Web developer Ruairi Murphy, 29, claimed he was “experimenting” with his sexuality when he assaulted the women in Fife between 2009 and 2018.
The High Court in Edinburgh heard how his victims, two aged 28 and one aged 22, were physically and verbally abused. He ignored their pleas to stop.
Murphy will be supervised for three years following his release.
Sentencing him, Judge Lady Wise said: “The woman have been left with low self-esteem, anxiety and fear. Your behaviour will have a lasting impact on all of them.
“You also continue to express an interest in bondage and sadomasochism which contributes to the assessment of risk in this case.”
She said the six year sentence was to “to protect the public, in particular young women”.
Murphy, of Dunfermline, Fife, was convicted following a four-day trial in May.
One woman told prosecutor Mark Mohammed how Murphy raped her at a house in Dunfermline in May 2015.
The 28-year-old said: “He tied me up to the bed using his shoe strings.
“I didn’t want to do it at first because I am not into that type of thing but that’s what he wanted to do.”
Punched and slapped
The court heard that she was forced to endure a series of acts involving clamps and sex toys.
Mr Mohammed asked : “Did you want him to do that?”
The woman replied: “No. I asked him to stop but he just kept going.”
Another of Murphy’s victims told of how she was “quite fearful” of him.
The 28-year-old said she was unable to stop him from assaulting her while they were in bed watching television.
She said: “I was tightly tied up. I couldn’t do anything.”
Murphy’s third victim, aged 22, told the court how he intimidated her by calling her a “slut” and that he punched and slapped her.
She said: “He then wanted to have sex and I said I didn’t want to it. Eventually I gave in and did it.”
Murphy was arrested after police learned of his activities and gathered enough evidence to bring him to court.
His defence advocate Ronnie Renucci said he still denied any wrongdoing and claimed the sex was consensual.
Murphy said they were “experimenting” and insisted he would “never be physically aggressive towards a female”.
Lady Wise also placed Murphy on the sex offenders’ register for life.
Move over Christian Grey! Professional SEX ROOM designer who helps couples create kinky spaces in their homes lands her own NETFLIX show that will document her X-rated renovations
Melanie Rose, who has designed high-end homes for 15 years, is the go-to person for those who are looking to have some fun in the bedroom
The designer’s specialty is creating ‘sex rooms’ – which are spaces in a couple’s home designed for satisfying their pleasures and living out their fantasies
The sex rooms are filled with numerous things to make the act more fun, like stripper poles, lingerie, bondage equipment, candles, and mood lighting
She also includes various sex toys, lines the walls with racy pictures, and decorates the rooms with erotic décor – to help get them in the mood
Melanie’s talents are now going to be showcased in a brand new Netflix series, entitled How to Build a Sex Room, which is set to hit the streaming site on July 8
The series will showcase all the behind-the-scenes steps that go into making the sex rooms – from coming up with the ideas to designing and building them
USA – A sex room designer has landed her own Netflix show documenting the very risque spaces that she creates for couples who are looking to spice up their sex lives.
Melanie Rose, who has designed high-end homes for 15 years, is the go-to person for those who are looking to have some fun in the bedroom.
The designer’s specialty is creating ‘sex rooms’ – which, as the name suggests, are spaces in a couple’s home designed specifically for satisfying their sexual pleasures and living out their fantasies.
The sex rooms are filled with numerous things to make the act more fun, like stripper poles, lingerie, bondage equipment, candles, mood lighting, and various sex toys, as well as a bed, couch, and sometimes even a bathtub.
She lines the walls with racy pictures and decorates the rooms with erotic décor and statues – to help get them in the mood.
Now, Melanie’s talents are going to be showcased in a brand new Netflix series, entitled How to Build a Sex Room, which is set to hit the streaming site on July 8.
‘From a rock ‘n’ roll sex dungeon to a next-level spa space, designer Melanie Rose dreams up erotic renovations for couples in this racy reality series,’ a description for it reads.
‘Couples looking for more spice in the bedroom hire Melanie to create stylish spaces where they can carry out any fantasy they wish.
‘You’ve seen kitchen renovations, you’ve seen bathroom transformations, but you’ve never seen anything quite like this!’
The series will showcase all the behind-the-scenes steps that go into making the sex rooms – from coming up with the ideas and designing the rooms to building them, picking the furniture for them, and seeing the couples’ reaction to them.
‘For over 15 years, I’ve been designing high-end homes. So when a client asked me if I’d ever designed a sex room, I thought, “Why not? Why wouldn’t I go and design a sex room?”‘ Melanie told the camera in a preview for the upcoming show.
‘When people hear the words “sex room,” they concentrate on the word “sex” and that connotates “dirty and disgusting.”
‘But when I design them, they can be beautiful. They are places where couples can explore their deepest fantasies.’
Clips in the trailer show Melanie talking to various couples, working on the rooms with her ‘great’ general contractor, Mike – and some even feature clients trying out the sex toys (fully clothed, of course).
‘I would have never thought that being tied in rope would make me feel sexy,’ one woman told Melanie, after testing out a bondage toy.
Another person referred to Melanie as the ‘angel for her marriage’ in the trailer.
‘They say you never know what goes on behind closed doors, but I do,’ Melanie concluded in the preview.
When the erotic novel 50 Shades of Gray – which was later turned into a movie – spiked in popularity in 2012, Cosmopolitan reported that it caused an explosive 400 per cent rise in the sale of sex toys.
Then, when the first movie in the series premiered in 2015, TheWrap said that they spoke with shops that sell bondage equipment, who told them that the film caused ‘rampant interest in the BDSM toys.’
