IRELAND – DUBLIN – The sex educator, who owns her own tech firm and works with Forbes 100 listed multinationals, spent five years working on kinkify.ie which she plans to launch in March.
A Dublin Dominatrix has revealed her plans to launch a global kink website on a scale to rival Amazon and eBay.
Clarity Mills, 38, has hundreds of vendors lined up for the platform which will specialise in “play events” and “bespoke kink supplies”.
The sex educator, who owns her own tech firm and works with Forbes 100 listed multinationals, spent five years working on kinkify.ie which she plans to launch in March.
She told the Irish Sunday Mirror: “It’s a multi-vendor platform like eBay or Amazon.
“I already have 750 vendors lined up. I’m certainly expecting €2.5million to €3million of sales on the platform in the first 18 months.
“We will be focusing on events, selling event tickets, educational content and bespoke kink supplies.”
Clarity and her husband are both swingers and polyamorous and she trained for three years in Los Angeles for her work as a dominatrix.
She plans to scale back her IT consultancy work so she can concentrate more on the website which will sell a huge range of latex gear, corsets, whips and sex toys.
She said: “We have a sex positivity conference in October with three to four thousand people coming over for it.
“The kink industry is workth EUR25billion a year… of that about 90 per cent is owned by the larger multi vendors. I’m a tech geek at heart, I just thought if you took all the sex sites and shops and added them together…
“I built the platform to do the same thing as eBay. All of the people who work with me are kinksters, we only sell kink paraphernalia.
“So instead of products mass produced in Asia, a lot of them are bespoke.”
Kinkify will provide a global marketplace for sex toys, adult toys, bondage and fetish gear and other “kinky items”.
Clarity, whose top secret client list includes some of Ireland’s top professionals and sports people, said she set up her own retail company to “take the BS out of BDSM”.
She promised: “No jacked up prices, no sh*tty sales gimmicks, just connecting kinksters with the products, services, information and community events that can aid them along their pervy paths.”
The platform will facilitate the advertising and sale of tickets for play events and sex parties where in Ireland “venue is always a problem”.
Rules state that if you host an event in a pub you cannot have sex or nudity – but in a private residence anything goes for legally consenting adults.
Clarity, an advocate of “worship type” play such as spanking, whipping and chaining, revealed: “Even after the Virgin Media show I still struggled to find a venue for play events.
“Education and exposure is really what is needed in Ireland right now.
“Feedback to the show was largely positive and the biggest question was how to get involved.
“But there were a few people in the industry who were worried about being outed, so we have a ways to go.”
Clarity has been working with a team of investors and IT contractors for almost five years and is confident kinkify. ie will attract a global audience.
She said: “This is the fruit of me living in the tech industry for two decades.
“Between the consultancy, dominatrix work and the website I am crazy busy, but you sleep when you’re dead, right?”
USA – The big favorite for the final victory at the Australian Open 2023 is obviously Novak Djokovic, who absolutely wants to win his tenth title at Melbourne Park, after the iussue that happened last season. The Serbian champion wants to take his revenge after last year’s events, which had led to his sensational expulsion from the country.
If he were to reach double figures at the Slam Down Under, the 35-year-old from Belgrade would hook his eternal rival Rafael Nadal at 22 Grand Slams titles. Nole had a lot of problems last season due to his choice not to get vaccinated against Covid-19, but he still managed to win his seventh Wimbledon.
Djokovic started the new year by triumphing in the ATP 250 in Adelaide, moreover after canceling a match point from Sebastian Korda in the final. Nole complained of a minor problem with his left hamstring but didn’t seem concerned in pre-Australian Open interviews.
Onlyfans dominatrix spicy message for Novak Djokovic
Meanwhile, just a year after Novak’s ban at the Australian Open 2022, we recall a very spicy and funny story about last season quarantine of the Serb. As reported by the Daily Star, a dominatrix who bragged about her visit from a Manchester City player would have extended an invitation to Novak Djokovic during the Serb’s quarantine in Australia.
Mistress Estee extended an offer to the Serbian champion to spend his quarantine period with her in England instead of alone in Dubai. That time, The Serbian champion landed in Dubai after being deported from Australia, where he had his visa cancelled.
The 19-year-old sent the 20-time Grand Slam winner a teasing message telling him to enter the Estee Open: “Novak Djokovic can spend time incarcerated with me instead as he awaits his deportation appeal. Novak Djokovic. You can quarantine with me instead!” Estee, who has built a huge following on social media and OnlyFans.
USA – Kevin Gates has been an open book about his sexual proclivity over the years and now he’s admitting that he enjoys when his partner urinates in his mouth.
On Jan. 7, Kevin Gates was a guest on the Fancy Talk Showpodcast. During the sexually-charged convo, the Louisiana rapper opened up about being a fan of a good ol’ golden shower to the grill.
“I love for a woman to piss in my mouth. That’s beautiful,” Gates admitted when questioned about the topic.
“I done had a woman pee in a cup while we was driving and I drunk it right there,” he added. “I was so infatuated with this woman, to where it was just nothing about her that was nasty. And she super clean. She like me, she drink nothing but water. So, her piss ain’t got no taste.”
USA – WARNING DISTRESSING CONTENT: Taylor Denise Schabusiness, 25, from Wisconsin, US, is set to plea not guilty by reason of insanity to allegedly killing Shad Thyrion, 25, in February 2022 during their bondage sex game
Police said: “Schabusiness made the comment that at one point, she did get paranoid and lazy and that she thought it was the ‘dope’ that was making her paranoid.”
Schabusiness has undergone two competency evaluations and led to Judge Thomas Walsh ruling in May that she is competent to stand trial.
However, her lawyer Quinn Jolly disagreed and believes her client is not fit to stand.
