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Meet Scots ‘dominatrix’ Lady Voluptua who appeared on Channel 5’s Plus Sized Porn

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 04:28:06

Lady Voluptua appeared on the show on Monday to talk about her life as a dominatrix.

Source: Dailyrecord.co.uk.

UK – GLASGOW – Lady Voluptua is a Scottish dominatrix who you might have seen on the new Channel 5 show Plus Sized Porn.

The dominatrix, whose real name is Lisa, caters to a specialised sector of the sex market – for those that like super-sized big women or BBW (Big Beautiful Women) as the sector is widely know as.

Lisa, who is from Glasgow, revealed that she knew quite early on in her life that she was into ‘kink’.

She said: “I discovered my kink very early on. I think I’ve always been kinky, I was eleven and my twelve-year-old friend told me about bondage and I thought ‘Ohhh, what’s this?’ and I kind of knew I was kinky and then when I met my husband we explored it more and we were quite switchy and would take the different roles and that’s how we explored it.

She added: “I never joined the scene at all until my marriage was over – that was when I was like right, that’s it, I’m going to out and I’m going to have great fun and go to the kink clubs.

“I went from being a sub to a slave, and I just thought it wasn’t fulfilling me. I think the submissive in me just disappeared and when I found that I was being more dominant, I actually got more out of it sexually and it’s the sense of power, the power exchange and the energy that you exchange with them.”

As well as enjoying what she was doing, Lisa realised there was a gap in the market for this and decided to turn it into a source of income.

She said: “It’s a really good rush and that’s when I thought, ‘oh, I could really do this and earn money from it’ because there were a lot of submissive guys, but not a lot of dominant women.

On the Channel 5 programme, Lisa can be seen demonstrating a technique of BDSM called ‘Breath play’, where she restricts a clients breathing by placing her stomach over their face.

Breath play is a very dangerous act which should only be attempted by experienced ‘practitioners’.

Lisa decided to rebrand herself as Lady Voluptua in a bid to fully embrace her size and place in the market.

She said: “I really don’t care what other people think. I’m up for a bit of badness. I actually really want to f**k s**t up in terms of how fat people are perceived.”

Lisa said that the BBW market for sex workers is quite crowded so she needs to be extra creative to be able to stand out from the rest.

She also caters for men who are often embarrassed about their desires to be dominated by BBWs.

She said: “At the end of the day all we are really doing is catering to people’s fantasies and fetishes and fulfilling a need where they maybe can’t get it at home or they are worried that perhaps if they are married their wife or family will reject them, they can come to a safe place.

“It can also be a form of therapy, although we would never say that we are therapists because obviously we are not qualified, but f**k it, it’s whatever floats your boat.”

On her website Lisa has included a lengthy description of what clients can expect if they book her.

She writes: “My body is super-sized, which makes me a Big Beautiful Woman, blessed with luscious lips, large bosoms and voluptuous curves. My deep brown eyes can see right down into your soul.

“I possess a calm and warm demeanour, which will help you to feel safe and secure, so that you can drop your guard and submit openly. There is nowhere to hide from Me.

“I will invade your mind and inspire you to your knees. I am the safe space you have always dreamed of – here to set your spirit free in your submission to Me. And you can get your rocks off while you’re at it.”

Lisa has a fee section on her website which say she offers sessions from her ‘brand new two chambered dungeon’ in Pollokshields, which start from £60 and can go up to £560.

Lisa, who is 5 foot 2, said she is happy with her life and what she does and her girlfriend Vixen, who is also a dominatrix, always celebrates her body.

She said: “It’s never really going to be small but in general I’m happy. I love my body and I love the fact that my girlfriend loves my body and she celebrates it and that gives me confidence when after all of these years in my life I’ve been told ‘no your fat body is wrong you would be so much happier if you were thin’.”

“We just have a normal life together but we also just happen to have a dungeon and were both dominatrix’s so yeah it’s really cool dating a sex worker.”

See more and larger photo’s: Dailyrecord.co.uk.


Photo Of Dominatrix Walking Man Through Supermarket On Lead Goes Viral

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 04:14:00

Source: Ladbible.com.

USA – LOS ANGELES – A photo of a dominatrix taking her submissive for a walk through a Los Angeles supermarket has gone viral.

The image, which was taken in a health food store, was posted on Twitter and racked up more than 100k likes.

It was captioned: “Spotted at Erewhon today.”

Erewhon is described as an ‘upscale health-food store’ which ‘earns buzz for its organic, local and sustainable groceries and prepared fare’.

Well, shoppers got quite the shock when they saw the dominatrix, wearing a skimpy outfit and chunky, black boots with another person being led through the store on all fours,.

However, the mystery dominatrix was soon tracked down and named as Mistress Lark.

Speaking to the Daily Dot, Lark said: “I just wanted some juice.”

You can’t argue with that.

She went on to explain: “I was out with my sub and my friends shooting some videos and just doing shopping. We stopped in Erewhon. Lots of cameras and attention, but the security let us through valet and let us check out our pricey basket before finally asking us to leave.”

However, she disagrees with claims from some that she was whipping her client.

She added: “Didn’t have a dog bowl yet. We bought one after. I did paddle him. No more than twice though.

“He tried to touch my leg too high up my thigh and I didn’t like it. There weren’t any children nearby or anything.”

It’s not the first time a similar act has happened in public.

Video footage emerged last year of the bizarre moment a dominatrix led a man on a leash through a busy London train station.

The man – who was not identified – was decked out in entirely black clothing, crawling on all fours, holding a sign which appears to say: “On Probation for Miss Foxx”.

That would liven up your commute a bit, no doubt.

The whole affair unfolded at Waterloo Station and was captured and shared across social media by a user called Dutty Boukmann. He captioned the video: “Whose dad is this?”

The footage showed commuters, coppers, and train station staff all gawping on in confusion and amusement as a man is walked around on his lead. The whole time, a woman – Miss Foxx, we can only assume – is stood nearby holding the chain around his neck.

She was wearing a short leather skirt and high heels, and even seems to have a chat to a few members of the British Transport Police at one stage.

As long as they’re not hurting anyone, eh?

See more and larger photo’s on: Ladbible.com.


Dominatrix’s kinky sex tips for unleashing your wild side in the bedroom

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:58:14

Source: Dailystar.co.uk.

UK – Ever wondered how you can incorporate some kink into your sex life? Daily Star Online spoke to dominatrix Mistress Iris who shared her saucy bedroom tips

Are you trying to mix things up in the bedroom?

If so, a dominatrix has revealed her kinky sex tips for tantalising your partner under the sheets.

Mistress Iris was just 19 years of age when she met a boy who was naturally more submissive.

As a teenager, the model knew she was more dominant – despite not having an experience in BDSM.

After six years of experimenting and honing her new set of skills, Mistress Iris decided to become a dominatrix.

Now speaking exclusively to Daily Star Online, the sex expert has shared her saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom.

She said: “Soon after [I became a dominatrix] I started posting artistic femdom photography I created to promote my career.

“I received a lot of messages from kink curious followers thanking me for inspiring them to explore their sexuality.

“Also I realised how much of a gap there was in representation of kink and BDSM outside of porn.

“So I really began to invest my energy into creating femdom art photography and short films.”

Mistress Iris shared five saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom:

  1. Explore what turns you on – you can’t work out your likes and dislikes unless you experiment
  2. Have a willing participant – find someone who consents to explore power play with you
  3. Talk to your partner(s) about what you both might want to try – always set your boundaries first before getting jiggy
  4. Give your partner an out – picking a safe word is important for keeping both parties happy
  5. Take care of your partner afterwards (aftercare) – once you’ve finished experimenting, have a debrief and talk through what worked and what didn’t

She says it’s important to bring up your desire to explore your dominance if you have an existing partner.

And since people aren’t mind readers, talk about what you’d like to try under the sheets.

When it comes to BDSM, Mistress Iris claims it’s very important to agree on a safeword so know a real “no” from a playful one.

The dominatrix continued: “Don’t think about what other people might think of you.

“Pay attention to what really turns you on and be kind to yourself about it.

