USA – A Jeannette woman convicted last year in the fatal bludgeoning of her teen-aged boyfriend insisted in court on Monday she did not intend for him to die.
Crystal Belle, 40, said during her sentencing hearing she cared deeply for her 19-year-old boyfriend, Khalil Parker, even as she used the wooden handle of a snow shovel to repeatedly beat him during one of many violent incidents involving the couple at their South Seventh Street home.
“He was a willing participant. If he was here today we would be fighting. I didn’t torture him,” Belle said. “I’m telling you I never hit him and wanted him to die. If I was obsessive and jealous you don’t want him to die. I did not want him to die.”
Following a six-day trial in October, a Westmoreland County jury convicted Belle of third-degree murder. Prosecutors contended she intended to kill Parker and had sought a first-degree murder finding, a verdict that would have resulted in a life prison sentence.
Westmoreland County Common Pleas Court Judge Christopher Feliciani sentenced Belle to serve 15 to 30 years in prison.
“No sentence will make things better for the victim’s family. Nothing will bring Khalil back. Your conduct did reflect a conscious indifference to human life,” Feliciani said.
Prosecutors at trial said Belle and Parker engaged in sexual games and bondage scenarios that turned violent and ultimately resulted in his death in June 2016.
Parker sustained more than 100 injuries over his body, including a head wound and smaller cuts and bruises that appeared on his neck, chest, arms, legs and genitals. His autopsy revealed he died from not one specific wound but a loss of blood from a cumulative effect of all of his injuries, according to the prosecution.
At trial, the prosecution suggested Belle used the snow shovel and a wooden plank to bludgeon Parker in the head as he was tied to the bed then attempted to clean and sanitize her home before she dragged Parker down the stairs and called for an ambulance.
Belle’s comments in court on Monday were in contrast to testimony she gave at trial.
Belle told jurors she and Parker participated in sexual domination and bondage. She testified they used shoelaces to tie each other to a bed and inflict pain on their partner with the handle of a snow shovel or wooden board. Belle told jurors that, the night before Parker’s death, she became enraged when he inserted the shovel into her body against her will and later tried to force her to perform a sex act.
She said she responded violently, threw the shovel handle at him, jabbed at Parker with scissors and used pliers to attack his genitals as he ran naked out of the room. She testified the fight eventually ended and they went to sleep. She claimed that, when she awoke the next morning, Parker wasn’t home and didn’t return for hours. Belle testified Parker finally returned home with a head wound she couldn’t explain.
In court on Monday, Parker’s sister and father each said his death came much too soon.
“Every day is hard. He was my only son and he wasn’t a bad kid. I’m just torn up. I don’t know what to say,” said Parker’s father, Dewayne Morris. “We loved him and miss him so much. The way it was done was ruthless. He was only 19 years old and had his whole life ahead of him.”
USA – The actress is a new name to many in Hollywood, but she’s walked a long and winding path (as a dominatrix, painter, poet, clothing designer and photographer) to her overnight success: “You have to use your pain as a gift.”
Julia Fox just caused a car accident.
It was an hour ago, somewhere in Hollywood, about a mile from where she’s standing on this late November Friday night in front of a charming watering hole called The Broadwater Plunge on L.A.’s divey theater row. A freshly lit cigarette in one hand, cellphone in the other, Fox delivers the fender-bender details like a lunch order.
She was posing next to a freeway for a magazine shoot (Carine Roitfeld’s CR Fashion Book) when she saw a male driver unable to avert his gaze from her. “It was crazy traffic, and I was wearing the Gucci with all these slits up here,” she says, waving a hand — the one with the cigarette — in front of her chest, which is now covered in a black Cactus Jack hoodie. She takes a drag and exhales. “He couldn’t stop staring and just slammed into another car.”
That driver isn’t the only one who’s been unable to take his eyes off Fox as of late. The 29-year-old took on her first acting job in Josh and Benny Safdie’s two-hour adrenaline rush,Uncut Gems, playing a jewelry store employee and girlfriend of Howard Ratner, a gambling addict played by Adam Sandler. After the film’s TIFF world premiere, she earned buzz for her portrayal of his rough-around-the-edges mistress, signed with WME and, in October, earned a Gotham Award nom for breakout actor. The role has given her a shot at a Hollywood career, one she hopes will include more acting and, later, producing, directing and, somehow, a way to further infuse art with activism. From any other ingenue, the latter sounds like a publicist talking point — but not from her.
Fox lived many lives before making her way to the big screen, and this corner booth inside the bar where she sips a Coke and recaps the journey. She’s been a New York City teenage troublemaker, It girl, muse, club kid turned club owner, poet, author, artist, photographer, painter, provocateur, domestic violence survivor, a Page Six headline-maker and someone who has raised her voice to say #MeToo. (In 2017, she accused notable artist and photographer Chuck Close of lewd conduct during a 2013 shoot. He later apologized.)
“I’m always changing. I’m always evolving. I’m always growing,” says Fox. “I want to explore myself in every facet. I don’t ever want to limit myself based on what other people have told me I am.”