She said: “She’s been psychiatrically hospitalised multiple times, she’s been diagnosed with bipolar and psychotic. This may have been one of her better days, however, I’m very surprised at the result of this report.”
But despite this Matthew Seipel, a psychological expert appointed by the court, believes Schabusiness is fit to stand trial.
He said: “I reached the opinion to a reasonable degree of professional certainty that the defendant is competent to proceed in this case.”
Schabusiness remains behind bars with a $2million (£1.6million) bond.
Bryant Scott Demelo, who was the last known person to have contact with the victim, was arrested Tuesday on a manslaughter charge.
According to the Osceola County Sheriff’s Office, deputies were called to an address in Kissimmee on Sept. 5 in regards to a suspicious death.
Deputies arrived at the scene to find a man dead, who was wearing bondage gear and appeared to have trauma to his body.
After identifying Demelo as the last person to have contact with the victim, deputies said Demelo told them he had a sexual encounter with the victim prior to his death.
According to authorities, Demelo claimed that he and the victim met on an online chat group for sexual encounters and arranged to meet in person.
Demelo claimed that the victim was performing oral sex on him and bit down on his penis, which led to Demelo beating the victim unconscious, authorities said.
Demelo then fled the scene without calling 911 or trying to help the victim, deputies said.
The Medical Examiner’s Office determined that the victim’s death was caused by blunt force trauma and strangulation.
An arrest warrant for manslaughter was later obtained for Demelo, and he was taken into custody last Tuesday in Seminole County.
Demelo will be transferred to Osceola County to face the manslaughter charge.
Authorities said he was found with methamphetamine at the time of his arrest and will also be charged with drug possession.
The Daily Star has taken a look back at Prince Harry’s wildest raunchy nights after he revealed in his upcoming memoir Spare that he lost his virginity to an older woman in a field
USA/UK – One major raunchy sex story from Prince Harry‘s youth has emerged since his upcoming memoir, Spare, was leaked in Spanish yesterday (Thursday, January 5).
However, the Duke of Sussex has allegedly been involved in a string of other racy affairs which he hasn’t managed to keep under wraps for his book.
From a behind-the-pub spanking to a night with a dominatrix, here the Daily Star takes a look at Harry’s risqué history…
Two models in one night
In 2004, the Sunday People revealed that Harry shocked clubgoers in the VIP room at London’s Chinawhite after he was allegedly spotted kissing and cuddling two models.
The publication wrote: “Moments after snogging Page 3 girl Lauren Pope, he was knocking back powerful Sex On The Beach cocktails with busty Cassie Sumner.”
Cassie, who the 19-year-old prince reportedly invited to his private table, said that he nuzzled her earlobes, ran his fingers through her hair and invited her to continue the party elsewhere.
“He was undressing me with his eyes,” the model, who is now married to Portuguese footballer Jose Fonte, said.
“I knew he’d been snogging Lauren earlier in the night but after she left he just homed in on me.
“He seemed fascinated with my breasts, because he spent more time looking at them than he did my face when we talked.”
Snogging a dominatrix
Former dominatrix and stripper Carrie Reichert, who goes by Carrie Royale, claimed she saw Harry’s crown jewels at a Las Vegas party in 2012.
The young prince was allegedly playing a game of strip pool when Cassie arrived.
“He definitely has a royal body. I know that he’s had military training, and that’s hot to me,” she told In Touch.
Carrie claimed she entered a bedroom while trying to find the bathroom, only to emerge and find Harry standing there starkers and holding a drink.
She said the pair engaged in a “passionate” makeout session for around 20 minutes, in full view of other partygoers.
“He’s a good kisser,” Carrie said. “His hands were everywhere. His mouth was everywhere. It was a Cinderella moment.”
Kensington Palace said that Carrie’s story was “untrue”.
Last year, when auctioning off pants she claimed Harry handed her during the night of passion, Carrie’s representative said: “Harry has become such a bore, it’s a real shame.
“When he partied in Vegas, everyone loved him and his sense of fun. At least these pants are a reminder of what he used to be like… when Harry was the fun prince.
“It’s a shame he’s all po-faced and serious these days. Even as a married dad-of-two, he should still let his hair down now and again – what’s left of it anyway.”
Reality TV star fling
British-born Catherine Ommanney, who stars on US Bravo reality series The Real Housewives of DC, claimed she enjoyed a month-long fling with a 21-year-old Harry when she was a 34-year-old mum-of-two.
Now 51, the divorcee spoke to The Sun in November, assume that her former toyboy wouldn’t write about their romance in Spare.
She claimed she had “the time of her life” with Harry, explaining how they would act like teenagers and kiss passionately during dates.
Sharing the details of one night at a friend’s house, Catherine said: “Harry and I went to the kitchen and he made a great bacon sandwich. We sat in the kitchen chatting for ages and we both had the giggles.
“We started play fighting and I think we were wrestling on and off for about 15 minutes when I told him I needed to go home.
“It was then that he lifted me by my waist off the floor and held me against the wall. He gave me the most incredible, passionate kiss I have ever had in my life. I was absolutely speechless.”
Sneaking rockstar into Clarence House
Norwegian singer Camilla Romestrand, who fronts band Eddie The Gun, reportedly told pals that Harry sneaked her back into Clarence House during a romantic night in 2010.
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“She’s confided to a few people about her friendship with Harry. She talks about staying overnight at ‘the Palace.’ She says he was a ‘total gentleman’ but doesn’t divulge much else,” a source told the News of the World at the time.
Another celebrity Harry has been associated with is the late Caroline Flack after the pair were reportedly introduced in 2009.
The TV presenter is said to have given him the nickname “Jam”, but the romance came to an end when news of it broke.
She wrote in her autobiography: “Once the story got out, that was it.
“We had to stop seeing each other. I was no longer Caroline Flack, TV presenter, I was Caroline Flack, Prince Harry’s bit of rough.”
