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USA – Trina has dated some of hip-hop’s most famous men, but Tory Lanez is not one of them.
The Miami rap icon opened up about her relationship with the incarcerated Toronto rapper. During her appearance on REVOLT’s “Caresha Please,” she revealed that Tory had a crush on her, but they never took it any further.
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THAILAND – Thailand’s Ko Pha-Ngan is revered for its hedonistic party scene and full moon festival, but on the other side of Tantra Island is a community of untrained sexual healers ‘helping tourists recover from trauma’
Jade sex eggs, Japanese shibari rope bondage and tantric massage might not be the most obvious therapeutic tools – but for one tight-knit island community, they are the keys to unlocking ultimate “sexual healing”.
Thailand’s Ko Pha-Ngan is more commonly known as a bucket list destination for revellers hoping to experience a boozy full moon party – but the island has a very different side where untrained sexual “healers” from all over the world gather to share their tantric practice.
Also known as Tantra Island, Ko Pha-Ngan is home to a “conscious tantric community” who engage in a swathe of unusual practices all in a bid to heal their psychological wounds – and in a new documentary by VICE, reporter Tir Dhondy flew from London to the island to investigate the bizarre retreat.
“Within this community, expats from all around the world have claimed to have created a tantric utopia,” Tir explained.
Tir spent a week on Tantra Island, barely enough time to get a taste of the various classes on offer, which included bondage workshops and “moving meditation” lap-dances.
During a five-hour Japanese ropes session, attendees were encouraged to “find control, lose control”, and tie each other up – even in ways that didn’t feel good.
“Meet those wounds, meet those pains and let them f***ing go,” the instructor said.
“The body is very uncomfortable and reaching many different layers of uncomfort, and that begins to open up the mind.”
Describing the session, Tir said: “It’s long and laboursome. It’s hot and sweaty. I’ve got marks all on my arms. I wouldn’t say ‘enjoying it’ is the right word.”
Another session saw Tir watch on as a tantric masseuse, Roxi, wrapped herself around a very eager client named Yannick, before giving him a full-body experience to stimulate his lingham – another word for his penis.
“When you can relax certain parts of your feet, the lingham will actually get aroused,” Roxy explained.
Each member of the expat community that calls the island home teaches a different form of sexual healing – but the process to become a teacher here isn’t particularly challenging.
One interviewee said: “This is not a regulated industry – there’s no code of conduct. Someone can just take a two-day workshop and they are a massage therapist.”
Another practitioner who identifies just as a “healer”, Heather, explained she’s similar to a sex therapist but “without the licence”.
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And it makes sense – throughout the documentary, no practitioner provides a concrete definition for what “tantra” actually is.
Tir’s says she understands the word to mean: “Living in the moment, even at dinnertime; manifesting my will; having a strong yoni [vagina]; knowing how to verbalise my sacred sexuality; and being connected to the fire, air and water of my being.”
But the lack of defined parameters means that some rogue healers are able to take advantage of the guests who come to Ko Pha-Ngan seeking relief from their trauma.
In 2019, a yoga school on the island, Agama, was forced to close its doors after its owner was hit by a swathe of sexual assault claims – although Tir explained that it has quietly reopened recently.
But even its closure didn’t eradicate dodgy practices from the island – one of the tantric healers estimated there was a complaint of sexual abuse on the island every week.
One woman claimed in a Facebook post that a man had offered to clear her vaginal chakras by penetrating her with his fingers.
“So much of the teaching involves being touched by strangers, and it involves doing things that make you uncomfortable,” Tir explained.
“Some men have figured this out, and I think they’ve taken advantage of it.”
Source: SMH.com.au.
AUSTRALIA – SIDNEY – As Sydney springs back to life, we reveal its untold stories. In the first of our series about the things we don’t speak about, we look at the challenges in the sex industry.
There’s more to Mistress Lucilla than her tight corset, high-heeled boots and riding crop. There’s also her master’s degree in psychology, the book she’s writing and her intricate understanding of society.
When I ask her about the large neon crucifix on her wall, she responds, “it’s a place of worship isn’t it?” And, she’s right. Some people worship her for the things she can do.
Even though sex work has been decriminalised since 1995 in NSW, the sex industry still operates largely behind closed doors, and is spoken about in whispers. That is, of course, unless you speak to the people who work in it.
“You often get the question of ‘Why do you do this? Are you being coerced into it?’ Or ‘How can I save you?’ ” Mistress Lucilla said.
“I don’t need saving. I am here to save you, really. I don’t do this for the money. It’s about how many positive life experiences can I offer somebody.”
More people have started to dip their toes in the bondage waters, says Mistress Lucilla, taking the opportunity post-lockdowns to try something new or explore sexual fantasies.
“I’m seeing a wave of what I am calling ‘the bucket listers’. People wanting to try it once, see what it’s like and most likely never do it again.”
The pandemic has had a diverse effect on how the sex industry operates, and with inflation and interest rates on the rise, Mistress Lucilla said that sex is one of the first industries to feel the pinch.
“People get nervous about where they’re spending their money, how they’re spending their money, and pulling inward in the hope to survive.”
Just like any other business, there are peaks and troughs when it comes to demand.
Despite the popularity of her bridles and gags around Melbourne Cup time, Mistress Lucilla said that the racing carnival marks the start of people taking their money elsewhere.
“From Melbourne Cup Day, it starts to get really quiet because everyone’s transitioning to party season.