‘In more than twenty years of business, I’ve never seen a cultural force like this,’ one store owner said at the time.
UK – SURREY – Madame C, from Surrey, England, is a fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress who is on a mission to give people everything they need to fulfil their wildest dreams and fantasies
A fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress is helping people explore their deepest, darkest desires.
Madame C, from Surrey, England, has decades of experience as a professional mistress and as a cross-dressing studio owner.
The highly-skilled dominatrix shares her skills with others so that they “can have the pleasure you deserve”.
She achieves this through a variety of ways, such as medical examination, heavy bondage and role-play.
“I am on a mission to give you everything you want to fulfil your wildest dreams and live the one life you have been given and deserve,” she has written on her website.
“I am so excited to teach you the skills to reframe outdated and dysfunctional cultural and social beliefs of fantasy, sex, self-exploration and relationships.
“I will teach you to unlock your innate capabilities to let go and travel even deeper within your mind reaching your ultimate pleasure zones, and then, slip even deeper into a place of absolute bliss.
“The world I have created for you is a playground for the physical and a limitless space for your mind to explore.”
Madame C works in playrooms with bondage equipment and accessories, such as penis pumps, male milking machines, strap ons, chastity devices and exploration toys.
There is also a whole range of outfits for Madame C to wear, such as rubber mistress, headmistress, policewoman, judge, governess and nurse.
Clients can choose a variety of her services, such as heavy bondage in the dungeon, a rubber doll experience, the medical clinic and cross-dressing.
If customers want to experience role-play, Mistress C will help them explore a variety of different scenarios.
“What Studio Kink offers is a platform on which to explore and enact these experiences through role-play,” she explained.
“I devise creative, spontaneous and realistic play in a setting with props and outfits that will trigger past experience feelings.
“I take the dominant role and guide you through your fantasy using role-play.”
Some of the role-play scenarios she offers are The boy who has been sent to the therapist for sissy training, the naughty nephew caught peeking at auntie as she changes and the underperforming male employee in the female-run office.
Over the years Madame C has met individuals who are all on a quest for the ultimate experience of alternative kinky play.
She has said that every single one of them has been different and unique and has helped widen her knowledge about the world of sexual fantasies.
“My passion, experience, and personal exploration of kink, psychology and exploring fantasy play over three decades has been the building blocks for creating Studio Kink,” she shared.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Flove-sex%2Fbdsm-mistress-sets-up-business-27180333&cre=bottom&cip=28&view=web
“I have created a space where you can safely discuss and explore thoughts, feelings and fantasies in a specially designed and equipped environment.
“Your time with me will allow you to close the door on your daily routine and the person you are.
“You will enter a safe space where you can explore and share your deepest fantasies in a non-judgmental empathetic environment.”
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USA – Netflix is set to premiere a home makeover show, titled, How To Build A Sex Room, on July 8. The show will be about renovating “sumptuous” spaces that are all about intimacy.
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“When people hear the words ‘sex rooms,’ they concentrate on the word ‘sex,’ and that connotes ‘dirty,’ ‘disgusting’ — no, sex rooms are not disgusting,” interior designer Melanie Rose, the host of the upcoming show, says in the Netflix trailer.
“A sex room can be anything from a sumptuous bedroom to a dungeon under the stairs,” Rose added. “But when I design them, they can be beautiful. They can be works of art. They can be fantasies. They can be anything my client desires.”
Throughout the trailer, images of Rose’s elaborate sex room designs are displayed, showing viewers various different styles, from a dungeon with chains and bondage devices, to a bathroom featuring a black freestanding tub surrounded by candles, in front of a wall adorned with sex toys.
Another room included a balloon chair with handcuffs at the top, and another featured a mannequin clad in pink Shibari. The walls of several rooms featured sex toys hanging on hooks, and images of women in bondage.
Rose is an interior designer who has “devoted her career to fulfilling couples’ fantasies via home design,” and has been dubbed the “Mary Poppins” of sex rooms by her clients,” according to a report by PEOPLE.
Netlix’s How To Build A Sex Room arrives on the heels of consumers dumping their subscriptions for the streaming platform in droves, as well as a wave of show cancelations, and mass employee layoffs.
The 47-year-old who goes by the stage name ‘Kaz B’ revealed she makes around £35,000 by visiting clients all over the South West as well as through her own Onlyfans page.
“I’ve done all sorts of things. Some people might have a fetish for spanking or extreme bondage, some have a foot fetish and like to massage the feet.
“There’s corporal punishment, whips, paddles and ties. Some men like to be treated like women and crossdress, some like to be humiliated.”
The dominatrix, who recently moved back in with her mother in Central Swindon, was keen to stress that while a lot of people get uncomfortable when it comes to fetishes and sex work, there’s a “real, beautiful, human element” to it that often gets overlooked.
“When I first got into it most of my clients were quite well-to-do men over 50, but more and more it’s opening up and I’m seeing a lot of younger clients from all different kinds of backgrounds – everyone has their own kinks and fetishes which they might not be able to express,” she said.
“Seeing me is therapy for a lot of people. I’ve started a podcast where myself and other sex workers talked about the stigma of having a fetish, and how men often face a lot of shame in their lives.”
She explained that a lot of her clients lacked confidence and thought less of themselves because of their kinks.
“Years and years ago another dominatrix and I were domming a young man who wanted to be humilated but it was too much for him and he ended up telling us he needed to stop and started bawling his eyes out.
“We ended up just getting a Chinese and watching a movie with him.”
Asked what her friends and family thought about it, Kaz B said they ‘didn’t mind’ and that while they ask her to share stories she keeps shtum about what her clients get up to.