Born in Milan to an Italian mother and American father, Fox’s early years were spent living with her grandfather near Milan because of her parents’ strained relationship. Her father, meanwhile, was “living in New York, like, figuring it out, trying to get an apartment and living on a boat.” When he landed a construction job and signed a lease, Fox left Italy to live full-time in Yorkville, a posh neighborhood on Manhattan’s Upper East Side. “It was just a total 180 from what I was used to. My family is Italian, traditional Catholic, and suddenly I was living with a crazy man in New York.”
To confirm the use of that particular adjective, Fox tells the following story: “The first thing my dad did when I got to New York was walk me to the corner and point to the street sign. He was like, ‘OK, this is where you live. If anything happens, this is where you live.’ Then he kind of just sent me off in the world, and I had to figure it out from there.”
That’s what she’s been doing ever since, albeit with many twists and turns. Fox says she never applied herself in school and got mixed up with friends who were drinking, drugging and clubbing in the way that city kids sometimes do. She has talked openly of surviving an overdose at 17. “It’s kind of a miracle that I’m OK because a lot of the people I grew up with aren’t doing so well. They’re still on drugs or in jail. A lot of them died.”
She credits a solid work ethic as one of the keys to getting out alive. “My dad didn’t give me money, so I always had to work.” She started off at a shoe store on 86th Street called Orva, in the hosiery department because nobody went there. “That’s where they put me because I was too incapable of doing anything,” she says. She worked in an ice cream shop and pastry shop. “Then I got into the sex industry pretty young, doing S&M stuff.”
Officially, the job title was “dominatrix.” Fox, who was in high school at the time, says it’s not as shocking as it sounds. “I had heard about another girl who was doing it and that there was no sex and no nudity. It was all role-playing, and I was like, ‘I can do that. I can act. I can put on an outfit,’ you know? I did it, and it was great. I really credit it when people ask me, ‘Oh, have you ever acted before?’ “
The money was so good, she says — “Suddenly I could get my own apartment, pay all my own bills” — that it made up for the clientele. “They were all weird but nice,” she explains. “Like, submissive men who all had issues. Toward the end, I was like, ‘Dude, just go get therapy and stop coming here.’ “
She took her own advice and quit after a six-month stint to settle down with a boyfriend in a relationship that lasted six years. During that time, she partnered with friend Briana Andalore to launch a successful women’s clothing line, Franziska Fox, until she outgrew that business and segued to a series of provocative art projects using trauma as inspiration.
She self-published back-to-back books — Symptomatic of a Relationship Gone Sour: Heartburn/Nausea, published in 2015, and 2016’s PTSD — and hosted the art exhibit “R.I.P. Julia Fox,” with some of the work featuring paintings colored with her own blood. Combined, the projects provided intimate, unflinching looks at drug use, domestic violence, sex, mental illness and dominatrix work. “I’m so proud as a person, so to make myself vulnerable was hard, but it felt freeing and cathartic. I was living my truth,” she says, singling out the abuse she suffered in one of her relationships as hardest to reveal. “You have to use your pain as your gift. If you’re able to take something really negative and repackage it as something positive, you’ve nailed it.”
Josh Safdie noticed that quality when he caught a glimpse of Fox, first on the now-defunct social site Vine, and later when she walked by West Village restaurant Jack’s Wife Freda, where he was sitting on the patio with producer Sebastian Bear-McClard. “When you think you know her, you see another facet of her,” he says. “She’s like an uncut gem, really. The more you dig, the more beauty you see.”
The filmmaker, who had been developing Uncut Gems for five years before that chance meeting, saw more than 200 actresses for the role. Fox says she’d heard they included such stars as Lady Gaga, Kim Kardashian, Scarlett Johansson and Jennifer Lawrence, but never confirmed with Josh because “I didn’t want to drive myself crazy.”
What she does know is that “when the studios got involved and a lot of money was being poured into the project, they wanted a big-name lead actress.” She also had to prove to producer Scott Rudin that she could actually act. After Sandler was cast, she did a screen test with him in Barneys New York, the now-bankrupt department store. “The chemistry was so undeniable that I think that when Scott saw the tape, he was like, ‘OK, I get it.’ “
Fox threw herself into the role as much as she did any of her other projects, even going method for a scene in which her character stays up all night. “She looked beat, and I don’t think she realized that we’d be shooting the same scene all day long. So like an hour or two in, she said, ‘Oh my God, am I tired,’ ” Sandler recalls, laughing. “She was incredible. Very instinctive, and she played everything so real. I never knew what the heck would happen.
Fox isn’t sure where her next chapter will take her, but she’s leaning toward moving to L.A. to be closer to the industry. She’s inspired by Margot Robbie, who broke out in The Wolf of Wall Street before becoming a formidable producer. Like Robbie, Fox also recently married but is mostly private about it. (“He’s kind of my rock — he’s so unfazed and doesn’t care who I am. To him, I’m Julia,” she says of husband Peter Artemiev, who works in aviation, according to The New York Times.)
Just when you think you have a handle on her story, Fox says something else about her past, and it makes you think there’s something to what Josh Safdie believes. When you think you know her, another layer is unearthed, like an uncut gem. “I really have to stay focused and on the straight and narrow to avoid certain people and any type of trigger,” Fox says about the possibility of moving to another city. “That lifestyle still lingers, and that’s kind of why I want to get out of New York. Just to leave it all behind and not be reminded of anything so I can start fresh. Every time I’ve run away, it was like I was running toward something.”
