USA – Billboard singer & actor Lovari says there’s “No Holding Back”, like the title of his album, when it comes to those trying to shame him for his fetishes. In a bizarre Instagram rant, complete with hashtags of F**kYou, he shares an expletive laden story post condemning personal conversations of unnamed sources of people who allegedly belittled him about his desires and fetishes. The post includes a screenshot of a blog written by an assumed ex-lover, spilling details about their romantic experience with Lovari. Claiming that he “will not be shamed” and proclaiming to be a “freak and proud”, the singer then posted two s&m bondage photos of himself, photographed by renowned artist and activist Luna Ortiz, taken when Lovari was 18 years old. Reactions on the Instagram post were mixed. One user commented, “Nobody can shame you if you claim your own truth. You go boy!”, while others claimed the singer was “so desperate for attention”.
The shift in gears from a recurring National Anthem singer to provocateur was first seen last month, during a performance of his song “Keep It Moving” at Celebrity Boxing in Atlantic City. At one point, the singer gave the crowd the middle finger and then pointed it down towards his crotch.
This is not the first time that Lovari has promoted sensual themed projects. In 2015, he teamed up with former adult actress and television icon Robyn Byrd to record “Touch Me”, which reached the iTunes Electronic Chart. A year later, he co-produced two titles for adult film company Original Latino Fan Club. Later this year, his aforementioned song “Keep It Moving” will be featured in the #nude# themed comedy “Modest Male Exposure”. His most recent Instagram post mentions a forthcoming magazine interview with legendary erotic director Chi Chi LaRue, and an unnamed music video directed by another former renowned adult film director Brian Brennan.
Andrea Keaney, who is known in the adult industry as Megara Furie, has revealed she‘s using the people skills learned from her racy role to inspire a new type of clientele as a life coach.
The 37-year-old, who has worked in BDSM for the last 12 years, has previously shared her strangest requests, including putting flowers up a customer’s backside and being asked to force-feed a client a live praying mantis.
But despite a serious stigma surrounding such a job, the geology graduate reckons her unique CV makes her the perfect person for people trying to change their lives.
Andrea, from Bishopbriggs, told The Scottish Sun: “I’d already been doing hypnotherapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and then I came across coaching and it was just by accident.
“And when I started to learn the process of coaching and in particular transformational coaching, I realised it was really aligned with a lot of the stuff I was already doing.
“For example one of the barriers to people being able to express themselves is limiting beliefs and that shows up everywhere – and it shows up in sessions as a dominatrix.
“People are too shy to say what they want, too scared to express themselves and be vulnerable because they have all these beliefs about themselves, about what I will think of them and what that means for them.
“And what I realised is that it doesn’t just happen in the dungeon, it happens everywhere.
“One of the things I really enjoy about being a dominatrix is being able to help people to be their true self in that setting and now I get to do that for people in every setting of their life which is really cool.
“I get to do everything I was doing in the dungeon – well not everything – but I get to do the mindset work I was doing in the dungeon and now I’ve got a lot more clarity and focus and it’s a lot more intentional the way that I’m doing it.”
Andrea, who became NLP qualified in 2019, started working as a dominatrix in 2008 and admits people were surprised at her sudden career shift when she started her second job last year and set up her business Dominant Mindset Coaching.
But she insists the occupation she’s famous for isn’t as seedy as people think and that it’s actually the perfect platform for her new profession and passion.
She says: “For the untrained eye you would look at it and go ‘oh it’s seedy, it’s just people going in and getting spanked and getting their kicks.’
“But actually there’s a lot more to it than that, a lot of discussion that takes place before, during and after a session.
“People book sessions because they maybe want the physical or mental side of it but really the main thing that they get from it – and if you’re a good dominatrix you’ll know this – they’re looking for validation, looking for a safe space where they can just let some of their guard down and be fully themselves.
“Being able to do that is what gives them a spring in their step when they leave.
“And being able to give them that is the rewarding part for me.”
USA – A group of students eagerly scribble their names on blue raffle tickets surrounding tables and a mattress draped with flower petals positioned in the quad on Wednesday Nov 17. The raffle prizes on display are not your usual baskets of baked goods or reusable water bottles, instead including a selection of dildos, bright pink fuzzy handcuffs, ball gags, vibrators, and even a jewel adorned butt plug.
The Humboldt State women’s resource center put on their annual Kink The Quad event after being unable to put on a 2020 event due to the pandemic. Isabela Acosta, a sophomore art history major, is this year’s body politics and health educator for the resource center. Acosta helped coordinate the event and hopes it encourages discussions about consent culture on campus and education about safe sex.