Kaz B added that she has got to know a lot of her clients at a deep level and has seen them grow as people as a result. She said this positivity doesn’t get acknowledged enough in the industry.
But being a sex worker has also helped her overcome a troubled upbringing and mental hangups of her own and improved her confidence as well.
“I have always been really shy,” she said. “I was bullied at school and I was in an abusive relationship when I was younger.
“Sex work has really helped because it’s fulfilling and rewarding to help somebody be who they should be. You get this private bond with someone which helps them but it also helps you.
“It has helped me work through my own issues and anxiety.”
Kaz B is also an aspiring filmmaker, a novelist and is currently in the process of making a documentary to further break down the stigma attached to sex work and what she does.
Fashion is considered one of the finest forms of self-expression, a medium that lets you use clothing, accessories, makeup and other related vehicles to communicate a message you want to take to the world. So, what does it mean when we see leather harnesses, latex bodysuits, rubber boots, O-ring chokers, and autoerotic asphyxiation-inspired necklines take over runways and red carpets? Probably that a form of fashion formerly relegated to sex dungeons, underground parties and bedroom play is now marching right on to the streets.
Fetish fashion is defined as any kind of clothing or accessory designed to be extreme or provocative in a kinky way. Over the last year, we’ve seen celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Dua Lipa, Zoë Kravitz and Julia Fox embrace BDSM-inspired looks. In fact, forecasters at shopping search engine Lyst noted in March that “fetishcore” is fast emerging as a trend, with searches for “harness” on the platform increasing by 132 percent month-on-month, and queries for leather choker on the site also growing 100 percent since the start of 2022.
Fetishcore also isn’t a new trend. Experts trace its origins back to sexual liberation movements in the 1960s and 70s, where openly wearing provocative looks, especially at pride protests, became a way to openly express sexuality. Today, the movement has melded into the mainstream, with fetish fashion emerging as a trend that lets us embrace a more experimental look.
All these factors point to BDSM-adjacent styles gaining global acceptance. But in India, a country where it is still considered taboo to openly discuss your deepest, darkest kinks – or, heck, even sex for that matter – the rising trend of fetish fashion is subverting societal pressures and expectations, and fuelling mainstream conversations on a niche subculture for probably the first time ever.
“[Kink fashion] has always been there, but it was limited to underground spaces or confined to bedrooms,” Randhir Singh, the founder of India’s first homegrown fetish fashion label Subculture, told VICE. “Historically, we have always been a culturally open society, but that changed with colonisation. Now, we’re picking up those conversations and talking about sex more liberally, which is what has also led to the rise of fetish fashion in India.”
Singh is a fashion designer trained in the art of crafting leather. He launched Subculture in 2021 to raise awareness around kinks and normalise them.
“People think chokers and corsets are just fashion statements,” he said. “You can make it fashion, but it’s also a lifestyle for many. Now, even [mainstream] brands like H&M and Zara are producing harnesses and corsets because they’re trendy, but I want to use my brand as a platform to educate people about the backstory behind fetish fashion.”
Singh added that he has noticed a spike in interest after the lifting of lockdown restrictions, something he believes nudged people to embrace fetish fashion. In fact, fetish fashion has historically peaked during times of political upheaval, with experts attributing the desire to take back a sense of control as a massive factor that fuels its popularity.
“During the lockdown, people spent more time on the internet and got more into online shopping, which in turn led to more people experimenting with fetish fashion,” he said. “That’s when my sales were the highest.”
Subculture is currently the only homegrown brand offering harnesses, floggers, handcuffs and other bondage-inspired accessories made by rural leather artisans in the Indian state of Rajasthan. But even before brands were openly selling leather harnesses and latex corsets, members of the kink community found creative ways to overcome the lack of options.
“In the Indian space, there are various things that people have been using as part of their kinky experiences,” Aili Seghetti, an intimacy coach and dominatrix based in the Indian city of Mumbai, told VICE. “People use saree pallus (the loose end of a saree) to tie their partner up, or the metal parts of payals (anklets) or even traditional toe rings to scratch their partners.”
Seghetti’s introduction to fetish fashion was through sex parties she attended in London in the 90s, where it was an unspoken mandate for attendees to spend a minimum of 10,000 Indian rupees ($130) on kinky lingerie and accessories just to gain entry into these clubs.
“In India, our understanding of kink has come in from the West, which is why even its representation in fashion is more Western. For me, kink wear is latex, but the weather in India makes it difficult to wear such materials,” she said.
While India still has a long way to go in terms of localising fetishwear, she said that the current trend is an important stepping stone in opening up conversations around kink.
“If you are kinky, your [aim] is to have more people understand that it’s OK to be kinky,” she said. “So, if someone buys a collar and then finds out what the collar is used for, it automatically spreads awareness.”
She added that while many Indians discovered kink through the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, fashion is another way to bring the discourse into the mainstream.
“Kink fashion can take these conversations into the mainstream the same way athleisure has done for fitness,” she said. “It may be changing at a very slow pace, but for now, it is a good conversation starter.”
While India is still in the nascent stage of understanding fetish fashion in all its glory, kinky clothes remain an empowering and liberating medium for people to express themselves.
“I feel sexually confident, unapologetic and strong, and even get a sense of rage when I wear kink fashion,” Sanky Evrus, a celebrity hair stylist and nude model, told VICE. “It’s a very different high, almost like a power to take control of everything around me. Kink fashion is nothing short of liberation to me. To be able to celebrate something that is only meant to be behind closed doors is quite empowering.”
For some like Evrus, kink fashion is a way to amplify their sexual desires and attract other like-minded people in a subtle yet explicit fashion. For others, it is a way to appreciate aesthetics.