“Maybe there are things you’ve seen or thought about but quickly dismissed because it was too embarrassing or weird to you.

“Revisit those thoughts and start searching for how-to videos, articles, etc. I’m sure you’re not the only one with those inclinations.”

Deeper.com (part of Vixen Media Group) is a luxury adult content site that has narrative focused videos depicting kinky fantasies.

It can be a good source for diving “deeper” into what turns you on.

Mistress Iris also collaborated on a short film with their talented director Kayden Kross called the “Interview“.

She recommends watching it if you’re curious about domination that is all about the psychology of power play, and not the whips and chains you typically associate with BDSM.

See more and larger photo’s on: Dailystar.co.uk.


I couldn’t afford my insulin — so I became a financial dominatrix

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:45:44

Source: Independent.co.uk.

UK – When you hear the term ‘sex worker’, who do you think of? Does your brain automatically associate the term with scantily-clad women on the street corner or loose women who need to be saved? Do you think of strippers? Do you think of women who lack a moral compass and a college degree shaking all they have?

If so, allow me to be the sex worker nextdoor. Hi, I’m Victoria, also known as “Vivienne”. I have a degree in politics and human rights. I’m a journalist, opinion writer, and a financial and lifestyle dominatrix. The fact that I am a sex worker doesn’t invalidate my intelligence, accomplishments, or work. Sex workers are not a caricature of hypersexuality — we’re the everyday people around you.

I am not seen as the “typical candidate” to become a sex worker by society, but I was a survival sex worker all the same. I was 21, in college, and already accepting financial help from my loved ones when I realized I was in a bind as the job market for women in journalism isn’t exactly promising. As a type one diabetic, I wasn’t able to afford food, bills, and medication with the money I had in the bank. I had heard of online financial domination a few years earlier, when a man on Tinder paid me to speak to him after a few weeks of ignoring his messages. I had nothing to lose and everything to gain, so I dove into it. I didn’t see much of an option: I had to get the medication and food I needed to survive.

In the year I’ve been in the industry, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my values, goals, and interests. My mom knows. I’ve become a better, more emotionally intelligent person. I understand men in a way I never have before, which makes me a better romantic partner. I’m debt-free and financially secure at 22, which is a gift in and of itself during a catastrophic pandemic.

What I found through sex work, in addition to the money I needed to survive, was a community unlike any other I had been in before, and five best friends. In kink and through BDSM, people are allowed to be their most true and authentic selves, free of judgment or obligations that trail them in everyday life. While the idea of a money fetish may seem odd to some, financial domination is the ultimate power exchange. To forgo luxury and give the literal fruits of your labor — your income — to someone who you value and enjoy being in the presence of is a wonderfully intimate experience, even if that might sound strange to some.

Money has its own sexual energy — we eroticize the security it gives, and we value wealth and security in our partners. FinDom takes that a step further and allows admirers to give something tangible and real to their dommes: wealth.

There’s a social stigma attached to young women who seek out elderly partners to benefit financially — so-called “gold diggers” — but why are the women criticized for seeking out these partners and not the men, who are wielding financial security to create unequal relationships? Frankly, because patriarchy and its toxic values are so deeply entrenched in our perception of what women should do, be, and even look like.

Financial domination is what happens when women realize their value to men and attach a price tag to access. It’s a reversal of that power imbalance that has been weaponized against women for generations. Weaponizing femininity is a result of oppression and I won’t apologize for using “what my mama gave me” in an uncertain economy.

I never planned on writing about my sex work — until I was subjected to targeted harassment. A disgruntled submissive was encouraged by their dominatrix to find my personal information and publish it, repeatedly, with the intention of ruining my career in journalism. But I’m not ashamed to be a sex worker. It’s simply another job, a particularly lucrative one that I enjoy, and one I want to de-stigmatize.

Some people have told me financial domination is “immoral”, but I don’t see anything wrong with taking from men in a consensual power exchange where both parties benefit. Those outside of the kink often call financial dominatrixes leeches or manipulative while failing to understand that this is a conscious choice, and calling our submissives “crazy” devalues the fact that the men and women who choose and consent to send are of sound mind. Our submissives aren’t forced into it — they’re equal participants who seek us out for personal, mutual enjoyment. When you’re practicing risk-aware consensual kink, there’s no harm done. 



Who’s Melissa Cheng? Dominatrix caught filming porn with priest at church starts GoFundMe page for lawyer fees

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:37:11

The adult star was caught filming an S&M porn with the priest and another woman and following her arrest she said she has been having nightmares and panic attacks

Source: Meaww.com.

USA – A dominatrix who was allegedly caught filming an S&M porn video with a priest at a church altar has said that she is having nightmares and panic attacks following her arrest. She has started a fundraiser under GoFundMe and is aiming to raise money for the payment of her lawyers’ fees and medical leave. Her fundraiser launched on October 9 has raised at least $9,000. 
 
Melissa Cheng was arrested last month for engaging in a threesome that involved fellow performer Mindy Dixon, 41, and Louisiana priest Travis Clark, 37, in the Saints Peter and Paul Roman Catholic Church in Pearl River. We had earlier reported that the incident came to light on September 30 when an unidentified witness reportedly saw the two corset-wearing dominatrices having sex with a half-naked Clark while filming equipment was set up, cops said. 

Following her arrest, a reportedly distressed Cheng wrote a long note in her fundraiser message. The 23-year-old wrote that her conduct was not criminal. “It is unfortunate that I am being presented to the world as a criminal when, in fact, I have done nothing wrong. All parties involved were consenting adults. Everything that occurred took place behind closed doors, on private property, and none of the conduct alleged was criminal in nature.”

She stressed how she is being demonized after the incident. “The fact that I am being vilified like this is quite frankly, appalling. I understand that people may be upset by this situation, but that does not make this conduct illegal or criminal in any way.” She said that she would have to take a break from work after this incident. “In order for me to come out of this in a strong, empowered, and healthy way, I must take a hiatus from work, and social media, as my life has been overtaken by the publicity of this scenario.” 

The dominatrix further wrote, “The bail <which has already been paid>, the time off work, time spent in jail, content lost and seizure of My belongings <film lighting equipment, 1k worth of makeup> lawyer fees and the toll on My mental and physical well being has amounted to no small price.” She also spoke about her deteriorating mental health after the incident. “The trauma and mental & physical stress of the situation has caused My chronic preexisting health condition, P.O.T.S Syndrome to flare up again, when previously in recovery up until this present moment.”

Who is Melissa Cheng?

Melissa Cheng is an Atlanta-based adult star. She is a dominatrix and says is a believer of “safe, sane, consensual, and private BDSM practices”. She goes by the name ‘Satanatrix’ on her Instagram handle and often posts her semi nudes. 

The Sun reported that Cheng, known in the BDSM community as Empress Ming, charges $350 for one hour, $700 for two hours and $1,050 for three hours for her work. After the recent case, she had to seek monetary help as she takes time off work.

See more larger photo’s on: Meaww.com.

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Traumatized? Call your local dominatrix.

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:17:49

Source: Thecampanil.com.

USA – Thank you for calling the Margaret Saint-Germain Dominatrix hotline — we’re sorry we missed your call. Please listen carefully as our menu options have changed. All clients must be 21 years of age or older and proper identification is required to continue. Ms. Germain Incorporated requires that a credit card number be on file to make an appointment. There is a $250 cancellation fee for appointments that are canceled with less than 24-hour notice. Please note, all emotional labor will be processed and charged for an additional fee to the account on file.

You may call Ms. Germain her highness, Ma’am, Miss or mommy, for an additional fee. Margaret Saint-Germain is no one’s mother and will not be held responsible for any maternal duties or obligations.  Please press one to speak with our mommy issues specialist. For all other childhood trauma, please press two; for all other deep-seated fears, please press three to speak with our insecurity advisor. For all other requests, please press four to speak with our new client specialist to get you set up with an appointment.

Margaret Saint-Germain is happy to induce pain for pleasure under the following guidelines: Absolutely no exchange of bodily fluids this includes (but is not limited to):  semen, saliva, urine, blood, feces and vomit. Please note we have a wide variety of chains, whips, flogs, nipple clamps, testicle crushers and many other toys available for an additional fee. Please press five to see our full menu of options. Please note all toys are properly sanitized prior to your arrival and a mask is required for the duration of any service.