“And then Christmas parties start, and everyone starts preparing for holidays … so client money will be going to Christmas presents, holidays, and then kids go back to school and people have to pay their credit card bills. So normally, about November through to about the end of February it gets very patchy.”
Jess and Lawrence, owners of swingers club Our Secret Spot in Annandale, had a similar experience to Mistress Lucilla, in that the pandemic sparked a stampede of people who wanted to spice up their sex lives.
“It’s de facto prohibition,” Bates said.
She says that brothels don’t belong “out in the boondocks around smash repair yards” because it “is a most unsuitable and dangerous place for a mostly female workforce to be. Once the sun sets, everybody goes home … There are no trains, no transport, and the clients are scared too.”
As the industry continues to shed stigmas around sex work and workers, it allows services to become more accessible to people who have previously had difficulty accessing premises and finding sex workers.
Rachel Wotton, an academic, sex worker and activist, has been working for more than 20 years to increase the rights of sex workers, as well as the sexual rights for people with disability to access sex worker services if they choose.
Her PhD research is on exploring the experiences of people with disability who access sex work services in Australia.
She says that “the sexual rights of people with disability is still an incredibly contentious issue”, and that these issues are often coupled with poor accessibility of venues, society still not viewing people with disability as sexual human beings and unclear policies in disability organisations around supporting peoples’ sexual and relationship needs.
“Third-party support and support workers can either be the best advocates or the worst gatekeepers,” said Wotton.
Although a lot of progress has been made in dismantling stigmas around sex work and those who access it, Wotton said that there is still a long way to go.
“Things that need to change include … More positive media outlining sex work as real work and for people to stop demonising clients.”
And also, “allow sex workers from other countries to get work visas equal to other occupations and industries”.
Put simply, allow them to work, pay their bills and provide for their families equal to any other occupation. Because, at the end of the day, they’re just doing their job.
Source: Iirishmirror.ie.
IRELAND – DUBLIN – The sex educator, who owns her own tech firm and works with Forbes 100 listed multinationals, spent five years working on kinkify.ie which she plans to launch in March.
A Dublin Dominatrix has revealed her plans to launch a global kink website on a scale to rival Amazon and eBay.
Clarity Mills, 38, has hundreds of vendors lined up for the platform which will specialise in “play events” and “bespoke kink supplies”.
The sex educator, who owns her own tech firm and works with Forbes 100 listed multinationals, spent five years working on kinkify.ie which she plans to launch in March.
She told the Irish Sunday Mirror: “It’s a multi-vendor platform like eBay or Amazon.
“I already have 750 vendors lined up. I’m certainly expecting €2.5million to €3million of sales on the platform in the first 18 months.
“We will be focusing on events, selling event tickets, educational content and bespoke kink supplies.”
Clarity and her husband are both swingers and polyamorous and she trained for three years in Los Angeles for her work as a dominatrix.
She plans to scale back her IT consultancy work so she can concentrate more on the website which will sell a huge range of latex gear, corsets, whips and sex toys.
She said: “We have a sex positivity conference in October with three to four thousand people coming over for it.
“The kink industry is workth EUR25billion a year… of that about 90 per cent is owned by the larger multi vendors. I’m a tech geek at heart, I just thought if you took all the sex sites and shops and added them together…
“I built the platform to do the same thing as eBay. All of the people who work with me are kinksters, we only sell kink paraphernalia.
“So instead of products mass produced in Asia, a lot of them are bespoke.”
Kinkify will provide a global marketplace for sex toys, adult toys, bondage and fetish gear and other “kinky items”.
Clarity, whose top secret client list includes some of Ireland’s top professionals and sports people, said she set up her own retail company to “take the BS out of BDSM”.
She promised: “No jacked up prices, no sh*tty sales gimmicks, just connecting kinksters with the products, services, information and community events that can aid them along their pervy paths.”
The platform will facilitate the advertising and sale of tickets for play events and sex parties where in Ireland “venue is always a problem”.
Rules state that if you host an event in a pub you cannot have sex or nudity – but in a private residence anything goes for legally consenting adults.
Clarity, an advocate of “worship type” play such as spanking, whipping and chaining, revealed: “Even after the Virgin Media show I still struggled to find a venue for play events.
“Education and exposure is really what is needed in Ireland right now.
“Feedback to the show was largely positive and the biggest question was how to get involved.
“But there were a few people in the industry who were worried about being outed, so we have a ways to go.”
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Clarity has been working with a team of investors and IT contractors for almost five years and is confident kinkify. ie will attract a global audience.
She said: “This is the fruit of me living in the tech industry for two decades.
“Between the consultancy, dominatrix work and the website I am crazy busy, but you sleep when you’re dead, right?”
Source: Tennisworldusa.org.
USA – The big favorite for the final victory at the Australian Open 2023 is obviously Novak Djokovic, who absolutely wants to win his tenth title at Melbourne Park, after the iussue that happened last season. The Serbian champion wants to take his revenge after last year’s events, which had led to his sensational expulsion from the country.
If he were to reach double figures at the Slam Down Under, the 35-year-old from Belgrade would hook his eternal rival Rafael Nadal at 22 Grand Slams titles. Nole had a lot of problems last season due to his choice not to get vaccinated against Covid-19, but he still managed to win his seventh Wimbledon.
Djokovic started the new year by triumphing in the ATP 250 in Adelaide, moreover after canceling a match point from Sebastian Korda in the final. Nole complained of a minor problem with his left hamstring but didn’t seem concerned in pre-Australian Open interviews.