“For me, sex is as much about the aesthetic aspect, as it is about the physical aspect,” a Bengaluru-based lawyer, who requested anonymity over concerns of professional backlash, told VICE. “When my partner and I have sex, we experiment with different kinds of lighting or use mirrors, which change the way we see ourselves, and are as much of a turn-on as the physical act. That’s why kink fashion can be extremely empowering.”
This lawyer’s kinks include voyeurism and autoerotic asphyxiation, and fetish fashion has become a way to express his deepest, darkest desires.
“In a society such as ours, sex is something typically restricted to the bedroom, but it has underlying power implications,” he said. “[Kink fashion] brings the entire conversation pushed to the dogmas in our bedroom to the public sphere, and is a small step that marks this paradigm shift.”
USA – Sexual aftercare is the time people spend caring for each other after having sex. This can involvethings such as cuddling, talking, or massage. Sexual aftercare can be important for individuals of any gender.
Sex is an intimate activity that causes a person to feel various emotions. After sex, some people may wish to spend time caring for each other. This can help strengthen bonds and help individuals feel safe and secure.
Some people may find they enjoy or require sexual aftercare following sex.
Read on to learn more about sexual aftercare, why it is important, and how individuals can benefit from it.
Sexual aftercare is the act of caring for a person’s partner or partners after they have sex. It can be a way for individuals to strengthen the bond between them and their sexual partners.
An older study from 2014 found that affectionate behavior after sex had associations with higher sexual and relationship satisfaction.
Sexual aftercare can include activities such as:
cuddling
shared intimacy
talking about what a person liked and what they did not enjoy during sex
massaging each other
bathing together
sensual touching
Sexual aftercare may be important after people engage in BDSM, which stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism, and masochism.
An investigation from 2019 noted that married people who cuddled more frequently reported increased levels of relationship satisfaction.
With this in mind, cuddling after sex may help a person feel closer to their partner or partners. It may also help them feel safe and relaxed.
Additionally, BDSM may involve humiliating and degrading acts. Therefore, cuddling after BDSM activities may help remind a person that they are loved and cared for.
Communicating
Research from 2018 looked into the number of males who felt postcoital dysphoria (PCD). PCD is when a person feels tearful, sad, or irritable after sex.
The researchers found that 41% of males surveyed had experienced PCD at some point in their lives and that 3–4% of people experienced PCD on a regular basis.
People can engage in sexual aftercare to discuss how they are feeling after sex. A study from 2016 found that individuals experience increased emotion and intimacy following sex. This can lead to bonding behaviors, such as discussing feelings and emotions with each other.
Treating any injuries
Certain BDSM activities can result in a person becoming injured, which may be intentional or unintentional.
If a person receives a wound during sex, a partner may help treat them. This may help someone feel like someone is looking after them.
Bathing or showering together
Spending time washing together, or washing each other, can be an intimate experience. A person may enjoy being naked with their partner or partners in a nonsexual scenario.
Hygiene after sex is also important — washing the penis after sex can help prevent infections. The advocacy group Planned Parenthood suggests that uncircumcised males should clean underneath their foreskin every day and after sex.
Unwinding
After sex, people may wish to spend time doing nonsexual activities with their partner or partners. This might involve:
napping
watching a film or TV show
having a snack or beverage
playing a computer game together
Spending nonsexual time together may help build a stronger relationship.
BDSM is a group of consensual sexual practices and interests. BDSM comprisesTrusted Source physical, physiological, and sexual elements.
Power play is at the core of BDSM activities. This can mean that one person is dominant while another is submissive. Someone may also switch between being dominant and submissive.
BDSM can involve certain activities during, before, or after sex, while certain BDSM activities may not involve any sex acts at all.
BDSM activities can include:
being tied up, or tying someone up, during sex
being whipped, tickled, spanked, or performing these actions
humiliation
punishment
degrading acts, such as licking their partner’s shoe
ordering another person to do certain acts
sensory deprivation, such as blindfolding
People use BDSM for sexual fulfillment and fantasy. However, certain elements of BDSM can involve pain or humiliation. A person may feel a sense of shame or sadness after they engage in BDSM activities.
A study from 2016Trusted Source noted that people who engaged in BDSM may experience stigma-related shame and guilt. This could lead to feelings of loneliness or feeling like a burden.
By engaging in sexual aftercare, a person can reassure and comfort their partner if they have any negative feelings after sex. They can also receive treatment for any wounds or cuts resulting from BDSM activities.
Following any kind of sexual activity, a person may feel frustrated or detached from their partner. Sexual aftercare aims to ensure that everyone involved feels secure and acknowledged.
Sharing nonsexual intimate time together may help a person reconnect with a partner. It may be beneficial to use this time to talk about things they might not typically discuss.
Additionally, doing activities together after sex may reassure a person that they are not just a sexual object. It is important for everyone in a relationship to feel valued and respected.
Sexual aftercare is when a person cares for their partner or partners following sex. It can help strengthen relationships through communication and nonsexual activities.
People who engage in BDSM activities may find sexual aftercare important to their relationship. Although consensual, BDSM can involve painful or humiliating activities. Therefore a person may find it comforting to cuddle or discuss things with their partner or partners after these types of sexual activities.
Sexual aftercare can be important after any kind of sex, as some people can feel upset or frustrated after sexual acts. It can also serve as a suitable outlet for discussing certain feelings.
There are various kinds of sexual aftercare that individuals may benefit from. A person can speak with their partner or partners about the right kind of sexual aftercare for them.
UK – Lana Michaels claims she makes around £100k a year through her Loser Club, which helps men get on track in aspects of their life while fulfilling their sexual fantasies
A woman who used to discipline students for a living has revealed how she swapped teaching for an unorthodox new career as a financial dominatrix.