Are you a racist? A misogynist? A pedophile? Are you angry at the world and/or angry at your own lack of sexual liberation and looking to take it out on a liberated queer? 

Please hang up now and take a good look in the mirror before seeking a therapist. 

In an ideal world where I could afford to hire a phone operator, this would be the greeting on my business phone’s voicemail. Yes, I am a dominatrix. I am a sex worker. I liberate my clients by telling them it’s okay. It’s okay to feel things. It’s okay to want.  It’s okay to have weird fetishes and fantasies. Because sex is great! And, it doesn’t have to be a big secret.

We all have our secrets. Some are related to desires we want to suppress, others are things we have done that we are ashamed of. In some cases, these feelings of guilt and shame are related to early childhood trauma. Listen … all of our parents messed us up at one point or another. In fact, they say many people end up in relationships with people that remind them of their parents. I’m not sure how true that is for me.  

When I was younger, I was molested. So naturally, during my adolescence and into adulthood, I went for partners that reminded me of my abuser. In his eyes, I was special. He believed in me. He thought I was beautiful while the rest of the world teased me and in return, I thought he was the most intelligent and interesting man in the world. When I got to high school, he found a new job that meant he would be moving out of state. I felt like he betrayed me and as hard as I tried, no one else could give me back that deep sense of belonging and that look that was in his eyes (which on later reflection I realize was probably the look of a psychopath.)

I began to stop engaging with people altogether. No one seemed as interesting as him. I became distant to my friends and loved ones and distracted at school; I denied the part of myself that was yearning for the comfortable pattern of abuse. I denied myself this feeling and got together with people for all the wrong reasons — superficial, financial, material — because I knew what would actually burn my soul up and I found it disturbing.  The more I hid from it, the more disconnected I became. 

I became a sex worker in part to take my power back by having sexual encounters on my own terms. In many ways, my abuser defined what I was attracted to before I had the opportunity to do so. I approached sex work like an inmate on death row approaching their last meal. Give me everything on one plate; I want to taste it all.

I met my best friend Jeffrey while I was attending The New School in New York City’s Greenwich Village and he was working at a cafe near my apartment in Brooklyn. Jeffrey was a true original — bearded, he often sported dresses or mesh tops and leggings. He had just returned from Seattle and was ready to dive fully into a new project. Bonding over our love of industrial, goth and techno music, we created Nu Goth; our response to the goth movement of the 1980s, a weekly goth/industrial themed music and arts showcase held every Friday at a different bar or art gallery in Brooklyn.

Our first event was held at an establishment called “The Good Room/Bad Room.” From the outside, it looked like an ordinary club with a large room for DJs and other performances. This was “The Good Room.” When you moved down the hallway, a special doorway and the right password would grant you access to “The Bad Room,” a tiny room lit with fluorescent pink lighting and shrouded in fog. On this particular night, Jeffrey had assured me he would take care of the guest list — all I had to do was show up.

Around 11 p.m. I arrived, and following the fog, I found my way to “The Bad Room.” A steamy closet packed to the brim with entranced dancers moving and grinding. I didn’t know who any of these people were or how Jeffrey knew them. For example, the hairy shirtless man on a leash was a stranger to me, as was his guide, a six-foot-tall woman in a bodystocking and a gas mask. Nervous, I confined myself to the perimeter of the room, observing the chaos around me.

Throughout the night, many people came up to Jeffrey and I, thanking us for how much fun they were having and I began to feel more comfortable; eventually, I started to feel at home, and I reveled in the pure expressionism and made a promise to myself that at the next event I would be more than a voyeur. From that moment on, and with the help of fairy goth-fathers like Jeffrey, my immersion into the world of kink and BDSM began. I started working at a dungeon situated below a coffee shop in the Meatpacking District before transitioning into working as an independent dominatrix. 

To quote Rihanna, “Chains and whips excite me,” and it’s true — they do excite me. However, being a dominatrix is so much deeper than the toys and the leather. It’s work — emotional labor is labor and why shouldn’t I profit from my gifts? Being a dominatrix is not about how mean you are, that’s another misconception, it actually requires a great deal of tact and vulnerability. A dom must be able to handle the release of trauma, the unabashed expression of desire, the uncovering of guilt, shame and fear.

To my clients, I must appear dependable, balanced; I am the one they call when their marriage is falling apart and when they need a good shoulder to cry on — or encouragement and practice to get them ready for the next relationship. In a way, by helping my clients, I am able to process my own traumas.

I never expected that being a sex worker would lead me on the path to healing; it just kind of happened. After a particularly rough experience in 2016, I found myself struggling to re-adjust and quit the sex industry for some time. This was very isolating and I wished I had someone to talk to who had experienced something similar. Because of this, I began to research different healing modalities. I traveled the United States, I adopted a plant-based diet, I exercised religiously, I meditated, chanted, prayed, did tantric kundalini yoga to send serpent energy up my spine — and still, that hunger was there, that yearning for some repeat of my childhood abuse.

After living like a monk for three years, one day I realized I was tired of running from myself. I decided to stop flogging myself in the town square and start living. I stopped feeling ashamed with what I do for a living and started embracing it by seeing the potential for good in it. Of course, there are many challenges with being a sex worker, like any other job, except at this job, casual Friday includes assless chaps. 

My hope for this column is to share my experiences which are often as humorous as they are disturbing. At the same time, I would like to invite others to share their experiences too or any questions they might have. Together, we can bridge the gap of information surrounding sex work and create a sense of community for workers and non-workers alike. 

To participate in this conversation, or to share an anonymous story about sex work send me an email: msweeney@thecampanil.com



Priest recorded having group sex on altar of Louisiana church, cops and records say

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:07:58

Source: Sunherald.com.

USA – LOUISIANA – The lights inside Saints Peter and Paul Roman Catholic Church in Pearl River were on later than usual on Sept. 30, so a passerby stopped to take a closer look.

Peering inside, the onlooker saw the small parish’s pastor half-naked having sex with two women on the altar, according to court documents. The women were dressed in corsets and high-heeled boots. There were sex toys and stage lighting. And a mobile phone was mounted on a tripod, recording it all.

The eyewitness took a video and called the Pearl River police, who arrived at the church and viewed that recording. Officers then arrested the Rev. Travis Clark, pastor of Saints Peter and Paul since 2019, on obscenity charges.

The Archdiocese of New Orleans announced the priest’s arrest Oct. 1 but would not give specifics about why he was arrested. Nor would the police.

POLICE AND RECORDS: ROLE PLAY WITH DOMINATRIX OCCURRED

New details, however, have emerged in court filings that paint a lurid picture of a priest recording himself engaged in sexual role play while desecrating a sacred place within the church. Public records additionally show that one of the women, Mindy Dixon, 41, is an adult film actor who also works for hire as a dominatrix. On a social media account associated with Dixon, a Sept. 29 post says she was on her way to the New Orleans area to meet another dominatrix “and defile a house of God.”

Dixon and Melissa Cheng, 23, were booked on the same count as Clark, 37. Police said the charge stems from from “obscene acts [that] occurred on the altar, which is clearly visible from the street.”

The arrests mark the latest scandal to befall the Archdiocese of New Orleans, after a different north shore priest, the Rev. Pat Wattigny, reportedly disclosed on Oct. 1 to Archbishop Gregory Aymond that he had sexually abused a minor in 2013. Aymond removed Wattigny from public ministry last week and added him to the archdiocese’s list of clergy whom the church believes have been credible accused of molestation.

Clark, who was ordained in 2013, had recently been named chaplain of Pope John Paul II High School in Slidell, in addition to his duties at Saints Peter and Paul. At the high school, he succeeded Wattigny, who had resigned from that position this summer over inappropriate text messages sent to a student. Pope John Paul II’s principal on Tuesday sent a letter to school parents criticizing Aymond for waiting until last week to tell him that Wattigny had been under investigation for those texts since February.

The archdiocese announced it had suspended Clark from ministry the day after he was arrested.