Losing virginity to ‘spanking’ cougar
Evidently a fan of an older woman in his youth, Harry reveals in Spare that he lost his virginity to one – in a field behind a “very busy pub”.
He says that a royal protection officer visited him in 2001 while he was still a student at Eton, supposedly to “find out the truth”.
He writes: “I suspected he was referring to my recent loss of virginity, a humiliating episode with an older woman who liked macho horses and who treated me like a young stallion.
“I mounted her quickly, after which she spanked my a** and sent me away. One of my many mistakes was letting it happen in a field, just behind a very busy pub. No doubt someone had seen us.”
The real reason for the check-up was that King Charles’ press office had been informed a newspaper had evidence of Harry taking drugs.
Instead, the 47-year-old will be getting her rope, feathers and vibrators ready as a number of curious men swing by to experience a steamy session with a dominatrix.
Sandy, who has previously spoken about her unique line of work on Metro.co.uk’s Smut Drop podcast, found herself focusing on fetish and sex work quite by chance – and is now looking to empower women entering the industry with her own mentoring scheme.
Here, she tells Metro.co.uk how she turned part-time webcam work into a six-figure dominatrix business…
‘I’d been a personal trainer for nearly 18 years, but when I came back to the UK three years ago following a stint living abroad, I couldn’t really find a job. A friend of mine suggested I could do some webcamming – performing sex acts on video and internet live streams.
To begin with, I genuinely didn’t even know what that was. I did some research found a platform to work from.
While I was scared to be starting from scratch at 44-years-old, I had no money and no job so I knew I had to go for it. Just one month later, I was bringing in a really decent wage just camming part time.
Within months people were asking whether I did dominatrix work, so I began thinking about whether I’d want to see clients face to face, and decided to invest in proper lessons at the London Dominatrix School in Marylebone, so I could learn how to be a dominatrix safely.
I paid £200 an hour for three or four lessons, which included corporate punishment and impact play, where you learn how to hit the body safely while still causing discomfort. I also learned shibari, which is the art of bondage tying, and then I learned some cock and ball torture. It was best to learn in a safe, controlled environment and be taught by a professional.
Transitioning from webcam to face-to-face bookings was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done.
One reason was because the fetish industry gets such a bad rap – people who don’t understand think it’s weird and disgusting.
And there was definitely fear going from just sitting on my bed and doing webcam to then being in front of someone in a new setting surrounded by equipment, offering a service they pay a lot of money for. But I was lucky that the people I learned from were industry gurus in their own right, and I picked things up quite quickly.
I charge £170 for an hour, or £250 for 90 minutes. The most common thing that clients ask for is ‘tie and tease’ – that’s usually restraining and blindfolding with some sensual play. I’m not considered an extreme dominatrix – a lot of people who come to me just want to try it out. I often combine the more traditional domme services with more sensual routines because a lot of clients are still uncertain and want to try it out.
Another popular service with clients is strap-on sex. Some men like anal sex and anal play, and may be scared to ask their wives. There’s that element of shame around it: men don’t ask because they don’t want to be seen as gay. But they’re not gay – they don’t want anal sex from a man, they want it from a hot woman. They want to see my boobs and my face and my body.
Some men just feel like they couldn’t ask their wife to put a strap-on on, because she’s the mother of their kids and they just don’t see her in that way.
As someone who has had kids, I do understand that your child becomes a priority.
Men are needier than we think they are, and they feel a bit neglected. Women can also lose confidence after having a baby, and that can be another turn off.
I’d say 80% of my clients are married or in relationships. I think some women would be horrified if they knew what some of their husbands are doing.
Some wouldn’t he able to handle their other half dressing up in another women’s underwear and receiving anal pleasure. It’s alien to vanilla relationships. It’s hugely frowned upon and unaccepted, and it’s something that stays under the radar a lot of the time.
Some clients have told me that seeing me is keeping their marriage going. I don’t know if their wives would quite see it that way. Although, some say their wives know that they come to me.
As a general rule, I don’t ask about their personal life, and I don’t tell them about mine. I keep the boundaries quite clear.
The age of my clients range from quite young to men in their mid seventies. As I’ve got an adult son myself, I don’t feel it’s right for me to go below a certain age. I draw the line at 28, but I have had boys as young as 21 try and book me.
I would say I’ve probably got five semi regular clients between the age of 65 and 75. I find elderly gentlemen tend to be a lot more respectful and polite. They’re my preferred client, if I’m honest.
You absolutely need friends in the industry when you’re doing this, as some days can get weird pretty quickly. I had an extreme submissive once that said he wanted me to put a plastic bag over his head and be suffocated.
I’ve had muscle worship sessions, where people really like muscly women and they like to be dominated in a headlock or I might arm wrestle them.
Once I did it to a client and he suddenly went limp. It was quite a hot day and he just fainted, so I snapped my fingers in his face and he quickly came round, saying he didn’t really realise what had happened. There’s definitely occasions where things don’t go to plan and it can completely throw you off your script.
I now want to start a mentoring women in this industry so I can help them have the same positive experience I’ve had.
My advice for anyone considering it is to not be frightened to say no. If you’re not comfortable doing something, don’t do it. And just enjoy it. The last three years have been crazy: I’ve built a six figure industry from being a dominatrix, and I want more women to feel empowered while doing it.’
USA – Do you remember Dua Lipa at the Grammy Awards? She was seen walking the red carpet wearing are-creation of a dress from Gianni Versace’s famous Miss S&M collection. It consisted of a black lace corset top, which was harnessed with several belts. That’s not all, around her neck, she wore layers and layers of gold chains that appeared to almost choke her.
The fashion and fetishism pairing has been around for a while. However, after the Met Gala and the VMAs ceremony, it became more prominent. The comeback is proven by the appearance of Kim Kardashian, wrapped from head to toe in a black cotton Balenciaga “T-shirt.”