Lana Michaels, who calls herself the Loser Life Coach, earns up to £100k every year for “absolutely nothing.”Ads by
After moving from the UK to Murcia, Spain, three years ago, Lana looked for alternative work due to the pandemic – and discovered adult streaming platform Fansly.
After joining the platform and experimenting with different types of content, she found subscribers started sending her money for no apparent reason.
“I would receive messages saying that they sent it because I am a goddess and they are worthless losers,” she said.
“Some asked me to be mean to them or for certain things in return but it was always simple things like a couple of photos or a voice/video call tipping much more than I would usually charge.”
As these unusual requests grew, Lana realised she had found a niche.
She said: “I began researching the niche and I started to understand it more and more. I joined self help groups for recovering finsubs (what they call the person who is being financially dominated).
“I asked many questions about how it made them feel to keep sending money over and over until they regretted it.
“I found that they often lacked self esteem, were virgins, had humiliation kinks, had controlling parents, gambling, drink or drug addictions and many more things.”
However, after she realised many of the men sending her money were suffering from poor mental health, Lana realised she needed to change her approach to financial domination in order to protect them.
She founded the Loser Club, where she took on clients who needed to make changes in their lives – but who also wanted to pay for her steamy content.
“I could use their sexual urges to help them make some changes and also satisfy their sexual needs and fetishes all in one with my content,” she explained.
She added clients now pay her to take control of certain aspects of their lives – which could include personal training, improving their social skills, being their agony aunt or even training so they can last longer in sex.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mirror.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fweird-news%2Fi-ditched-teaching-become-financial-26997207&cre=center&cip=21&view=web
Lana said she gives the coaching in the form of sexual roleplay – so she’ll assume the position of a dominatrix by talking down to her client until he shows progress (at which point she’ll praise him).
She explained: “The subscriber receives new daily tasks and has to send back video evidence for sexual content rewards or attention. The ‘loser’ has to call me Mistress Lana.
“Most of my clients make real improvements over time in many aspects of their lives for example holding down their jobs better, physical appearance, meeting the love of their life, overcoming addictions and some have even claimed to have cut down or given up antidepressants altogether.”
After ditching a career that she claims brought in £21,000 a year, Lana is now raking in the cash and has spent tens of thousands on cosmetic surgery.
USA – Julia Enright, 24, lured her ex boyfriend into her treehouse sex lair and then brutally stabbed him to death before his 21st birthday in Ashburnham, Massachusetts, US
Julia Enright worked as a phlebotomist at a clinical laboratory and was used to taking samples of blood – but her interest soon spilt into her private life.
Enright, who was 21 at the time, advertised herself on business cards as Mistress Jasmine and enjoyed BDSM on the side in 2018.
She created art from animal bones and kept creatures, known as “wet specimens” and vials of blood in jars inside of her home in Ashburnham, Massachusetts, USA.
Two years earlier, she had been studying at a vocational-technical high school and met Brandon Chicklis while travelling on the bus.They later started dating.
Brandon, a former boy scout, was known for being kind and thoughtful and was described as quirky, with a goofy laugh.
It was reported that they would meet for sex in her neighbour’s treehouse, where Enright set up restraints. But by 2018, they had split but remained friends.
Then, on June 24, Brandon’s family reported him missing. He’d told them he was visiting a relative the day before – but never showed up. He’d been looking forward to turning 21 and his disappearance was very out of character.
And a week after that, a jogger found Brandon’s body dumped on the side of a highway in Rindge, New Hampshire, a town just across the state line from Massachusetts.
He’d been stabbed a dozen times and his remains had been wrapped in a blanket, tarpaulin and sheet, then stuffed into two rubbish bags that had been duct-taped up. While his body was badly decomposed, his shirt had 12 slits in it.
Investigators looked at Brandon’s phone records and found that the day he vanished, his mobile could be traced to Enright’s address. She’d invited him to visit her and had told him to keep their meeting a “secret”.
When police went to her home, they discovered animal carcasses and a bucket of animal organs. There were also used condoms and several knives.
Officers then found blood splattered across the neighbour’s treehouse, which was confirmed to belong to Brandon.
Investigators also found a message that Enright had sent to her new boyfriend the night before the killing that read: “Do you think we could add bubbles to the blood bath?”
Moments later, Enright had invited Brandon to meet her at the treehouse the next day, before she stabbed him to death.
After his death, she had suggested in her journal that she had done something for her boyfriend and admitted that she’d been aroused by an event.
It read: “It was a form of a present. I did it just for him. That was my intention.” She’d also written that her boyfriend may not have liked her “surprise”.
Two weeks after Brandon’s body was found. Enright was arrested and charged with first-degree murder.
Prosecutors discovered that before Brandon’s death, she had tried to bribe staff at an abortion clinic to let her take a foetus home. But she claimed she wouldn’t have done it and the request was just part of her “outrageous persona”.
Her trial started in November last year. The prosecution said Enright enticed Brandon to the BDSM-themed treehouse and stabbed him to death as a surprise for her new boyfriend.
Before Brandon arrived at the treehouse, Enright had covered the floor with the tarpaulin and the blanket. She had also bought ropes and chains, which were never found.
While on the stand, Enright said that after the killing, Lind had helped her cover it up by dumping Brandon’s body.
Lind was arrested and charged with accessory after the fact of murder. He pleaded not guilty and awaits trial.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fworld-news%2Fblood-obsessed-dominatrix-killed-ex-26968881&cre=bottom&cip=34&view=web
Enright was found guilty of second-degree murder. She was sentenced in March this year.