Meanwhile, just a year after Novak’s ban at the Australian Open 2022, we recall a very spicy and funny story about last season quarantine of the Serb. As reported by the Daily Star, a dominatrix who bragged about her visit from a Manchester City player would have extended an invitation to Novak Djokovic during the Serb’s quarantine in Australia.
Mistress Estee extended an offer to the Serbian champion to spend his quarantine period with her in England instead of alone in Dubai. That time, The Serbian champion landed in Dubai after being deported from Australia, where he had his visa cancelled.
The 19-year-old sent the 20-time Grand Slam winner a teasing message telling him to enter the Estee Open: “Novak Djokovic can spend time incarcerated with me instead as he awaits his deportation appeal. Novak Djokovic. You can quarantine with me instead!” Estee, who has built a huge following on social media and OnlyFans.
Source: XXLmag.com
USA – Kevin Gates has been an open book about his sexual proclivity over the years and now he’s admitting that he enjoys when his partner urinates in his mouth.
On Jan. 7, Kevin Gates was a guest on the Fancy Talk Show podcast. During the sexually-charged convo, the Louisiana rapper opened up about being a fan of a good ol’ golden shower to the grill.
“I love for a woman to piss in my mouth. That’s beautiful,” Gates admitted when questioned about the topic.
The “I Don’t Get Tired” rapper’s love for liquid gold doesn’t stop there.
“I done had a woman pee in a cup while we was driving and I drunk it right there,” he added. “I was so infatuated with this woman, to where it was just nothing about her that was nasty. And she super clean. She like me, she drink nothing but water. So, her piss ain’t got no taste.”
Kevin Gates has never had any shame in his game when it comes to talking about his sexual exploits. Last summer, he said he wanted to make Beyoncé pee on his penis on an eyebrow-raising track. He later doubled down and said he would like to drink Bey’s pee.
It’s not just his words. Kevin Gates has gone viral on multiple occasions for aggressively simulating sexual acts while performing onstage. In November of 2022, a security guard’s reaction to Gates imitating and describing sexual acts at a concert went viral.
Source: Mirror.co.uk.
USA – WARNING DISTRESSING CONTENT: Taylor Denise Schabusiness, 25, from Wisconsin, US, is set to plea not guilty by reason of insanity to allegedly killing Shad Thyrion, 25, in February 2022 during their bondage sex game
A woman allegedly decapitated her lover and put his severed head and penis in a bucket during a drug-fulled sex game.
Taylor Denise Schabusiness, 25, from Wisconsin, US, is set to plea not guilty by reason of insanity to killing Shad Thyrion, 25, in February 2022.
She is charged with first-degree intentional homicide, mutilating a corpse and third-degree sexual assault.
She is due to go on trial March 23 after she was accused of decapitating Thyrion during a sex game.
Thyrion’s mum later found his head in a bucket at her home in Green Bay, Wisconsin.
However, Schabusiness lawyers argue she isn’t mentally capable of standing trial in March as she fails to understand her charges.
She allegedly told police they were “going to have fun trying to find all of the organs” after her arrest on February 23 last year.
Her van was searched and a cooking pot with human remains was found.
Officers also found a “male organ” in the bucket along with multiple body parts spread around the house.
Schabusiness and Thyrion had been using methamphetamine before travelling to his mum’s for their drug-fuelled bondage sex game.
Prosecutor’s alleged Thyrion was sexually abused and dismembered as numerous parts of her body were located in his mum’s home and her van.
Green Bay Police Officer Alex Wanish said he “observed the plastic bucket on the floor…[with] a shower/beach towel over the bucket”.
A severed human head was found inside the bucket.
She allegedly told cops she carried on having sex with Thyrion’s dead body “because she enjoyed it.”
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Police said: “Schabusiness made the comment that at one point, she did get paranoid and lazy and that she thought it was the ‘dope’ that was making her paranoid.”
Schabusiness has undergone two competency evaluations and led to Judge Thomas Walsh ruling in May that she is competent to stand trial.
However, her lawyer Quinn Jolly disagreed and believes her client is not fit to stand.
She said: “She’s been psychiatrically hospitalised multiple times, she’s been diagnosed with bipolar and psychotic. This may have been one of her better days, however, I’m very surprised at the result of this report.”
But despite this Matthew Seipel, a psychological expert appointed by the court, believes Schabusiness is fit to stand trial.
He said: “I reached the opinion to a reasonable degree of professional certainty that the defendant is competent to proceed in this case.”
Schabusiness remains behind bars with a $2million (£1.6million) bond.
Source: Local10.com.
USA – KISSIMMEE, Fla. – A 34-year-old man was arrested last week, months after another man was found dead in Kissimmee while wearing bondage gear.
Bryant Scott Demelo, who was the last known person to have contact with the victim, was arrested Tuesday on a manslaughter charge.
According to the Osceola County Sheriff’s Office, deputies were called to an address in Kissimmee on Sept. 5 in regards to a suspicious death.
Deputies arrived at the scene to find a man dead, who was wearing bondage gear and appeared to have trauma to his body.
After identifying Demelo as the last person to have contact with the victim, deputies said Demelo told them he had a sexual encounter with the victim prior to his death.
According to authorities, Demelo claimed that he and the victim met on an online chat group for sexual encounters and arranged to meet in person.
Demelo claimed that the victim was performing oral sex on him and bit down on his penis, which led to Demelo beating the victim unconscious, authorities said.
Demelo then fled the scene without calling 911 or trying to help the victim, deputies said.
The Medical Examiner’s Office determined that the victim’s death was caused by blunt force trauma and strangulation.