“People are weird with sex especially kinky sex and ropes, I see people get really guarded and that’s fine,” Acosta said. “It’s not everybody’s thing but it’s not something you should be ashamed of or make someone else feel shamed for it.”
Acosta mentioned how this year’s Kink The Quad event has collaborated with other on-campus associations like CHECK-IT Violence Prevention and the Benjamin Graham Sex Research and Education Lab to table alongside the demonstration. Acosta put an emphasis on a bondage theme for this year with a focus on shibari – an ancient Japanese form of rope bondage.
“I was worried about negative opinions and negative feedback but everyone was really excited, especially the staff I met with, they were all really looking forward to this event,” Acosta said.
The event included a sex toy raffle, all provided from Good Relations storefront in Eureka, free condoms and lube, CHECK-IT resource booklets, and a live shibari demonstration every hour until the event concluded. Acosta was leading the shibari demonstrations with fellow student staff members and even a student volunteer, art studio major Livia Stella Miller. The shibari demonstrations focused on the importance to use safewords during kinky sex for consent and comfort as well as tools for safety when participating in certain kinks, like scissors with bondage. Volunteers who were being tied up also did demonstrations using their safe word for breaks or to stop completely. ’Apple’ was the safe word for volunteers.
“It was a little less itchy than I expected and really fun,” Miller said. “Kinks in particular revolve around a lot of power dynamics especially bondage so it’s important to know how to make your partner feel good and not bad, even in kinks that aren’t involved with power dynamics it’s just important to make people feel good.”
CHECK-IT Violence Prevention was also tabling at the event and handing out booklets for supporting victims of dating violence and normalizing consent culture. CHECK-IT staff member Sophia Effa, a psychology major, was running the table and has been working with the program for around two years. Effa feels Kink The Quad has destigmatized the mentioning of kinks by just being present on campus for the student body.
“I think it’s important because I feel like not a lot of people have access to education revolving around kinks that’s ethical and safe, so I think an organization on campus like the women’s resource center is really important for educating our students because not a lot of people have access to that,” Effa said.
Hannah Craven, an HSU psychology major who showed up for the event and demonstration, was surprised to see how many students were also there and was glad to see education about harm reduction when using sex toys with a partner or initiating kinky sex.
“I thought this was really interesting because its almost strange to me a school would have this,” Craven said. “In the past schools I’ve been to they have very much shied away from sex education especially in this way. It’s interactive and kink focused. I also feel like this is very inclusive to same sex partners which is nice because you know we were never really taught those things.”
Kink the Quad is an annual event on campus every November but Acosta hopes to get more kink spaces on campus in the future while working with the women’s resource center.
“There will definitely be more kinky events on campus in the future,” Acosta said. “I’m gonna try and plan something for the spring semester and see what happens.”
UK – From the tragic scenes which highlighted financial issues for pensioners – which left Edna eating a single piece of lettuce on a plate for her meal – to her lovable pooch Tootsie, Edna was an Emmerdale legend.
Actress Shirley Stelfox played her from 2000 until her death in 2015, appearing in a whopping 1,503 episodes.
But Shirley was a lot different to Edna’s stoic personality, and played a huge variety of characters throughout her incredible acting career, including taking on the role of a prostitute in George Orwell adaptation Nineteen Eighty-Four.
The actress tragically passed away from terminal cancer just four weeks after her diagnosis.
To commemorate six years since her death, Daily Star takes a look at Shirley’s life off-screen.
Rival soap stints
Emmerdale wasn’t the only soap Shirley appeared in – although it was her most legendary role to date.
In fact, her first ever small-screen acting role was in rival ITV soap Coronation Street back in 1960.
She played various Corrie characters over the years, the most recent being Shirley Henderson in 1990 – but she also appeared as a barmaid and video dating agency businesswoman.
Shirley even appeared in BBC soap EastEnders in 1999 – one year before she joined Emmerdale – as Jane Healy, Mel Owen’s mum who attends her wedding to Ian Beale on New Year’s Eve.
She was revealed to have been killed off 20 years later.
But Shirley actually had a spooky connection to one member of the Emmerdale cast before either of them signed up to the ITV soap.
She appeared alongside Elizabeth Estensen – best known for her role as Diane Sugden until she quit the soap earlier this year – in Noel Coward’s 1985 play Cavalcade.
As well as appearing in other soaps like Heartbeat, Brookside and The Bill, Shirley appeared in six episodes of Keeping Up Appearances as Rose in 1990.
However, she only appeared in one series of the show before being replaced by Mary Millar due to prior commitments.
Raunchy scenes
Although many fans will remember Edna as prim and proper, always hiding her hair beneath a tight hat, Shirley looked a lot different in real life.
