- After years of vanilla sex, I decided to explore BDSM and become a dominatrix.
- BDSM helped me take back control in the bedroom and reinforce consent.
- Being a domme helped me heal my sexual trauma and became an act of self-care.
Source: Insider.com.
USA – Post-divorce, I wanted to hit the reset button on everything, including my sex life. At 31, I realized I hadn’t yet experienced the type of sex worthy of being included in the pages of my future memoir.
After much introspection, I discovered that sexual shame and misogyny were in the way of my tapping into my sexual prowess. Foresight didn’t tell me that using whips, wax, and ropes and becoming a domme would kick-start my journey to sexual liberation and healing.
My life before BDSM was anything but kinky
When I reflect on my 20s, I have flashbacks to lots of passive sex. I was a missionary princess, and once in a blue moon I’d drive the boat. Many times I wasn’t an active participant. I did just enough to satisfy my partner but wasn’t confident enough to ask for what I needed or to surrender to my sexual urges.
(more…)