An arrest warrant for manslaughter was later obtained for Demelo, and he was taken into custody last Tuesday in Seminole County.
Demelo will be transferred to Osceola County to face the manslaughter charge.
Authorities said he was found with methamphetamine at the time of his arrest and will also be charged with drug possession.
The Daily Star has taken a look back at Prince Harry’s wildest raunchy nights after he revealed in his upcoming memoir Spare that he lost his virginity to an older woman in a field
Source: Dailystar.co.uk.
USA/UK – One major raunchy sex story from Prince Harry‘s youth has emerged since his upcoming memoir, Spare, was leaked in Spanish yesterday (Thursday, January 5).
However, the Duke of Sussex has allegedly been involved in a string of other racy affairs which he hasn’t managed to keep under wraps for his book.
From a behind-the-pub spanking to a night with a dominatrix, here the Daily Star takes a look at Harry’s risqué history…
In 2004, the Sunday People revealed that Harry shocked clubgoers in the VIP room at London’s Chinawhite after he was allegedly spotted kissing and cuddling two models.
The publication wrote: “Moments after snogging Page 3 girl Lauren Pope, he was knocking back powerful Sex On The Beach cocktails with busty Cassie Sumner.”
Cassie, who the 19-year-old prince reportedly invited to his private table, said that he nuzzled her earlobes, ran his fingers through her hair and invited her to continue the party elsewhere.
“He was undressing me with his eyes,” the model, who is now married to Portuguese footballer Jose Fonte, said.
“I knew he’d been snogging Lauren earlier in the night but after she left he just homed in on me.
“He seemed fascinated with my breasts, because he spent more time looking at them than he did my face when we talked.”
Former dominatrix and stripper Carrie Reichert, who goes by Carrie Royale, claimed she saw Harry’s crown jewels at a Las Vegas party in 2012.
The young prince was allegedly playing a game of strip pool when Cassie arrived.
“He definitely has a royal body. I know that he’s had military training, and that’s hot to me,” she told In Touch.
Carrie claimed she entered a bedroom while trying to find the bathroom, only to emerge and find Harry standing there starkers and holding a drink.
She said the pair engaged in a “passionate” makeout session for around 20 minutes, in full view of other partygoers.
“He’s a good kisser,” Carrie said. “His hands were everywhere. His mouth was everywhere. It was a Cinderella moment.”
Kensington Palace said that Carrie’s story was “untrue”.
Last year, when auctioning off pants she claimed Harry handed her during the night of passion, Carrie’s representative said: “Harry has become such a bore, it’s a real shame.
“When he partied in Vegas, everyone loved him and his sense of fun. At least these pants are a reminder of what he used to be like… when Harry was the fun prince.
“It’s a shame he’s all po-faced and serious these days. Even as a married dad-of-two, he should still let his hair down now and again – what’s left of it anyway.”
British-born Catherine Ommanney, who stars on US Bravo reality series The Real Housewives of DC, claimed she enjoyed a month-long fling with a 21-year-old Harry when she was a 34-year-old mum-of-two.
Now 51, the divorcee spoke to The Sun in November, assume that her former toyboy wouldn’t write about their romance in Spare.
She claimed she had “the time of her life” with Harry, explaining how they would act like teenagers and kiss passionately during dates.
Sharing the details of one night at a friend’s house, Catherine said: “Harry and I went to the kitchen and he made a great bacon sandwich. We sat in the kitchen chatting for ages and we both had the giggles.
“We started play fighting and I think we were wrestling on and off for about 15 minutes when I told him I needed to go home.
“It was then that he lifted me by my waist off the floor and held me against the wall. He gave me the most incredible, passionate kiss I have ever had in my life. I was absolutely speechless.”
Norwegian singer Camilla Romestrand, who fronts band Eddie The Gun, reportedly told pals that Harry sneaked her back into Clarence House during a romantic night in 2010.
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“She’s confided to a few people about her friendship with Harry. She talks about staying overnight at ‘the Palace.’ She says he was a ‘total gentleman’ but doesn’t divulge much else,” a source told the News of the World at the time.
Another celebrity Harry has been associated with is the late Caroline Flack after the pair were reportedly introduced in 2009.
The TV presenter is said to have given him the nickname “Jam”, but the romance came to an end when news of it broke.
She wrote in her autobiography: “Once the story got out, that was it.
“We had to stop seeing each other. I was no longer Caroline Flack, TV presenter, I was Caroline Flack, Prince Harry’s bit of rough.”
Evidently a fan of an older woman in his youth, Harry reveals in Spare that he lost his virginity to one – in a field behind a “very busy pub”.
He says that a royal protection officer visited him in 2001 while he was still a student at Eton, supposedly to “find out the truth”.
He writes: “I suspected he was referring to my recent loss of virginity, a humiliating episode with an older woman who liked macho horses and who treated me like a young stallion.
“I mounted her quickly, after which she spanked my a** and sent me away. One of my many mistakes was letting it happen in a field, just behind a very busy pub. No doubt someone had seen us.”
The real reason for the check-up was that King Charles’ press office had been informed a newspaper had evidence of Harry taking drugs.
Liz Hurley has denied claims that she was the cougar who bedded the teenage prince.
Source: Metro.co.uk.
UK – Sandy Star’s work diary for 2023 is already filling up – but unlike many of us, she won’t be stuck in an office jumping from meeting to meeting.
Instead, the 47-year-old will be getting her rope, feathers and vibrators ready as a number of curious men swing by to experience a steamy session with a dominatrix.