She even played a prostitute, labelled simply ‘The Whore’ in the adaptation of George Orwell’s novel 1984, appearing in a cropped scarlet wig and black lace choker for the sultry scenes.
Shirley slipped into a strapless black dress which featured sequins and a plunging neckline for the shoot, donning a dark smokey eye make-up look with dark red lipstick.
She also appeared in comedy Personal Services as a whip-wielding dominatrix intent on helping to host kinky sex sessions for upper class folk.
And in real life, Shirley tended to wear her long blonde tresses loose and tumbling past her shoulders.
In hospital scenes where Edna was first seen without her iconic hat, the actress revealed she actually had to wear a wig.
She remarked at the time: “I had to cover my blonde hair with a wig because I only have a couple of grey hairs, even at 63!”
Tragic losses
Shirley was married twice in her life – first to Keith Edmundson for three years. The pair shared a daughter, Helena, before eventually gong their separate ways.
The star later tied the knot to fellow actor Don Henderson in 1979 – who was best known for his roles in shows like Red Dwarf and Doctor Who.
Shirley helped to bring up Don’s two children from his first marriage, and the pair were together until Don tragically died from throat cancer in 1997.
Speaking about what Don might have thought of her character Edna, Shirley told the Birmingham Sunday Mercury in 2004: “I can just see him now, roaring with laughter.”
But she explained that seeing Edna in a relationship of her own would have been too strange, explaining at the time: “It would show too much of her soft side and change her character. Edna was brought in to give Ashley and Bernice a hard time, and I think it’s very important to keep that edge.”
Health issues and death
Shirley suffered from bilateral amblyopia all her life, a condition of the eyes which means the brain fails to fully input sight from one eye and favours the other.
The condition left her short-sighted.
In 2015, Shirley was diagnosed with terminal cancer – and she passed away just four weeks later. She was said to have died peacefully at home with her daughter Helena by her side.
ITV executive producer John Whiston paid tribute to the star at the time, commenting: “The family here at Emmerdale are deeply saddened by Shirley’s passing. It is hard to imagine Emmerdale without her.
“We offer our condolences to Shirley’s family and share our feeling of loss with the millions of viewers who will miss Edna enormously.”
Her co-stars also paid tribute to their beloved colleague, with Donna Windsor star Verity Rushworth posting: “Thinking of the entire @emmerdale family and the loved ones of the legendary Shirley Stelfox. Taught me so much when growing up.”
Heartbreaking final scene
Edna was last seen on-screen on October 26, 2015 during a poignant scene with co-star Freddie Jones, who played Sandy Thomas until just before his death in July 2019.
Sandy had been lodging with Edna and decided to gift her a set of walkie talkies to chat to him when he moved out.
He told her: “I thought it’d be very strange for you to go back to living on your own again. But like this, we shall be only the touch of a button away.”
NORTH – IRELAND – BELFAST – Looking for holiday rentals during the festive season can be a real pain — but now there is a naughty little Airbnb listing which offers just that, and more.
Carnal Chambers sex dungeon in north Belfast is advertised on Airbnb and on social media as a fully-equipped BDSM house for hire.
It is owned and run by international dominatrix Mistress Royale who is currently advertising discounted rates for her services at the dungeon throughout the festive period.
The space is listed on Airbnb as a “unique and special” two-bedroom house complete with “an adult play space and a pink room for makeover and transformation”.
The listing also notes: “You can find a completely blacked-out cell with concrete floor for extended confinement time.
“This SM (sadomasochism) House is a mix of a comfortable stay and play where you can enjoy your time away from home along with fun, a bit of kink and holidays.”
With overnight bookings for the Belfast sex dungeon starting at £90 per night, Sunday Life went along to have a look inside the torture chamber and see what all the screaming was about.
Situated off the busy Crumlin Road in north Belfast, the unassuming residential property belies the world of sexual intrigue held within.
On entering the property, it looks like many other suburban Belfast homes with a kitchen-diner on the ground floor complete with rug and cosy fire.
However, on closer inspection, you’ll find a giant leather bondage throne tucked away in the corner of the room under a blanket.
The throne is a specially designed piece of kit which comes complete with an array of fastenings and straps which provide multiple ways in which to bind someone to the chair.
Perched atop the mantelpiece above the fireplace sat a number of penis cages, similar in use to a chastity belt for a woman, alongside a ‘lucky charm’ ornament, featuring a leprechaun and a horseshoe.
The rest of the ground floor was just as you’d expect to find in any family home except for the door under the stairs which led to the aforementioned confinement cell.
Roughly a foot wide and around five-feet long, the space under the stairs consisted of nothing but a concrete floor, some hooks in the wall and a dog bowl.
