UK – Love Island’s Olivia Attwood was left in complete shock when she met financial dominatrix Jenniferwho revealed she made one of her customers lock his penis in a cage.
Olivia Attwood was left floored when a financial dominatrix made a raunchy yet painful demand to one of her customers.
The former Love Island star has been profiling people who have decided to broadcast their sex lives online in her new documentary, Olivia Attwood: Getting Filthy Rich.
In tonight’s episode (July 19) of the explicit ITV show, Olivia was left needing to lift her jaw off the floor when she met 25-year-old Jennifer.
Jennifer revealed that she is a financial dominatrix, meaning she makes a living by abusing men’s bank accounts in virtual chat rooms.
After admitting she once made £900 in one hour, she confessed she now has this customer “locked in chastity.”
Seeing the visibly confused look on Olivia’s face, she clarified: “Like a cage.”
“Literally?,” the stunned blonde bombshell asked.
Jennifer confirmed: “Yeah a literal cage” before Olivia questioned: “What, on the d**k?”
“It looked so uncomfortable honestly,” the financial dominatrix added.
The former TOWIE star was clearly taken aback by Jennifer’s comment and needed some more clarity on the matter.
“Wait hold on, so you said I want you to lock yourself up?,” as Jennifer interjected “It was his idea!”
“And he has to ram his d**k inside it?”, the reality star said to which Jennifer responded with a simple: “Yeah.”
A baffled Olivia asked how long he has to keep his penis inside the cage, with Jennifer admitting: “Until I say he can take it off which I haven’t yet.”
Baffled about how the man goes to the toilet, Olivia questioned: “But what if he needs a wee?”
“It’s got a little hole at the end of it,” Jennifer confirmed.
The financial dominatrix then allowed the 31-year-old to sit in on one of her sessions with a “pay pig” which is a man who gets “turned on by sending money.”
Watching in the background as Jennifer earned £900 in a matter of minutes, Olivia couldn’t believe it and confessed “watching it in action” left her “mind blown.”
Jenny Bruso (@jennybruso), a self-described “queer fat femme” outdoors influencer, posted the clip on June 17, which shows their party and dog checking out the large wheel with straps in the parking area—in fact, the kid touches the wheel. “Found this behind my car at the AirBnB this morning,” reads the text overlay.
“When the family just wants to go out for a little dog walk and you find this behind your car,” says Bruso in the video. “What do they think, we’re like some Karens who aren’t going to know what this is?”
“It looks like some kind of game,” says the other person.
“It’s a table to hold your food down,” says Bruso. The adults giggle.
As of Wednesday, the video has over 3.3 million views.
In the comments, Bruso wrote: “A bondage wheel isn’t something u find by yr car everyday. It’s entertaining. Kink shaming comments will be deleted.”
One commenter wrote, “Its not about the fact they have it its about the fact they put it where you found it!”
Some argued that it isn’t a bondage wheel but the owners may be knife throwers: “It’s not even a bondage wheel, there are knife marks in it, it’s most likely part of a circus act where they throw knives around a person.”
“I mean you go girl,” commented another.
“Not the kid playing with it,” wrote a TikToker.
The Daily Dot has reached out to Bruso via Instagram direct message.
WORLD – After years of honing her craft in the underground dance scene, Los Angeles-based DJ, house music producer and vocalist Nala has quickly become a fast-rising star. Harnessing a unique, Riot Grrrl-inspired sound that blends 90s punk aesthetics with analog synthesizers, she writes electronic music with a conscious edge.
Nala has now launched a new record label, Mi Domina, a “femme-dominated” platform “where women are in charge,” per a press release shared with EDM.com. The name translates to “Dominate Me,” a phrase which functions as an ode to Nala’s Italian heritage.
Serving as Mi Domina’s inaugural record is Nala’s new three-track EP, Get Familiar,a joint record with fellow Dirtybird artist E.R.N.E.S.T.O. Blending funky tech house sounds with Nala’s sultry vocals, the EP is the perfect introduction to the sounds and ethos of Mi Domina.
Nala and E.R.N.E.S.T.O. kick off Get Familiar with “God Complex,” a feisty cut that condemns egomania. Next, they offer brooding underground sounds on the EP’s titular track, “Get Familiar,” before concluding with an old-school “Acid Mix.”
“I’ve made it a philosophy to only work with artists who have a track record of being respectful to others, especially women, and I’m really honored to be able to work with E.R.N.E.S.T.O, share his talent, and vouch for his character,” Nala explained. “The man is a class act, and an incredibly tasteful and talented producer.”
The proceeds from Nala’s portion of the EP will be donated to several foundations that support bodily autonomy and reproductive rights, according to an Instagram post shared by Mi Domina.
After her debut performances at Ultra Music Festival and Electric Forest earlier this year, Nala is currently gearing up for the rest of her “Get Familiar” tour, which features DJ sets at Electric Zoo, III Points, Dirtybird Campout and Shambhala, among others.
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USA – DENVER – Behind the one-way windows of a squat warehouse on West Second Avenue is the domain of two professional dominatrixes, one of the premier dungeons in the United States, they say, with clients flying in from around the world.
And you’d better believe them, or you could be punished.
Mile High Dungeon is a sprawling fantasyland of themed rooms in which these dommes bind clients in various positions, engage them in erotic play, and dominate them during all sorts of kinky scenarios (within reason…and the law). Both transplants to Colorado, Domina Elle and Mistress Victoria Marx have lived here for decades, opening their own dungeons and practicing BDSM – bondage, dominance, sadomasochism – for more than twenty years before joining forces three years ago to open the Mile High Dungeon in this space that had been occupied by a computer-security expert until the FBI raided his business in 2015 after he bragged on Twitter about hacking into the controls of a commercial airliner and flying it sideways.