Brandon’s mum, Trisha Edwards-Lamarche told the judge: “Every day when I drive to work, I get to choose: Do I drive by where she dumped my son’s body today, or do I drive by where she dumped his car?”
“What I would give for one more moment with my son. Just one more moment.”
Enright issued an apology in court.
Now 24, she has been given life in prison with the possibility of parole after 25 years.
INDIA – The Shibari rope bondage technique is catching everyone’s attention for its potential to heal practitioners emotionally and give them an instant feel-good rush.
Two months ago, Indian celebrity travel blogger Shenaz Treasury dropped a video that showed her TIED up on her YouTube channel. The video, which went viral, asked viewers if they thought Treasury was into BDSM, an erotic practice featuring bondage, discipline, dominance and submission. A few minutes into the video, it was evident that it was a Japanese rope bondage practice used for emotional healing. Maksim Kalahari, a Shibari trainer, tells Treasury in Goa’s Morjim Beach that this energy when directed with a specific intention and the correct technique can heal the body, the mind and spirit.
That this practice is gaining ground is also evident from the fact that Kalahari hosted a two-day Shibari and impact play workshop last month in Goa. He called it a weekend filled with ropes, whips, sand, and the beautiful expanse of the ocean.
Shibari Study, a New York-based alternative healing entity, has also announced online app-based classes for Shibari. Being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure, said Bob Marley. Shibari sounds like a painful way to find true bliss.
Shibari is known to have originated from Hojo-jutsu, a form of torture before it transformed into the erotic bondage Kinbaku (Kinbaku-bi translates as “the beauty of tight binding”) in the 20th century. However, because of the ‘kinky’ label, this art form has earned, not many yoga practitioners or teachers offer such healing nor promote it.
Ishrath Ikram, a Hyderabad-based online yoga trainer on Instagram (@yoga.and.uu), says that in the last three years since she has been active as an instructor, she has never come across any of her students asking about it or mention. “The three major misconceptions I want to clear are that not everyone is in it for the sex. It isn’t dangerous (unless you want it to be) and people who participate aren’t psychotic, demented, or otherwise damaged. Perhaps they are more explorative and adventurous.”
Dr Pramod Kulkarni, a consultant haematologist at Alpha Hospitals, Hyderabad, says that blood accumulation in one specific area can’t heal anyone, that too in such a short while. “I would think that Dhanurasana would perhaps give the same result. It is perhaps just another fun, kinky act that is getting popular. It has not been scientifically studied,” he adds. Those who have had a taste of it feel that it heals relationships and broken hearts by teachinag us to trust and surrender again.
Author and meditation teacher Mila Kriletich writes in her blog: “The release, the blood rushing back through tight limbs, the slow falling, the coming undone. With each knot untied, each rope loosened, something in me let go, broke free, moved away. By the time the ropes were off I was in what I could only describe as a state of samadhi. This is a bliss state where you are at one with the universe and all that is. I sat there for a long time and then I placed my arms around my knees and hugged myself. I tightened my grip and suddenly I was overcome with a sense of deep love and care and protection for myself. I had never experienced a moment like this before and I was overcome with a deep and abiding affection for myself.”
Naveena Kamath, a practicing psychologist with Disha Helpline in Bengaluru, says that pain when administered in a rationed and controlled way can lead to making one resilient and stronger. “When practitioners do this every week with discipline, it shows results at a psychological level. The act of tying up oneself and lying suspended horizontally is painful to the body. It is a novel workout for the body and mind. The rush of the blood and the position adds to its novelty,” she explains.
The process ✥ A professional Shibari master is necessary to tie one up. Alternately, some apps can show you how it’s tied. Ask a friend to do it ✥ Loosen limbs and arms, and warm up a bit ✥ The tying up involves intricate knotting with special rope available in yoga stores ✥ Hands are tied in front or back; the calves are tied together and the knees and thighs too. The knots are tied at various points tight enough that you can feel the rush of the blood, but not so much that you feel suffocated. Once the practitioner is ready, he/she is suspended horizontally from the rope tied to the ceiling using a hook. Most aerial yoga studios can provide such hooks. ✥ After 8-12 minutes, the ropes are untied gradually until you are free and feel relieved. The knots give a good blood rush to your brain and this is part of the healing/emotional outbursts. Those like Tejaswini Chada from Hyderabad who have experienced it say that tears rolled down their cheeks and it felt like ‘emptying’ oneself. There is a likelihood of the ropes create a mark on your skin as it is tightly wound around the body.
NIGERIA – ‘#WomenTalkS3xByPulse’ is Pulse’s weekly series designed to capture the thoughts of everyday Nigerian women on s3xual health, pleasure, and what women expect good s3x to be and feel like.
Among other things, the subject of this week’s edition of #WomenTalkS3xByPulse opens up about discovering s3xual domination and how it became a game-changer for her. Read on.
Tell me about your first time
Well, I was messing around on one cold, rainy night when I was 10 years old and discovered that it felt good when I touched myself. Didn’t know what it was, of course, but after that first time, I kept doing it. It was much later that I found out what it was.
I see.
You know what was more interesting?
I love hearing interesting things. Please tell me
So my folks are Catholic and they raised us to be. So you know that at that age, they were already telling me and my siblings to stay away from sex. The message was mostly for my older siblings who were well in their teens at that point, but I understood it too. The wild part however was that, even though I had heard that sex was bad and I had promised myself that I would stay away from it till I was older and all, I didn’t know that touching myself was actually part of it!
LMAO
In my mind, it was just a thing boys and girls did.