In 1992, when Versace first showed its bondage-inspired look on the runway, “it sent the fashion crowd into orbit,” as Tim Blanks said in his video released at the time. People called the collection “aggressively sexual to sell.” Some like it and referred to it as “relevant”.
“While fetish is a fixation on a particular thing, fetish fashion extends that to an obsession over a type of clothing or accessory most likely provocative in nature. The sexual innuendo doesn’t necessarily mean it’s meant to attract, it is internal in the way that type of dressing makes you feel,” Celebrity Stylist Bharat Gupta told financialexpress.com.
Natasha Bothra added, “Fetish fashion is basically making a provocative statement with your outfit. Fetish is directly related to uniqueness and something out of the box, anything that is not worn usually. For example, leather chokers, harnesses, latex accessories and clothing, corsets, gladiator Footwear, etc.”
Anything that adds a sense of sexuality, kinkiness, quirkiness, and representation of freedom can be classified as fetish fashion. For a long time now, fashion has taken references and inspiration from the aesthetic and culture of BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism). In cinema, we’re now witnessing BDSM fashion in films like The Batman with Catwoman and her latex and leather costumes. Kardashian wore a latex gown and choker to the premiere of her new Hulu show. The Fifty Shades Of Gray franchise and brands like Savage x Fenty and music videos like Megan Thee Stallion’s “Body” — have also contributed to this.
Explaining why people are opting for Fetish Fashion, also known as BDSM fashion, Gupta said, “People have become freer in the way they express themselves through what they wear. People are open to experimenting with their fashion choices and voicing their inner provocation through fashion. An extension can also be a spillover of the pandemic of being bound by rules, this is a reaction to their need to let go.”
Bothra told us, “Who wouldn’t want to feel empowered? Who wouldn’t want to feel free? Or dominating? Designers, celebrities, influencers, and others are getting influenced by the addictive nature of power, persona, control, sensuousness, dominance, Goth and liberating nature fetish fashion engulfs you into.”
For Gupta, Fetish fashion is normal and he has incorporated it while styling celebrities. He said, “There are elements of fetish fashion that I’ve incorporated in certain styling opportunities in an understated way, even in personal styling I’ve used elements in what I wear.”
It is said that in the 1700s — corsets and skirts — were an early sign of fetish fashion, others claim that it appeared during the Second World War, in the UK’s gay community. However, it was not until the 1970s and the arrival of Vivienne Westwood that the fetish, her trademark, was recognized in fashion.
NEW ZEALAND – A gynaecologist who met a woman on a “sugar daddies” website, performed an STI test on her during a date while she was intoxicated, asked her to sign a contract consenting to bondage, and recorded himself performing sex acts on her at his clinic, has been suspended.
Hamilton doctor Naylin Appanna, who once moonlighted as a fetish ball organiser, also gave the woman a date rape drug for “pain”.
Appanna had his registration suspended for three months by the Medical Council after a Health Practitioners Disciplinary Tribunal [HPDT] found him guilty of professional misconduct.
The tribunal upheld the charges against Appanna that he inappropriately blurred the boundaries between his personal and professional lives and his practice, by using his position and expertise as a specialist in connection with his personal sexual practices.
The tribunal said he did this by providing health services to the young woman at the same time as having sexual encounters with her.
But the victim told the Herald she thought Appanna would be struck off and was shocked at the short length of the suspension.
The complainant, another woman who reported Appanna’s conduct on behalf of the victim, said a three-month suspension was a disappointing result after a three-year process and disproportionate to what she believed was “predatory behaviour”.
By contrast, Appanna – who had credentials to work in parts of Australia – was immediately suspended there over the same case, and despite attempts by him to appeal to the Supreme Court of Victoria, he remains suspended in Australia.
In a decision dated November 21, the New Zealand tribunal said Appanna’s conduct amounted to malpractice or negligence and he was suspended by the Medical Council of New Zealand on December 5.
The tribunal, which is separate from the Medical Council, decided the penalty after saying the conduct did not warrant cancellation of the doctor’s registration.
It ordered him to pay $74,296 in costs and said if he returns to practice he must undergo supervision for one year including undertaking a review of his prescribing practices and his understanding of boundaries and his position of power as a doctor.
The Herald asked Appanna whether he planned to return to practice but he declined to comment.
The first date and the STI test
In May 2019 Appanna met the victim, referred to as Ms J, on an app called “Seeking Arrangement”.
Ms J told the tribunal the app was an online platform where wealthy older men known as “sugar daddies” paid young women “sugar babies”, to meet and spend time with them. It did not always involve sex.
Appanna’s username on the app was “W_olf” and according to his profile he was looking for a “sub” to enter into a “dom-sub” relationship with him, where one partner is more dominant and powerful while the other partner submits.
On May 15, 2019, Appanna collected the 26-year-old from the bus stop near her home and they drove to a bar and restaurant.
During drinks at the restaurant Appanna, who is married, told Ms J he required everyone he had sexual contact with to have a sexually transmitted infection [STI] test.
He offered to pay for the test but said he was a gynaecologist and could do it now at his office if she wanted.
The purpose of the test, he told the Supreme Court of Victoria when trying to appeal his suspension in Australia, was to facilitate future unprotected sex.
“That said, it is not evident that he personally underwent such a test,” the Court said in its decision released in October last year.
Ms J, who had been drinking wine, agreed to the test and they drove to the Women’s Health Centre where Appanna’s name appeared in large letters on the building.
According to Appanna’s evidence to the Supreme Court, he says they went to his office in order to print a contract.
He told the Supreme Court he printed the contract and videoed Ms J “giving full consent to everything that she had agreed prior to us meeting”.
However, the New Zealand decision said Ms J never signed the contract, which contained all the rules that Appanna expected of a “sub”.