Between private sessions on a recent weekday, Elle and Victoria agree to give Westword a full tour of their business. Elle is dressed in one of her signature latex suits, which are often so tight that she needs lube to get them on. Victoria, who prefers to stick to leather and lace, is wearing a tight corset. Both sport thigh-high boots with six-inch, elevated heels that look so pointy they could probably double as torture instruments. Neither wants her full name used here.
Each prospective dungeon visitor must send Elle or Victoria an email that lists his or her fetishes. There are different categories, based on the colors of a stoplight. Green lights are acts and fetishes that the would-be client is 100 percent okay with exploring. Yellows are maybes. And reds are no-gos. “Most people know what their reds are first,” observes Victoria. “It’s easy to know what you don’t like.”
A common “red light” is heavy pain (though about 5 percent of their clients are really into heavy pain, Victoria notes). “And then a lot of people say, ‘No marks’,” she continues, in reference to the physical reminders of a common BDSM practice: flogging clients with whips and paddles.
“I am fascinated by people’s behaviors, motives and the history behind them,” says Elle, who adds that every client is different, and it’s her job to help them explore themselves, their sexuality and their desires. “Like, I might ask, what’s the first time you remember getting excited about being tied up?” she explains. “And someone might answer, ‘Oh, I saw that Lucky Charms commercial when the leprechaun gets caught in the net.’ The things you hear people say are fascinating.”
Elle declines to say how much a Mile High Dungeon session costs, explaining that prices are negotiable and that all sessions – typically two hours or longer – are customized to fit clients’ individual needs. And although the dommes always ask clients if they have romantic partners, and encourage couples’ sessions, there are some clients who don’t want others to know about their trips to the dungeon.
Client sessions often begin in the Sissy Boudoir, one of five rooms in the facility. It’s essentially an eroticized Hollywood dressing room, complete with wigs, makeup, footwear, coats and even some rubber horse-head masks. The accoutrements help with clients’ role-playing fantasies, explains Victoria. “And it can range from just heels and lipstick to a full transformation.”
While some clients already know what kind of transformation they desire, others take suggestions from the dommes. Elle started dressing up her male friends in her own clothes when she was a teenager, so helping with clients’ makeovers is second nature. “And playing around with the boundaries of gender, I think, is something that’s natural for a lot of people, even if they’re not kinky with it,” she says. “My favorite is when people have been cross-dressing alone for so long, and finally have the courage to step out of that alone place. Then the intimacy between you and the other person acting out this stuff takes on a whole other dimension.”
The Sissy Boudoir also boasts oversized dressing-room mirrors to assist with the costume changes. Then again, there are big mirrors in just about every room of the dungeon; Elle guesses there are forty throughout the sprawling facility.
“The mind-fuck aspect is definitely a big part of all of this,” she says while observing herself in one of those mirrors. “When you can watch yourself in the act, then you have the visual memory. There’s psychological nuances in everything that we do.”
Those psychological nuances extend to all sorts of physical tools and instruments used in various dungeon scenarios. A medical-themed room looks something straight out of a slasher film, with an old-school X-ray machine, an anesthesia device, a stomach pump and a “birthing chair” from the early 1900s with metal stirrups. Elle found that on Craiglist, and says the widow and daughter of a recently deceased urologist sold it to her. “They gave it to me on the condition that I wouldn’t perform abortions, which I agreed to,” Elle recalls. “But they probably wouldn’t have given it to me if they knew what it was really for…”
Adjacent to the medical room is the Black and Blue Room, named after its paint colors; a large suspension frame at the center can be used to bind and suspend people in all sorts of positions. Next to that is the Goddess Room, a relaxing space with a vibe similar to that of a day spa. And finally, there’s a huge room at the back with ceilings that are at least twenty feet high and projection screens displaying looping slideshows with all sorts of kinky imagery, including a guy strapped down on a bench whose erect penis is the only exposed part of his body. In this last room, colored spotlights accentuate a ten-foot-tall suspension frame with an electric winch mounted on top that can be used to mechanically raise up…stuff. There’s also a spanking bench, an X-shaped cross with straps on each of the arms, and a Victorian-styled bathtub in which clients can rinse off before leaving.
The entire dungeon is immaculate. The dommes always use towels wherever bare skin might touch any benches or frames, so, as Elle notes, “there are no snail trails anywhere.” From the music playing over speakers to the smells to the lighting, “every detail affects the situation,” she explains.
The dommes say it took all of their own equipment, as well as items donated from three other dungeons, to make Mile High Dungeon a reality. A now-deceased mistress who ran a combination B&B/dungeon in Pueblo left some tools to Elle. “I invoke her spirit whenever I use her paddles,” she says, adding that she rarely uses fewer than fifteen different whips and paddles on a client in a session. (She credits another mentor, Mistress Diane, with being “the first professional domme to really put Denver on the kinky map of the United States,” back in the ’80s. Mistress Diane is now retired, but Elle says she still has a few loyal clients who fly in from around the world to see her.)
The instruments lined up in various wall-mounted cases throughout the dungeon include such industry favorites as cock-and-balls torture devices, but there are also some unexpected tools, like a metal clamp designed to hold onto deep-dish pizza containers. Elle and Victoria call such commonplace items “pervertables,” since their standard use is perverted once it enters their realm. “When I saw the pizza clamp, I saw a nipple device,” Elle quips. Target and Home Depot, which they jokingly call “Domme Depot,” are both great places to find pervertables, they say.
While it’s sometimes difficult to tell when the dommes are kidding, they take their business seriously. Both advocate for decriminalization of sex work and rail against the SESTA law passed by Congress this spring that conflates sex work with sex trafficking. Not that what they’re doing involves actual sex; they conform to all applicable laws and regulations.