Attempts to contact Clark, Chen and Dixon weren’t immediately successful. All three have bonded out of jail pending the outcome of the case.

The archdiocese would not comment Thursday on Clark’s arrest, saying authorities were investigating the matter.

In Roman Catholic tradition, the altar is among the most sacred of church spaces, serving as the focal point of the Mass and the place where a priest consecrates the Eucharist during the sacrament of Holy Communion. According to church law, known as canon law, when sacred places are violated they must be “repaired by penitential rite” before they can be used again in the Mass.

WHAT COURT FILES SAY

Days after Clark’s arrest, Aymond went to Saints Peter and Paul and performed a ritual to restore the altar’s sanctity.

The church is vague on the specific acts that would constitute a desecration, but the Code of Canon Law says a violation of a sacred place occurs “by gravely injurious actions done in them” that are “contrary to the holiness of the place.”

That description appears to apply to the alleged tryst as outlined by police in documents filed in Louisiana’s 22nd Judicial District Court in Covington.

On Sept. 30 just before 11:00 p.m., an unidentified person was walking by the church on St. Mary Drive and looked inside through windows and glass doors because the lights were still on. Police allege that the person “observed and had video of Ms. Cheng and Ms. Dixon” using plastic sex toys while engaging in intercourse on the altar with Clark, who was still partially wearing his priestly attire.

The person called the police to the church. Officers arrived to see two women clad in corsets and high-heeled boots by the altar, with “lights set up around them as if they were filming some type of event,” the documents said.

Clark wasn’t on the altar, but an officer who knew Clark to be the church’s pastor tried to call him on the phone. Police then ordered the women to let them inside and, in addition to the lights, noticed a mobile phone as well as a camera, each mounted on tripods.

The women reportedly told police they were there with Clark’s permission and were recording themselves in “role play.”

Clark soon arrived at the church and reportedly gave a similar account to the police, describing Cheng and Dixon as his guests and friends, police wrote in documents filed in court.

Officers determined everything that had happened was consensual, but they arrested Clark, Cheng and Dixon on accusations that the three had broken a law prohibiting people from having sex within public view. Police said they confiscated the sex toys and camera equipment as evidence.

Clark was later released from jail on a $25,000 bond. Cheng, of Alpharetta, Georgia, and Dixon, of Kent, Washington, posted bonds of $7,500, records show.

Each could face six months to three years in prison if convicted of obscenity.

Aymond sent a letter to parishioners at Saints Peter and Paul on Monday saying the Rev. Carol Shirima would replace Clark beginning Oct. 11.

ARREST ‘SHOCKED’ PEARL RIVER

Pearl River Mayor David McQueen said the arrest shocked the town. “There hasn’t been a whole lot of talk, they’re kind of hush-hush about it,” McQueen said.

McQueen said he was aware that the two women had been in Pearl River earlier this week to give statements to police.

Town Council member Kat Walsh, a lifelong member of the church, echoed McQueen. She said parishioners, especially those who are more deeply involved in the church, are the ones who were the most upset by the arrests.

Clark was well-liked by the congregation and considered easy to get along with, she said, and seemed to work diligently with different groups within the church.

“What upsets me is, why did he have to do that there?” Walsh said. “I’m upset for all of us, the parishioners of the church. Why there?”




The UK’s biggest sexual fantasies have been revealed – and some might shock you!

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 02:57:14

Did yours make the list?

Source: Womanandhome.com.

UK – While 2020 might have been a bit of a write-off, it hasn’t stopped Brits revealing their top bucket-list sexual fantasies.

In fact, with all the depressing news hitting the headlines in recent months, it’s no wonder women want something to help put a smile on their face. And, sometimes, not even one of the best vibrators will do the job! What are we talking about? Yes, you’ve guessed it – sexual fantasies. Or, more accurately, bucket list biggest sexual fantasies – which are those ones you really, really want to do, but are just a bit too shy to say out loud.

Want to know how yours rate compared to the rest of the country? In a new survey, OnBuy.com asked 2,897 Brits the top 10 activities they desperately wanted to try with their partners. Perhaps, unsurprisingly, what women wanted varied to what men desired more.

One of the biggest sexual fantasies voted by women was to be blindfolded. And one of the reasons it is so popular is because it’s so easy, yet effective. Taking away one of your senses, such as you sight, helps to make your other senses extra sensitive.

Great sex should be a multisensory experience,” says Sammi Cole, sex and relationship expert at sexual wellness brand Lovehoney. “Use scented body lotion, go for soft lighting, pick out music that helps to get you both in the mood and swap out your usual bed sheets for something more luxurious. The more senses you can delight, the better!” Then you can try taking them away. “Withholding one of the senses, such as blindfolding a partner, will help activate the others,” she adds.

Here’s the rest of the survey results:

Biggest sexual fantasies: what women want

1 Blindfold 35%

2 Sex in a Jacuzzi 31%

3 Sex in an elevator 26%

4 Roleplay 24%

5 Sexy photoshoot 20%

6 Bondage 18%

7 Choking 16%

8 Phone sex 14%

9 Car sex 12%

10 Bringing in a third party 12%

11 Sex on beach 10%

12 Watching porn with partner 9%

13 Using flavoured lube 8%

14 Writing fan fiction for partner  7%

Biggest sexual fantasies: what men want

1 Bringing in a third party 36%

2 Video call sex 30%

3 Sex in a Jacuzzi 26%

4 Sex in a public toilet 22%

5 Roleplay 22%

6 Making a sex tape 20%

7 Sex on a balcony 19%

8 Watching porn with partner 17%

9 Bondage 16%

10 Anal sex 14%

11 Car sex 13%

12 Couple toys 12%

13 One night stand 9%

14 Sex with Food 8%

Top sex trends tried by Brits in the bedroom

And, it seems that some of us are doing a lot more than just fantasising about our sexual desires. A survey by showerstoyou.co.uk, this time with 2,381 adults involved, discovered the top sex trends tried by Brits in the bedroom.

Forget just using a vibrator to boost your health, in first place came BDSM, which stands for bondage, discipline/domination, submission/sadism, and masochism. This was made popular by the Fifty Shades of Grey books, and has around 135,000 online searches a month.

Then, next up was “sploshing”, which involves using food during sexual encounters. While, in third place, was having sex in public places. So much for lockdown! But it seems we’re making sure we’ve done the right research first as “sex in public” is searched online around 22,200 times a month.



Ohio middle school sex ed promotes bondage, flogging

BDSM Media News Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 02:40:29

Every school board member in these districts needs to be made aware of the law in Ohio and what is instead being taught to children.

Source: Lifesitenews.com.

USA – OHIO, October 5, 2020 (LifeSiteNews) – Any wise parent with a child in public school has already figured out that sometimes you are being deceived. 

Enter the world of “comprehensive sex education” (CSE) and the embedded lies meant to conceal the overt sexualization of adolescents.

In Ohio, numerous school districts have a relationship with a large counseling group called Syntero. One of Syntero’s services is a sexuality education program their representatives teach called “Healthy Bodies/Healthy Futures.” The contents are deeply disturbing, dangerous, even possibly criminal.

A video outlining the serious problems with Syntero lessons is being distributed by the Protect Ohio Children coalition.

For instance, in the packet given to middle school children, the list of “Online and Reliable Sex Ed Resources” includes websites Bedsider and Scarleteen, both of which promote high-risk, promiscuous sex in explicit posts.

Bedsider recently featured a front-page column, “Frisky Fridays: Sex in the time of Coronavirus” which included a priority list. Number 1 was this: “Skip the sex parties. This is definitely not the time for group sex.” (Many middle schoolers need this guidance, apparently?) 

This page also advises avoidance of other people’s bodily fluids during the lockdown, and social distancing while engaged in mutual masturbation. Yet  one can choose the option of using remote-controlled sex toys with a link  provided to learn about Bedsider’s favorites. And then the website instructs your middle-schooler on “unboring sex positions.” Just what you want your 11-year-old to believe is normal and healthy in an intimate relationship. 

The parents and professionals in the video share the outrage that most will experience when they learn about Syntero’s assault on childhood innocence. It’s essentially the techniques of sexual predator “grooming.”