Alone at the office with Ms J, Appanna performed the STI test during which he “fingered” her in a sexual manner.
He then said he did not want to wait for the results and that they could always “take a pill” if she had any infections.
“Following that Dr Appanna tied Ms J to a chair next to the bed and then used vibrators on her for the purpose of achieving orgasm. He also performed oral sex on her.
He gave her $100 for food and took her home. On May 21 Appanna messaged Ms J to tell her the test result had come back clear. He never sent the results to her GP.
After the first encounter Appanna met Ms J on Wednesday nights at his office.
“While there they would have drinks and Dr Appanna would make videos of him using sex toys on her.”
Ms J once performed oral sex on him but they never had sexual intercourse.
Appanna would film their sexual activity on a camera mounted to a tripod in his office and at the beginning of each recording he would get Ms J to state that she consented to the sexual acts he was doing.
This included spanking her with different objects and using sex toys on her.
After filming, Appanna would put the video on his work computer and re-watch it.
The date rape drug and the ‘relationship’
The second date on May 22, 2019 involved sex toys and bondage, and was videoed. There was no more payment.
When Ms J complained of being sore, Appanna went to his medicine cupboard which contained Panadol, Ponstan, Tramadol and Midazolam.
He gave her 3.75mg of Midazolam, without a prescription, to make her pain “more tolerable”, he said, despite acknowledging Midazolam was not a pain reliever and that when giving it to Ms J he described it as a “date rape drug”, the Supreme Court decision said.
The Class C drug is a type of benzodiazepine and induces sleepiness. It was commonly used for sedation before medical procedures.
Ms J described Appanna’s comment as having been “a scary thing to say to someone” and said she was “weirded out” by it and only took half of the Midazolam tablet at the clinic and the other half when she got home.
Appanna later sought to justify the supply of Midazolam as akin to the treatment of a “person close to you” in an acute or emergency situation, the Supreme Court decision said.
“That said, ‘J’ subsequently left the premises together with the applicant in an Uber, not an ambulance,” the Court said.
On May 24 Appanna offered to refer Ms J to a pain specialist and obtained her permission to request her medical notes from Waikato Hospital.
In text messages with Ms J on the subject he wrote: “Anything for my new baby.”
They met again on May 26 at the Women’s Health Centre and afterward Appanna spoke with Ms J concerning her pain.
“He also says that he offered to refer her to a pain clinic on this occasion, which, he claims, was ‘exactly what is suggested in the guidelines’,” the Supreme Court said.
They met on two further occasions, on May 30 and June 5.
One of those times was at the health centre and the other appeared to have been at a restaurant and then a motel with another woman described by Appanna as his “partner”.
Allegations and investigations
In June 2019 Appanna went to Australia to do locum work in a rural town.
He sent Ms J a photograph of a patient taken after a forceps delivery while she was still on the operating table with her legs in stirrups.
He told the Supreme Court he took the photograph “with full permission of the patient” and that he told the patient it was being taken to “send to a partner to show her what I had been doing”.
On July 12 Ms J requested Appanna delete the videos of her. He declined, and offered to edit out the video so there was only audio left which Ms J was unhappy with.
In August 2019 Ms J went to the police about the videos. There was a suggestion – denied by Appanna – that he had threatened to release them.
Ms J told the Herald Appanna’s behaviour set off alarm bells and when he refused to delete the videos she “panicked” and turned to a trusted person for help.
She said she believed he would use the videos against her. Ms J sought help from the Midland Sexual Health Support Services and the Medical Council was notified.
No charges were laid by police however the Medical Council launched a professional conduct committee [PCC] investigation in October that year, culminating in the charges of professional misconduct against Appanna.
USA – FORT LAUDERDALE – Three dominatrices in head-to-toe gear asked the Fort Lauderdale City Commission for a $250K grant to build a dungeon – and, if their request is granted, offered to throw in a spanking for each commissioner.
The iron-clad proposal was offered up during the Fort Lauderdale City Commission meeting on Tuesday night.
The three women, each dressed in a form-fitting, bodice-hugging, black leather patent outfit, stiletto-heeled boots, and a helmet to match, marched in single file up to the open mic podium.
Their apparent leader, distinguished by a long blonde braid and visible mouth, proposed an alternative to a waste management contract in front of five city council members.
‘Good evening counsel peoples you may call me ‘Mistress,’ said the speaker whose dark red lips were her only body part not concealed – as the two other doms stood silently behind her.
‘I am here standing neutral to the motion approving an agreement for the proprietary purchase of yard waste processing and disposal. I do, however, find it interesting that you will spend almost 1 million dollars to hide your secrets down the drain – hiding that condom I know used to cheat on your spouse with.’
‘So, I propose that you use a quarter of that mill to support doms and subs in Broward County – to build a dungeon created for us by us – the taxpayers and voting citizens.’
She said in closing, ‘do not let this glamourous look distract you from doing your duty to take my demand. I look forward to spanking each and every single one of you at the new esteemed dungeon- you are dismissed.’
As the women walked away from the podium and headed to their seats, the roomful of meeting participants – mostly middle-aged men and women – appeared largely unfazed by the unusual proposition.
‘Okay, thank you,’ said one of the commissioners as he cleared his throat.
‘And, happy holidays to you,’ he said before he let out a chuckle. ‘Anyone else wish to speak?
Someone from the audience stood up and asked the city manager if there were are ‘any districts that have a dungeon?’
The manager replied, ‘Not that I know of.’
It is not clear what other topics were discussed at Tuesday night’s city council meeting, and if the trio’s request would be granted.
Many took to Twitter to express their thoughts about the memorable appearance, with some taxpayers showing their support for the idea.
‘Makes a lot more sense than most of the things done in Florida,’ one person wrote.
‘At the end of the day subs and doms are taxpayers too… better them then (sic) political grifters,’ another replied.