“We’re in a gray area,” notes Elle. “There are no laws in Colorado that govern BDSM. But there are laws in some states — at least one state – where you can’t even spank someone on their bare ass and take money. Plus, the prostitution penal codes are intentionally vague,” she continues. “They say, ‘value exchanged for sexual gratification,’ but that can mean so many different things. There are people locally who’ve been tried and found guilty when they took money to watch someone masturbate — they didn’t even touch the person. We have to be careful.”
They’re also careful about following city code. The Mile High Dungeon receives regular fire-department inspections; Victoria jokes that during the first fire department visit, there were two firemen, and ever since there have been at least four men at every inspection.
They want to be sure that they’re here for the people who need them. “This is our sacred space. Within this space, lives change. People bare their souls. They bare the most intimate parts of themselves psychologically and physically,” Elle says. “For me, I’m about raising energy up, helping people evolve and grow. And the sexual piece of ourselves — gender, what our boundaries are, what we’re okay with — is a development that has been stifled by shame and weirdness in our society. We really need to get real about sex, period. I think a lot of abuse stems from the shaming and weirdness that humans attach to sex. So we need to back up a little bit and look at, in a reasonable and compassionate way, our bodies and sexuality and all these people who think they are entitled to limit what other people do, whether it’s because they’re gay or sex workers or swingers or polyamorous. It’s time to move past all of that and grow up.”
CANADA – A LEATHER-clad dominatrix has revealed some of the craziest requests she’s received, with several of her kinky patrons paying more than $1,200 for sexy sessions.
Unbeknownst to the American eye, dominatrix Terri-Jean Bedford is one of Canada‘s well-known public figures – but under her Madame deSade to her fans.
Bedford documented her revolutionary rise as Canada’s most famous dominatrix in her autobiography, Dominatrix on Trial.
In an exclusive interview with The Sun, the leather-flogger-wielder described her exotic work and how she enjoys teaching men to “respect women.”
“I like to teach men a little behavior modification how to respect women, they will be longing certain things, their feelings, their emotions – put them in their place, and they like to be either forced into it,” Bedford told The Sun.
The temptress says her clients sign a contract before the acts and create safe words for when they reach their salacious limits.
She revealed that the most common requests by her patrons are “bondage and discipline” acts because they “want to give up control”.
‘GIVING UP CONTROL’
“Well, bondage and discipline are very common because people want to give up control. And when you do that, you should try it sometime, It’s really fun, especially if you can get someone that you trust,” she said.
“And then you and the novices they get a little feeling of feathers, fur, a little spanking, a little pinching, a little poking, a little prodding, a little interrogation, and a given a safe word.
“And it’s not ouch. Usually something like Pumpkinhead or Congo squirrel,” the dominatrix added.
Bedford said there are others who are ready to go the full mile and experience a complete “sex change”.
“There’s nothing really forced, but they don’t want to take responsibility for their actions. Whereas the other ones do, and they’re ready to go to sex change.
“But they don’t know how to walk and feel like a lady and makeup and what should I wear? You know, and so we move things on, and we have fun doing it. A little spanking & tickle goes a long way,” she added.
THREE-DAY ‘FANTASY CAMP’
However, for those curious men seeking to fulfill their kinky fantasies, the experience comes with a hefty cost.
“Well, actually, I promoted camps, three-day camps, because I don’t think an hour or a full day is sometimes enough for some people, especially if they want to learn how to walk, talk, act and feel like a lady-go on outings,” Bedford said.
“So I would offer a three-day fantasy for three days, and two nights they come in on a Friday. They leave on a Sunday at $1,200 plus tax.
“Some of them just want to come in, dress in their uniforms, and help out around the bed and breakfast cleaning. So I wouldn’t charge them a lot.
“I charge them like, you know, maybe $50 for use of the dressing room, etc.”
She added: “But others wanted to you know, have time to play, etc, etc. So it’s always between $100 an hour to $500 a day.
“If there was a lot of work to be done. They’d have play time, little time to prance around in their maid uniforms and take orders from my mistresses. So it was a lot of fun. It was like a clubhouse too.”
‘DISPOSABLE INCOME’
As for her patrons, Madame deSade says they’re misinterpreted as “crazy” when in fact, they’re “perfectly sane” with “huge disposable incomes”.
“So the most common misconception is that they’re crazy. When they’re absolutely perfectly sane,” Bedford told The Sun.
“They’re outstanding citizens with huge disposable incomes. They could, you know, put the $10,000 on the country club membership for golfing once a week, or they can put it on me, and I can facilitate, you know, their fantasies throughout the year or whatever.
“But most of the people that come to me are sane and, and good people.
“The men that come to see me are very respectful. They want to serve on their knees as soon as they enter the door, begging me to do whatever I want.”
WORLD – Have you ever heard of “Sir” or “Daddy” being used in the bedroom? Did watching Fifty Shades of Grey ignite a desire within you? When you heard Rihanna singing in“S&M,” “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me,” did you like the idea of it? Well, you might just be into S&M.
While BDSM is more than whips, chains, and taboo fantasies, S&M certainly fits the typical idea of kink. But what does S&M mean, and should you bring it into your bedroom? Read on to find out.
S&M MEANING
S&M is only one part of the abbreviation BDSM that means “sadism and masochism” or “sadomasochism” for short. The rest of the BDSM acronym stands for:
B/D: Bondage and discipline
D/S: Dominance and submission
S/M: Sadism and masochism (sadomasochism)
SADISM
Sadism (named after Marquis de Sade, author of the infamous 120 Days of Sodom) pertains to the tendency to derive sexual pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on others. This pain can be physical or psychological; for example:
Impact play (e.g., slapping, flogging, whipping)
Extreme rope bondage (e.g., predicament bondage)
Pleasure denial (e.g., edging, orgasm control)
Degradation and humiliation
There are many reasons why someone might be interested in sadism. One possibility is that it is a learned behavior – if you’ve seen someone else in pain experience high levels of pleasure, it might become psychologically rewarding to you. Sadists might also be sensation-seeking (a preference for thrilling activities) or have a very active imagination.