Ohio has a law mandating that sexuality education follow a standard of abstinence until marriage. Yet numerous Ohio school districts teach some version of explicit CSE curricula, often with ties to Planned Parenthood and its allies.

Among the smooth lies meant to wave off curious parents and school boards, Syntero claims “Healthy Bodies/Health Futures” teaches “age appropriate, medically accurate information and skills needed to face tough issues, make sound choices and practice healthy behaviors.” A Facebook video was posted by the coordinator of this program, including reassuring messages to parents that the Syntero approach is all great, it’s “abstinence-plus” and that Ohio law is “scary.” She omits some vital facts about the truly frightening content Syntero is teaching.

For instance, Syntero’s “reliable resource” Scarleteen gives young students advice about “DIY Sex Toys,” including how to make a harness, restraints or a “flogger” for sexual sadism. This article talks in detail about spanking and other activities of “BDSM” (bondage-dominance-sadism-masochism).

So would most parents consider this “medically accurate” and “age appropriate”? Does this lead to practicing “healthy behaviors”? 

Responsible parents would be screaming about now.

 Syntero’s high school presentation teaches students that sex with a condom is “low risk.” This same presentation describes “hand jobs” and “fingering” as also being low risk. There is also apparently a low risk chance of sound advice being the foundation of these presentations.

Another trusted resource provided by Syntero to middle schoolers is Mozaicohio.org which describes itself as “a health and wellness, HIV prevention, and community building initiative for trans & gender non-conforming people of color ages 13-29.” This is overt endorsement of girls who want to be boys or vice versa– sex  “transition,” well-documented to be an unnecessary, impossible and medically high-risk fad. 

And Mozaic itself leads a young teen into another poisonous nest of “resources,” including Sugarbutch, a site with this disclaimer on the home page: “This site contains explicit writings on kink practices, dominant/submissive relationships, and queer kink erotica (among other things). All characters in role play or non-consent scenes are consenting adults. Content warnings are included.”

How quickly your once-innocent child can be corrupted. At school.

Syntero’s resource lists offer no counter-balance to pro-condom, hard core pro-promiscuity advocacy, but only sexually-permissive, pro-abortion groups are listed. The impressionable child will be left with the clear understanding that he/she is expected to become sexually active in many hazardous directions as soon as possible.

But this organization’s degrading actions don’t end there. Syntero holds private drop-in sessions for 12 to 18-year-olds who identify as “LGBTQ” and Syntero is also closely tied to Kaleidoscope, a Columbus organization that offers private, parent-excluded sessions for “LGBTQ” youth. 

The Protect Ohio Children video largely focuses on the porn and sado-masochism Syntero promotes to youth and the possible criminal grooming taking place. Dr. Marlene Carson, a member of the U.S. Advisory Council on Human Trafficking and CEO/ Founder of the Switch Anti-Trafficking Network, said this in the video:

“Having reviewed several of the websites that Syntero is recommending through their Healthy Bodies/Healthy Futures program, I am deeply disturbed by the amount of obscene and pornographic content that’s being recommended to our children that are as young as 11 years old that are sitting in our classrooms.

“As a survivor of domestic violence and sex trafficking, I know all too well the abuse and the trauma of those who thought bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism were healthy behaviors. The pornography industry is directly linked to sex trafficking. I find that this material being recommended to our children is nothing short of criminal grooming.”

And Troy Stevens is also quoted in the video. He’s a former Marine, as well as a former Franklin County deputy sheriff and police detective working special undercover investigations, including crimes against children. He said this: “In their middle school student packet and in classroom presentation slides, Syntero is recommending websites that contain and re-direct children to obscene and hard core porn sites. If I or another adult compiled this material and presented it to a minor, we would be arrested for child endangerment and corruption of a minor.”

So what can parents do? First, every school board member in these districts needs to be made aware of the law in Ohio and what is instead being taught to children. And they need to be advised that Syntero, like other CSE curriculum distributors, will try to slither out of close scrutiny by claiming their program has an “abstinence” focus. The truth is, these lessons mention it in passing just before advocating “hook-up” anal, oral and vaginal sex to middle schoolers and teaching them where to go for an abortion.

So they are liars. 

School board members need to see this video and then be held accountable for whatever decision they make. Hopefully, it’s the right one.

This is criminal corruption. It needs to stop, today.

Linda Harvey is president of Mission America.

See larger photo and video on: Lifesitenews.com.


‘Smart’ male chastity device can be controlled by hackers, users warned

BDSM Media News Posted on Tue, October 13, 2020 02:07:51

Chinese firm advises owners to break open device with screwdriver ‘when nothing else works

Source: Theguardian.com.

CHINA – The maker of a “smart” male chastity device has recommended using a screwdriver to break it open after warnings it can be locked remotely by hackers.

The Bluetooth-controlled Cellmate device can only be unlocked via an app. Its manufacturer, the Chinese company Qiui, issued a video titled “When nothing else works”, showing the screwdriver fix.

The company’s founder and chief executive, Jake Guo, said it was “simply not true” that users could get stuck in the Cellmate, which is marketed both as an anti-cheating and submission sex play device.

It follows a warning from researchers that the Cellmate, which clamps a metal ring around the genitals, is vulnerable to being exploited by hackers who could lock them en masse, potentially trapping thousands of users.

“In case you cannot contact our customer support, the second option is to break open the Cellmate cap with a screwdriver or similar, as demonstrated in the video on our website,” Guo said in a statement sent to AFP. “This will allow you to remove the pin lock and device.”

He added: “Compared to Cellmate, wearing a traditional chastity cage – often made of steel – with a classic padlock is much riskier. If you lose the key, you actually would need a grinder or bolt-cutter to remove the cage.”

Alex Lomas of Pen Test Partners (PTP), which released the research report, questioned the screwdriver manoeuvre, wondering whether the required angle was possible while wearing a Cellmate. “Also, it’s a bit close for comfort!” he wrote on Twitter. “Have you tried this for real?”

PTP also found other security flaws in the Cellmate that could expose user information such as names, phone numbers, birthdays and location data.

Smart sex toys and devices are among a wave of new “internet of things” products and appliances introduced in recent years that can be operated remotely. But their connectivity has also made them vulnerable to security breaches and privacy violations.

To guard against hacks, Guo advised Cellmate users to remove the Qiui app on their phones and replace it with an updated version.

“Every modern device can potentially be hacked nowadays,” he said. “When a possible security leak with a game console, PC, smartphone or social media app is discovered and reported, people don’t seem to have the tendency to stop using them.”

See larger photo on: Theguardian.com.


Rumer Willis Poses in Racy BDSM-Inspired Photo Shoot: ‘Stop Policing Women’s Bodies’

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:59:35

“My body and my right to my divine femininity will not be policed or suppressed by anyone man or woman,” the actress wrote on Instagram

Source: People.com.

USA – Rumer Willis is all bound up in her latest photo shoot with photographer Tyler Shields.

The 32-year-old actress recently shared several shots from the a BDSM-inspired photo series titled “Bondage” on her Instagram.

In several portraits, Willis — who is the eldest daughter of Demi Moore and Bruce Willis — can be seen wielding a crop as she strikes a pose in a black latex bodysuit. Another shot shows her in nothing but a pair of matching thigh high boots as she’s tied up with rope.

“Call Me Madam…” she wrote in the caption on Sunday. “New series ‘Bondage’ with my fav @thetylershields.”

Willis captioned another shot on Monday, “….and I’ll call you sir.”

The House Bunny star later went into detail about the message behind the photo series, writing in a separate post that the project “is about reclaiming the female form.”

“Whether clothed or not, as women our bodies are constantly policed and dictated over by men and by other women,” she said in a lengthy note. “We are told what we can and cannot wear based on our size and shape or others beliefs about what is acceptable or appropriate. We are told what we need to look like to be considered beautiful. We are told if we dress a certain way we are ‘asking for it’ or if we are more covered up we are prude or unexpressed. We are told our sexuality and expression of that sexuality is something we should ashamed of, something we should keep to ourselves.”