After peering under the stairs and resisting the temptation to climb inside the cell and shut the door behind me, it was time to go upstairs and check out the other rooms.
First I came across the adult play room which is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. It had one large dark red ‘gynaecologist chair’ in the centre of the room which doubles up as a spanking bench.
Sat in front of a large mirror, the chair formed the centrepiece of the room and was accompanied by a smaller black BDSM chair complete with wrist and head restraints.
The room also came complete with a mains-powered sex-machine, a six-foot tall St Andrew’s Cross restraint for torture plus a treasure trove of sex aids and equipment. Stacked on several shelves by the window were dozens of sex toys, including gimp masks, dildos of all shapes and sizes and a large rubber fist, as well as a number of wigs.
The shelves also contained assorted other items including bolt cutters, ties, wipes, puppy training pads and clingfilm.
The room was provided with extensive cleaning products and equipment and the Airbnb listing provides an “enhanced” cleaning service with every booking.
Finally, I poked my head into the makeover room which had a bed, a small restraint bench, vanity unit and a clothes rail, all lit up by multi-coloured disco lighting.
On the clothes rail were a number of costumes and uniforms, including nurse and maid outfits as well as a 1970s style blow-up sex doll.
The Belfast dungeon appears to have been operating since September, with dominatrix Mistress Royale advertising the house via its own dedicated Twitter account, the Airbnb website and her personal Twitter account.
She has shared pictures and video of her work and clients at the address on social media and has welcomed other dominatrices to the dungeon who have done the same.
On her Twitter profile she describes herself as a “BBW (big beautiful woman)” and an “international pro dominatrix” as well as specialising in “FinDomme (financial domination) and fetish”.
Elsewhere on social media, she describes herself as a “professional dominant, female supremacist, fetish model & performer, sex & kink educator, BDSM & fetish advisor” and “kink research pioneer.”
Aside from her Crumlin Road enterprise, she says she’s a model and performer working in Monaco, Jersey, Nice and London.
USA – As she skillfully tied her partner onto a steel suspension tripod, Marceline V.Q. let her inspiration lead her. Using natural hemp ropes to recreate a scene from Michelangelo’s well-known fresco painting, The Creation of Adam, Marceline pondered every reaction her partner made, as the woman hung in midair.
Her partner’s arm stretched out to reach something powerful yet invisible. Smiling, with her eyes closed, she looked totally absorbed.
“Something I really adore is just the feeling of rope flowing through my hands,” Marceline said, gesturing to mimic the rope moving. “You get into a flow state.”
By day, Marceline, 26, is an engineering researcher and a physics Ph.D. By night, she is a rope bondage artist and educator. Her pseudonym, “Marceline V.Q.,” is adapted from the character “Marceline the Vampire Queen” in the cartoon series Adventure Time, as she wished to keep her academic life separate from her rope bondage gigs. She tries to constantly challenge the world of BDSM—bondage, domination, submission, and masochism—with aesthetic concepts and complex rope techniques.
“When I was starting out, the struggle for me was trying to show people who weren’t involved in this that rope bondage doesn’t have to always be about sex,” she said. Although for her, it is and it isn’t.
Before the pandemic hit, she was invited to perform and to teach a class called the “physics of ropes” all over the country. Combining her artistic and scientific skills, she uses geometry to inspire most of her rope bondage work.
“When creating rope bondage work, I’ll take the idea of translating a four-dimensional object into three dimensions,” she said. “I’m sort of turning off the analytical side of my brain and feeling more than thinking, in a lot of ways. That’s unusual for people doing very intense mental work.”
However, Marceline’s rope bondage experiences weren’t always artistic. Smiling shyly, she admitted the “epiphany” moment came when she was playing a game of “cops and robbers” with her friend when she was 10 years old. Tying her friend’s hands behind the back with a rope, Marceline had this exhilarating feeling of stepping back to appreciate her “artwork” and thinking she wanted to be part of it.
“I think people understand their sexuality a lot earlier than they realized,” she said.
Marceline began her rope bondage journey in 2014 when she found out about several BDSM subculture groups on FetLife, the social network for the BDSM and kink communities. There she discovered “kinkers,” who go beyond what are considered conventional sexual practices. They don’t “practice” rope bondage. They “play” it.
Rope bondage, or “shibari,” originated from the Japanese martial art of restraining captives and then transformed into erotic bondage in the late 19th century, according to the first English instruction book on Shibari. “Shibari is a Japanese form of sex play using rope restraint methods. It may or may not be sexual, but it is certainly centered around joy and delight and play,” said Midori, the acclaimed sexologist and author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.“Even though most of the work I produced in rope doesn’t tend to be very sexual, I don’t want to completely separate myself from those origins, because that’s why we’re here today.”
