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Inside the Mile High Dungeon, Where Denver Dominatrixes (Domina Elle & Mistress Victoria Marx) Bind and Flog

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Sun, August 28, 2022 23:12:55

Source: Westword.com.

USA – DENVER – Behind the one-way windows of a squat warehouse on West Second Avenue is the domain of two professional dominatrixes, one of the premier dungeons in the United States, they say, with clients flying in from around the world.

See more and larger photo’s on: Westword.com

And you’d better believe them, or you could be punished.

Mile High Dungeon is a sprawling fantasyland of themed rooms in which these dommes bind clients in various positions, engage them in erotic play, and dominate them during all sorts of kinky scenarios (within reason…and the law). Both transplants to Colorado, Domina Elle and Mistress Victoria Marx have lived here for decades, opening their own dungeons and practicing BDSM – bondage, dominance, sadomasochism – for more than twenty years before joining forces three years ago to open the Mile High Dungeon in this space that had been occupied by a computer-security expert until the FBI raided his business in 2015 after he bragged on Twitter about hacking into the controls of a commercial airliner and flying it sideways.

Between private sessions on a recent weekday, Elle and Victoria agree to give Westword a full tour of their business. Elle is dressed in one of her signature latex suits, which are often so tight that she needs lube to get them on. Victoria, who prefers to stick to leather and lace, is wearing a tight corset. Both sport thigh-high boots with six-inch, elevated heels that look so pointy they could probably double as torture instruments. Neither wants her full name used here.

Each prospective dungeon visitor must send Elle or Victoria an email that lists his or her fetishes. There are different categories, based on the colors of a stoplight. Green lights are acts and fetishes that the would-be client is 100 percent okay with exploring. Yellows are maybes. And reds are no-gos. “Most people know what their reds are first,” observes Victoria. “It’s easy to know what you don’t like.”

A common “red light” is heavy pain (though about 5 percent of their clients are really into heavy pain, Victoria notes). “And then a lot of people say, ‘No marks’,” she continues, in reference to the physical reminders of a common BDSM practice: flogging clients with whips and paddles.

“I am fascinated by people’s behaviors, motives and the history behind them,” says Elle, who adds that every client is different, and it’s her job to help them explore themselves, their sexuality and their desires. “Like, I might ask, what’s the first time you remember getting excited about being tied up?” she explains. “And someone might answer, ‘Oh, I saw that Lucky Charms commercial when the leprechaun gets caught in the net.’ The things you hear people say are fascinating.”

Elle declines to say how much a Mile High Dungeon session costs, explaining that prices are negotiable and that all sessions – typically two hours or longer – are customized to fit clients’ individual needs. And although the dommes always ask clients if they have romantic partners, and encourage couples’ sessions, there are some clients who don’t want others to know about their trips to the dungeon.

Client sessions often begin in the Sissy Boudoir, one of five rooms in the facility. It’s essentially an eroticized Hollywood dressing room, complete with wigs, makeup, footwear, coats and even some rubber horse-head masks. The accoutrements help with clients’ role-playing fantasies, explains Victoria. “And it can range from just heels and lipstick to a full transformation.”

While some clients already know what kind of transformation they desire, others take suggestions from the dommes. Elle started dressing up her male friends in her own clothes when she was a teenager, so helping with clients’ makeovers is second nature. “And playing around with the boundaries of gender, I think, is something that’s natural for a lot of people, even if they’re not kinky with it,” she says. “My favorite is when people have been cross-dressing alone for so long, and finally have the courage to step out of that alone place. Then the intimacy between you and the other person acting out this stuff takes on a whole other dimension.”

The Sissy Boudoir also boasts oversized dressing-room mirrors to assist with the costume changes. Then again, there are big mirrors in just about every room of the dungeon; Elle guesses there are forty throughout the sprawling facility.

“The mind-fuck aspect is definitely a big part of all of this,” she says while observing herself in one of those mirrors. “When you can watch yourself in the act, then you have the visual memory. There’s psychological nuances in everything that we do.”