While sadists are often dominants and tops, sadists can also take a more passive role in the bedroom. For example, some sadistic service tops experience pleasure from hurting their Master or Mistress upon their request.
MASOCHISM
Masochism refers to deriving pleasure or sexual gratification from feeling physical or psychological pain. The term originates from Austrian nobleman and journalist Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, who famously wrote about his pleasurable experiences with pain and humiliation.
People who enjoy masochism typically derive pleasure from power exchanges. This power exchange allows them to enter an alternative state of consciousness. They become more relaxed due to the release of chemicals in the brain, such as adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin.
Masochists are the opposite of sadists because they gain pleasure from being put through pain. Typically, masochists are submissives and bottoms, but some dominants may also enjoy experiencing pain.
MYTHS ABOUT SADOMASOCHISTS
Because of the stigma surrounding sadomasochism, it isn’t always accurately portrayed in the media and is prone to misconception. Some myths surrounding sadomasochism include:
IT’S ABUSE
Most people perceive pain as abuse because it is often inflicted as a form of punishment. However, incorporating consent into the process removes the notion of abuse. For some, sadomasochism can be a meditative, cathartic, or therapeutic experience.
THOSE WHO PRACTICE IT ARE VICTIMS OF CHILDHOOD TRAUMA
Many assume that sadomasochism practitioners are victims of childhood trauma. While it’s a possibility, most who practice sadomasochism practice the kink due to their personalities and preferences. That said, in some cases, sadomasochists who have trauma may be able to work through it by practicing BDSM.
SAFE S&M PRACTICES AND TIPS
Want to get into the S&M fantasy? Here are some tips on how to practice S&M safely.
GET CONSENT
Consent is everything, regardless of what the sexual arrangement may be, but it’s essential when it comes to risky activities like BDSM. You and your partner need to communicate if you’re okay with inflicting or experiencing pain, and, if so, what kind of pain and in what context.
S&M doesn’t give you blanket permission to do whatever you want. Know what words and scenarios could negatively trigger you and your partner. For example, some people may be into using racial slurs in the bedroom, while others recoil at the thought of it.
DO YOUR RESEARCH
If you are new to sadomasochism, in-depth research can help you set comfortable boundaries. For instance, when engaging in a risky sexual act like choking, you’ll want to know the safest way to perform the act and where specifically to apply pressure so as not to inflict grievous harm on yourself or your partner.
Also, make sure to talk about safe words – these can be anything, so long as they are easy to remember and say. Pick something that resonates with you, and you wouldn’t typically say during sex. Most kinksters have multiple safe words – one for “go” or “OK” (e.g., green), one for “slow down” (e.g., yellow), and one for “stop” (e.g., red).
ALWAYS PROVIDE AFTERCARE
Aftercare is an excellent way to bring your partner back to a neutral or positive state and reassure them that they are in a safe space. This process is beneficial if one partner experiences a sub-drop or sadness/irritability after an intense sexual experience.
There are many forms of aftercare. These acts might include dressing injuries, offering food or water, hugging or cuddling, and providing reassurance. Always discuss what type of aftercare works best for you and your partner, based on your activities.
WHAT DIFFERENTIATES BDSM FROM ABUSE
The primary difference between BDSM and abuse is that the former involves explicit consent. In addition, BDSM typically involves aftercare, during which partners attend to each other’s mental and emotional needs.
However, there are instances in which BDSM makes an ideal cover for abuse. Abusers can use BDSM to facilitate trauma bonding, making it challenging for victims to identify signs.
Ultimately, responsible BDSM should never lead to death. The best way to ensure that your experiences are safe and enjoyable is to remain vigilant and communicate with your partner.
CONCLUSION
Sadomasochists find pleasure in pain. This kink isn’t for everyone, and understandably so – after all, it’s totally natural to feel bad when you are hurt or get hurt by a partner. Regardless, doing your research on S&M means you are in a better place to explore how rewarding it can be!
When a journalist visits an old horse stable converted into a sado-masochist club, he finds surprisingly normal people who just have a different idea of foreplay.
GERMANY – BERLIN – Three men in their forties are standing by an old fireplace repeatedly smacking their wives’ behinds with the flat of their hands. Other couples three meters away are drinking cocktails.
The men lounge in chairs with their legs apart while the women, heads bowed, kneel on the floor. A twisted picture of domination, or so it would seem, but for these couples, it’s simply an evening’s entertainment — they want things to be this way.
These former horse stables in a cellar in the Kreuzberg neighborhood of Berlin have been converted into an S&M club called the DarkSide, one of the best-known such clubs in the city.
A sadist is someone who likes to inflict pain. The word is a reference to the Marquis de Sade, a French aristocrat who in the 1780s wrote an orgy-filled book called The 120 Days of Sodom. A masochist is someone who likes to receive pain, and that word comes from the name of 19th century Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, who wrote several books describing how much he liked it when women inflicted pain on him.
Sadists and masochists go together like a horse and carriage.
The managing director of the DarkSide goes by the name of “Merlin.” He’s 50 years old, dark-haired — a former banker. He’s an achievement-oriented kind of guy who once won the Silbernes Lorbeerblatt (Silver Laurel Leaf), Germany’s highest sports award. Merlin is a sadist. He is suave, friendly, and has a habit of running his tongue over his incisors.
Merlin explains what drives his customers. “People come here to get in the mood for sex they’ll have at home,” he says. “It’s rather like going to a disco to dance. The sex happens afterwards in your own home.”
In a dressing room equipped with lockers and keys, guests can don their dark S&M gear, and fetishists can put on their leather, patent leather and latex apparel. “A lot of our guests have families, and the babysitter doesn’t need to know where they’re headed for the evening,” says Merlin.
Unlike what can be seen in swinger clubs, actual sex acts are unlikely to be observed here. Only a few couples slip off to the old, dark, wooden horse stalls. Mostly what goes on here is bondage and beating.