“We are persecuted for our right to choose when to become a mother, or to become one at all. We are kept from access to birth control, places to get information about sexual health and contraceptives are defunded,” Willis continued. “The lineage of women who have fought with their lives to progress women’s rights sacrificed everything to get us to where we are today and we are still miles away from any sort of equality. My body and my right to my divine femininity will not be policed or suppressed by anyone man or woman.”

RELATED: Rumer Willis on Sister Tallulah’s Controversial Racy Photos: ‘Just Be Unapologetically Yourself’

Responding to some criticism in the comment section of her Instagram, Willis went on to say that “it’s bulls—” to think women who are comfortable with being naked or are in touch with their sexuality don’t have self-respect.

“We can be sexual for us. We can be naked for us. We can be tied up for us. People think telling women to not be naked and ‘respect themselves’ is feminist but it’s really just centering men once again in the assumption that everything you are doing is for them,” she explained. “This was not for any man. This was for me. It was about exploration and taking back power in my right to choose. I support any woman’s right to express themselves however they choose to convey their sensuality, sexuality, self.”

See more and larger photo’s on People.com



Confessions Of A Maltese Dominatrix: 19 Questions You Always Wanted To Ask

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:46:36

Source: Lovinmalta.com.

MALTA – Sex work has changed drastically over the last decade, with the rise of the internet, changing morals and the wider acceptance of kinks and fetishes leading to a swathe of niches and speciality sex work finding acceptance in the modern world.

As more and more young people turn to OnlyFans accounts as a side-hustle and entire generations of people find ways to satisfy their fetishes online, Lovin Malta spoke to one Maltese sex worker to find out more about the situation in 2020.

Mistress M has been in the local and foreign sex work industry for five years. Images courtesy of Mistress Hellkitty and Mistress Isys. 

1. For those that may not know, what is a dominatrix?

Mistress M: A dominatrix is a sex worker that performs fetish-related acts anywhere from having a client lick her boots clean all the way to performing sex acts, depending on her limits and the client’s wishes. We do a lot of BDSM – Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism.

The word sadism is etymologically related to the writing of the Marquis de Sade who wrote at length on taking pleasure in inflicting pain. On the other hand, masochism is from Sachler-Masoch who wrote Venus in Furs, a book about being hopelessly devoted to a dominant and devious woman who whipped him. Ergo, S and M.

2. Would you say BDSM is popular in Malta?

Mistress M: BDSM has been around in Malta longer than most people think. One of my clients, T, has been an active member of the Maltese kink scene for 30 years. He’s even told me there used to be a website called BDSMMalta in the 1990s, with workshops and parties.

BDSM tends to emerge everywhere, but it’s especially common in religious countries where a lot of practices are taboo, this whips the imagination into a frenzy. BDSM is also gaining in acceptance with popular culture thanks to large-scale films, TV shows and books referring to it.

In addition, online sex work has risen across the globe, especially during the quarantine.

Websites such as OnlyFans allow providers to upload customised content based on client fetishes, for a fee. As the fetish community becomes larger and less underground, it becomes more accepted. These days, there are even nannas on TikTok joking about liking rough sex while being filmed reacting to Cardi B’s WAP video.

BDSM in Malta is still extremely underground compared to other European countries like Germany and England, but that has been changing alongside the recognition of LGBTQI+ rights here, and the realisation of society that sexuality, like gender, is not a binary, is not something for which people deserve to be shamed or judged and is not necessarily a conscious choice.

A wide variety of sexual practices comprise kink that can be practiced according to the acronym RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink. This obviously discludes any coercive or unethical acts, since they are by default non-consensual.

3. Why do you think certain kinks are still so underground?

Mistress M: Religion, taboo and the fact that Malta is very small and filled with nosy neighbours.

Since last I checked, the Catholic church hadn’t published a Kama Sutra. There is a staunch rigidity written into the religion in terms of not accepting homosexuality, sexual diversity or any sex at all unless it is for the purpose of procreation.

Many people with diverse sexualities like homosexuality feel shamed, judged or outright despised for their interests.

The next time you judge someone’s sexuality, think for a second about what business it is of yours, whether it hurts anyone and whether you are curious about the same things.

In 2016, Malta’s #1 porn search result was lesbian, followed by MILF, giantess and vorarephilia (a kink related to being consumed).

If that’s not a kinky population into mature and dominant women, I don’t know what is. Also let’s face it, Maltese women are dominant by nature. We’re just born this way.

4. On average, how many requests do you get a week?

Mistress M: It really depends! Locals three to five per week but with people on vacation it can go up.

With clients who are sometimes lonely or feel marginalised, we might chat regularly via text or WhatsApp and not just about sex.

I listen to clients when they have personal issues, health problems or just need attention and appreciation. We fulfil each other’s needs and I am remunerated for my time.

5. How does a typical client interaction go down?

Mistress M: I post ads on private fetish websites or sex work pages, clients mostly reply politely and respectfully, discuss session requests, dos and don’ts (I don’t do intercourse and fluid exchange sexual acts, but that’s up to individual discretion, some people do). I accept a deposit and book the appointment for the agreed upon time.

Clients must arrive clean, safe words and hard limits are established and payment is completed before the session.

There are a few dungeon spaces in Malta but nothing open to the public, this is something we would like to see change. Many European cities have kink clubs like Verboten in London and Kit Kat in Berlin, it’s accepted and normalised there.

I see no reason why we shouldn’t decriminalise sex work and allow sex clubs in Malta, it’s good for tourism and these events are already happening here underground in any case. Why not collect the tax money and ensure things are done safely?

6. What is the most common request in your experience?

Mistress M: Foot fetish and pegging.

A lot of people are turned on by their partner’s feet or panties or are interested in experiencing anal stimulation but ashamed to admit it because of toxic social norms of men feeling compelled to behave in a masculine way.

I always encourage clients to be more open and honest about their sexuality. It leads to better intimacy in relationships, provided you and your partner are capable of being open-minded.

7. What was the strangest request in your experience?

Mistress M: Hmm there are so many! I try never to kink-shame people, since that’s what society does to them and they come to me in confidence to be able to reveal fantasies.

But definitely eating toenails is up there. My client T has a funny story about a balloon fetish request and a domme quite happily filling a room up with balloons for her client.

8. Have you ever had to turn down a request?

Mistress M: Oh yeah. I don’t do sexual fluid exchange, as I mentioned, so lots of nos. Anything creepy or illegal.

9. Have you had any high profile clients or people in professions you weren’t expecting?

Mistress M: Well two of my clients in Malta were cops, one is a professor, most are business people, students, bar employees, doctors or lawyers.

I have a Gozitan farmer too! My clients are just regular nice people with fetishes that are not accepted by people in their lives.

10. On average, how many of your clients are married?

Mistress M: The majority are not married, but I find this to be a really loaded question.

Do you ask the convenience shop owner if he verifies whether smokers are addicted or hiding smoking or drinking from a partner? Does the grocery store owner take responsibility not to sell sweets to overweight clients who don’t want their partner to know? Are gaming sites ensuring they don’t profit off addicted persons who spend more than they should? Of course not.

I am not responsible for people who make inappropriate decisions or lie to their partners, they are adults and if they cheat, that’s their choice. I’m not emotionally involved with my clients.

The fact is that cheating is already rampant in our society, I simply charge people for seeing me.

It’s not my responsibility to background check clients beyond their STIs, and actually, oftentimes if someone does ask me about a relationship question, I guide them about how they might be able to discuss their kinks with a partner, recommend seeing a relationship counsellor or bringing a partner in for a couples’ session.

My client T is married and we have great sessions with his wife who also likes to dom him.

11. Have you ever had clients that were in a relationship, a couple or a group?

Mistress M: Yes, but not all dommes do this. I think it can be really therapeutic. A big part of our job is helping people to accept themselves and then slowly try to open up that side of them to others.

In the same way that a lot of queer people are in the closet for a long time, people with diverse sexual fetishes may include same-sex fantasies, trans fantasies or object fantasies like latex or leather.

Ask yourself how you might treat your partner if you found out tomorrow that they liked dressing in women’s clothing, or enjoyed gay porn. Would you shame them? Be angry?

Or would you try to be open and understanding? These are the things that couples discuss with sex workers as well as psychologists.