Those psychological nuances extend to all sorts of physical tools and instruments used in various dungeon scenarios. A medical-themed room looks something straight out of a slasher film, with an old-school X-ray machine, an anesthesia device, a stomach pump and a “birthing chair” from the early 1900s with metal stirrups. Elle found that on Craiglist, and says the widow and daughter of a recently deceased urologist sold it to her. “They gave it to me on the condition that I wouldn’t perform abortions, which I agreed to,” Elle recalls. “But they probably wouldn’t have given it to me if they knew what it was really for…”

Adjacent to the medical room is the Black and Blue Room, named after its paint colors; a large suspension frame at the center can be used to bind and suspend people in all sorts of positions. Next to that is the Goddess Room, a relaxing space with a vibe similar to that of a day spa. And finally, there’s a huge room at the back with ceilings that are at least twenty feet high and projection screens displaying looping slideshows with all sorts of kinky imagery, including a guy strapped down on a bench whose erect penis is the only exposed part of his body. In this last room, colored spotlights accentuate a ten-foot-tall suspension frame with an electric winch mounted on top that can be used to mechanically raise up…stuff. There’s also a spanking bench, an X-shaped cross with straps on each of the arms, and a Victorian-styled bathtub in which clients can rinse off before leaving.

The entire dungeon is immaculate. The dommes always use towels wherever bare skin might touch any benches or frames, so, as Elle notes, “there are no snail trails anywhere.” From the music playing over speakers to the smells to the lighting, “every detail affects the situation,” she explains.

The dommes say it took all of their own equipment, as well as items donated from three other dungeons, to make Mile High Dungeon a reality. A now-deceased mistress who ran a combination B&B/dungeon in Pueblo left some tools to Elle. “I invoke her spirit whenever I use her paddles,” she says, adding that she rarely uses fewer than fifteen different whips and paddles on a client in a session. (She credits another mentor, Mistress Diane, with being “the first professional domme to really put Denver on the kinky map of the United States,” back in the ’80s. Mistress Diane is now retired, but Elle says she still has a few loyal clients who fly in from around the world to see her.)

The instruments lined up in various wall-mounted cases throughout the dungeon include such industry favorites as cock-and-balls torture devices, but there are also some unexpected tools, like a metal clamp designed to hold onto deep-dish pizza containers. Elle and Victoria call such commonplace items “pervertables,” since their standard use is perverted once it enters their realm. “When I saw the pizza clamp, I saw a nipple device,” Elle quips. Target and Home Depot, which they jokingly call “Domme Depot,” are both great places to find pervertables, they say.

While it’s sometimes difficult to tell when the dommes are kidding, they take their business seriously. Both advocate for decriminalization of sex work and rail against the SESTA law passed by Congress this spring that conflates sex work with sex trafficking. Not that what they’re doing involves actual sex; they conform to all applicable laws and regulations.

“We’re in a gray area,” notes Elle. “There are no laws in Colorado that govern BDSM. But there are laws in some states — at least one state – where you can’t even spank someone on their bare ass and take money. Plus, the prostitution penal codes are intentionally vague,” she continues. “They say, ‘value exchanged for sexual gratification,’ but that can mean so many different things. There are people locally who’ve been tried and found guilty when they took money to watch someone masturbate — they didn’t even touch the person. We have to be careful.”

They’re also careful about following city code. The Mile High Dungeon receives regular fire-department inspections; Victoria jokes that during the first fire department visit, there were two firemen, and ever since there have been at least four men at every inspection.

They want to be sure that they’re here for the people who need them. “This is our sacred space. Within this space, lives change. People bare their souls. They bare the most intimate parts of themselves psychologically and physically,” Elle says. “For me, I’m about raising energy up, helping people evolve and grow. And the sexual piece of ourselves — gender, what our boundaries are, what we’re okay with — is a development that has been stifled by shame and weirdness in our society. We really need to get real about sex, period. I think a lot of abuse stems from the shaming and weirdness that humans attach to sex. So we need to back up a little bit and look at, in a reasonable and compassionate way, our bodies and sexuality and all these people who think they are entitled to limit what other people do, whether it’s because they’re gay or sex workers or swingers or polyamorous. It’s time to move past all of that and grow up.”



What is spanking therapy, and how can it help?

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Sun, April 17, 2022 04:09:42

Source: Medicalnewstoday.com.

USA – Spanking therapy uses spanking as a form of release. People may choose to take part in spanking therapy to release stress and responsibility, explore power roles, or work through negative emotions or trauma. However, there is limited scientific research on spanking therapy and its effectiveness.

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People may speak with a practitioner for spanking therapy or learn how to do it safely with a partner.

This article looks at what spanking therapy is, what it involves, and why individuals may do it.

What is it?

Spanking therapy has no exact definition, but people may class it as any form of consensual spanking under BDSM, which stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism (SM).

