landsbjargar’s Accident Investigation Company’s page. Magnús told local newspaper Vísir: ‘Who has not sent a message or snap to the wrong person? This just happened on the wrong page.’

BDSM is a combined acronym often used as a catchall for anything in the kink scene, including bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism. The invitation included information about safe words, and listed the dress code as fetish or alternative, which includes leather masks and whips.

Member of the BDSM Society were offered tickets for 1,000 ISK, (£7.20) while non-members had to splash out 3,000 ISK (£21.60) to enter the dungeon. The post was up for just a few minutes before Magnús realised what he had done. And the team’s board of directors said it was an honest mistake.

They said in a statement: ‘There are many people with different backgrounds and interests within the volunteer group. ‘People are engaged in all kinds of sports and hobbies and the rescue team’s board of directors will not distinguish these interests, as long as they are legal.’ Magnús said he received many offers of Facebook training after the awkward incident. And he has promised to be more careful with social media in the future.

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I Am A Barista By Day & A BDSM Teacher By Night

Source: Refinery29.com

To the people who come through the coffee shop where she works every day, Africa is simply a barista. But to the BDSM community members who frequent the dungeon where she works every night, she’s Envy Adams, a “dom/sub/switchy sado-masochist” and all-around “kinky girl.”

In her dungeon life, Africa is able to play with gender identity and power dynamics. She feels masculine and dominant in her everyday life, but is able to be more feminine and shy or submissive when she’s negotiating a BDSM scene with one of her play partners. “In my normal day, I’m wearing joggers and a button up and my backwards hats. And now I’m shopping for latex skirts and nipple tassels,” she says. In a new video for Refinery29, we see Africa make the transition from masculine barista to hyper-feminine BDSM dungeon worker. As she shops for a wig and outfit for her alter ego, she explains how the BDSM community allows her to explore her sexuality and gender identity, and why consent is so essential for BDSM play.

To the people who come through the coffee shop where she works every day, Africa is simply a barista. But to the BDSM community members who frequent the dungeon where she works every night, she’s Envy Adams, a “dom/sub/switchy sado-masochist” and all-around “kinky girl.”

In her dungeon life, Africa is able to play with gender identity and power dynamics. She feels masculine and dominant in her everyday life, but is able to be more feminine and shy or submissive when she’s negotiating a BDSM scene with one of her play partners. “In my normal day, I’m wearing joggers and a button up and my backwards hats. And now I’m shopping for latex skirts and nipple tassels,” she says. In a new video for Refinery29, we see Africa make the transition from masculine barista to hyper-feminine BDSM dungeon worker. As she shops for a wig and outfit for her alter ego, she explains how the BDSM community allows her to explore her sexuality and gender identity, and why consent is so essential for BDSM play.

“There is no sex involved, it’s just all play,” Africa explains about the dungeons. The fact that BDSM doesn’t always involve sex — which Africa defines as touching genitals — is only the first stereotype she breaks. She also shatters the idea that the BDSM community doesn’t really care about consent, given that the whole point is intentionally inflicting pain. In reality, people who practice BDSM are often way more skilled at asking for consent throughout an intimate experience than are people who don’t have kinky sex. “[BDSM is] a very consensual community. It’s an understanding, non-judgmental community,” Africa says. “Gender and sexuality is not a big, important issue there. It’s all about how you treat the person, and your consenting and negotiating of the scene that you’re going to partake in.”

Without ongoing consent, Africa wouldn’t be hitting her play partners, or tying them up, or doing anything else with them. It’s also very important to her that there’s never alcohol involved in any of her BDSM scenes, because alcohol blurs lines of consent. “Being sober during a scene is super critical,” she says. “You don’t want to negotiate anything under the influence.”

So while it may seem to non-kinky folks that BDSM is a free-for-all, do-whatever-you-want kind of sexual experience, that couldn’t be further from the truth. As Mistress Yin, a BDSM dominatrix, told Refinery29 previously: “Even if you’re saying ‘Yes, I want to be placed into bondage,’ it does not mean that you’re saying yes to all the different things that could happen to you while you’re in bondage. There has to be so much really honest communication with your partner.”