The view of rope bondage has not been consistent over time. After studying in Japan for several months in 2017, Marceline says she noticed a slight shift in shibari communities. Some members started to consider rope bondage as art, which completely erased its “messy, dirty” history.
“Even though most of the work I produced in rope doesn’t tend to be very sexual, I don’t want to completely separate myself from those origins, because that’s why we’re here today,” Marceline said.
Midori also believes that learning rope bondage’s origin is essential. “Saying, ‘I am practicing this as art’ is pretentious,” said the sexologist, furiously. “It’s about elevating one’s own social prestige.”
Following the release of the erotic book Fifty Shades of Grey, kink subcultures gained mainstream momentum in 2011. Kink behaviors are common among adults in America, according to a 2017 study from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion. More than 30 percent of those surveyed acknowledged they had engaged in spanking, more than 22 percent engaged in role-playing, and more than 20 percent engaged in rope bondage.
“Fifty Shades of Grey changed the way people view kink and opened up the conversation about consent,” said Susan Wright, the spokesperson of the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF), a nonprofit organization that advocates for the sexual freedom of all adults.
Although a number of films and books have thrust BDSM into the realm of popular culture, rope bondage is still taboo for a lot of people. Some feminist activists expressed strong opposition. “I do not believe meaningful sexual liberation is achieved through replicating the same dominance-subordination dynamics of institutionalized male dominance,” said Caitlin Roper, a feminist activist and a Ph.D. candidate researching female-shaped sex dolls. “With an understanding of feminism as a collective movement to liberate women as a whole from patriarchal oppression, I do not believe there is a feminist case for male violence and degradation of women, even if some women consent to it or say they like it.”
In the past few years, the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom saw a rising number of female dominant and queer people in kink subcultures. Marceline has mixed views toward the use of gender in the interpretation of BDSM. “Feminism is about giving women the agency to decide what’s best for themselves. I am one of those women who finds sexual liberation in kink subcultures, but there’s certainly an opportunity for really shitty people to get involved in the scene and use that for their own purposes,” she explained.
Reclaiming rope bondage’s versatility in the modern context, Marceline now believes that kink subcultures can be both sexual and visceral. She enjoys the interplay between the physical posing and the emotional components of it.
“You can think of rope like an intimate massage, or you can think of rope like a workout or therapy,” she said. “It’s like dancing.”
When a robber broke into her house while she was webcamming a client, a dominatrix who sells her services for in-person and online sessions through OnlyFans was forced to chase him down.
When a robber broke into her house during a webcam session, a dominatrix was forced to chase him away with a golden stiletto, she revealed.
Kaz, who goes by the online handle Kaz B, has built a successful career as a dominatrix, where men pay her to perform various tricks and kinks both in person and online through her OnlyFans account.
During a recent appearance on the Shaun Attwood True Crime podcast, the dominatrix revealed that she frequently stores her work equipment in her mother’s garage, and that she has dealt with enraged wives who catch their husbands in the act.
Even more shocking, Kaz described a break-in at her home while she was conducting a webcam session with a client.
The professional mistress recalled being half-way through a webcam session with a paying’slave’ when the incident occurred.
“So I quickly put some clothes on and said, ‘I’m sure I’m imagining this, I’m sure there’s nobody down there, it’s just my imagination,” she recalled.
Kaz explained that she first assumed the rustling noises she could hear from the floor below came from one of her cats entering through the window, but that her perception quickly changed.
“Then I heard the cats bolt down the stairs in various directions, and I thought to myself, ‘yeah, something isn’t quite right here.’
“I just thought to myself, ‘I’m probably being paranoid, but I’ll grab something just in case.’
“I had these big gold platform heels with a heel on them, so I just picked them up and crept slowly to the top of the stairs, and there’s this guy there in a grey hoodie just staring back at me.”
Kaz said she raised her stiletto and charged, yelling, “Get out of my house!” The pair froze for a second before Kaz said she raised her stiletto and charged, yelling, “Get out of my house!”
“It was one of those situations where it could have gone either way,” Kaz continued. “Fortunately, he turned around and legged it.”
“He bolted from the house, and I figured, hey, I’ve come this far, I might as well keep going.”
“Don’t come back!” she yelled as he dashed around the corner.
Snaps uncovered on social media show Monica Sulley – who was reportedly made a lead guiding commissioner in July this year – dressed in a black bondage-style dress with high heels and gripping a whip.
The picture, taken in a corridor and posted to the 58-year-old’s Instagram page, has the caption: “Now behave yourselves or Mistress will have to punish you”.
