Source: Rijnmond.nl
RIJNMOND EO – Venny Lugard, also known as Goddess Coco, is a dominant sex worker with a social mission. Venny truly finds her strength in this work. “Sex work offers insights you won’t get anywhere else.”
As a dominatrix , Venny Lugard (30) works with a group of paid slaves. “They wish me good morning and good night every morning. I don’t respond to them. And on Sunday, the day of worship, they have to say a prayer at an altar of mine that they have at home. They say, for example, that without me they are nothing,” she says.
A dominatrix is a woman who plays the dominant role in a sadomasochistic relationship, where one partner derives pleasure from receiving pain. A dominatrix can be the mistress in a BDSM relationship, where she holds the power and controls the subordinate.
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Hitting and name-calling
When Venny meets up with her slaves, she dominates them in various ways. “It ranges from violent beatings to humiliating and insulting men. But simply making men do housework or worshiping my feet is also possible.”
Her slaves approach her through social media, often only after a long period of following. To see how serious and dedicated someone is, Venny asks for a fee to even get her attention. “I find it interesting to see how much someone wants it. After that, I share the rules of our relationship, and their trial period begins; you’re essentially already establishing a dynamic.”
From OnlyFans to dominance
For Venny, the search for sexual boundaries began around her twenties. “I’ve always been interested in exploring different power dynamics with partners. I also enjoyed being the center of attention and often took sexy photos that attracted a lot of comments. At some point, I thought: if I’m going to be sexualized anyway, why should I do it for free?”
She waited a few years until the moment felt right. “I started with OnlyFans, an online platform where fans pay for sexual photos and videos. At 25, I was truly ready. I’d thought about how I wanted to approach it, what message I wanted to convey, and what kind of impact I wanted to make.”
She currently also works as a coordinator at Door2Door, the information center for sex workers in Rotterdam. She also works as a voice actress and artist. So, no two days are the same for this Rotterdam native.
Dominant content
She soon received many requests for dominant content. “I hadn’t even considered that myself. I started delving deeper, attending workshops, and doing research. And slowly, I found my own style.”
She had experience with all sorts of different types of sex work, but domination really sparked her interest. “The beauty of BDSM in general is that you can go very far with someone, with consent. You explore each other’s boundaries in a safe way,” Venny shares.
BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism) refers to sexual preferences and role-playing involving physical restraints, intense stimulation, or power dynamics. A dominant in this world is the person who guides a submissive in sexual or erotic role-play. This doesn’t necessarily have to be a sexual act; the play can also take a purely mental form.
A political character
That sex work can also be political became clear to her when she met Mistress Velvet, a Black female sex worker from America. “She taught me that this work can provide insights you don’t get anywhere else. Precisely because, as a Black female sex worker, you fall outside the societal ‘norm.'”
For example, reading the book “White Innocence” by Gloria Wekker is mandatory for Venny’s slaves. “I recently had someone say he used to be racist and that’s why he now wants to worship a Black goddess. I often see white men trying to make amends this way.”
The social ladder
Venny has found her strength in her relationships with her male clients. “Often, the white man is at the ‘top’ of the social ladder, and Black female sex workers are at the ‘bottom.’ In my work, I can completely reverse this. That’s inspiring for both them and me.”
One of her regular clients is a teacher. “He has to write a report every session. He sometimes incorporates what he learns from me into his lessons. If something’s not right, I punish him. Sometimes I kick him in the balls, and sometimes he has to kiss my feet.”
A privileged position
Although her work fosters deep connections, Venny maintains clear boundaries. “It’s work, not who I really am. People sometimes fall in love with me, but it’s still a transaction. I’m not selling myself, I’m selling an experience.”
She also points out the privilege she has as a sex worker with freedom of choice. “There are people who want to pay me thousands of euros for whatever they want. But I say no. I’m in the privileged position of only having to have three clients at a time. That’s not the case for everyone. Many people do this work for survival.”
Suppressed energy
For Venny, sex work is inextricably linked to larger social issues. “Sex work makes the world a better place. There’s so much repressed energy in masculinity. Sometimes, complete surrender is precisely what brings healing.”
She believes it’s important to always keep seeking connection. “I hope we can all be a little kinder to each other. And if you hurt someone, make them beg for it.”