Man jailed for raping woman after mistaking protests as part of bondage play

Source: Metro.co.uk

UK – A man has been jailed for three-and-a-half years for raping a women after claiming he mistook her protests as part of an interest in bondage. Jordan Eite, 23, met his victim online and was invited to her flat where she told him she had a bondage fetish. The woman, who cannot be named for legal reasons, ‘kissed and cuddled’ with Eite before he stripped to his boxer shorts with the intention of staying the night, a court heard.

He said they kissed some more in the room where there was a whip and a riding crop and pulled on her hair ‘which she seemed to enjoy’, Prosecutor Tom Walkling told Warwick Crown Court. During the attack in early 2016, Eite claimed his victim ‘touched him under his clothing’, which caused him ‘to take things further’, the prosecutor said.

Despite his victim saying no to sex ‘on a number of occasions’ while they were together, Eite ignored her, claiming that he thought she was saying no as part of ‘fetish foreplay’, Mr Walkling added. The pair had not agreed a ‘safe word’, the court was told. Eite, from Rugby, initially denied raping the woman but changed his plea to guilty on the first day of his trial on Wednesday. He was jailed for three-and-a-half years and ordered to register as a sex offender for life.

Sentencing, Deputy Judge Richard Griffith-Jones said: ‘At the time, you were 20, and you were a naive young man, and you formed a friendship with the complainant on social media. ‘She – as she’s quite entitled to do – enjoyed a flirtation with you which involved a sharing by her of intimate desires and characteristics she had with regard to sexual pleasure.

‘It is one thing for someone to agree to what is, in effect, theatre to accentuate sexual pleasure, with all the safeguards that are necessary. ‘It is another for there to be no agreed theatre, but over-excitement on your part, and for that to overbear the fact that there is a right for someone to say no to sexual intercourse. ‘There was accepted intimacy short of intercourse, but it remains an obvious right for someone to say no. ‘She said that to you on a number of occasions, and you ignored that and, frankly, helped yourself. ‘This is a very sad situation in which there are no winners.’

The court was told that after he had finished, Eite got dressed and when he went to leave, the victim kissed him goodbye. She later sent him a message asking if he had got home safely, followed by another saying she just wanted to be friends. Graeme Simpson, defending, argued that because of the unusual circumstances, the rape was ‘at the lowest level under the sentencing guidelines’, which the judge agreed. Mr Simpson said there was a delay of about a year before Eite was charged and he had now trained in bar management and had a stable relationship with a girlfriend who was standing by him.

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Madonna’s birthday ‘golden shower’: Amber Rose post of kinky Sex picture branded ‘disgusting’
The actress also shared a heartfelt birthday message for the Queen of Pop, which was largely ignored by fans.

Source: Ibtimes.co.uk.

UK – Nothing Amber Rose does stays quiet as she has proven one more time with her latest Instagram post in which she wished a happy birthday to Madonna who turned 59 on 16 August. The image she shared for the event has irked many on social media who found it sexually provocative.

“Happy Birthday to this Feminist icon, Philanthropist, Trendsetter, Musical Maven and Mother @madonna after all of these years you continue to push boundaries and deal with scrutiny with an IDGAF attitude and you’ve inspired me to do the same. Thank you for being you and letting us women know we can be mothers, daughters, smart as hell and reach for the stars all while being confident in our sexuality,” the 33-year-old model wrote on the image sharing website.

This isn’t the first time that the picture has caused a stir, as it is taken from from Madonna’s 1992 coffee table book titled Sex, in which Madonna set out to demystify sexuality and combat taboo, much to the dismay of conservatives and anti-porn feminists.

The image depicts Madonna standing over a water fountain while another model drinks from its spout. The pair, dressed in BDSM-style outfits, appear to be alluding to the sadomasochistic sexual act known as a golden shower, where one partner urinates on the other.

25 years later, the image has proven just as provocative as fans ignored the heartfelt birthday message and slammed the image as “nasty” and “disgusting”.

“Thought she was peeing in her mouth for a second,” one fan commented. “Is a girl drinking Madonna’s pee,” speculated another.

A diehard fan of Madonna jumped in to clarify the golden shower confusion. “Y’all she not drinking pee. Madonna is standing over a water fountain and the lady is drinking it! Damn y’all act dumb,” the Instagram user explained.