‘250k for a dungeon is not a bad deal,’ said another. ‘Real Estate is getting pricey.’
Nick Cameron suffered 14 blunt force head injuries and two stab wounds when he was attacked over 11 minutes in the parking garage of his Melbourne apartment on July 10 last year.
He had taken his fluffy white terrier, Misty, into the garage when a man, who had allegedly been laying in wait beside Mr Cameron’s rental car for seven hours, rushed at him armed with a knife and a hammer.
Neighbours heard Mr Cameron’s yells for help. Efforts were made to save him, but he was declared dead about 45 minutes after the attack began.
A man has been charged with murder and is due to face trial in the Victorian Supreme Court next year.
Bos was charged with murder within weeks after Mr Cameron’s death, but pleaded guilty in November this year to manslaughter on the basis that she was complicit in an agreement for him to be assaulted.
She met the alleged killer six weeks earlier on a fetish website, where she used the name “Hedonistic Siren” to meet “slaves”.
“I am above you in every single way possible,” her profile said.
She and Mr Cameron had a volatile and verbally abusive relationship, prosecutors told a pre-sentence hearing on Wednesday.
In messages Bos described Mr Cameron as hurting her in unique and nasty ways and asked if it was possible to get him to leave town and not come back.
Bos accepts responsibility for Mr Cameron’s death, her lawyer Rahmin de Krester said.
“She feels guilt and shame that he died because of her involvement with (another man),” he said.
Chris Cameron penned a poem about his relationship with his son, and described his skills as a footballer and a friend.
“By crikey, if your mateship was appreciated, a locked in warm-hearted friendship was given and it was lifelong,” he said of the 39-year-old.
Mr Cameron’s partner was expecting their first child when he died. She told the court that the second half of her pregnancy was surrounded by loss and even now with each milestone in their child’s life overshadowed by grief.
AUSTRALIA – MELBOURNE – Shibari, a Japanese form of rope bondage, is an art form growing in practice worldwide. By nature erotic, it is also so much more. The intricate use of rope is expressive and skilful, hosting the potential to induce euphoric and meditative states, as well as deep intimacy.
It is recommended to attend class with a learning buddy, and while I opted to bring my partner, I was assured that shibari can be shared with anyone you trust and seek a connection with.
Initially anxious, my worries dissipated as I entered the serene Japanese-inspired space – which smelt of incense and brewing tea – and met the kind instructors Ash Snare and Harley Okami.
Class began with a safety briefing, addressing the inherent risks associated with shibari to mitigate any chance of physical or psychological harm. We were advised on where not to tie on the body, the role of safety scissors in emergencies, and the critical role of ongoing consent and communication.
We then learned about foundational knots. In shibari, there are two roles: the Rigger (who ties) and the Bunny (who is tied). Despite personal preferences, we were encouraged to practice the knots on our own bodies first, to learn how it felt for others and to differentiate safe and unsafe techniques used by Riggers.
Learning the knots was quite cerebral and satisfying. While it was easy to become focused on perfecting the knot, Harley advised us to be present and “paint with the rope”, drawing it across our partner’s body with intention and sensation, treating the knots as an embodied experience rather than an end goal.
Harley encouraged Riggers to release their egos and focus on the needs of the Bunny and the mutual connection, and for Bunnies to relax into the experience. Harley demonstrated a chest and neck tie on a class model that she shared a long shibari history with, and the attunement to one another’s needs and level of established trust and connection were both evident and inspiring. They appeared to communicate through the rope, with the model visibly receptive and responsive to the slightest touch or pull from Harley, as she dropped into a meditative space.
The pressure of the tight rope against my wrists prompted me to detach from my mind and connect with my body, as well as my partner. Feeling an impact after one class, I was curious to hear how decades of experience had shaped the instructors’ lives.
“Shibari has made explicit in my relationships aspects of my passion and inspiration previously left unvoiced, fumbled, or wasted in the realm of fantasy,” shared Ash.
“Rope has given me a framework for discovering with my partners our mutual interests and curiosities, and together realising our darkest fears, strangest fantasies, furthest limits and a depth of trust I’d never thought possible.”
If you are interested in exploring shibari for yourself, there are a range of classes and performances throughout Melbourne, showcasing the skill and vision of the city’s best rope artists.
Montley Bauhaus hosts the Shibari Soiree showcase in Carlton every three months, Golden Monkey Bar in Flinders Lane hosts Shibari Lounge monthly, and Melbourne Community Rope in Brunswick hosts a monthly rope jam where attendees can practice or sit back and watch.
Ash says that in addition to the benefits of instruction, learning in a class environment can open you up to a wider community.
“Many of our students have met partners, fallen in love, and some have gone on to become teachers themselves, or perform at various events we co-facilitate here in Melbourne,” he said.
“Melbourne has a thriving, vibrant rope scene waiting for anyone with good intentions to come and join, and the opportunities are endless.”
WASHINGTON – Soldiers who wore bondage gear and dog masks in sexually explicit photos while in uniform are under investigation, the Army confirmed Monday.
The photos, which have appeared on social media, show male soldiers in uniform, or parts of uniforms, wearing dog masks, leather and chains. Some of the photos depict poses of submission and sexual acts. Another photo shows a soldier in combat fatigues wearing the dog mask on an airfield.
Some of the photos appeared on Twitter Friday. The soldiers are based in Hawaii.
Internal Pentagon email traffic obtained by USA TODAY shows Army officials believed some of the photos appear to have been taken at a base gym in Hawaii. The source of the email was not authorized to release it. The email notes that reactions to the photos has been “hyper politicized.”
“U.S. Army Pacific is aware of content found on social media reflecting soldiers’ activities while wearing uniforms,” Maj. Jonathon Lewis, an Army spokesperson, said in a statement. “The incident is currently under investigation.”