Bus driver Ms Sulley oversees the Rainbow, Brownie, Guide and Ranger groups in Southwell, Nottinghamshire.
Another picture shows the Girlguide leader wielding what appears to be a fake assault rifle with a holstered handgun hanging from her waist while wearing an all-black outfit.
In a third photo shared on Twitter, Ms Sulley posed in a fairly low cut top with the caption: “Boobs, or did you want to see more?”. She was seen in a further picture clutching a sword.
Girlguiding bosses have now launched an investigation into Ms Sulley’s posts.
Angela Salt, the CEO of Girlguiding, last night shared a statement saying the charity is “aware of concerns raised”.
“The safety and wellbeing of our members is our absolute priority,” she said.
“We follow rigorous recruitment and vetting procedures, have clear policies, and a volunteer code of conduct which volunteers are expected to follow to keep our members safe.
“Girlguiding is aware of concerns raised.
“We are looking into this as a matter of urgency and will provide the necessary support and action in line with our compliance procedures.”
Ms Sulley has since deactivated her Instagram account and made her Twitter account private.
Miranda Kane, who worked as a sex worker for ten years, has opened up about her job, detailing everything from ejecting clients to the administrative side of her job and customer interactions.
The secrets of a former plus-sized dominatrix who sold sex in London have been revealed, including why she kicked out punters and the long hours of admin.
Miranda Kane, who worked as a sex worker from the ages of 22 to 32, once called a client a “w***e” and ended a session halfway through.
“I’m not there to be called those names,” she told MyLondon. “There’s nothing on my website about doing that.”
“That’s their brand or kink for some sex workers, and that’s fantastic.
But they just assumed they’d be able to get away with it with me.”
Miranda, who is now a comedian, writer, and podcaster, also revealed that paperwork took up a whopping 80% of her time.
“If you’re an independent sex worker like me, you need to make sure you have a decent website,” she said.
“Being a sex worker taught me so much about marketing; I know all about metatags, search engine optimization, and analytics; it was all part of my day.”
“I had to know: what keywords are people finding me under?” she continued. “Am I on the first page of Google if I google ‘plus-size London escort? If not, why not?”
Miranda saw the sex industry change dramatically during her time as a sex worker, with recessions, austerity, and skyrocketing tuition fees driving people to the industry.
“There were about 12 plus-size sex workers in London when I started, and we were all friends; we had the market cornered, and we even agreed to charge about the same.”
“However, if you google ‘BBW [big beautiful woman]London escort,’ you’ll come up with something like 33,000 results.”
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Although it’s common to assume that gamblers are disrespectful of the women they’re paying for, Miranda claims this isn’t always the case.
She claims that in her personal experience, people who pay a lot of money for an hour of her time are “quite like women.”
Miranda would call her client before the meeting for some small talk and to go over the details.
“They’d always say, ‘Just…like… the usual,’” she explained, “and they never wanted the usual, whatever that was.”
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Harvard hosts ‘Hit Me Baby One More Time’ BDSM tutorial, ‘Orgies 101,’ anal sex workshop
Harvard University students are once again hosting Sex Week activities after taking last year off due to the COVID pandemic.
Among the slate of workshops scheduled for the weeklong, student-organized event is “Hit Me Baby One More Time,” billed as an “Intro to BDSM.”
“BDSM is a term used to describe aspects of sex that involve dominance, submission and control,” according to WebMD.
Bondage restricts a partner with “ropes, handcuffs, or other restraints,” while sadomasochism refers to “pleasure that a partner may feel from either inflicting pain (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism), either physical or emotional.”
Another workshop is called “What What in the Butt: Anal 101.” Harvard students have made a habit of offering anal sex tutorials during previous Sex Weeks, as The College Fix has previously reported.
Other topics to be tackled this year include porn, talking dirty in bed, fetishes and “Orgies 101.”
And “anyone with a uterus” is invited to a seminar about freezing eggs for free to preserve future fertility, it states on the Sex Week Facebook page.
According to the Sex Week calendar of events, about 20 different workshops and panels will comprise the festivities, which launched Monday and runs through Sunday.
Sex Week is hosted by the student organization Sexual Health Education and Advocacy Throughout Harvard College, or SHEATH.
Its co-president, Andie Turner, told the Harvard Crimson: “We include events that are as inclusive, diverse, encouraging of open dialogue as possible for students who both have come to Harvard with little to no sex education in their hometowns, which is my case, or students that had grown up in families or communities that have much more of an open discourse with regards to sexuality, sex intimacy, but just want to further their knowledge.”
UK – A woman who had a kilo of cocaine in her handbag as she flew home from a promotional trip for her work as a dominatrix has been cleared of drugs smuggling.