She’s sure Hollywood is what she’s running toward now, but unlike that man in the car, she’s keeping her eyes on the road. “I always knew there was more for me — I just didn’t know if I could access it.”
BRITISH backpacker Grace Millane asked a previous boyfriend to choke her during sex and had profiles on BDSM websites, a murder trial in New Zealand has heard.
Her former partner said he and Ms Millane had researched how to practise choking safely, the court in Auckland was told. ‘Grace and I discussed keeping hands wide and on the side of the neck, never on the front,’ he told police.
‘Grace and I would have a safe word most of the time which we had discussed, something like “turtle” or something ridiculous. Grace and I used a tapping practice too. If Grace tapped me three times then it would stop.’
Jurors heard messages sent from her had been found on two BDSM dating sites called FetLife and Whiplr, which she accessed an hour before a Tinder date on December 1 last year, a day before her 22nd birthday, with a 27-year-old man accused of her murder. The defendant, who cannot be named, is said to have strangled her and shoved her body inside a suitcase before burying it in a wooded area outside Auckland.
Defence barrister Ron Mansfield told jurors Ms Millane, from Wickford, Essex, was ‘a loving, bright, intelligent young woman’, adding: ‘The fact that we need to discuss with you what she liked to do in the bedroom should have no impact on her reputation at all.’
Called by the defence, pathologist Dr Fintan Garavan said Grace died after being involved in consensual sexual activity including choking.
He said a bruise found on her neck was not located in deep tissue and there was ‘no evidence to injuries of deeper haemorrhaging’. The trial continues.
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UK – A candidate looking to get elected as a new North Wales MP is the author of best-selling bondage novels “steamier than Fifty Shades”.
Steffie Williams Roberts, 27, is looking to claim the Arfon seat for the Labour Party in December. Under her pen name Steffie Dawn, she has written a number of racy books that have been in the Amazon Erotica Top 10.
They focus on BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism). Her seven-part series, A Week With My Romanian was published in 2013.
It follows a submissive who has been sharing an online relationship with an Eastern European dominant.
The first – Meeting My Master – shot to number three on the Amazon Erotica Bestseller List within six weeks.
One reviewer wrote: “This book is emotional and very steamy. It’s not for you if you are prudish! This book made my eyes bug out and my mouth drop open several times. You better get on board the ‘Romanian Master Train’.”
Speaking to North Wales Live, step-mother-of-two Steffie, who lives with her wife in Bangor, said her work was a “hobby that will always be part of me”. She added: “I enjoy expressing myself.”
Born in Rhiwlas, Bangor, Mrs Williams Roberts grew up on the Maesgeirchen Estate and studied Law at University before joining the Labour party in 2015.
She says her priority policy is to ensure there is fairer funding in Wales in the future.
“It’s time for real change. I’ve seen public services starved of money over the years,” she said.
“It’s all about opportunities, youth and life chances. We need proper funding for Wales.
“I’m a real change for Arfon – I’m a stronger and newer voice.”
Mrs Williams Roberts, who still lives in Bangor with her wife and children, is also a former beauty pageant contestant, with qualifications in Dance and Performing Arts.
She succeeded Mary Griffiths Clarke as the Labour candidate. Ms Griffiths Clarke announced last week that she no longer planned to run.
Mrs Williams Roberts is up against Plaid Cymru‘s Hywel Williams and the Brexit Party’s Gary Gribben.
*Annabelle Knight has shared her advice when it comes to sexual taboos *Among the list are bondage, erotica, sex toys, role swapping and adult shopping *Sex expert added having a caring and considerate conversation was important
UK – A sexpert has revealed the sexual trends that are no longer taboos today and how best to embrace them.
The British relationship expert Annabelle Knight, from Lovehoney, has shone a light on how bondage, erotica, sex toys, anal play, role swapping and adult shopping can all have a valuable place in a healthy relationship.
As the on-going conversation around sex continues, Annabelle also added that having a caring and considerate conversation about the sexual experience was also advisable.
Here she reveals to FEMAIL the five biggest taboos we should be welcoming….
BDSM (the act of using Bondage-Discipline, Dominance-Submission and Sadomasochism in sexual encounters), used to be the stuff of underground clubs or fetish societies and was hidden away from mainstream sex.
Nowadays including bondage in your sexual repertoire is, for lots of people, part and parcel of a healthy and happy sex life.
From light bondage, such as using masks for sensory deprivation to spanking, and restraint play. Whatever your level of experience there’s always a way you can dabble in BDSM fun.
Using a necktie or scarf to limit your partner’s sight can work wonders, as doing this can heighten their other senses, and make them more sensitive to sensual touch. This results in a more intense, and more often, satisfying sexual experience.
There are specialised bondage kits out there for every experience level such as this red hot bondage kit, which includes a little bit of everything to get you started.
However, when incorporating bondage into your life make sure you have agreed your boundaries and decided on a safe word, to ensure that play is both safe and consensual.