Sandy, who has previously spoken about her unique line of work on Metro.co.uk’s Smut Drop podcast, found herself focusing on fetish and sex work quite by chance – and is now looking to empower women entering the industry with her own mentoring scheme.
Here, she tells Metro.co.uk how she turned part-time webcam work into a six-figure dominatrix business…
‘I’d been a personal trainer for nearly 18 years, but when I came back to the UK three years ago following a stint living abroad, I couldn’t really find a job. A friend of mine suggested I could do some webcamming – performing sex acts on video and internet live streams.
To begin with, I genuinely didn’t even know what that was. I did some research found a platform to work from.
While I was scared to be starting from scratch at 44-years-old, I had no money and no job so I knew I had to go for it. Just one month later, I was bringing in a really decent wage just camming part time.
Within months people were asking whether I did dominatrix work, so I began thinking about whether I’d want to see clients face to face, and decided to invest in proper lessons at the London Dominatrix School in Marylebone, so I could learn how to be a dominatrix safely.
I paid £200 an hour for three or four lessons, which included corporate punishment and impact play, where you learn how to hit the body safely while still causing discomfort. I also learned shibari, which is the art of bondage tying, and then I learned some cock and ball torture. It was best to learn in a safe, controlled environment and be taught by a professional.
Transitioning from webcam to face-to-face bookings was one of the scariest things I’ve ever done.
One reason was because the fetish industry gets such a bad rap – people who don’t understand think it’s weird and disgusting.
And there was definitely fear going from just sitting on my bed and doing webcam to then being in front of someone in a new setting surrounded by equipment, offering a service they pay a lot of money for. But I was lucky that the people I learned from were industry gurus in their own right, and I picked things up quite quickly.
I charge £170 for an hour, or £250 for 90 minutes. The most common thing that clients ask for is ‘tie and tease’ – that’s usually restraining and blindfolding with some sensual play. I’m not considered an extreme dominatrix – a lot of people who come to me just want to try it out. I often combine the more traditional domme services with more sensual routines because a lot of clients are still uncertain and want to try it out.
Another popular service with clients is strap-on sex. Some men like anal sex and anal play, and may be scared to ask their wives. There’s that element of shame around it: men don’t ask because they don’t want to be seen as gay. But they’re not gay – they don’t want anal sex from a man, they want it from a hot woman. They want to see my boobs and my face and my body.
Some men just feel like they couldn’t ask their wife to put a strap-on on, because she’s the mother of their kids and they just don’t see her in that way.
As someone who has had kids, I do understand that your child becomes a priority.
Men are needier than we think they are, and they feel a bit neglected. Women can also lose confidence after having a baby, and that can be another turn off.
I’d say 80% of my clients are married or in relationships. I think some women would be horrified if they knew what some of their husbands are doing.
Some wouldn’t he able to handle their other half dressing up in another women’s underwear and receiving anal pleasure. It’s alien to vanilla relationships. It’s hugely frowned upon and unaccepted, and it’s something that stays under the radar a lot of the time.
Some clients have told me that seeing me is keeping their marriage going. I don’t know if their wives would quite see it that way. Although, some say their wives know that they come to me.
As a general rule, I don’t ask about their personal life, and I don’t tell them about mine. I keep the boundaries quite clear.
The age of my clients range from quite young to men in their mid seventies. As I’ve got an adult son myself, I don’t feel it’s right for me to go below a certain age. I draw the line at 28, but I have had boys as young as 21 try and book me.
I would say I’ve probably got five semi regular clients between the age of 65 and 75. I find elderly gentlemen tend to be a lot more respectful and polite. They’re my preferred client, if I’m honest.
You absolutely need friends in the industry when you’re doing this, as some days can get weird pretty quickly. I had an extreme submissive once that said he wanted me to put a plastic bag over his head and be suffocated.
I’ve had muscle worship sessions, where people really like muscly women and they like to be dominated in a headlock or I might arm wrestle them.
Once I did it to a client and he suddenly went limp. It was quite a hot day and he just fainted, so I snapped my fingers in his face and he quickly came round, saying he didn’t really realise what had happened. There’s definitely occasions where things don’t go to plan and it can completely throw you off your script.
I now want to start a mentoring women in this industry so I can help them have the same positive experience I’ve had.
My advice for anyone considering it is to not be frightened to say no. If you’re not comfortable doing something, don’t do it. And just enjoy it. The last three years have been crazy: I’ve built a six figure industry from being a dominatrix, and I want more women to feel empowered while doing it.’
Source: Financialexpress.com.
USA – Do you remember Dua Lipa at the Grammy Awards? She was seen walking the red carpet wearing a re-creation of a dress from Gianni Versace’s famous Miss S&M collection. It consisted of a black lace corset top, which was harnessed with several belts. That’s not all, around her neck, she wore layers and layers of gold chains that appeared to almost choke her.
The fashion and fetishism pairing has been around for a while. However, after the Met Gala and the VMAs ceremony, it became more prominent. The comeback is proven by the appearance of Kim Kardashian, wrapped from head to toe in a black cotton Balenciaga “T-shirt.”
In 1992, when Versace first showed its bondage-inspired look on the runway, “it sent the fashion crowd into orbit,” as Tim Blanks said in his video released at the time. People called the collection “aggressively sexual to sell.” Some like it and referred to it as “relevant”.