“There are some women who can only really let go when they’re tied up and can’t defend themselves,” Merlin explains. He himself is a master of a Japanese bondage technique.
Shame and pain
Merlin watches an American with some rope staring fixedly at the twenty-something girlfriend of another guest as he hoists her up on a pully. The woman’s boyfriend is seated in an arm chair watching the doings with interest. From his expression it’s impossible to tell if he is enjoying what he’s seeing, if he came here because he wanted to or because she wanted to.
“He’s pretty good already, but just a beginner,” Merlin says of the American.
Merlin himself discovered his own inclination to inflict fear and pain on women during sex when he was about 16 years old. But he eventually learned that his friends didn’t have the same fantasies. He felt ashamed and kept his preferences to himself. The Internet, which later helped him find other sado-masochists and bondage fans, didn’t exist at that point. It was only when he was 25, in Berlin, that he found places where people like him met, allowing him to live his preferences more openly. Eventually, he quit his day job at a bank to turn his private preferences into a business pursuit as well.
“I get turned on when I see fear in the eyes of a woman I’m having sex with,” he says.
But if the fear should turn to panic, he immediately stops the sadistic play. At the DarkSide there’s a code word that if uttered means that “masters” and “mistresses” must stop whatever they’re doing. Nothing should happen without mutual consent.
In the club, sterile torture instruments that clients may borrow hang on the wall behind the bar. These include bondage devices, whips, canes and batons. Other items such as strap-on dildos are displayed in a showcase and can be purchased.
On weekends, admission to the club costs up to 40 euros. Dark, fancy, even extravagant garb is required, and there are often theme evenings devoted to bondage-only, or women dominating men. Then there is “Casual Thursday,” when people can come dressed as they like, do what they want, and admission only costs 5 euros.
“It’s also intended for people who just want to give all this a try,” says Merlin, who greets all newcomers personally.
Two such newcomers have apparently agreed via Internet communication to meet at the DarkSide. She is a Dutch woman in her mid-thirties with dreadlocks. He is a powerfully built white-haired man in his mid-fifties with a goatee. They chat with each other as if they were on an afternoon date in some café, but at some point he starts to tie her up.
At the bar, a young man covered in tattoos is sitting reading German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche’s Thus Spoke Zarathustra. He’s scowling and drinking non-alcoholic beer. He’s visiting his blonde girlfriend who works behind the bar. After a while he exchanges the Nietzsche book for another one in his backpack — a book of dating tricks.
Meanwhile, a muscular naked man walks into the room with his (dressed) girlfriend. An iron ring hinders blood flow in his lumbar region. The two of them disappear around the corner where the girlfriend proceeds to cane the naked man. This can be heard, as the cane produces a loud thwack. The man’s pain is audible by the way he’s breathing. After about 30 minutes of this, the dominatrix emerges to fetch two glasses of water at the bar, then disappears around the corner again.
In the lounge area, the atmosphere is indeed as Merlin describes: “cozy and informal.”
A blind woman of 60 or thereabouts walks into the club leading her husband by the collar around his neck. Around the same time, a half-bald grey-haired man who looks like a postal clerk hands over a riding crop to a staffer and asks him to keep it for him for next time. He says he doesn’t want to be seen carrying it on the street.
AUSTRALIA – MELBOURNE – A Melbourne dominatrix is accused of murder with her “willing slave” in a bizarre plot, with details aired in court for the first time.
A Melbourne dominatrix is accused of plotting with her “willing slave” to kill another man, but she claims it was never meant to go that far, a court has been told.
Heide Victoria Bos is charged with the murder of 39-year-old Nicholas Cameron, who was found dead at a Sturt St apartment at Southbank on July 10 last year.
The 36-year-old woman’s “submissive”, Stuart Lindsay Heron, allegedly carried out the fatal attack and is also charged with murder.
At the time, homicide Detective Sergeant Sol Solomon described the alleged attack as “extremely brutal”.
During a bail hearing in the Supreme Court of Victoria on Friday, Ms Bos’s lawyers argued that the woman – who was “dominant’ in the relationship” – didn’t intend for Mr Heron to kill the other man.
Ms Bos and Mr Heron met on “FetLife” – a social media site for the BDSM and fetish community – about six weeks before the alleged murder and Mr Heron was paying for the dominatrix’s rent, the court was told.
In messages between the pair, Ms Bos told Mr Heron “you will please your queen” and “you will prove your loyalty”.
Their relationship was a “fantasy-style one of slave and mistress”, Ms Bos’s defence barrister Malcolm Thomas told the court.
He argued that while she believed Mr Heron would “warn off” the other man she did not expect him to cause serious injury or kill him.
Mr Thomas described the case against Ms Bos as “extremely weak” and said she understood there would be “some violence” against the victim but he would be alive at the end of the confrontation.
She also had no idea weapons would be brought into the mix but believed Mr Heron had connections to outlaw motorcycle gangs, the barrister said.
Mr Thomas said there were no specific instructions for Mr Heron to kill the other man
Ms Bos also suffered from PTSD after her previous partner died in a motorbike crash, struggled with drug abuse but had no prior criminal history, the court was told.
Prosecutors argued that Ms Bos should not get bail, as she provided Mr Heron with the whereabouts of the victim, the level of security at the building and lured him to the site of the altercation.
Police allege Mr Heron was a “willing slave” who was anxious to comply with Ms Bos’s instructions.
They argued it was a strong case and it was a “deliberate, violent confrontation”. She also lied to police about not knowing Mr Heron, the court was told.
Justice Christopher Beale rejected Ms Bos’s bid for bail, saying he was not persuaded that the prosecution case was weak, the circumstances of the case had to be considered in combination and the delay before trial was not inordinate.