Rose is a self-proclaimed feminist but on multiple occasions she has received backlash for baring her body in the name of feminism. Many of her followers advised her to motivate young women in a “positive way”.

“How is this symbolic for feminism?” one asked.

“Come on Amber Rose grow up you are a mother do something positive in your life,” another commented.

“Being a Dominatrix/Nymphomaniac does not & I repeat does not Represent being a Feminist,” added another.

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Shackles off North Toledo sex club

Space for consensual adult activity reopens despite potential zoning violations

Source: Toledoblade.com.

USA -TOLEDO – A private club in North Toledo that offers space for bondage and other forms of sexual activity reopened despite potentially violating Toledo’s zoning code, city officials said Monday.

Tom Gibbons, city plan commission director, inspected the Body Shop nightclub, 5661 Telegraph Rd., on Friday before its reopening event the next night. He took photos, obtained by The Blade, of furniture and other items inside the club.

The venue was most recently called Club 5661 and previously it was the site of Lorain’s Private Studios.

A message on the club’s website read “Body Shop Toledo is excited to reopen as a private [Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism] centric lifestyle club. All activity oriented events cater to those who want to explore bondage fantasies and role play to those dedicated to BDSM full time.”

Toledo Law Director Adam Loukx said that kind of club is not illegal, but the city’s zoning code states a sexually oriented business is not permitted to open within 1,000 feet of another such business. Scarlett’s gentleman’s club is close enough to prohibit sexual activity at the location, he said.

Officials said patrons would have to be caught with their pants down before the owners could be cited.

“It looked like a private club,” Mr. Gibbons said. “There is a dance floor and bar.”

The establishment, when it was called Club 5661, posted pictures online of beds, a multiperson shower, and a St. Andrew’s Cross — an x-shaped cross used for restraining people.

“I took pictures and shared them with the law department,” Mr. Gibbons said. “Until someone witnesses them doing something, you can’t do anything.”

Mr. Loukx said the city “would have to have some eye-witness” accounts before it could act.

“We are very interested in making sure no violations are occurring,” he said.

The city conducted a building code inspection when new ownership took over recently.

Toledo Councilman Lindsay Webb previously said the Toledo Police Department is closely monitoring the establishment.

According to its website, Body Shop has 10 locations in Ohio, Michigan, and Pennsylvania, including one in Findlay. The owners did not respond to a request for comment.

Saturday’s Fet-life Night advertising stated attendees could engage in impact play (whipping, spanking, and paddling), electrical stimulation, sensory play with candle wax and ice, sensory deprivation, bondage, and suspension. Body Shop does not serve alcohol, and rules state “all participants only participate in scenes that are safe, sane, and consensual.”

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Murder victim inadvertently filmed his own death during bondage sex game

For nearly two years his death was put down to an accident, until his family discovered footage on his computer hard drive

Source: Independent.co.uk.

UK – A computer repairman inadvertently filmed his own horrific murder in a bondage sex session at the hands of a fake policeman, a court has heard.

Jurors at the Old Bailey watched footage of Peter Fasoli begging for his life as he was allegedly attacked by fantasist Jason Marshall, as Wagner and Mendelssohn played on Classic FM in the background.

Mr Fasoli, 58, was tied up, gagged and smothered with cling film after Marshall tricked his way into his home in January 2013, the court heard.

Afterwards, Marshall, 28, set fire to the victim’s one-bedroom bungalow in Northolt, west London, to cover up the killing, jurors were told.

For nearly two years, Mr Fasoli’s death was put down to an accident until his family discovered footage on his computer hard drive.

His nephew Christopher Murgatroyd examined his fire-damaged computer out of curiosity in November 2014.

Expecting to find research on his family tree, Mr Murgatroyd was horrified to find himself watching his uncle’s violent death, jurors heard.

Prosecutor Edward Brown QC warned jurors the attack was “as shocking as it was determined” before playing extracts of the video which went on for six hours.

The defendant first got in contact with Mr Fasoli through gay social networking site Badoo in December 2012 and offered to set up a threesome, the Old Bailey heard.

Marshall arrived at the victim’s home at around 7pm on January 6 purporting to be a law enforcement officer kitted out with a police utility belt, handcuffs and a pistol holster, the court heard.