“While fetish is a fixation on a particular thing, fetish fashion extends that to an obsession over a type of clothing or accessory most likely provocative in nature. The sexual innuendo doesn’t necessarily mean it’s meant to attract, it is internal in the way that type of dressing makes you feel,” Celebrity Stylist Bharat Gupta told financialexpress.com.
Natasha Bothra added, “Fetish fashion is basically making a provocative statement with your outfit. Fetish is directly related to uniqueness and something out of the box, anything that is not worn usually. For example, leather chokers, harnesses, latex accessories and clothing, corsets, gladiator Footwear, etc.”
Anything that adds a sense of sexuality, kinkiness, quirkiness, and representation of freedom can be classified as fetish fashion. For a long time now, fashion has taken references and inspiration from the aesthetic and culture of BDSM (bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism). In cinema, we’re now witnessing BDSM fashion in films like The Batman with Catwoman and her latex and leather costumes. Kardashian wore a latex gown and choker to the premiere of her new Hulu show. The Fifty Shades Of Gray franchise and brands like Savage x Fenty and music videos like Megan Thee Stallion’s “Body” — have also contributed to this.
Explaining why people are opting for Fetish Fashion, also known as BDSM fashion, Gupta said, “People have become freer in the way they express themselves through what they wear. People are open to experimenting with their fashion choices and voicing their inner provocation through fashion. An extension can also be a spillover of the pandemic of being bound by rules, this is a reaction to their need to let go.”
Bothra told us, “Who wouldn’t want to feel empowered? Who wouldn’t want to feel free? Or dominating? Designers, celebrities, influencers, and others are getting influenced by the addictive nature of power, persona, control, sensuousness, dominance, Goth and liberating nature fetish fashion engulfs you into.”
For Gupta, Fetish fashion is normal and he has incorporated it while styling celebrities. He said, “There are elements of fetish fashion that I’ve incorporated in certain styling opportunities in an understated way, even in personal styling I’ve used elements in what I wear.”
It is said that in the 1700s — corsets and skirts — were an early sign of fetish fashion, others claim that it appeared during the Second World War, in the UK’s gay community. However, it was not until the 1970s and the arrival of Vivienne Westwood that the fetish, her trademark, was recognized in fashion.
Source: NZherald.co.nz.
NEW ZEALAND – A gynaecologist who met a woman on a “sugar daddies” website, performed an STI test on her during a date while she was intoxicated, asked her to sign a contract consenting to bondage, and recorded himself performing sex acts on her at his clinic, has been suspended.
Hamilton doctor Naylin Appanna, who once moonlighted as a fetish ball organiser, also gave the woman a date rape drug for “pain”.
Appanna had his registration suspended for three months by the Medical Council after a Health Practitioners Disciplinary Tribunal [HPDT] found him guilty of professional misconduct.
The tribunal upheld the charges against Appanna that he inappropriately blurred the boundaries between his personal and professional lives and his practice, by using his position and expertise as a specialist in connection with his personal sexual practices.
The tribunal said he did this by providing health services to the young woman at the same time as having sexual encounters with her.
But the victim told the Herald she thought Appanna would be struck off and was shocked at the short length of the suspension.
The complainant, another woman who reported Appanna’s conduct on behalf of the victim, said a three-month suspension was a disappointing result after a three-year process and disproportionate to what she believed was “predatory behaviour”.
By contrast, Appanna – who had credentials to work in parts of Australia – was immediately suspended there over the same case, and despite attempts by him to appeal to the Supreme Court of Victoria, he remains suspended in Australia.
In a decision dated November 21, the New Zealand tribunal said Appanna’s conduct amounted to malpractice or negligence and he was suspended by the Medical Council of New Zealand on December 5.
The tribunal, which is separate from the Medical Council, decided the penalty after saying the conduct did not warrant cancellation of the doctor’s registration.
It ordered him to pay $74,296 in costs and said if he returns to practice he must undergo supervision for one year including undertaking a review of his prescribing practices and his understanding of boundaries and his position of power as a doctor.
The Herald asked Appanna whether he planned to return to practice but he declined to comment.
In May 2019 Appanna met the victim, referred to as Ms J, on an app called “Seeking Arrangement”.
Ms J told the tribunal the app was an online platform where wealthy older men known as “sugar daddies” paid young women “sugar babies”, to meet and spend time with them. It did not always involve sex.
Appanna’s username on the app was “W_olf” and according to his profile he was looking for a “sub” to enter into a “dom-sub” relationship with him, where one partner is more dominant and powerful while the other partner submits.
On May 15, 2019, Appanna collected the 26-year-old from the bus stop near her home and they drove to a bar and restaurant.
During drinks at the restaurant Appanna, who is married, told Ms J he required everyone he had sexual contact with to have a sexually transmitted infection [STI] test.
He offered to pay for the test but said he was a gynaecologist and could do it now at his office if she wanted.
The purpose of the test, he told the Supreme Court of Victoria when trying to appeal his suspension in Australia, was to facilitate future unprotected sex.
“That said, it is not evident that he personally underwent such a test,” the Court said in its decision released in October last year.
Ms J, who had been drinking wine, agreed to the test and they drove to the Women’s Health Centre where Appanna’s name appeared in large letters on the building.
According to Appanna’s evidence to the Supreme Court, he says they went to his office in order to print a contract.
He told the Supreme Court he printed the contract and videoed Ms J “giving full consent to everything that she had agreed prior to us meeting”.
However, the New Zealand decision said Ms J never signed the contract, which contained all the rules that Appanna expected of a “sub”.
Alone at the office with Ms J, Appanna performed the STI test during which he “fingered” her in a sexual manner.