Web developer Ruairi Murphy, 29, claimed he was “experimenting” with his sexuality when he assaulted the women in Fife between 2009 and 2018.
The High Court in Edinburgh heard how his victims, two aged 28 and one aged 22, were physically and verbally abused. He ignored their pleas to stop.
Murphy will be supervised for three years following his release.
Sentencing him, Judge Lady Wise said: “The woman have been left with low self-esteem, anxiety and fear. Your behaviour will have a lasting impact on all of them.
“You also continue to express an interest in bondage and sadomasochism which contributes to the assessment of risk in this case.”
She said the six year sentence was to “to protect the public, in particular young women”.
Murphy, of Dunfermline, Fife, was convicted following a four-day trial in May.
One woman told prosecutor Mark Mohammed how Murphy raped her at a house in Dunfermline in May 2015.
The 28-year-old said: “He tied me up to the bed using his shoe strings.
“I didn’t want to do it at first because I am not into that type of thing but that’s what he wanted to do.”
Punched and slapped
The court heard that she was forced to endure a series of acts involving clamps and sex toys.
Mr Mohammed asked : “Did you want him to do that?”
The woman replied: “No. I asked him to stop but he just kept going.”
Another of Murphy’s victims told of how she was “quite fearful” of him.
The 28-year-old said she was unable to stop him from assaulting her while they were in bed watching television.
She said: “I was tightly tied up. I couldn’t do anything.”
Murphy’s third victim, aged 22, told the court how he intimidated her by calling her a “slut” and that he punched and slapped her.
She said: “He then wanted to have sex and I said I didn’t want to it. Eventually I gave in and did it.”
Murphy was arrested after police learned of his activities and gathered enough evidence to bring him to court.
His defence advocate Ronnie Renucci said he still denied any wrongdoing and claimed the sex was consensual.
Murphy said they were “experimenting” and insisted he would “never be physically aggressive towards a female”.
Lady Wise also placed Murphy on the sex offenders’ register for life.
Move over Christian Grey! Professional SEX ROOM designer who helps couples create kinky spaces in their homes lands her own NETFLIX show that will document her X-rated renovations
Melanie Rose, who has designed high-end homes for 15 years, is the go-to person for those who are looking to have some fun in the bedroom
The designer’s specialty is creating ‘sex rooms’ – which are spaces in a couple’s home designed for satisfying their pleasures and living out their fantasies
The sex rooms are filled with numerous things to make the act more fun, like stripper poles, lingerie, bondage equipment, candles, and mood lighting
She also includes various sex toys, lines the walls with racy pictures, and decorates the rooms with erotic décor – to help get them in the mood
Melanie’s talents are now going to be showcased in a brand new Netflix series, entitled How to Build a Sex Room, which is set to hit the streaming site on July 8
The series will showcase all the behind-the-scenes steps that go into making the sex rooms – from coming up with the ideas to designing and building them
USA – A sex room designer has landed her own Netflix show documenting the very risque spaces that she creates for couples who are looking to spice up their sex lives.
Melanie Rose, who has designed high-end homes for 15 years, is the go-to person for those who are looking to have some fun in the bedroom.
The designer’s specialty is creating ‘sex rooms’ – which, as the name suggests, are spaces in a couple’s home designed specifically for satisfying their sexual pleasures and living out their fantasies.
The sex rooms are filled with numerous things to make the act more fun, like stripper poles, lingerie, bondage equipment, candles, mood lighting, and various sex toys, as well as a bed, couch, and sometimes even a bathtub.
She lines the walls with racy pictures and decorates the rooms with erotic décor and statues – to help get them in the mood.
Now, Melanie’s talents are going to be showcased in a brand new Netflix series, entitled How to Build a Sex Room, which is set to hit the streaming site on July 8.
‘From a rock ‘n’ roll sex dungeon to a next-level spa space, designer Melanie Rose dreams up erotic renovations for couples in this racy reality series,’ a description for it reads.
‘Couples looking for more spice in the bedroom hire Melanie to create stylish spaces where they can carry out any fantasy they wish.
‘You’ve seen kitchen renovations, you’ve seen bathroom transformations, but you’ve never seen anything quite like this!’
The series will showcase all the behind-the-scenes steps that go into making the sex rooms – from coming up with the ideas and designing the rooms to building them, picking the furniture for them, and seeing the couples’ reaction to them.
‘For over 15 years, I’ve been designing high-end homes. So when a client asked me if I’d ever designed a sex room, I thought, “Why not? Why wouldn’t I go and design a sex room?”‘ Melanie told the camera in a preview for the upcoming show.
‘When people hear the words “sex room,” they concentrate on the word “sex” and that connotates “dirty and disgusting.”
‘But when I design them, they can be beautiful. They are places where couples can explore their deepest fantasies.’
Clips in the trailer show Melanie talking to various couples, working on the rooms with her ‘great’ general contractor, Mike – and some even feature clients trying out the sex toys (fully clothed, of course).
‘I would have never thought that being tied in rope would make me feel sexy,’ one woman told Melanie, after testing out a bondage toy.
Another person referred to Melanie as the ‘angel for her marriage’ in the trailer.
‘They say you never know what goes on behind closed doors, but I do,’ Melanie concluded in the preview.
When the erotic novel 50 Shades of Gray – which was later turned into a movie – spiked in popularity in 2012, Cosmopolitan reported that it caused an explosive 400 per cent rise in the sale of sex toys.
Then, when the first movie in the series premiered in 2015, TheWrap said that they spoke with shops that sell bondage equipment, who told them that the film caused ‘rampant interest in the BDSM toys.’
‘In more than twenty years of business, I’ve never seen a cultural force like this,’ one store owner said at the time.
UK – SURREY – Madame C, from Surrey, England, is a fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress who is on a mission to give people everything they need to fulfil their wildest dreams and fantasies
A fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress is helping people explore their deepest, darkest desires.