2. Erotica
In days gone by erotic literature was often met with raised eyebrows. When Lady Chatterley’s Lover was published, it was the subject of a watershed obscenity trial against the publisher Penguin Books.
But now, thanks to authors like Jilly Cooper, Sylvia Day, and E.L James, erotic fiction has become so mainstream that you can easily find these books on the shop floor of most bookstores.
Erotic fiction allows people to live out their fantasies through fiction, as well as garnering new ideas for the bedroom. Women that read erotic fiction report enjoying seventy-four percent more sex than women who do not.
As a couple, reading erotic fiction together can be a huge turn on, and, in a way can act as foreplay in itself. There are tonnes of great stuff out there; literotica.com offers a plethora of free erotic fiction with authors uploading new stories daily.
For something that bridges the gap between erotic fiction and women’s literature try The Endless Autumn, cited as being a mix of Fifty Shades of Grey and Bridget Jones’s Diary, it has a great blend of story and sex.
3. Couples sex toys
According to Lovehoney’s sexual Happiness Survey over two-thirds of us believe that sex plays an important role in our overall happiness, which is why more and more people are expanding their sexual repertoire with sex toys.
For many, sex toys are seen as something to be enjoyed during solo sex, but increasingly couples are turning to sex toys to enhance their sex lives.
Vibrating love rings are my most recommended couples toys as they have erection-enhancing properties and a plethora of benefits including additional external clitoral stimulation, which is extremely important for female pleasure and orgasm.
4. Anal play
In some circles the act of anal play is still very much taboo, however it’s becoming a more widely accepted sexual practice.
In the nineties around twenty-five percent of people had tried anal, but that figure had shot up to around forty percent by 2009.
The benefits of anal play are vast, not only could you achieve an entirely different type of orgasm, anal sex is also pregnancy risk free and, for those with medical problems such as Vaginismus, (where the vaginal canal closes through muscle spasms), anal play allows for intimate penetration, without discomfort or pain.
Proper anal play is extremely important – make sure to bathe beforehand and ensure you apply a good quality anal lubricant often during play.
It’s very important to take things slowly – I’d recommend using a finger or a slimline sex toy to prepare your anus before penetration.
5. Role swapping
Nowadays we are far more accepting of straying away from traditional gender roles in the bedroom.
Pegging is increasing in popularity among heterosexual couples; breaking the taboo is seen as incredibly sexy and can increase intimacy levels both sexually and emotionally.
Pegging, or strap on play is where the male partner is penetrated by the female partner, through the use of a harness and strap on.
A couple of years ago almost half of couples asked had no idea what pegging was, however, since then sales of strap ons and pegging sets have risen by almost 200 per cent according to Lovehoney.
Reversing roles can be hugely empowering and as a result an even bigger turn on. For anyone wishing to try it I’d recommend using plenty of anal lubricant and a strap on set with graduating dildos that allow for progression play.
One taboo that should never be broken…consent
Reluctance play is something that lots of couples enjoy- however it should always be consensual.
Sex is an on-going conversation with whoever is involved. If at any point someone changes their mind, then play should cease.
Having a caring and considerate conversation about the experience after is also advisable as proper sexual aftercare is very important for a happy and healthy sex life.
JAPAN – A prank video posted on social media by a higher-ranked sumo wrestler of a lower-ranked wrestler tied up, gagged and trying to free himself drew harsh criticism.
The Japan Sumo Association deemed the footage inappropriate and is calling on its members including wrestlers and stablemasters to refrain from posting on their private social networking sites.
The video footage was put up by 25-year-old komusubi Abi, in which juryo wrestler Wakamotoharu, a friend of Abi a year older than him, is bound and gagged with tape around his legs and his hands tied.
A prone Wakamotoharu lifts himself to a seated position in trying to free himself.
In a separate video that Wakamotoharu posted on his SNS account, Abi is given a similar “rough deal.”
On Nov. 9, Abi and Wakamotoharu visited the Fukuoka Kokusai Center, the venue for the current Kyushu Grand Sumo Tournament, and apologized to JSA Chairman Hakkaku, former yokozuna Hokutoumi, and other executives.
They submitted statements repenting their misdeed, which were required by the JSA.
“I should have been more self-aware. I will change my attitude,” Abi told reporters.
Kagamiyama, the former sekiwake Tagaryu, who is in charge of crisis management at the JSA, said that he advised the two wrestlers, “As you both are among the leading faces of sumo, behave as role models for younger wrestlers.”
On Nov. 6, the JSA told its members to exercise caution when posting on their private SNS accounts.
“As it is hard to oversee all posts by its members, the JSA decided to ask them to refrain from posting,” an official said.
Official accounts of each sumo stable on social networking sites are not targeted for the measure.
Both Abi and Wakamotoharu are competing in the 15-day Kyushu Grand Sumo Tournament, which started on Nov. 10. They both lost their bouts on the opening day.
Social media is popular among sumo wrestlers. Yokozuna Hakuho, komusubi Hokutofuji and No. 14 maegashira Terutsuyoshi all have Twitter accounts, with Hakuho having more than 123,000 followers.
UK – She’s in the midst of a world tour in support of her eighth studio album, Liberation.