He then said he did not want to wait for the results and that they could always “take a pill” if she had any infections.
“Following that Dr Appanna tied Ms J to a chair next to the bed and then used vibrators on her for the purpose of achieving orgasm. He also performed oral sex on her.
He gave her $100 for food and took her home. On May 21 Appanna messaged Ms J to tell her the test result had come back clear. He never sent the results to her GP.
After the first encounter Appanna met Ms J on Wednesday nights at his office.
“While there they would have drinks and Dr Appanna would make videos of him using sex toys on her.”
Ms J once performed oral sex on him but they never had sexual intercourse.
Appanna would film their sexual activity on a camera mounted to a tripod in his office and at the beginning of each recording he would get Ms J to state that she consented to the sexual acts he was doing.
This included spanking her with different objects and using sex toys on her.
After filming, Appanna would put the video on his work computer and re-watch it.
The second date on May 22, 2019 involved sex toys and bondage, and was videoed. There was no more payment.
When Ms J complained of being sore, Appanna went to his medicine cupboard which contained Panadol, Ponstan, Tramadol and Midazolam.
He gave her 3.75mg of Midazolam, without a prescription, to make her pain “more tolerable”, he said, despite acknowledging Midazolam was not a pain reliever and that when giving it to Ms J he described it as a “date rape drug”, the Supreme Court decision said.
The Class C drug is a type of benzodiazepine and induces sleepiness. It was commonly used for sedation before medical procedures.
Ms J described Appanna’s comment as having been “a scary thing to say to someone” and said she was “weirded out” by it and only took half of the Midazolam tablet at the clinic and the other half when she got home.
Appanna later sought to justify the supply of Midazolam as akin to the treatment of a “person close to you” in an acute or emergency situation, the Supreme Court decision said.
“That said, ‘J’ subsequently left the premises together with the applicant in an Uber, not an ambulance,” the Court said.
On May 24 Appanna offered to refer Ms J to a pain specialist and obtained her permission to request her medical notes from Waikato Hospital.
In text messages with Ms J on the subject he wrote: “Anything for my new baby.”
They met again on May 26 at the Women’s Health Centre and afterward Appanna spoke with Ms J concerning her pain.
“He also says that he offered to refer her to a pain clinic on this occasion, which, he claims, was ‘exactly what is suggested in the guidelines’,” the Supreme Court said.
They met on two further occasions, on May 30 and June 5.
One of those times was at the health centre and the other appeared to have been at a restaurant and then a motel with another woman described by Appanna as his “partner”.
In June 2019 Appanna went to Australia to do locum work in a rural town.
He sent Ms J a photograph of a patient taken after a forceps delivery while she was still on the operating table with her legs in stirrups.
He told the Supreme Court he took the photograph “with full permission of the patient” and that he told the patient it was being taken to “send to a partner to show her what I had been doing”.
On July 12 Ms J requested Appanna delete the videos of her. He declined, and offered to edit out the video so there was only audio left which Ms J was unhappy with.
In August 2019 Ms J went to the police about the videos. There was a suggestion – denied by Appanna – that he had threatened to release them.
Ms J told the Herald Appanna’s behaviour set off alarm bells and when he refused to delete the videos she “panicked” and turned to a trusted person for help.
She said she believed he would use the videos against her. Ms J sought help from the Midland Sexual Health Support Services and the Medical Council was notified.
No charges were laid by police however the Medical Council launched a professional conduct committee [PCC] investigation in October that year, culminating in the charges of professional misconduct against Appanna.
Read more on: NZherald.co.nz.
Source: Dailymail.co.uk.
USA – FORT LAUDERDALE – Three dominatrices in head-to-toe gear asked the Fort Lauderdale City Commission for a $250K grant to build a dungeon – and, if their request is granted, offered to throw in a spanking for each commissioner.
The iron-clad proposal was offered up during the Fort Lauderdale City Commission meeting on Tuesday night.
The three women, each dressed in a form-fitting, bodice-hugging, black leather patent outfit, stiletto-heeled boots, and a helmet to match, marched in single file up to the open mic podium.
Their apparent leader, distinguished by a long blonde braid and visible mouth, proposed an alternative to a waste management contract in front of five city council members.
‘Good evening counsel peoples you may call me ‘Mistress,’ said the speaker whose dark red lips were her only body part not concealed – as the two other doms stood silently behind her.
‘I am here standing neutral to the motion approving an agreement for the proprietary purchase of yard waste processing and disposal. I do, however, find it interesting that you will spend almost 1 million dollars to hide your secrets down the drain – hiding that condom I know used to cheat on your spouse with.’
‘So, I propose that you use a quarter of that mill to support doms and subs in Broward County – to build a dungeon created for us by us – the taxpayers and voting citizens.’
She said in closing, ‘do not let this glamourous look distract you from doing your duty to take my demand. I look forward to spanking each and every single one of you at the new esteemed dungeon- you are dismissed.’
As the women walked away from the podium and headed to their seats, the roomful of meeting participants – mostly middle-aged men and women – appeared largely unfazed by the unusual proposition.
‘Okay, thank you,’ said one of the commissioners as he cleared his throat.
‘And, happy holidays to you,’ he said before he let out a chuckle. ‘Anyone else wish to speak?
Someone from the audience stood up and asked the city manager if there were are ‘any districts that have a dungeon?’
The manager replied, ‘Not that I know of.’
It is not clear what other topics were discussed at Tuesday night’s city council meeting, and if the trio’s request would be granted.