12. What is the general price range for services?

Mistress M: It ranges on the time and service! Online sex workers with an OnlyFans account might earn €5 or €10 per month per client but they may have tens or hundreds of subscribers.

In person sex workers usually charge at least €100 per hour. I charge €150 in Malta and €200 to €400 an hour depending on which country I am working in.

13. Have you ever been in need of police intervention or protection during work?

Mistress M: No, especially not when a few clients were police.

I have turned away clients before a session for having an aggressive demeanour, insulting toxic masculinity attitude or being rude or insulting. Unfortunately, street solicitors have been physically abused and mistreated here, and this is the reason why decriminalisation is so important.

The most vulnerable women doing sex work can be trafficked or coerced and this needs to stop.

Decriminalisation would allow women to work free from the fear of prosecution and therefore not requiring pimp-like protection. We are hoping a SWOP (Sex Worker Outreach Program) group is created in Malta soon to help women with legal and other questions.

It’s shameful that in 2020 marginalised women are still being arrested in Malta for solicitation, while massage parlours, strip clubs and online sex work are free to carry on unhindered, often because they are run by wealthy local men.

Street soliciting sex workers are statistically the most marginalised and arresting and prosecuting marginalised women is not helping them to get out of sex work if that’s something they want to do.

14. Are there lots of sex workers actively working in Malta?

Mistress M: Yes, there are lots of online sex workers in Malta, porn actors, full service sex workers and massage parlour workers. It’s a flexible job for a lot of people with a good rate of pay, unlike a lot of available work in Malta.

The rise of online sex work over the quarantine shows that sex work is becoming a legitimate and respectable means of subsistence for a lot of people that needs to be de-stigmatised and taken out of the legal grey zone.

We are not all trafficked foreign victims, either. While that exists and needs to be remedied, many sex workers are setting their own rates, are Maltese citizens and are happy doing their jobs.

15. What attracted you to the job?

Mistress M: Independence, flexibility and a good pay.

A lot of people here live with their parents until well into their 30s! This has an obviously negative impact on sexuality with no private place to experiment or be alone with a partner. This may be one reason people do sex work, to afford moving out, but also why people seek out sex workers on the island to have somewhere private to be sexual.

Sex work is a well-paid job that gives people financial stability and is no more degrading than working at a restaurant or shop. My clients buy me gifts all the time and send me nice messages thanking me for helping them!

I have worked in the food service industry, at a clothing shop and I have never experienced the level of client rudeness in sex work that I got from people treating me like a second class citizen in the service industry.

Service industry workers make under €1000 per month. Sex workers can make two to three times that. The next time you judge a sex worker as a victim or working a shameful job, think about how you’re treated at your job and how much you make!

I’m a university-educated Maltese citizen and so are a lot of other Maltese sex workers.

16. Should prostitution and sex work be legalised in Malta?

Mistress M: It should be decriminalised.

Let’s get Malta up to speed with other countries like New Zealand which has helped decrease trafficking rates with full decriminalisation.

Legalisation is not necessary, but we need to stop arresting women for solicitation and allow women to work together for their protection without calling it a brothel like what is happening in the U.K.

The Nordic model of sex work legislation does not help sex workers.

Criminalising the buyer of sex or prohibiting brothels endangers sex workers.

The fact is that a lot of these well-intentioned NGOS against sex work are relying on junk science to prove that sex trafficking is on the rise. The way to combat sex trafficking is not to drive victims further underground.

The biased NGOs here working to lobby the government want to see sex work criminalised even further because they see sex workers as encouraging cheating or as trafficking victims.

These consultations are flawed and their research is based only on statistics of victims of sex trafficking, not a broad consensus of sex workers.

These groups simply do not consult the stakeholders of this legislation: consensual buyers and sellers of sex work.

17. Is there anything that clients can do that you or other workers would like to see more of?

Mistress M: We appreciate honest, respectful and open communication.

Married people are actually the worst clients because they often no-show you since they are sneaking around and this makes them unreliable. We like stable, regular honest clients.

Please, if you recognise your sex worker out in public, never doxx them.

Malta is a small place and we are trying to exist in a world that shames us. We give clients the privacy of never revealing their identities and we appreciate the same also. Until it’s safer and less stigmatised to be in this job, we are unfortunately forced to give anonymous interviews and hide our identities.

18. What is the biggest misconception about sex work and sex workers in your view?

Mistress M: I think I mentioned this above but the idea that we are victims, drug addicts or that we are nymphomaniacs or something. Most of us lead pretty normal standard lives outside of sex work!

We have partners, families, kids, houses and other businesses.

Another misconception is that sex work = sex trafficking. It absolutely does not.

Sex work or prostitution (we have changed the word due to the stigma attached to prostitution, but they are the same) is a consensual choice. Trafficking is not a choice, it’s a forced job and we have a problem with this in Malta that isn’t related simply to sex but other kinds of forced or underpaid labour especially in the migrant community.

Sex work is not coercive by nature.

Recent US and UK legislations like SESTA and FOSTA which banned third party websites like Backpage did absolutely nothing to help reduce sex trafficking.

They simply dispersed the concentration of sex buying and selling from being on a single website where law enforcement could follow up on postings and look for underage or trafficked persons onto hundreds of other different sites, making their enforcement difficult and making it tougher for consenting sex workers to earn a living.

19. Finally, what would you tell readers to keep in mind about sex work?

Mistress M: Please listen to what sex workers would like to see happen with reforms that concern them, rather than patronising NGO groups who profess to know what is good for us without actually consulting any sex workers. Decriminalise sex work and modernise our little country so that it’s not only a safe place for LGBTQI+ people, but for sex workers (who are often themselves marginalised LGBTQI+ as well) also.

Sex work is real work and sex workers deserve respect.

A small coalition of sex work positive NGOs working with the LGBTQI+ community and asylum seekers had some wise words to say on the subject in a recent local interview. They point out that the arguments against decriminalising sex work and criminalising the sex buyer are based in a belief that reforms will increases pimps and traffickers, and turn Malta into a sex tourism hub.

This is patently false.

First of all, Paceville and other areas are already hubs for sex work. It’s just operating in a legal grey zone. Pimping and trafficking should always remain illegal, but solicitation is not pimping.

In fact, under the Nordic model of criminalising buyers whilst decriminalising sex work, sex workers are still forced to operate outside the law, opening them to further opportunities for violence and making them vulnerable to discrimination and abuse, as has already been the case in Malta for decades.

Sex work has been a feature of the island since before the times of Strait Street and sex work exists whether it’s criminalised or not. Malta, (unlike Germany and New Zealand which have Tier 1 ratings), has a Tier 2 rating in terms of their government compliance according to the Trafficking in Persons report of 2019.

This means that Malta has a lot of work to do to bring up their level of compliance to the recommendations by the TIP report to protect of victims of trafficking, and not only those in sex work. The majority of abused and trafficked migrants in Malta are not working in the sex industry, but are in agricultural, domestic and sanitation work.

There have been loads of reports on Maltese owners refusing to pay racialised garbage collectors and no one is asking for a ban on the entire industry or assuming all sanitation workers are trafficking victims.

The same is true of sex work.

Trafficked persons in all industries deserve legal protections and assistance, but to imply that those suffering as victims of sex trafficking are in worse distress than people being trafficked in the other industries does a disservice to all victims of trafficking and doesn’t help end the problem. Decriminalisation would help end sex trafficking by giving sex workers more rights to seek out police intervention without fear of prosecution against themselves.

Cover photo and images: Mistress HellkittyMistress Isys

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Australian Bondage photographer on assault charges

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:38:00

Source: QT.com.au.

AUSTRALIA – SIDNEY – A Sydney-based bondage photographer has been refused bail after being charged with sexually assaulting two models during photo shoots six years apart.

Garth Knight was refused bail by Magistrate Robert Williams on Friday when he appeared in Sydney’s Central Local Court.

Knight has been charged with sexual intercourse without consent and aggravated sex assault (deprive liberty) relating to two alleged incidents at a Surry Hills warehouse in 2005 and a home in Waterloo in 2011.