Awwww. It’s giving innocence
I know, right?! Kids will always be kids
You can say that again. So for how long were you able to stay away from doing it with boys
Oh. That didn’t last too long oh. LMAO. Let’s just say by the end of secondary school, I was already doing things that would give my Christian dad serious heart palpitations.
Then let’s hope he never links this interview to you
Hahaha, the chances of that are slim but yeah, it’ll actually be insane. But I kinda think that he already knows I am no longer a virgin so his shock may not be that great.
Oh? Y’all that close?
Not really oh. But look at me now, I am 25 years old and I’ve been to uni and back. I’ve travelled abroad for months on my own, I live alone now… if he still thinks I am not having sex, then good luck to him oh.
Hahahaha. Parents like to think their kids aren’t getting down till they’re married
Not my own mum sha. That one knows for sure that her baby girl is already knacking seriously. In fact, that is why I think my dad knows. She has probably done aproko to him. You know these old people always give each other gist.
True that. Tell me about your sex life though. How’s it going for you?
Great, actually. Can’t say that I have a lot to complain about. I get it when I want it. So, yeah, I’m good.
Can we talk about the changes you’ve experienced between when you were 10 and now?
Well, for one, I couldn’t have known that I like dominating when I was in those formative years. I think as a woman, the more you grow into your own skin, the more you discover about yourself.
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For example, I stumbled on the dominatrix part of myself by mistake, LOL. I read this novel where the woman liked taking charge and dominating her partner. The sex scenes in that book turned me on so much that I read up on becoming a dom. Then it became my fave porn category to watch. So I knew it was my thing and thankfully my man at the time loved it too.
So you’re now a full-time dom?
Hahaha. You say it like it’s a job
LMAO. No be so, please
Yeah, I get you. But yeah, it’s my thing now. It makes me feel good. I mean, it’s not like I can’t have sex without dom’ing but I really like that feeling of being in charge. You know, controlling your partner and watching them squirm and do your every bidding. It’s so exhilarating. I actually think it’s something everyone might want to experiment with at some point in their sex lives. If you can’t dominate anywhere else, then at least do it in the bedroom. It’s very liberating.
Another. Banger!
Hahaha. That’s it.
Have you had any weird experiences so far?
LOL. I wouldn’t call it weird but I was with someone a little while back who was very freaked out at the sight of my cuffs. I had to do a long pep talk to get him to relax so I could cuff him and get on with it. Only God know what the Nigerian police have done to him.
What made you think it wasn’t another woman? Did you ask?
He wouldn’t say. But nice angle. Maybe his ex cuffed him and flogged the hell out of him for cheating. I am sure there is something there even though he claimed everything was ok.
LMAO. Rate your sex life over 10
Right now? 10 over 10. I doubt it can get better than this right now.
THE NETHERLANDS – LEEUWARDEN – 47-year-old G. says that he threw her remains into the Muidertrekvaart after she had died during bondage sex, according to his statement. The court sentenced G. in 2020 to a prison sentence of 14.5 years.
The body of the 42-year-old woman from Naarden was found on 20 September 2018 in the Muidertrekvaart, between Muiden and Amsterdam. She was wrapped in an inflatable pool and handcuffed with rope and tie wraps. There was also a plastic bag around her head and a rope around her neck.
G. previously said to the court that the woman had left his home in Bussum on September 10, 2018 and that he had not seen her since.
G. sent his new statement to the court in Leeuwarden in April. On April 25, he was interrogated by the police. According to him, the woman became unwell during bondage sex and he tried to train her, without success.
‘Coincidences’
He then packed her body and threw it into the Muidertrekvaart, according to G. “I did not intentionally do anything to her,” he said in court on Thursday. “It’s not a liquidation. It’s a combination of circumstances that turned out to be unfortunate.” According to G. there was panic, possibly psychosis. There would also have been drug use.
The judge sentenced G. to a prison sentence of fourteen years. Because firearms and ammunition were also found in his home, an additional six months were added. Only G. has appealed. The Public Prosecution Service demanded a 15-year prison sentence. Justice deployed two undercover agents during the investigation.
Personality Research
G.’s new lawyer asked the court to postpone the appeal in order to study the file and G.’s new statements. G. also wanted to read the report of his recent interrogation carefully; he wants to make sure there are no inaccuracies.
The court complied. Another factor is that G. now wants to participate in a personality study at the Pieter Baan Center. He previously refused. With G.’s confession, the court also wants further investigation into the woman’s injuries. The case will not be heard before November.
A mother who works as a dominatrix rakes in $4,000 a month while working only during school hours.
While her kids are away from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m., Emme Witt, 48, tortures men for their pleasure.
She conducts web sessions, phone calls and messages with her 20 male clients throughout the day before her sons, Oliver, 13, and Gabriel, 12, come home.
“As soon as I drop them off, I turn on my phone,” Witt, from Los Angeles, said. “I have to parcel out that time, as I can’t do it when they’re around.”
Being a dominatrix, she continued, “works really well with being a mom,” especially a single one. She even uses what she’s learned as a mother on her clients, despite wanting to keep the two worlds separate.
“The way I treat men has no bearing on the way I treat my children, but what I’ve learned psychologically from my children helps me in this world,” she said. “There is a lot of male immaturity – when men try to manipulate me, the tactics are very similar.”
She remembers one night at 10:30 when a client begged to see her, throwing a “tantrum” when she declined.
“He was like, ‘Please, please, please, I need to see you!’” she said. “It’s like [a] child who wants a chocolate bar: You just have to say no.”
While she’s teaching grown men to behave, she’s also attempting to normalize sex work and debunk the myths of it being “immoral” or “perverted.”
“I’m a taxpayer, I’m a mother, I have been in your child’s classroom and I’m also an adult worker.”