Many took to Twitter to express their thoughts about the memorable appearance, with some taxpayers showing their support for the idea.
‘Makes a lot more sense than most of the things done in Florida,’ one person wrote.
‘At the end of the day subs and doms are taxpayers too… better them then (sic) political grifters,’ another replied.
‘250k for a dungeon is not a bad deal,’ said another. ‘Real Estate is getting pricey.’
Source: Southcoastregister.com.au.
AUSTRALIA – Dominatrix Heide Victoria Bos wanted her on-and-off-again boyfriend hurt badly enough that he’d leave town.
He ended up dead.
Nick Cameron suffered 14 blunt force head injuries and two stab wounds when he was attacked over 11 minutes in the parking garage of his Melbourne apartment on July 10 last year.
He had taken his fluffy white terrier, Misty, into the garage when a man, who had allegedly been laying in wait beside Mr Cameron’s rental car for seven hours, rushed at him armed with a knife and a hammer.
Neighbours heard Mr Cameron’s yells for help. Efforts were made to save him, but he was declared dead about 45 minutes after the attack began.
A man has been charged with murder and is due to face trial in the Victorian Supreme Court next year.
Bos was charged with murder within weeks after Mr Cameron’s death, but pleaded guilty in November this year to manslaughter on the basis that she was complicit in an agreement for him to be assaulted.
She met the alleged killer six weeks earlier on a fetish website, where she used the name “Hedonistic Siren” to meet “slaves”.
“I am above you in every single way possible,” her profile said.
She and Mr Cameron had a volatile and verbally abusive relationship, prosecutors told a pre-sentence hearing on Wednesday.
In messages Bos described Mr Cameron as hurting her in unique and nasty ways and asked if it was possible to get him to leave town and not come back.
Bos accepts responsibility for Mr Cameron’s death, her lawyer Rahmin de Krester said.
“She feels guilt and shame that he died because of her involvement with (another man),” he said.
Chris Cameron penned a poem about his relationship with his son, and described his skills as a footballer and a friend.
“By crikey, if your mateship was appreciated, a locked in warm-hearted friendship was given and it was lifelong,” he said of the 39-year-old.
Mr Cameron’s partner was expecting their first child when he died. She told the court that the second half of her pregnancy was surrounded by loss and even now with each milestone in their child’s life overshadowed by grief.
Bos will be sentenced in February.
Melbourne has a flourishing shibari scene; curious to try it for herself, our writer headed to a class at Zenrope
Source: Timeout.com
AUSTRALIA – MELBOURNE – Shibari, a Japanese form of rope bondage, is an art form growing in practice worldwide. By nature erotic, it is also so much more. The intricate use of rope is expressive and skilful, hosting the potential to induce euphoric and meditative states, as well as deep intimacy.
It is recommended to attend class with a learning buddy, and while I opted to bring my partner, I was assured that shibari can be shared with anyone you trust and seek a connection with.
Initially anxious, my worries dissipated as I entered the serene Japanese-inspired space – which smelt of incense and brewing tea – and met the kind instructors Ash Snare and Harley Okami.
Class began with a safety briefing, addressing the inherent risks associated with shibari to mitigate any chance of physical or psychological harm. We were advised on where not to tie on the body, the role of safety scissors in emergencies, and the critical role of ongoing consent and communication.
We then learned about foundational knots. In shibari, there are two roles: the Rigger (who ties) and the Bunny (who is tied). Despite personal preferences, we were encouraged to practice the knots on our own bodies first, to learn how it felt for others and to differentiate safe and unsafe techniques used by Riggers.
Learning the knots was quite cerebral and satisfying. While it was easy to become focused on perfecting the knot, Harley advised us to be present and “paint with the rope”, drawing it across our partner’s body with intention and sensation, treating the knots as an embodied experience rather than an end goal.
Harley encouraged Riggers to release their egos and focus on the needs of the Bunny and the mutual connection, and for Bunnies to relax into the experience. Harley demonstrated a chest and neck tie on a class model that she shared a long shibari history with, and the attunement to one another’s needs and level of established trust and connection were both evident and inspiring. They appeared to communicate through the rope, with the model visibly receptive and responsive to the slightest touch or pull from Harley, as she dropped into a meditative space.
The pressure of the tight rope against my wrists prompted me to detach from my mind and connect with my body, as well as my partner. Feeling an impact after one class, I was curious to hear how decades of experience had shaped the instructors’ lives.
“Shibari has made explicit in my relationships aspects of my passion and inspiration previously left unvoiced, fumbled, or wasted in the realm of fantasy,” shared Ash.
“Rope has given me a framework for discovering with my partners our mutual interests and curiosities, and together realising our darkest fears, strangest fantasies, furthest limits and a depth of trust I’d never thought possible.”
If you are interested in exploring shibari for yourself, there are a range of classes and performances throughout Melbourne, showcasing the skill and vision of the city’s best rope artists.
Montley Bauhaus hosts the Shibari Soiree showcase in Carlton every three months, Golden Monkey Bar in Flinders Lane hosts Shibari Lounge monthly, and Melbourne Community Rope in Brunswick hosts a monthly rope jam where attendees can practice or sit back and watch.
Ash says that in addition to the benefits of instruction, learning in a class environment can open you up to a wider community.
“Many of our students have met partners, fallen in love, and some have gone on to become teachers themselves, or perform at various events we co-facilitate here in Melbourne,” he said.
“Melbourne has a thriving, vibrant rope scene waiting for anyone with good intentions to come and join, and the opportunities are endless.”
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