And Christina Aguilera brought The X Tour to Wembley Arena in London on Saturday night, delivering a show-stopping performance for her fans in the capital.
The singer, 38, displayed her curves in a bondage inspired bodysuit and thigh high boots as she belted out her tunes both new and old.
Christina’s daring stage costume comprised a long sleeve red and black leotard adorned with leather straps and silver chains hooked up to a choker necklace.
For the duration of her performance, the singer’s platinum locks were secured up high in a slicked-back ponytail, which had been crimped for maximum volume.
Elsewhere, Christina donned a glittering black and gold leotard and coordinating chaps.
The singing sensation later switched into a shimmering black mac and wet look thigh high boots.
Elsewhere, she commanded attention in a daring metallic bodysuit, which featured nude paneling on the right hand side of the bodice.
The quirky number was set off with a pair of lace up thigh-high boots and the look also included a gravity defying collar.
Diamante embellishment on the bodice drew attention to her cleavage, giving the attire some added glamour.
Platinum singer-songwriter Christina a has added a second London date to her first U.K. tour in thirteen years.
The vocal powerhouse is bringing The X Tour to Glasgow, London, Manchester and Birmingham this November. Tickets are available now at LiveNation.co.uk.
Last month, Christina became emotional when she accepted an award from a domestic violence shelter last week.
The star was honored with the Community Hero award from Nevada’s The Shade Tree, and tearfully recounted her own past with domestic violence during her speech.
The superstar has opened up in the past about the abuse she, her mother and her sister endured at the hands of her father, becoming a role model for domestic violence survivors.
‘It’s just disgusting and it happens far too much to people that we do love,’ said the Beautiful hitmaker during her moving speech.
USA – Miss BumBum Suzy Cortez is no stranger to pushing the envelope with sexy shots, but she may have posted her sultriest yet when she dressed in dominatrix-inspired attire while posing on all fours.
In her newest Instagram post, Suzy added in her caption that any of her 2 million fans who were interested in more sizzling shots could sign up for exclusive content from the Brazilian bombshell. Though Suzy makes money from appearances and modeling contracts, she often posts about her private website, suggesting that it is a significant source of revenue for the buxom brunette.
No doubt many will be swayed to sign up after her latest shot. In the picture, Suzy wears a leather outfit that gives off serious dominatrix vibes due to its material and strap details. The top part of the outfit consists of a bralette, with a peek-a-boo accent at the side of the bust.
A strap wraps around her tiny waist, cinching her torso and highlighting her hourglass figure. The ensemble then turns into a thong bottom to leave much of her peachy posterior on full display. Another strap then wraps around the bottom of her famous derriere, once again emphasizing her insane curves.
Suzy seriously upped the dominatrix vibe by adding a pair of black patent leather thigh-high boots with a lace-up accent. Though fans will miss seeing her long and lean legs, she ensures that focus remains on her famous “bumbum.”
The bombshell completed the look with a leather mask that had bunny ears on top.
It is not just the ensemble that has the pulses of her fans racing, but also her pose. Suzy faces away from the camera, again keeping attention on her posterior. However, she is also on her hands and knees, in a very suggestive position. She looks over her shoulder at the camera, smoldering all the while.
See this article with more and larger photo’s on Inquisitr.com.
EXCLUSIVE: Students running 18+ accounts urge their followers to let them “rinse you dry”
UK – University students are embarking on lucrative financial dominatrix careers by using the Wetherspoons app to bag themselves free drinks.
Tech savvy social media users are using Twitter to cash in on financially submissive men by using the hashtag #SpoonsPig and #SpoonsSlave.
Women running 18+ accounts urge their followers to let them “rinse you dry” alongside links to cash-app services.
In a bid to make quick and easy cash – or bag themselves free drinks and food – university students have created “Goddess” accounts and are posting which Wetherspoons they’re at alongside their table number.
Wetherspoons app allows anyone with an iPhone or Android to order drinks to their table without leaving their seat.
Anyone with access to the app can send food and drink to a person if they know which Wetherspoons a person is in and where they are sitting.
Financial dominatrix’ – known on Twitter as Goddesses – appear to be using the function to their advantage by sharing location information to bag themselves a free night out.
In a Tweet aimed at thousands of followers, one financial dominatrix said: “Good morning… what little b***h is going to empty their wallets for me at spoons?”
Alongside the hashtag #SpoonsPig the dominatrix – known only to followers by her Goddess name – received over 36 likes and eight responses from men willing to send cash.
“I’m going to Sutton spoons… table number 34… I’m THIRSTY I want drinks NOW,” demanded another.
Others simply put: “Finished Uni for the day… Off to Spoons… who wants to serve me? #SpoonsPig”
Daily Star Online approached Wetherspoons for comment but the pub company declined.
HEEMSKERK - The end of the 24/7 radiostream is coming fast. Currently only the emergency stream is running before the candle really goes out.
A bag full of reasons that I have to put an end to the 24/7 stream.
In particular, the costs.. Only the authorrights costs 84 euros per month and then the costs for websites, stream and equipment. That while my income collapsed with more than 700 euros a month due to my illnesses. Plus that additional income is rather difficult at the social unsurance company and even donations that do not get me out of the costs.
