Men pay us £5 a minute to humiliate them on the web: Three internet dominatrixes reveal all

Dominatrixes claim to have saved marriages and even do couples sessions


Source: Thesun.co.uk.


UK – BUSINESS is booming in the world of the online dominatrix.


It is estimated there are a thousand women advertising online in Britain, charging up to £5 a minute for everything from acting out fantasies to forcing men to bathe in custard.

Some “dommes” report earning more than £1,000 a day while a survey by Durex revealed 37 per cent of men say they enjoy bondage.

Last week Doctor Leendert Verstraten, 55, hit the headlines after sending an online dominatrix a picture of himself in a torture device – while wearing his surgical scrubs.

He has since been suspended from Aintree University Hospital.

Here DIANA APPLEYARD speaks to three online dominatrixes and a psychologist to find out why it is a growing trend.

‘Everybody has a kink’

MISTRESS ANA is 34 and lives with her partner in Glasgow

She says: I’m what I describe as an “old-school femme domme”. I am a strict disciplinarian and I like to really find out what makes my clients tick.

I’m happy to wear the latex if they politely request and book accordingly but I won’t get naked.

I often carry out my webcam sessions wearing just a pair of jeans and a blouse. It’s what I say that is important.

If they want tasks I will issue them. But often they want to talk and explore their fantasies with someone who won’t be horrified.

Between sessions I can be doing anything from editing video and posting comments on Twitter to chatting to my mum on Facebook.

I started off working in Asda as a teenager but then got into the world of online sex chat lines after spotting an ad in a magazine.

I was utterly amazed at how many men out there love to be humiliated by a dominatrix. I firmly believe that everyone has a kink – some are just more extreme than most.

These are men with responsible jobs but they need this as a form of release.

I don’t see their needs as weird or perverted – to these men they are liberating. I firmly believe I save marriages because this gives men an outlet they could not get with their partner.

I charge £2.50 per minute and feel I’m fulfilling a growing need in today’s society.

‘Couples come to me for inspiration’

MIA HARRINGTON, 38, is single and works from her “chambers” in Brighton

She says: I am inundated with men asking to use my online services.

I do some webcam although mostly I prefer to meet my clients face to face as I think they get a much more valuable experience.

But the internet is perfect for men who don’t feel they are ready to actually visit a dominatrix, so I will take on some online clients and charge around £2 a minute.

My clients are men, women and couples. They all enjoy serving me. Some like to act out unusual fantasies.

Couples enjoy getting inspiration from my work so they can act out more at home. It’s mainly about escapism and to most it’s about letting go of stress and allowing someone else to be in charge for a while.

I take away all the pressures and strains from everyday life. During our time together they can be anything they want to be.

Most fantasies aren’t sexual as many people might think. The strangest request I have ever had is from a man who wanted to dangle naked over a boiling cauldron. Sadly, I couldn’t accommodate him.

My clients are from all walks of life – businessmen and women, teachers, doctors, lawyers, tradesmen.

Some are rich, some save up to spend time with me. These are normal people you would see walking down the street.

I think the reason most men want to use an online dominatrix is curiosity.

Using a dominatrix is taking that extra step into a more extreme world – and it can be highly addictive.

‘I punish as I do dusting’

MISTRESS CURSE, 29, lives with her boyfriend in North London

She says: This job is all about multi-tasking. I can work while doing the household chores.

When I’m “punishing” a submissive over Skype or FaceTime I can be doing a bit of dusting.

Men will even pay just to stare at my feet for hours, so I put the laptop camera on to my feet then carry on with whatever I am doing.

Nothing can surprise me any more in this profession. I’ve been working as an online dominatrix for two years now and I love it. We are overwhelmed by the number of men who want to be dominated and humiliated.

I have men who’ll pay £3 a minute to watch me put on my make-up, or eat a meal. I charge more if they put on their webcam so I can see them too – that’s £5 a minute.

They like that they are being ignored – it’s all part of being submissive.

I’m happy to dress up in latex and the fetish gear but often they like me in normal clothing.

I’ve made naked clients smother themselves in custard or my personal favourite – jellied eels. It never fails to make me howl with laughter but they don’t seem to mind.

It’s not my job to judge these men and my boyfriend doesn’t mind.

He finds it funny and loves the fact that so many men are fantasising about me.

Psychologist’s view

Behavioural addictions professor Dr Mark Griffiths, of Nottingham Trent University, says:

“There is no doubt the internet has made the world of domination much more accessible.

“Men who might find meeting a dominatrix face to face too threatening will feel they can safely access their service online.

“Most people get more disinhibited when they are online.

“It lowers your emotional guard and you feel you can safely reveal your deepest, darkest secrets.”

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