BELGIUM – FLANDERS – HAM – Scarlett Johansson gets off on backseat sex, Eva Longoria gets aroused by silk, and Machine Gun Kelly and his girlfriend Megan Fox swear by blood in the bedroom. But it’s not just the rich and famous who harbor a kink or fetish. In the final episode of the HLN Original “The World of Nanoe,” Nanoe heads to a fetish club where there are few, if any, taboos. But who are the guests? What is adult play, and why is there a confessional? And what is sensory deprivation? Find out in the video above. (Only available to HLN subscribers rec. BDSM Radio.eu)
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In the HLN Original video series “The World of Nanoe,” sex worker Nanoe Vaesen gives viewers a unique glimpse into the Belgian sex industry. The sector generates an annual turnover of over one billion euros, and now that sex work has been decriminalized, more people are daring to step out of anonymity. Nanoe goes out with high-class escorts, pornographers, fetishists, and visits swingers’ clubs and massage parlors. The World of Nanoe is available exclusively in the HLN app. A new episode airs every Friday for eight weeks.
Fe·tish (the; m; plural: fetishes) 1. object that is worshipped (as an idol); fe·ti·sjis·me (the; n) 1. worship of fetishes 2. sexual preference for a particular object. That is the definition of the concept fetish according to ‘ Dikke Van Dale’.
Many people think of adults in diapers, BDSM, or tough men with mustaches in leather outfits when they hear the word fetish, but a fetish doesn’t have to be extreme. “We call it a fetish when someone is aroused by an inanimate object,” says sexologist Wim Slabbinck. “That can really be anything. It can also involve certain acts that people find erotic. Think of putting on fishnet stockings, for example.”
Role-playing or so-called kinks are also part of the wonderful world of fetishism. The most popular kink in Flanders is voyeurism (peeking or being peeped at), followed by spanking (the infamous spanking) and bondage (being tied up). At Club 78 in Ham, a non-profit organization with over 500 members, they know all about it. Fetishists and kink enthusiasts find kindred spirits there. “We have special events, but also regular evenings where people can just socialize and talk about their fetish,” says volunteer Faylinny. “Come join us is our motto when we welcome new people.”
Being yourself is what it’s all about for us. If we want to achieve anything, it’s for people to be able to (re)discover themselves. Faylinny, Club Volunteer
Everything is up for discussion at Club 78. “I have a hair fetish myself,” Faylinny explains. “I can’t describe what hair does to me, but it’s a need. The most important thing is that people can experience their fetish in a safe environment. We have specially equipped rooms for that, with things like a gynecologist’s chair or a St. Andrew’s cross, lots of props, and occasionally we even organize lectures. Being yourself, that’s what it’s all about for us. And it doesn’t matter if you’re young, old, poor, rich, single, or married. A few months ago, we had an older man visit. It was his first time at the club. He was completely amazed at how free he felt there. Simply because he could be completely himself. If we want to achieve anything, it’s for people to (re)discover themselves.”
Innocent
According to sexologist Wim Slabbinck, that’s the essence of fetishism: being able to be yourself. Yet, 57% of Flemish people don’t dare reveal their fetish or kink to their partner. “A kink or fetish is essentially harmless, but in a relationship, it can have negative consequences if one partner isn’t aware of the other’s unique preferences. Then it’s a matter of finding a form of acceptance or a way for the couple to integrate this into their sex life. That’s not always so easy. For many, the topic is even taboo, and that’s where the problems arise.”
Actually, we all have a fetish. How many men are there who fall for big breasts or long legs? Undoubtedly as many as there are women who get excited by a robust male chest.” Wim Slabbinck, Sexologist
Learned at a young age
Yet it doesn’t have to be taboo at all. Figures show that 68% of Flemish people have a kink, and 50 percent of Flemish people even discover their first kink before the age of 20. “We all have a fetish, really. How many men are there who fall for big breasts or long legs? Undoubtedly as many as there are women who are aroused by a robust male chest. It would be nice if we could be more open about that. If we can articulate what we like, it makes us freer,” says Slabbinck, who distinguishes between two categories of people. There are people who need their fetish to become aroused. Without it, it simply isn’t possible. That’s a minority, though. We often see that people with a fetish simply remember a moment from their childhood that gave them a pleasurable feeling. This creates a connection that can also be sexually stimulating. If that connection surfaces at a young age, they will carry it with them for the rest of their lives and, hopefully, be able to cherish it.
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