Come to health! My energy bucket is empty much faster than in the time that I worked. Even now that I have been rejected I have relatively less time for the radio hobby than in my working life unfortunately!
Updating tracks for the 24/7 music stream also took quite a lot of time, so the other radio tasks were left behind.
Now that more time and money is released, BDSM Radio is going back to the early days. So that i presented programs and info!
Once the equipment has been repaired, it can take place again. As soon as the time comes? I scream it from the rooftops !!
For music lovers, I will continue to add music via Spotify and YouTube so that you can still listen to nonstop music for many days!
Reactions and tips are always welcome!
Greetings and a lot of BDSM fun!
Tom Verhoeven bdsmradioeu@hotmail.com
USA – MIAMI – Three years ago, Luis Moya was opening Hammer & Nails, a Miami sex fetish club that featured a dungeon, cages and electric-shock equipment.
On Friday, he sat handcuffed in a different setting — in a courtroom, wearing an orange jumpsuit, facing the family of Ana Rosa Moreno, his ex-roommate whom he strangled to death.
“The simple fact that I can no longer call her or text her to tell her I love her hurts me so much,” Wendy Moreno, her sister, told the court.
She called him “a monster who decided to end her life for selfish reasons.”
Moya, 52, offered no apology, and said nothing as a Miami-Dade judge sentenced him to 45 years in prison for second-degree murder.
“At your age, Mr. Moya, 45 years is going to be a life sentence,” Circuit Judge Marisa Tinkler Mendez told him.
Jurors convicted Moya in June. Miami-Dade prosecutors Suzanne Von Paulus and Stewart Hedrick argued for a life sentence, saying the 21-year-old Moreno died in one of the “most horrific ways a human being can die.”
Moya’s defense lawyers said he was a father of one who had a string of businesses over the years, including a tilapia farming venture and a boat tour company. He could still contribute to society, lawyers Lauren Dawson and Alex Saiz said.
“To give Mr. Moya a life sentence is putting a huge burden on the taxpayers,” Dawson said.
Moya’s lifestyle and work were not shared with jurors.
In 2016, Moya opened the fetish club in Wynwood, which he touted as a safe space for people who enjoy “BDSM,” an acronym for bondage and sadomasochism.
“People think BDSM has to give someone pain all the time, but it has nothing to do with that,” Moya told the Miami New Times in 2016. “The majority of BDSM is about having control over someone’s feelings and beliefs and making them feel awesome. We’re humans; sex is a part of every human’s lifestyle.”
At trial, jurors heard that he strangled Moreno, who worked at a car dealership and lived for a time with him in his Kendall home. Moya had lied to her, saying he was only 37 and a wealthy Brazilian businessman.
Prosecutors said Moya became enraged with Moreno after she moved out.
Police discovered her body on the 2900 block of Southwest First Avenue early in the morning on Dec. 15, 2018. Investigators initially believed she was an overdose victim, until an autopsy revealed she had been strangled.
Moya admitted to Miami homicide detectives that she returned to his home that night. He claimed she demanded money, then asked him to drop her off in The Roads, a Miami neighborhood. At first, he admitted he drove her there, but claimed she got out, got into someone else’s car and he drove away.
But jurors saw a surveillance video that depicted him dumping her body, and him driving away in her Honda Accord. When shown the video by police, Moya changed his story and denied the car on the footage was the one he was driving.
The state also presented toll records showing him driving from Kendall to Miami, text messages outlining their angry exchanges and his Google searches that led him to disable the GPS in her car before discarding the body.
The murder devastated the Moreno family. She had planned to attend Miami Dade College, and eventually join the military. Her sister said she even hoped of becoming a police officer or a lawyer, and described her as a free spirit.
“She had the most contagious laugh you could ever imagine,” Wendy Moreno said.
The family was happy with the 45-year prison sentence.
“She saw the good in everybody, even when they didn’t deserve it,” Wendy Moreno said. “It’s just tragic that somebody she trusted did something like this to her.”
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INDIA – “It’s difficult to have this lifestyle because it becomes, for many guys especially, an easy way to hurt women.”
Sex in India is a rather contentious subject. And if you bring up BDSM—or bondage, dominance, submission, and masochism—chances are people will fluctuate between not knowing the abbreviation or referring to Fifty Shades of Grey. There’s a direct correlation with images of chains and whips and handcuffs. There’ll even be some scenes of bondage in Christian Grey’s “red room of pain” playing in your head.
Needless to say, BDSM—a blanket term for various practices that involve consensual exploration of power and pain to derive sexual pleasures—is an uncomfortable conversation that takes place behind closed doors or intimate online spaces. Not to mention the immense stigma and taboo since a lot of sexual imagination in this nook of the world is either vanilla (read: heteronormative) or sanskaari.
However, one of the most complex dynamics in the BDSM lifestyle is that of a dom-sub relationship, especially for those outside the kink community. Dominant (dom) and submissive (sub) are power relations between two persons where each one takes on one of the roles. And this doesn’t have to be just sexual. Dom-sub relationships can be physical, sexual, intimate or even without any physical contact. Just like literally any relationship, dom-subs can be romantically involved, or monogamous, or polyamorous, irrespective of gender or sexuality.