She’s been able to teach art at her children’s school and has held various corporate jobs, even achieving a master’s degree, but she “didn’t like the commitment.”
“I like the creativity. I like that I’m able to be very imaginative,” she said of her current role. “The way I keep people on the phone or texting, I’m improvising – they’ll give me information and I’ll give something back.”
“I’m creating a world – you can’t be just like, ‘Yes,’ ‘No,’” she continued. “It’s showbiz!”
She first found her calling as a dominatrix when she was 27 and struggling with $30,000 of debt. When Witt was creating a documentary about Latin rock bands, she stumbled across a woman at a concert who revealed she was a dominatrix.
“My curiosity was piqued because I knew it was a very lucrative job and yet I didn’t think somebody like me could do it,” she admitted. “I was very shy and a ‘nice girl’ with a university education, and I didn’t think I had the strength to embody this dominatrix persona.”
But the woman convinced her she fit the bill, even inviting her to a “slave party.”
“I whipped a man that night, and I really saw that I could do it,” Witt said. “It really challenged my concept of my identity.”
After three years of being a dominatrix, she moved to Spain and back, living a “very suburban, vanilla life for about 10 years.” But she found herself divorced and in need of money as a stay-at-home mom.
Working as a dom “got me out of debt once, and so when I left my husband I already knew that this was the way that I was going to save myself financially,” she said, despite being out of practice.
“I was nervous; I kind of lost my mojo,” she continued. “I had thought being a dominatrix was like riding a bike, something you never forgot, but I actually had forgotten, because I had been in this different mindset for so long that it was hard to get back into it.”
She advertised her services online and used a friend’s house for sessions, eventually building up a clientele who begged her to punish them.
“This sort of clientele is very interested in having their penis size demeaned – sometimes this is real or imagined,” she said. “They tell me, ‘I have a small penis and I want you to laugh at me.’”
The men she sees “want to be humiliated,” she said. “They want to demean themselves for my pleasure.”
“It’s difficult for people to understand because when they think of sex work, they always think that it’s women being humiliated by men and being made to please men, and my job turns all that dynamic on its head,” she said.
During sessions – which can last from three minutes to seven hours – Witt is not the entertainer. Rather, the men masturbate or have sex with other men on camera while she watches.
“It’s pretty niche, but I would say that it’s very widespread, the amount of men who have these fetishes,” she said.
While her job is to dominate, when she returned to the trade as a mother, “I had more difficulty being sadistic to people, so I rebranded myself as more of a compassionate dominatrix,” she said. “When I worked in my younger years, everything was consensual, however, I didn’t have a problem going to that far-off place where I was piercing people’s genitalia, whipping them until they bled and just being very rough in a way men enjoyed.”
But now, she has “trouble getting into that headspace.”
“A lot of people expect I should feel ashamed or guilty, and yet this line of work has been very lucrative for me. It has helped me in many ways,” she said. “To feel ashamed because this job is socially taboo, I’m just done with that.”
She plans on revealing her day job to her sons when they’re old enough, but not now. In the meantime, she tells them she’s a “consultant.”
“I do feel when the time is right I can explain it to them. I feel it is very important to let my children know that I don’t feel shame about this type of work that I do,” she said. “It’s a good way to start the conversation about what is healthy, to not be ashamed of their sexual urges and if they do [act on them] that it is consensual.”
Being a dominatrix, she said, has given her the opportunity to “explore myself, my own sexuality and grow in confidence.”
While she admits some of her clients’ fetishes “come out of shame they’ve felt about sex growing up,” she doesn’t want her sons to feel that way.
“A lot of people will think I’m perverted or I’m a bad person or whatever, and that just isn’t the case,” she said. “Instead, all this investigation and exploration into my sexuality is something I can use to help my children.”
But her sex education expands beyond her kids – she wants to normalize sex work and adult content everywhere, especially as a “normal person.”
“The worlds of BDSM and adult labor are so criticized, and I think it’s very important to just get the word out that there are normal people like myself involved who are able to have healthy, productive lives,” she said. “You can do this work and be a normal person, but not only that, you can be a good mom – it has no bearing on your ability to bring up your children.”
ITALY – COMO – The candidacy for the next municipal elections in Como, in the ‘Agenda Como 2030’ list, by Doha Zaghi, 31 years old, aka ‘Lady Demonique’, mistress protagonist of online hot videos, has become a political case. The list supports the candidacy for mayor of Barbara Minghetti (exponent of a civic list and supported by the center-left), and expresses candidates for Action, Italia Viva, + Europa and Volt.
See larger photo on: Ruetir.com. And photo from Lady Demonique under
Zaghi, in particular, is an expression of Action, the movement of Carlo Calenda. “What’s the problem? – said Zaghi – I’m not a pornstar. They are just prejudices. I have several friends in Germany who are psychologists who are also in the same profession as me. And so in America there are famous ‘dominatrixes’ with important commitments in politics ”. The story is evolving because Calenda, in a tweet published on Sunday said: “Guys, joking aside, obviously I did not know the past of the lady in question. If it were private matters, no question, but I would say that there are no prerequisites for you to be a candidate for Action “.
On the other hand, the candidacy is instead defended by Barbara Minghetti herself: “Doha has contributed with seriousness and a wealth of proposals to our work on the program. I understand the need to color the electoral campaign, but it would be nice if in 2022 we concentrated on serious things “and the Agenda Como list also expressed solidarity:” The choices of people in their private life belong to another sphere than exercise constitutional of political rights. And they must certainly not prevent us from making a constructive contribution to the civil community to which we belong. This means being liberal ”.
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So here a photo from her Instragram account.
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