Simone Smith, 31, was carrying drugs worth an estimated £80,000 when she was stopped by Gatwick Airport border agents as she stepped off a plane from Antigua to the UK.
Smith insisted she did not know about the cocaine until its discovery – under an airline blanket in her handbag – and believed it may have been planted on her before or during the flight.
She was charged with trying to smuggle cocaine into the UK, but a jury acquitted her on Thursday following a Southwark crown court trial – nearly three years since her arrest.
When she was stopped at just after 6am on January 16, 2019, Smith told officers: “I don’t understand, I’ve got nothing to declare, I don’t understand what’s happening to me”.
USA – The return to live music continues to be a wild one. Months after news of a Turnstile mosh pit pooper, we now have footage of a lead vocalist taking time out of a festival set to urinate on an incredibly willing fan.
As Loudwirepoints out, Brass Against — a New York-based outfit who aim to “inspire social and personal change” through both original songs and covers of Tool, Rage Against the Machine, Soundgarden and more — fully stole the show with the golden shower yesterday (November 11) at the Welcome to Rockville festival in Daytona Beach, FL.
Fan-shot footage from the event circulating online — which is absolutely NSFW — sees frontwoman Sophia Urista positioning herself over a fan lying face up onstage while Brass Against play a cover of Rage Against the Machine’s “Wake Up.”
After dropping her drawers and repeating the line, “I think I heard a shot,” the rocker proceeds to relieve herself on the fan — and the crowd goes wild. The recipient then gets up off the stage and pumps his fist for the raucous onlookers.
Urista’s urination gave a whole new meaning to “livestream,” as Welcome to Rockville’s organizers had allowed for online viewing in celebration of their 10th anniversary. You can view the footage at your discretion here.
Urista and Brass Against are set to support Tool on tour in 2022, and while we recommend reading up on venue bathroom policies, or packing a raincoat, you can find those dates here.
The professional domme first became involved in the sex industry when she was 18 and has also worked in strip clubs and as a cam girl.
Out of all the services she provides, foot fetishes are her least favourite.
She said: “I hate foot stuff but I get paid so much for it.
“I hate someone sucking my toes, but they do not want to get kicked all the time so you just have to suck it up.
“Feet are such a common fetish. I do not touch their feet, they are the ones worshipping me.
“Massaging and sucking them [her feet] are the things you get the most.”
Her main source of income is working in a Bristol strip club, but she’s also spent time working in the sex industry abroad – and has previously done “full service sex work”, more commonly known as prostitution.
Carmen – a woman in her 20s – said some of her clients for dominatrix work want to be insulted and others want to be beaten up, sometimes to the point where they pass out.
She has a wide range of clients and said there’s a variety of reasons why people request her services.
“Different people want different things. I just ask them straight what they want and then I can just say if this is something I can provide or not.
“You have to be direct because otherwise you can put yourself in a dangerous situation, as well as wasting everyone’s time.”
Carmen said she finds most of her clients online, advertising on adult work websites and also via social media platforms such as Twitter.
They normally go to a hotel the client has booked and she will only go to their house if she has met them a few times.
Some bookings are just for an hour or two while others can last up to seven hours if the client wants to take her out for dinner or to go to bars, adding that some like to show her off.
Everyone has got a different fetish or kink. Carmen
“I used to see more clients, but it takes a lot of time and energy,” she continued.
“It is mainly regulars that I do now. I only do it [dominatrix work] a couple of times a month now.
“If you get on with the client, you can have fun and have a lovely evening. It is like any other job.”
Carmen said 90 per cent of her clients for dominatrix work are men, but gets some clients who are non-binary or trans as they feel safe with someone who is also LGBTQ+.
She said her regular clients are the ones that are more well off and that their ages start at late 20s.
“If they are just booking you for a couple of hours, most people already know what they want to explore,” she continued.
“It is just their kink – everyone has got a different fetish or kink.
“I think it is very important for people to be able to express them [their fetish and kinks] in a consensual and safe manner.”
Carmen said she has never had any problems while working as a dominatrix, but that she takes some safety precautions such as sharing her location before a booking.
If the client is willing to give it, she will ask for ID, she continued, and she also takes a deposit of up to 50 per cent, before adding that these days she does not need to take a booking if she is not comfortable with it.
MAY AS WELL GET PAID
Carmen first became involved in the sex industry when she was 18, working in a strip club in the north of England.
However, she only did it for a few months at that point as she was not prepared for it mentally.
“It was too much,” she said. “I did not have the right tools to navigate it and I also looked very young.
“I started full-time again when I was 22 or 23. In between, I worked in hospitality. For the amount of harassment I got in bars, I thought I may as well get paid for it.”