During sexual role play, Marshall stripped the victim and arrested him for “being a spy” and hacking into a Government laptop, the court heard.

The footage showed Mr Fasoli become visibly distressed as he was gagged and bound on his bed.

He was threatened with a large hunting knife and forced to hand over his cash card pin numbers, the court heard.

Marshall muttered “suspect detained” after injecting him with a drug to “put you to sleep while I go to the cash machine”, jurors heard.

The victim then screamed that he could not breathe and began to “squeal” as Marshall clamped his hand over his nose and put his arm around his neck, the court was told.

The pair struggled together on the bed and Mr Fasoli shouted out “No, no, please!” when Marshall produced a roll of cling film and wrapped it around his face.

Marshall, who was shown in the video wearing latex gloves, then held a plastic bag over Mr Fasoli’s head for a minute and 42 seconds, jurors were told.

Afterwards, the defendant spoke into his radio saying: “Oscar one, from papa four, ready for transport, over,” jurors heard.

Later, the victim could be heard gurgling as Marshall checked for a pulse and spoke into his radio, allegedly saying: “Urgent ambulance required at my GPS location… yeah that’s lack of oxygen and can I get them with a crash trolley please.”

Mr Brown said: “Obviously there was no real radio connected to anyone, let alone an ambulance.

“There is an ominous determination and seriousness in the way the defendant is carrying out the task, as he sees it. There is no emotion, no panic, no regret.”

As Mr Fasoli lay dying on the floor, Marshall allegedly stood and “calmly” lit a cigarette then made the sign of the cross and recited a blessing for the departed in Latin – Patris et Filii et Spiritus Sancti – and the word resurrection.

When the visual flickered off, the audio continued as the defendant tidied up, jurors heard.

At 12.41am, the sound of a cigarette lighter being flicked could be heard before footsteps leaving the flat.

The crackle of flames taking hold and a fire alarm were also caught just before the recording ended.

After he fled the scene, Marshall sent a “calculated and cynical” message to Mr Fasoli on the Badoo chat line apologising for not seeing him the night before.

He allegedly withdrew £400 in cash from the victim’s bank and used his card to buy a flight to Rome.

A post-mortem examination initially gave the cause of Mr Fasoli’s death as inhalation of fire fumes.

A re-examination found he was still alive when the fire was set but restraint and asphyxia also contributed to his death, Mr Brown said.

Marshall, of East Ham, east London, denies murder. The trial was adjourned until Tuesday.

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Sex work gave me confidence says 25-stone dominatrix who earned big money sitting on men eating PIZZA
Miranda Kane, 36, of Finchley, London, worked as a big beautiful woman (BBW) escort in London for seven years – using the name Melody

Source: Mirror.co.uk.

UK-LONDON – A 25-stone comedienne is spilling steamy secrets about her former life as a dominatrix – revealing how she could earn several hundreds of pounds by sitting on men while eating pizza.

Miranda Kane, 36, of Finchley, London, worked as a big beautiful woman (BBW) escort in London for seven years.

Using the name Melody, she would charge up to £2,000 for a night in a rented flat, also in London, where she’d make the fantasies of men aged 18 to 80 come true.

Some of their kinks included being spanked with wooden spoons, or popping balloons with different body parts.

“The things you can do with inanimate objects baffles me,” said Miranda, who is originally from Dorset.

“A lot of the time I think, ‘How do you find this a turn on?’”

Miranda became a sex worker at 23, after her dream career in stand-up comedy failed to materialise.

Before this, she had quit her miserable job in telesales and started working part-time in Ann Summers, the saucy underwear and sex toys shop.

She was also going on dates with men she met through Yahoo! chatrooms and OkCupid online dating site.

At first, she said she was surprised by the amount of male attention she received, as she was used to being overlooked because of her size.

“I was the biggest girl in my village, and people always said I had a nice face or lovely personality,” she recalled.

“But suddenly there were guys who liked me because of my body.”

Many of the men Miranda met up with were simply after no strings attached sex.

Feeling used when they failed to ask her out on a proper dinner date, she began to wonder if she could charge them for the pleasure of her company.

“At least then they’d be upfront about their intentions,” she said.