Madame C, from Surrey, England, has decades of experience as a professional mistress and as a cross-dressing studio owner.
The highly-skilled dominatrix shares her skills with others so that they “can have the pleasure you deserve”.
She achieves this through a variety of ways, such as medical examination, heavy bondage and role-play.
“I am on a mission to give you everything you want to fulfil your wildest dreams and live the one life you have been given and deserve,” she has written on her website.
“I am so excited to teach you the skills to reframe outdated and dysfunctional cultural and social beliefs of fantasy, sex, self-exploration and relationships.
“I will teach you to unlock your innate capabilities to let go and travel even deeper within your mind reaching your ultimate pleasure zones, and then, slip even deeper into a place of absolute bliss.
“The world I have created for you is a playground for the physical and a limitless space for your mind to explore.”
Madame C works in playrooms with bondage equipment and accessories, such as penis pumps, male milking machines, strap ons, chastity devices and exploration toys.
There is also a whole range of outfits for Madame C to wear, such as rubber mistress, headmistress, policewoman, judge, governess and nurse.
Clients can choose a variety of her services, such as heavy bondage in the dungeon, a rubber doll experience, the medical clinic and cross-dressing.
If customers want to experience role-play, Mistress C will help them explore a variety of different scenarios.
“What Studio Kink offers is a platform on which to explore and enact these experiences through role-play,” she explained.
“I devise creative, spontaneous and realistic play in a setting with props and outfits that will trigger past experience feelings.
“I take the dominant role and guide you through your fantasy using role-play.”
Some of the role-play scenarios she offers are The boy who has been sent to the therapist for sissy training, the naughty nephew caught peeking at auntie as she changes and the underperforming male employee in the female-run office.
Over the years Madame C has met individuals who are all on a quest for the ultimate experience of alternative kinky play.
She has said that every single one of them has been different and unique and has helped widen her knowledge about the world of sexual fantasies.
“My passion, experience, and personal exploration of kink, psychology and exploring fantasy play over three decades has been the building blocks for creating Studio Kink,” she shared.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Flove-sex%2Fbdsm-mistress-sets-up-business-27180333&cre=bottom&cip=28&view=web
“I have created a space where you can safely discuss and explore thoughts, feelings and fantasies in a specially designed and equipped environment.
“Your time with me will allow you to close the door on your daily routine and the person you are.
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USA – Netflix is set to premiere a home makeover show, titled, How To Build A Sex Room, on July 8. The show will be about renovating “sumptuous” spaces that are all about intimacy.
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“When people hear the words ‘sex rooms,’ they concentrate on the word ‘sex,’ and that connotes ‘dirty,’ ‘disgusting’ — no, sex rooms are not disgusting,” interior designer Melanie Rose, the host of the upcoming show, says in the Netflix trailer.
“A sex room can be anything from a sumptuous bedroom to a dungeon under the stairs,” Rose added. “But when I design them, they can be beautiful. They can be works of art. They can be fantasies. They can be anything my client desires.”
Throughout the trailer, images of Rose’s elaborate sex room designs are displayed, showing viewers various different styles, from a dungeon with chains and bondage devices, to a bathroom featuring a black freestanding tub surrounded by candles, in front of a wall adorned with sex toys.
Another room included a balloon chair with handcuffs at the top, and another featured a mannequin clad in pink Shibari. The walls of several rooms featured sex toys hanging on hooks, and images of women in bondage.
Rose is an interior designer who has “devoted her career to fulfilling couples’ fantasies via home design,” and has been dubbed the “Mary Poppins” of sex rooms by her clients,” according to a report by PEOPLE.
Netlix’s How To Build A Sex Room arrives on the heels of consumers dumping their subscriptions for the streaming platform in droves, as well as a wave of show cancelations, and mass employee layoffs.
The 47-year-old who goes by the stage name ‘Kaz B’ revealed she makes around £35,000 by visiting clients all over the South West as well as through her own Onlyfans page.
“I’ve done all sorts of things. Some people might have a fetish for spanking or extreme bondage, some have a foot fetish and like to massage the feet.
“There’s corporal punishment, whips, paddles and ties. Some men like to be treated like women and crossdress, some like to be humiliated.”
The dominatrix, who recently moved back in with her mother in Central Swindon, was keen to stress that while a lot of people get uncomfortable when it comes to fetishes and sex work, there’s a “real, beautiful, human element” to it that often gets overlooked.
“When I first got into it most of my clients were quite well-to-do men over 50, but more and more it’s opening up and I’m seeing a lot of younger clients from all different kinds of backgrounds – everyone has their own kinks and fetishes which they might not be able to express,” she said.
“Seeing me is therapy for a lot of people. I’ve started a podcast where myself and other sex workers talked about the stigma of having a fetish, and how men often face a lot of shame in their lives.”
She explained that a lot of her clients lacked confidence and thought less of themselves because of their kinks.
“Years and years ago another dominatrix and I were domming a young man who wanted to be humilated but it was too much for him and he ended up telling us he needed to stop and started bawling his eyes out.
“We ended up just getting a Chinese and watching a movie with him.”
Asked what her friends and family thought about it, Kaz B said they ‘didn’t mind’ and that while they ask her to share stories she keeps shtum about what her clients get up to.
Kaz B added that she has got to know a lot of her clients at a deep level and has seen them grow as people as a result. She said this positivity doesn’t get acknowledged enough in the industry.
But being a sex worker has also helped her overcome a troubled upbringing and mental hangups of her own and improved her confidence as well.
“I have always been really shy,” she said. “I was bullied at school and I was in an abusive relationship when I was younger.
“Sex work has really helped because it’s fulfilling and rewarding to help somebody be who they should be. You get this private bond with someone which helps them but it also helps you.
“It has helped me work through my own issues and anxiety.”
Kaz B is also an aspiring filmmaker, a novelist and is currently in the process of making a documentary to further break down the stigma attached to sex work and what she does.