The 48-year-old appeared in court via audiovisual link from Surry Hills Police Station where he was being held following his arrest at a Redfern home on Friday morning.

His solicitor Phillip Ryan applied for him to be freed on bail, saying Knight had sexual contact with one of the complainants prior to the alleged incident.

Mr Ryan also said Knight had discussed engaging in sexual contact prior to the photo shoot with the second alleged victim.

However, Mr Williams ordered Knight to remain in custody despite the possibility of him remaining behind bars for an extended period of time as a result of delays in court proceedings as a result of COVID-19.

Mr Williams described the prosecution case as “strong” and noted that if found guilty, Knight was facing the possibility of a lengthy custodial sentence.

Police received the first allegation in May 2020 when a woman told police she had been sexually assaulted while working as a model at a Surry Hills warehouse in 2005 when she was 35.

Police received a second report from a woman who alleged she was sexually assaulted during a photo shoot at a home in Waterloo in 2011 when she was 33.

The court heard police had obtained messages in which Mr Knight had allegedly apologised to one of the complainants about his conduct.

The court also heard both alleged victims were tied up at the time of the alleged assaults and unable to escape.

Knight’s Instagram account, which has more than 16,000 followers, shows numerous examples of his work in which he suspends naked male and female models using ropes and other materials.

He has been described as being “trained in the tradition of Shibari rope tying” or Japanese erotic bondage.

In a 2013 interview he said: “Bondage is the practice of tying and restraining people, usually using rope.

“It is practised for many different reasons. It can induce meditative states, produce feelings of connection and closeness between people; it is used erotically for heightened awareness and intimacy and, in a sadomasochistic setting, for power play.”

Detective Chief Inspector Rod Hart said on Friday that four detectives assigned to the case had worked “around the clock” since the allegations were made and were calling out to anyone else who may have been affected.

“The NSW Police Force take allegations of sexual assault very seriously,” he said.

“We have updated resources and technology that we put into these situations … we will create strike forces.

“So I urge anyone in the community who has been a victim of sexual assault who feels as though they can’t come forward to please come forward.”

Detectives have launched Strike Force Nannawilli and will continue to investigate the allegations.

*For 24-hour sexual violence support call the national hotline 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 or MensLine on 1800 600 636.   

Originally published as Bondage photographer on assault charges

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Lingerie brand faces accusations of Satanism over kinky video ad

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:24:32

Source: NYpost.com

USA – This lingerie advertisement hasn’t just scared the pants off its viewers — critics have also begun blasting the brand on social media, alleging the racy promo promotes Satanism.

Honey Birdette, an Australian label with several stateside locations in California, released a roughly one-minute-30-second advertisement on Sunday, which shows a red devil seducing a scantily clad model dressed in a red one-piece with straps and hooks.

The video aims to promote the brand’s “666 Club” line, and begins with the message, “Don’t forgive them, father, for they do know what they do,” — a riff on “Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned,” said at the beginning of confessions in the Catholic Church.

Filmed in Sydney in September, the red-filtered shots also show the model walking through an orgy, in which same-sex couples wearing bondage gear kiss.

The clip has earned about 64,000 views and a flurry of angry comments on the Instagram upload, which Honey Birdette captioned “Feeling a little devilish? Enter this way . . .”

“What in the satanism,” said one commenter, while another remarked “What’s next . . . child sacrifice?”

Others soon followed: “Why the blatant Satan worship? Who is paying you?” said another, while another, more matter-of-fact, said, “Huge fan of the brand but really don’t enjoy this marketing choice.”

The fire began burning last week, when Honey Birdette offered a quick online preview of the ad, with brand officials telling The Post that ticked-off viewers went into Australian store locations to see if they actually do worship Satan. But they brushed the backlash off.

“With everyone going through COVID, we just wanted to stimulate people,” Honey Birdette’s founder, Eloise Monaghan, said in a statement. “It’s time to have some fun and we need to do that visually at the moment.”

Honey Birdette releases a Halloween-themed campaign each year, and this year’s video took inspiration from a Berlin nightclub full of models in latex, leather and chains. The 666 Club collection includes seven looks, one of them named “Kukuro Leopard,” which has leopard-print bras, bottoms and bondage kits, and a garter belt set priced at $315.

“Kukuro is the bondage set that has 14 different sex positions you can use it with,” said Monaghan.

But sex wasn’t on the mind of the online critics.

“Holy f - - k in hell wtf did you ladies of honeybirdette sell your poor soul to the devil during this pandemic?” wrote another. “Next scene: these beautiful ladies are sacrificing underage little girls and drinking their blood wtf.”

“There’s always someone who’s got a problem with sex, isn’t there?” Monaghan said in the statement regarding initial criticism. “Anyone who doesn’t fancy women being empowered to use their sexuality is generally who the complainers are.”

Not everyone took to Instagram with complaints centered on Satanic allegations. One person sought to challenge those critics.

“If any of ya’ll actually sat down for like 2 minutes and actually learnt what Satanism is and not stick to whatever the f - - k you have been taught you’d probably get some enlightenment oddly enough,” wrote one user.

Others offered support.

“Favourite collection ever hands down,” said one. Another, more descriptive, said, “People are so triggered while I’m over here panting like HOT HOT HOT f - - king YES.”

Meanwhile, a user named @naughty_little_vixen, said “The Devil just gives it that forbidden touch of SIN.”

See more and larger photo’s plus video on: NYpost.com.


From police officer to dominatrix: Woman, 32, leads ‘double life’

BDSM Media News Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:16:32

Source: au.lifestyle.yahoo.com.

GERMANY – An ex-police officer has revealed how she spent seven years moonlighting as a dominatrix after being inspired by sex workers and prostitutes she met on the job.

Former police commissioner Sarah Keller from Duisburg, Germany, was rising through the ranks when, in 2011, she attended a fetish party with a close friend and became instantly fascinated by the world of BDSM, bondage and domination.

“I felt at home with the police and it certainly was a great job. But something was missing,” she said.

“I wanted to do the things in life that really give me joy. In my private life, I’ve always had a passion for BDSM. It gives me a satisfying feeling to lead people and exercise power.”

Police officer to dominatrix

For the next seven years, the 32-year-old led a double life, fighting crime during the day before swapping her traditional police uniform for a latex one and transforming into a femme fatale at night.

Investigating sex crimes and speaking regularly with prostitutes who would tell her about their lives and work only furthered Sarah’s desire to pursue her X-rated career.

But her conflicting passions were difficult to keep secret and before long, racy pictures of Sarah began circulating the station, with colleagues even creating WhatsApp groups to share her images.

Her decision to upgrade from her natural D-cup breasts to a whopping 34F, paint her fingernails bright red and don heavy make-up, made her tenure in the police force an increasingly difficult one.

“I noticed that my lifestyle was becoming more and more different from that of most colleagues. Values such as owning your own home or saving for retirement were much less important to me than the aspect of feeling good in your own body and enjoying freedom,” she said.

In 2017, after 11 years as a cop, Sarah swapped her position of power as a commissioner for a very different type of authority figure as a full-time dominatrix.

Meet Calea Toxic

Today, Sarah is better known by her dominatrix name, Calea Toxic, and has a growing Instagram following of over 26k users as well as several cover appearances on fetish magazines and an appearance in a TV doco under her belt.

Besides recurring guest appearances in the best dominatrix studios in Europe, she is available for exclusive photoshoots and also provides a ‘bizarre escort service’ for the ‘more solvent gentleman’ as well as catering for couples who want to push the boundaries of their sexual experimentation and explore their most taboo desires.

“Playing games with latex, whips and bondage allows me to disappear into a completely different place,” she said.

Since shifting her career, Sarah is earning more than she ever did as a police commissioner, a role that typically earns upwards of £100k (AUD$177k) in Germany.

But for Sarah, it’s not about the paycheque.

“For me, money is not the most important part of why I do what I do. I want to pursue my job independently and out of my own motivation,” she said.

She says she’s just as professional while working as a dominatrix as she was as a police commissioner and doesn’t see much difference between the two.

“In some ways, the jobs are pretty similar. You have a lot of responsibility. You have to guide and direct people.

“I guess the main difference is the uniform.”

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