Carmen said that initially she was just working in strip clubs, adding that she likes the performance side of the job and that getting used to the other dancers and the unwritten rules of each club are the hardest aspects.
When returning to Bristol in her mid 20s, Carmen became involved in more sides of the sex industry.
It was around this time that she started working as a dominatrix, which does not involve penetrative sex. Instead, she offers services such as ‘Goddess worshipping’, spit play and ‘water sports’.
Carmen said that the amount of money she makes is really variable so it is wise to try to save as much as she can in the good times.
She said she also performs all over the UK and Europe, with her shows including pole dancing, burlesque and cabaret.
Performing is her creative outlet, she continued, and she enjoys it best when she can do something really different. At the moment, her ‘Magic Mike’ performance is her favourite as she gets to play with gender and have fun.
Her plan is to go travelling again soon who sees herself working in the sex industry until her mid-thirties when she would like to start working as a pole-dancing teacher.
WORCESTER — Opening statements are expected Monday in the trial of Julia Enright, the Ashburnham dominatrix accused of stabbing a former classmate to death four years ago inside a treehouse that was outfitted with restraints.
The case is set to be called at 9 a.m. Monday in Worcester Superior Court after a jury was seated Thursday.
nright, 24, is accused of murdering 20-year-old Brandon Chicklis of Westminster, a former boyfriend, and leaving his body by the side of the highway in Rindge, New Hampshire, wrapped in trash bags.
Prosecutors allege Enright, a phlebotomist who had a side business as a dominatrix, lured Chicklis to a treehouse near her home and murdered him to satisfy a growing urge to kill.
The woman, 21 at the time, had a number of “deviant” interests, prosecutors allege, including sexual cutting and bloodplay. Eight days before Chicklis was last seen alive, Enright tried and failed to bribe Planned Parenthood to allow her to keep a fetus she aborted, they allege, so she could “play with” its bones.
Enright had a fascination with animal bones, prosecutors say, and routinely placed dead animals in bags or cages so she could use their bones to make art after they decomposed.
Authorities searching her home found vials of blood, a used condom collection, numerous knives and a “wet specimen,” prosecutors have said.
The prosecution and defense last month argued for hours about how much evidence jurors should be able to see. The defense argued much of it was irrelevant and unfairly prejudicial under the law, while prosecutors argued it was relevant to, among other topics, Enright’s mental capacity and motive.
In rulings this week, Superior Court Judge Daniel M. Wrenn issued line-by-line judgments on much of the proposed evidence.
Because some of the rulings referenced evidence contained on specific pages of documents that have not been publicly released, it is not possible to glean from the rulings all the specific evidence that was approved or excluded.
The rulings do make clear that statements Enright made about her love of bone art, certain dominatrix photos, photos of knives seized from her room, and a red-ink drawing of a dominatrix and a person tied up would be admissible.
Prosecutors have said the treehouse where the murder took place featured a system of restraints.
Also admissible are photos authorities took in Enright’s home of vials of blood, “specimens,” and a “dominatrix outfit and paraphernalia.” Photographs of “plastic tubs with animal carcasses in various states of rotting” will be allowed, too.
Excluded items include photos of “a bucket of organs” and “a number of carcasses with the organs showing, as well as a video of the same with the defendant licking blood from a body part and a photograph of someone holding an organ.”
Judge Wrenn also ruled that a number of writings and journal entries Enright made were not admissible. It was not clear from the ruling which specific statements were excluded.
Wrenn also issued rulings this week ordering some redactions to Enright’s police interrogation, including some questions or accusations from police he deemed unfairly prejudicial.
Wrenn said jurors can see Enright discussing topics that include certain sexual acts she performed with her boyfriend, she and her boyfriend cutting each other, sexual practices “including knife play” and her dominatrix business.
Enright’s lawyer, Louis M. Badwey, had argued those discussions should be excluded, saying there is no evidence Enright engaged in those types of activities with Chicklis.
Assistant District Attorney Terry J. McLaughlin had argued for their inclusion, noting that Chicklis had been stabbed as many as 13 times.
Enright’s boyfriend, John Lind, is expected to invoke his Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination if called to the stand at trial.
He has not been charged, and told Wrenn on the advice of a lawyer last month that he had a Fifth Amendment privilege given the anticipated nature of the prosecution’s questions.
Aside from the “deviant” information at issue in the trial, prosecutors have several key pieces of evidence, including DNA matches for Chicklis’ blood in the treehouse and in Enright’s car.
A 2015 graduate of Montachusett Regional Vocational Technical School, he was working for a local HVAC company at the time of his death. He enjoyed camping, hiking and the outdoors.
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