Fashion is considered one of the finest forms of self-expression, a medium that lets you use clothing, accessories, makeup and other related vehicles to communicate a message you want to take to the world. So, what does it mean when we see leather harnesses, latex bodysuits, rubber boots, O-ring chokers, and autoerotic asphyxiation-inspired necklines take over runways and red carpets? Probably that a form of fashion formerly relegated to sex dungeons, underground parties and bedroom play is now marching right on to the streets.
Fetish fashion is defined as any kind of clothing or accessory designed to be extreme or provocative in a kinky way. Over the last year, we’ve seen celebrities like Kim Kardashian, Dua Lipa, Zoë Kravitz and Julia Fox embrace BDSM-inspired looks. In fact, forecasters at shopping search engine Lyst noted in March that “fetishcore” is fast emerging as a trend, with searches for “harness” on the platform increasing by 132 percent month-on-month, and queries for leather choker on the site also growing 100 percent since the start of 2022.
Fetishcore also isn’t a new trend. Experts trace its origins back to sexual liberation movements in the 1960s and 70s, where openly wearing provocative looks, especially at pride protests, became a way to openly express sexuality. Today, the movement has melded into the mainstream, with fetish fashion emerging as a trend that lets us embrace a more experimental look.
All these factors point to BDSM-adjacent styles gaining global acceptance. But in India, a country where it is still considered taboo to openly discuss your deepest, darkest kinks – or, heck, even sex for that matter – the rising trend of fetish fashion is subverting societal pressures and expectations, and fuelling mainstream conversations on a niche subculture for probably the first time ever.
“[Kink fashion] has always been there, but it was limited to underground spaces or confined to bedrooms,” Randhir Singh, the founder of India’s first homegrown fetish fashion label Subculture, told VICE. “Historically, we have always been a culturally open society, but that changed with colonisation. Now, we’re picking up those conversations and talking about sex more liberally, which is what has also led to the rise of fetish fashion in India.”
Singh is a fashion designer trained in the art of crafting leather. He launched Subculture in 2021 to raise awareness around kinks and normalise them.
“People think chokers and corsets are just fashion statements,” he said. “You can make it fashion, but it’s also a lifestyle for many. Now, even [mainstream] brands like H&M and Zara are producing harnesses and corsets because they’re trendy, but I want to use my brand as a platform to educate people about the backstory behind fetish fashion.”
Singh added that he has noticed a spike in interest after the lifting of lockdown restrictions, something he believes nudged people to embrace fetish fashion. In fact, fetish fashion has historically peaked during times of political upheaval, with experts attributing the desire to take back a sense of control as a massive factor that fuels its popularity.
“During the lockdown, people spent more time on the internet and got more into online shopping, which in turn led to more people experimenting with fetish fashion,” he said. “That’s when my sales were the highest.”
Subculture is currently the only homegrown brand offering harnesses, floggers, handcuffs and other bondage-inspired accessories made by rural leather artisans in the Indian state of Rajasthan. But even before brands were openly selling leather harnesses and latex corsets, members of the kink community found creative ways to overcome the lack of options.
“In the Indian space, there are various things that people have been using as part of their kinky experiences,” Aili Seghetti, an intimacy coach and dominatrix based in the Indian city of Mumbai, told VICE. “People use saree pallus (the loose end of a saree) to tie their partner up, or the metal parts of payals (anklets) or even traditional toe rings to scratch their partners.”
Seghetti’s introduction to fetish fashion was through sex parties she attended in London in the 90s, where it was an unspoken mandate for attendees to spend a minimum of 10,000 Indian rupees ($130) on kinky lingerie and accessories just to gain entry into these clubs.
“In India, our understanding of kink has come in from the West, which is why even its representation in fashion is more Western. For me, kink wear is latex, but the weather in India makes it difficult to wear such materials,” she said.
While India still has a long way to go in terms of localising fetishwear, she said that the current trend is an important stepping stone in opening up conversations around kink.
“If you are kinky, your [aim] is to have more people understand that it’s OK to be kinky,” she said. “So, if someone buys a collar and then finds out what the collar is used for, it automatically spreads awareness.”
She added that while many Indians discovered kink through the movie Fifty Shades of Grey, fashion is another way to bring the discourse into the mainstream.
“Kink fashion can take these conversations into the mainstream the same way athleisure has done for fitness,” she said. “It may be changing at a very slow pace, but for now, it is a good conversation starter.”
While India is still in the nascent stage of understanding fetish fashion in all its glory, kinky clothes remain an empowering and liberating medium for people to express themselves.
“I feel sexually confident, unapologetic and strong, and even get a sense of rage when I wear kink fashion,” Sanky Evrus, a celebrity hair stylist and nude model, told VICE. “It’s a very different high, almost like a power to take control of everything around me. Kink fashion is nothing short of liberation to me. To be able to celebrate something that is only meant to be behind closed doors is quite empowering.”
For some like Evrus, kink fashion is a way to amplify their sexual desires and attract other like-minded people in a subtle yet explicit fashion. For others, it is a way to appreciate aesthetics.
“For me, sex is as much about the aesthetic aspect, as it is about the physical aspect,” a Bengaluru-based lawyer, who requested anonymity over concerns of professional backlash, told VICE. “When my partner and I have sex, we experiment with different kinds of lighting or use mirrors, which change the way we see ourselves, and are as much of a turn-on as the physical act. That’s why kink fashion can be extremely empowering.”
This lawyer’s kinks include voyeurism and autoerotic asphyxiation, and fetish fashion has become a way to express his deepest, darkest desires.
“In a society such as ours, sex is something typically restricted to the bedroom, but it has underlying power implications,” he said. “[Kink fashion] brings the entire conversation pushed to the dogmas in our bedroom to the public sphere, and is a small step that marks this paradigm shift.”
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