Of the two, female dominatrix dominate popular culture and imagination, be it in the bedroom or professionally. In India, though, a male dominant/dom comes with a power dynamic that already exists in our patriarchal setup. So what does it mean to be one in India? VICE reached out to Shantanu David, a 30-year-old New Delhi resident and writer, who opens up about the misconceptions of BDSM, the catharsis of being a dom in bed, and being able to do it in a country like India.
VICE: Hey Shantanu. Maybe we could start with why you like to dominate. SHANTANU DAVID: It’s probably psychological, because I’m not a very dominating person in my life. But sexually, I like to retain a degree of control.
What led you to exploring the dom lifestyle? I was 16 years old. My girlfriend, who was 17, and I were having a lot of sex at the time. We would fuck like three-four times a day, like all teenagers do. Then it gradually started to get a bit staid so this one time, I spanked her experimentally while we were fucking and she came immediately, and so did I. And she and I explored that together.
So you never took on the dom role very strictly? Once I explored both sides, I decided I was more into domming. So I stuck to that.
Do you have a niche preference while domming? I wouldn’t call it a niche. There are different categories. I suppose I would qualify as a sadistic dom. It means that I derive pleasure from being cruel. This manifests more as emotional and lifestyle control. I don’t like to physically hurt people. I suppose I enjoy a certain degree of emotional control in bed, rather than spanking.
How does that manifest? It involves picking outfits, actually more like picking undergarments.
Are there any specific kinds of undergarments? It’s based on the day and what I feel like. I often pick colours depending on my mood. Like there are days when I feel like thongs. I’m a big fan of lingerie so I love stockings and corsets. My aesthetic is very 1920s Hollywood.
Do you buy them and keep them? Of course. I wouldn’t let anyone buy something that I’m asking for. But I don’t keep them. I give it to them as soon as they’re bought. I don’t keep anything except for receipts and broken dreams (laughs). No, but I don’t collect women’s undergarments.
In a conservative city like Delhi, how do you seek out sub partners? So I’m on this website called Fetlife.com, which is essentially Facebook for people who’re into the lifestyle. So you put up your profile, you get people to chat with you, and so on.
Is it safe and easy to reach out to people? Well, I do use a fake name. Earlier I used to use my real name, but I had some bad experiences with some crazy people. One girl turned up at my house at 2 AM and rang my bell [I live with my parents]. She wanted to see me. She got attached, I suppose. Ever since, I’ve used a fake name.
Do you have any preferences in subs? It’s more about emotional connection, I suppose. I’m superficial as fuck too, but ultimately it’s about the connections.
What would you connect with? Probably damaged people like myself! We end up talking about our lives.
So these are relationships, and not one-off encounters. If I have an emotional connection with someone, I stand by them. I don’t do multiple partners or a one-off thing. I had a long relationship in my mid-20s. Before that, I would only do BDSM stuff with my girlfriends, but after that, I’ve actively sought sexual partners and not necessarily dating partners. But I can’t do a one-time thing. These relationships usually last a while.
Do you go through a transition from this lifestyle to the “regular” one? I think this lifestyle is a part of life now. After our sessions, we watch Netflix and chill, literally.
Where do you prefer having those sessions? At my home, her home, or a hotel. My sexual appetites are very expensive!
What does the dom lifestyle involve? So when it comes to sex, it’s just that: Sex. But the rest is all about control. Being called “daddy” is my latest thing, probably because I have daddy issues. I think the most I have physically hurt someone is using a belt with their consent, but I don’t really do the whole thing like bondage, etc.
What are the misconceptions people have about the BDSM lifestyle? BDSM has a lot of nuances. But the first misconception is Fifty Shades of Grey. Everyone in the community hates that book/movie because it’s so fucking horrendous. We call that physical abuse and rape. The one rule in the community is that you never do anything without their explicit permission.
Another misconception is around power. Every person who’s into BDSM is not on a power trip. It’s basically faith, consensual and there’s a code of conduct called RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). The basic tenet is that you don’t do anything that you wouldn’t want done to yourself. I mean, sure, you stretch boundaries, but always, always, always, it’s consent first. So if you go into a scene and find someone, you first find out what their hard limits and soft limits are. You shouldn’t cross them.
Do you see this lifestyle as therapy? Oh it’s very cathartic. For me, since I’m not very domineering in real life, it sort of helps me not be scared of putting my own point and thought across. On the other hand, a lot of the ladies I’ve been with are very successful in their line of work and they’re in positions of power. So they just like to “lose” control, as it were, because it gives them a sense of freedom to not have to decide certain things while in the scenario. Most of the subs I know are super boss-women and are in a position where they have to juggle a career and life. So being able to be told what to do within certain strictures, is freeing for them. And vice versa for someone like me, where I get to let go of my own sense of self.
Does your family know about this? Yeah.
Do they have any reservations? They’re not the ones having sex, I am.