After trawling the internet for a BBW escorts website, she uploaded her picture and phone number to one.

She assumed nothing would come of it but, within half an hour, she had been contacted by a man staying in a posh hotel on Park Lane.

That evening, she earned £300 by spending an hour with him.

She didn’t sleep with him, and said she felt great afterwards, and that it’d been more like a date.

“I invested that £300 in lacy knickers and stockings as I’d gone to my first assignment in socks and commando, without pants, as it was a laundry day,” she said.

In time, Miranda realised there was more popularity in dominatrix work, so began to move into that.

She continued: “I started off escorting and I didn’t know much about dominating.

“But lots of guys would tell me they wanted to be dominated and they didn’t know how, so it was a natural progression.

“One man’s pain is definitely another man’s pleasure.

“They’re probably getting sex and the girlfriend experience at home, so are coming to me for something more kinky.”

By the time she had reached 30, the number of BBW sex workers in London had skyrocketed.

No longer interested in competing for business, Miranda turned her attention to comedy.

Finding that people were fascinated – and amused – by her tales of her life as an escort, she was inspired to take to the stage to help humanise sex work.

She said: “Before, I wasn’t comfortable with the way I looked and I had lost confidence in myself.

“Sex work gave me confidence in what I looked like and gave me something to say.

“I signed up for a six-week course and entered the Camden Fringe.”

Since then, Miranda hasn’t looked back.

Now, she shocks and delights audiences with her wacky tales of her former life.

The show, billed ‘The Coin Operated Girl,’ has toured Edinburgh festival four times.

She is also releasing an audio sitcom called ‘Slaving Away’- a fictionalised comedy of her experiences, which she was inspired to write after becoming frustrated at unrealistic portrayals of sex workers in mainstream media.

She said: “Sex workers are always shown as people addicted to drugs, people who are being trafficked or as being like Billie Piper’s part in the TV show adaptation of Belle Du Jour.

“She never had any friends, was chasing after one guy and lived in a mansion block on the South Bank.

“There was no scene of her getting drunk with her friends at a Wetherspoon’s on a Friday night – which is what my life was like.”

Link: Mirandakane.co.uk.

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This cruise ship is just one massive sex party

Source: NYpost.com.

USA – Open-minded folks will get the chance to enjoy a life on the ocean waves on board the world’s most outrageous sex cruise.

The X-rated trip — dubbed “The Naughty Cruise” — will see hundreds of couples from all over the world leave their inhibitions on land for four days of non-stop adult fun.

The devilish vacation sets off from the “City of Angels” on October 3 before arriving back in LA on Oct. 7.

Unlike a “normal” cruise there is no afternoon bingo, no kids’ room and definitely no formal black tie dinner with the captain.

In fact, the dress regulations are simple — the kinkier, the better.

The raunchy cruises are organized by kinky husband and wife couple Bob and Tess Hannaford.

They’re the same people who launched the hugely popular Naughty in N’awlins trip in 1999.

The 2,000-passenger LA cruise first set sail in 2004 and is more popular than ever.

Organized by Couples Cruise, it features outrageous on-deck fancy dress parties, naked body paint, kinky sex instruments and 24-hour nudity.

Bob, the president of Couples Cruise, said: “There is a lot of sex on our ships.”

“Our cruises get people excited and couples tell me all the time how our Couples Cruises have rekindled their passion and that they had more sex on our cruise with their partner than they have had in months.”

“We certainly do get swingers on board and many of them are looking for other potential partners.”

Besides plenty of kinky playrooms, the ships also has dungeons, dark rooms, rooms for the ladies and an ever changing lineup of themed rooms for those looking for something different.

Ever since the book series “50 Shades of Grey” hit the stores, the dungeons have seen more action than ever before.

Bob said: “We picked some great dungeon masters and monitors that not only teach informative classes and perform erotic demonstrations, but they oversee the play at night to make sure everything is safe, sane and consensual.”

The boat — which heads to Ensenada in Mexico then back to LA – also has a tantra center where couples can learn about the art of sensual touch.

There are massage classes and even “group sessions” which allow the more amorous couples to explore their boundaries and have fun with others.

Link:
Website: Theswingercruise.com.

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