Military law prohibits conduct by an officer that disgraces them personally or brings dishonor to the military profession. There are a range of potential punishments for violations, including letters of reprimand.
The legal jeopardy for the soldiers depends on several factors, said Don Christensen, the former chief prosecutor for the Air Force who now leads Protect Our Defenders, an advocacy group for troops who have been sexually assaulted.
If soldiers in the photos were officers and from the enlisted ranks, there would likely be a violation of Article 134, which governs fraternization, Christensen said. Photos in uniform, with the dog mask, would likely violate Article 133, Conduct Unbecoming an Officer.
Even if an officer has retired, the Army could be brought back to active duty and court-martialed, Christensen said. The officer could also be retired at a lower rank, which lowers pension payments.
The military can act swiftly to discipline troops whose conduct embarrasses their uniform. In 2018, the Marine Corps fired a Navy chaplain who had been caught on video having sex with a woman at a pub in New Orleans.
“All U.S. Army soldiers are expected to uphold high standards of personal conduct and to avoid discrediting the service and the uniform, both in person and across social media,” Cynthia Smith, an Army spokeswoman, said in a statement.
Nadya Tolokonnikova, founder of radical feminist punk rock band Pussy Riot, has teased a new video in which she says she’ll turn Putin ‘into ashes’ as she shares details of her dominatrix work
Nadya Tolokonnikova, Pussy Riot leader, says she wants to turn Russian leader Vladimir Putin “into ashes” after sharing details of becoming an OnlyFans dominatrix.
Pussy Riot’s brand of feminist punk rock has criticised many aspects of Russian society – and in particular the president.
An official statement from Pussy Riot in 2014 said that Nadya had left the group – but she still appeared with them later that same year, when the band was were attacked with whips and pepper spray by security staff at the Winter Olympics in Sochi.
The group reached world fame when they staged a performance in a Moscow cathedral in February, 2012 and three members of the band were jailed.
en years later, Pussy Riot’s rebellious spirit remains undimmed. The band raised over $7million in Bitcoin to support relief efforts in Ukraine, and several members of the 11-strong collective have chosen to take ownership of their sexual identities by launching OnlyFans pages.
Nadya says that she finds sex work “empowering”.
“It did empower me. I was pleasantly surprised by people who subscribed to my page,” she told Alt Press. “It turned into this really interesting exercise for me as a feminist to eventually explore my own boundaries and the boundaries of other people.
She added: “I exist on an OnlyFans page in the role of the dominatrix because, first of all, it’s fun. It serves historical purposes because women have been oppressed for far too long, and I think a figure of dominatrix lets a lot of people who engage with me imagine women in a different role than they were historically taught.”https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fworld-news%2Fpussy-riot-bandleader-turned-onlyfans-28699320&cre=center&cip=19&view=web
She says that it’s fascinating to explore her own sexual kinks and how her feminism interacts with – and sometimes challenges those kinks.
But she’s also interested in challenging other people’s prejudices and sexual identities.
“I would ask a person who works in law enforcement to do certain actions…to do certain actions with his body, to get out in the city and cross-dress,” she says.
But she wants to do a lot more than challenge Russian leader Putin.
NIGERIA – Many people have imagined getting kinky in the bedroom. According to a report in The Journal of Sex Research issued in 2016, almost 47 per cent of women and 60 per cent of men have mused about exercising control over another person sexually, while a bit more women and a small number of men are excited by the thought of being controlled. The report also discovered that nearly 47 per cent of adults are willing to indulge in an unconventional type of sexual affair, and 33.9 per cent disclosed that in the past, they had experienced it multiple times.
This kinky feeling or desire to explore a different sexual activity can either be natural, or an identity discovered with time. People without an innate kink can discover BDSM in their adulthood to possibly revive their love life or to find pleasure in their desires. Having this desire is fun, however, exploring or practising BDSM openly in Nigeria is a different ball game.
What is BDSM?
BDSM, which is divvied up into bondage, discipline (or domination), sadism (or submission), masochism) is among the leading sexual kinks in the world. It is an umbrella term used to describe sexual practices involving kinks like exerting physical bondage, accepting and rejecting dominance, servitude, and the administering of pain. In this context, a kink means any sexual preference or activity considered unusual or strange. In other words, it is a practice that goes beyond conventional sex. Kinks include bondage, spanking paddles, degrading, role-playing and humiliation.
Bondage: It is the use of ropes, handcuffs or other restraints to limit your sexual partner’s movement. For some people, this type of control can increase sexual pleasure and encourage somatosensory (pressure, pain and warmth) sensations in various body parts.
Discipline: These are a set of rules and punishments collectively granted before a dominant partner exercises control over their submissive partner.
Dominance: This is a way of exerting control over a partner both in and out of sex. On a few occasions, dominants create plans with their partner’s authorization and control their behaviour in and out of the bedroom.
Submission: It means expressing submission to a dominant’s desires and actions. Submissives possess a great deal of control over determining what their dominant does to them. In a dominant and submissive relationship, communication is vital to give consent, establish boundaries and partake in wishes.
Sadism and Masochism or Sadomasochism: It is the happiness and fulfilment that a BDSM participant develops from either unleashing pain (sadism) or experiencing pain (masochism).
BDSM participants categorize themselves as either dominant, submissive, or switch (which means alternating between the initial two). A dominant person is often called the Dominant, Master, or Top and a submissive is called the Submissive, Slave, or Bottom. It’s crucial to note that these personalities are long-term and flexible, and can alternate depending on the partner or participants’ frame of mind.
BDSM In Nigeria
For many, living in Nigeria is overwhelming and draining. You can’t always openly express yourself so you are forced to put activities that are not considered ‘normal’ in the country, out of sight. Like sex, sexual identities or public display of affection, BDSM is a sexual preference that is considered bizarre and frowned upon in Nigeria. As a result, some kinksters can not publicly live out their BDSM fantasies or explore their kinky side in the country. Many fall back into the shadows, and the fortunate ones resort to carefully organized groups detached from people to meet their kind.