How did they find out? We were on a family vacation in Hungary and I went to a sex shop, so I picked up a ball gag, nipple clamps and a riding crop. I kept these in my bag. And my mom and my sister, being the pernicious little sneaky ones that they are, opened them and there was this awkward silence. When I came back from my jaunt, I realised they’d seen it. I said, “You saw what’s in the bag, huh?” And they were like, yeah, and my sister said, “Bhaiyya, you’re so weird.” And I was like, yeah I know. But that was pretty much it.
What all do you keep for your dom sessions? Handcuffs, nipple clamps and leather blindfolds. But I don’t use the leather blindfolds because I was blindfolded for a meal once and I freaked out. I realised I hated that kind of loss of control. Since then, I have never used the blindfold on anyone because it was so fucking frightening for me that I don’t want to do that to anyone else.
Do your subs ever give you any “feedback”? Three of my subs have told me that I’m too empathetic to be sadistic. So I was like, shut up and bend over, bitch.
If you have to advise anyone who wants to start exploring as a dom, what would it be? Be a sub first so that you learn about empathy. You’ll know exactly what you’re going to put the other person through.
Do you think it’s difficult to have this lifestyle in India? Yeah, because it becomes, for many guys especially, an easy way to hurt women. I’ve heard some horror stories. It’s hard to get people to have that sort of comfort level and potentiality for trust.
Do you ever find it strange to be a dom in a country where patriarchy has essentially not allowed women much control and freedom anyway? It’s fascinating and sad at the same time, but also an interesting indicator of our society and our social mores. I’ve realised that most women have already experienced some kind of control at home. It’s easier for Indian women, rather than those in the West, to get into the mindset of submitting to a male figure.
UK – Jade is a financial dominatrix. New to the term? It basically means that she demands money from ‘slaves’, devoted worshippers who don’t want anything in return for their cash. Though it’s straightforward enough on the surface to explain, there are complexities and surprising difficulties that come with being paid by strangers to do very little, which are unpacked in Radio 1 and 1Xtra’s’s six-part podcast, Random Men Pay My Bills.
Host Riyadh Khalaf is given access to Goddess Jade’s world. She lives alone in London and since getting into the findom (financial domination) business, she’s made more than £250,000 in the last six years. Probably one of the most surprising things for listeners who may never have heard of findom before, is that all it takes is asking. With little more than a tweet requesting money to pay for a champagne lunch at a fancy Mayfair restaurant, Jade can have the money in her account in a matter of hours.
Jade tells Riyadh that she started out as a cam girl at university, which helped to pay for her degree in behavioural neuroscience. She originally wanted to do clinical psychology professionally but soon found her way in the findom sphere. Now earning approximately £60,000 a year, it’s easy to see why she hasn’t looked back.
Of course, this way of life comes with a price. The podcast is acutely conscious not to glamorise a lifestyle that can actually be pretty dangerous. There’s the fact that Jade’s family doesn’t know what she does for a living because she is worried about the concerns they’d have about her lifestyle. Her sister is the only one who knows about the financial domination set-up but there remains a difficult tension between the two of them whenever the subject of her work is broached. Then there’s the practically risky side of things, having to give so much of herself online, being so reliant on both social media and strangers to survive and, as you’ll discover in episode three, sometimes having to meet these strangers in person for a physical cash exchange.
Jade and Riyadh touch on the topic of whether financial domination aligns itself with sex work, which Jade disagrees with, although findom is often understood to be part of the BDSM family. Reliant on the fact that her subjects get pleasure from satisfying Jade (albeit financially), it’s clear that the lines are a little blurred and wider understanding is lacking. Jade thinks she’s happy with her lifestyle but as the episodes unfold listeners gain an insight into the less pleasant circumstances that led her to it and have shaped her perspective on operating in such a way. With few friends and unable to share a big part of her life with her family, the upsetting downsides to Jade’s experience of findom are as evident as the monetary upside. As Random Men Pay My Bills uncovers, there’s always so much more nuance – good and bad – to a lifestyle like this which, on the surface, seems little more than easy money from people willing to offer it.
USA – EUGENE, Ore. – A display showing a mannequin dressed in bondage accessories has been taken down at a Eugene adult shop after residents said they were offended.
The mannequin was tied up, handcuffed, blindfolded and wearing lingerie in the River Road Adult Shop storefront window.
One woman, who wanted to remain anonymous, said she first asked employees at the store to take it down on Oct. 28. On Sunday, she saw it was still up and sent an email to the company. She wrote the display was highly offensive and said it was causing a distraction to drivers, promoted violence against women and exposed children to pornographic imagery.
Mother of two Nuvia Jameson said the display is the last thing she wants her young children to see.
“Everyone has different interests, and I’m not here to judge at all, but to have it on display for everyone to see, I guess my concern is just children,” Jameson said.
KEZI 9 News reached out to the Adult Shop on Monday. An employee told KEZI they also thought the display was too much for the public and removed the bondage accessories from the mannequin. In an email to the offended resident, a company staff member apologized that it was not handled sooner. They said the display was not approved by their corporate office.
Theresa Boudreau lives right across the street from the store and said the display didn’t bother her but she believed they went too far and understands why parents with small children are upset.
“I don’t think there was any malice or forethought,” Boudreau said. “I don’t think anybody set out to be offensive or bother the neighborhood.”
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