Explaining BDSM to an average Nigerian is not a walk in the park. People will deem you crazy, judge you, critique your practices and even claim you need divine intervention. A lot of these conclusions are drawn from a limited understanding of what BDSM really is. Many can not grasp the reasons why anyone would take pleasure in inflicting or receiving physical pain, being whipped, restrained or humiliated.
If you are familiar with Nigerians, you will know some are no strangers to abuse and they are famous for being hypocritical. Many try to appear like saints in public but practice some beliefs they oppose in private. It’s ironic how BDSM, or Sadism to be specific, is where some Nigerians may draw the line, but hitting children with a stick is acceptable. It’s not far-fetched to refer to Nigerians who hit their kids as sadistic if we are going by the definition of sadism. Chances are, the label will be rejected because of the sexual connotation attached to the word, and based on the notion that their behaviour is for correctional purposes and the other is for ‘sexual purpose’.
The differences between Nigerian sadism and BDSM sadism are, the former is similar to abuse, it’s not consensual, and the receiver most likely detests pain, while the latter is consensual and the receiver enjoys pain. Yes, consent is required in a dominant-submissive dynamic if not, it is sexual abuse or assault. Take sadomasochism, for example, consent is required because everyone involved has agreed that the play can be halted whenever someone becomes uncomfortable with the severity of the activity.
The BDSM Scene In Nigeria
Regardless of this negative discernment of BDSM by many, there is a BDSM scene blooming in Nigeria. BDSM in Nigeria is bigger than many people think; many have been studying and indulging in the BDSM lifestyle for a long time. Some have formed communities to help kinksters socialise and feel safe from judging eyes; others use BDSM as a source of income. Tega Maxwell is a kinkster who identifies as a top or dominant. He discovered BDSM through porn and practices interracial financial domination (findom). He explained, “centuries ago, the western countries like the Portuguese came to Africa and took our forefathers as slaves, now 400 years later, some feel they should pay black dominant as a symbol of reparation for the sins of their antecedents. I get paid by my white submissive through the internet.”
Within the shores of Nigeria, Tega practices BDSM differently. He still identifies as a top or dominant, however, he prefers to indulge in BDSM with older women or mature couples within the country. He explains his role, “I like mature women or cougars (35 upwards). Some are married, and others are not. With some, I indulge in rape fantasies (my job is to sneak in and act like a burglar. So I can slap her and we behave like it’s a rape scene). I use a rope on my submissives, meaning I am a rigger. I am also a bull for cuckold couples (couples can hire me to fuck their wife).”
It’s normal that the idea of rape fantasies may raise a brow. Incidents like rape are known to leave people traumatized, however, some people enjoy acting it out. Trauma on its own does not incite the desire to indulge in BDSM. Nevertheless, BDSM can create a safe and inspiring foundation for trauma survivors, who probably need to stifle their trauma by reenacting the scenario; in this instance, they dictate the results. The constant affection and interaction that members of BDSM communities demonstrate to one another also make it a comfort zone for trauma survivors to uphold and explore their sexuality.
Tega, as a dominant, fits the aesthetic of a typical Nigerian man unlike Chukwudi Uzor, a fellow kinkster who is submissive. An average Nigerian will question Chukwudi’s choices and preferences because not only is he into BDSM, his role is typically associated with women. This projection comes from a place of gender roles and disgust rather than praise. Chukwudi did some research on BDSM before he fully immersed himself in the idea over a year ago. He said “I am not going to say my BDSM experience has been rosy but it has been enlightening. After a few experiences, research, enquiries, and seeing movies, I officially got into the lifestyle in March 2021. I think it’s a journey because I am beginning to understand who I am and what I enjoy.”
Tega started a BDSM community to protect kinksters from scammers, and predators and keep them safe. He also hosts events to bring kinksters together. He said, “I created a community to solve the problems BDSM is facing in the country. If you go online, meet a dom and request a session, they will ask you to pay perhaps 50k and he will not show up. Your money is gone. In another case, you can meet a dom, he could tie you up and the next minute, you are dead. The fact that we have not heard stories about kinksters winding up dead doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Before someone joins the community I created, we know who they are. We hold BDSM parties, do matchmaking and teach people what they need to know about BDSM and beyond.”
In a place where many people are not in line with your beliefs, you have to be wary of who you meet online or reveal your sexual preference to. The internet is full of fake people and impersonators (people posing as kinksters), so it’s advisable to get to know people first before building trust. Depending on who you meet, It could take a while for you to trust them completely because not everyone has genuine intentions, so you try to take protective measures.
“You also have to trust your instincts and intuition to associate with certain people especially if you have a bondage kink. You can’t let a stranger tie you up. What if he or she kills you?” Amelia, another kinkster revealed.
Before a BDSM scene takes place, kinksters have a discussion and agreement on how they want to be treated both verbally and physically. This is also where consent comes in. After a BDSM session has occurred, kinksters consult their partners for feedback. They try to find out if the receiver or client is hurt and if they enjoyed the session. Tega said, “Before I meet my client, they tell me how they want to be treated. Those who enjoy pain tell me what they want me to use on them. After the session, I ensure they are okay. I get feedback from them before they go home to find out if they enjoyed what we just did.”
BDSM may not be encouraged in Nigeria but on the bright side, it is not illegal. According to Section 36 of the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, any offence that is undocumented or unpunishable by the law is not a crime. This means BDSM participants can not be arrested or punished if caught. It is unfortunate that despite this, people are still unable to freely express themselves out of fear of being harassed, judged or even killed. Thanks to rising BDSM communities, kinksters can find a place to feel safe and meet like minds.
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