Individuals may also class it as any consensual BDSM spanking to release certain emotions or work through issues, such as trauma.

People may use it for relaxation or the release of power, responsibility, negative emotions, or trauma.

Who is it for?

Spanking therapy may be an option for anyone of an appropriate age to take part in consensual BDSM practices.

People may wish to find a spanking therapist or learn how to safely carry out spanking therapy with a partner.

What is the purpose of spanking therapy?

According to an article in The Journal of Sex Researchpeople may engage in spanking therapy for a range of reasons, such as :

  • Power play: People may find it sexually arousing to play with power roles, such as becoming dominant or submissive. Others may also find it freeing to release responsibility and power in a controlled environment.
  • Spiritual experience: Some people report that SM practices alter their state of consciousness, providing them with a sense of connection, wholeness, and mind expansion.
  • Stress release: Individuals may find similar benefits from spanking therapy as those from mindful activities, such as meditation.
  • Escapism or sense of adventure: People may find spanking therapy a way to change their routine and elevate their experience from mundane or everyday matters.

The authors also note that some scientific theories suggest that SM practices, such as spanking, may help some people heal from trauma.

Reclaiming or relinquishing power through the act of spanking may help some people regain psychological control over past traumatic events.

However, a person may wish to consult a mental health professional before engaging in spanking therapy to help heal from trauma.

Benefits

According to a 2020 article, BDSM, particularly SM practices, may offer therapeutic and soothing effects for some people.

The research also suggests that SM practices may also provide similar psychological benefits as meditation. These benefits may include increased concentration levels, reduced mental activity, and relaxation.

Anecdotal sources also report that spanking therapy may help:

  • relieve stress
  • provide pleasure
  • allow people to gain or relinquish power in a controlled situation
  • process or release trauma

Is it effective?

There is little scientific research on spanking therapy and its effectiveness.

Research on BDSM practices has shown that those submissive in BDSM had biological changes indicating increased pleasure.

How do people do it?

According to spanking therapy practitioners, they may use their hands to spank the lower, inner quadrant of the bottom.

A practitioner may also use a silicone or wooden paddle to create different sensations.

With a professional

Clear communication is important, so the practitioner understands what people are hoping to get out of the session and the acts with which they can remain comfortable.

A spanking therapy session may involve the following:

  • a warmup session to get the body prepared
  • discussing any injuries or physical concerns
  • what the person hopes to get out of the session, and at what point it will end
  • agreeing on safe words or actions to stop the session at any time
  • whether people will keep their bottom clothed or not

During the spanking therapy, a practitioner may use a hand or paddle to offer different sensations.

After the session, the practitioner will check in with how people are feeling and allow time for them to process the emotions that may have come up.

How to do it safely with a partner

Spanking therapy requires skill, and people without training may not be able to carry it out safely. However, if individuals wish to try spanking therapy with a partner, they may want to speak with a trained spanking therapist first for advice or training.

People could also learn from sex parties, classes at sex shops, online tutorials, or books.

Discussing consent

Before engaging in spanking therapy or any sexual activity, it is important that individuals discuss consent, boundaries, and expectations with their partner.

Consent is an ongoing process, and a person can change their mind and withdraw their consent at any time.

To ensure those involved are comfortable, people should:

  • talk about the activity
  • check in with each other often
  • ensure that everyone consents beforehand

Frequently asked questions about spanking therapy

The following are answers to common questions about spanking therapy.

Is spanking therapy always sexual?

Spanking therapy is not necessarily sexual, and some people may see it in a similar way to other forms of physical therapy. Others may see it as a more ritualistic experience.

According to a 2015 article, people may take part in BDSM activities such as spanking for nonsexual reasons.

Individuals may find it provides a new experience and a release from their everyday selves and responsibilities.

Why might people like being spanked?

People may enjoy spanking for several reasons, such as:

  • the release of power and responsibility
  • relaxation
  • stress relief
  • the release of trauma or negative emotions
  • altering their state of mind

2019 study looked at how Canadian university students thought about BDSM practices, with 60% of male participants and 31% of female participants having positive thoughts about whipping or spanking.

Where can a person learn more about spanking therapy?

If people want to learn more about spanking therapy, they may wish to:

  • read articles or books on the subject
  • talk with a sex worker trained in spanking therapy
  • connect with a local or online BDSM community

Summary

Spanking therapy uses spanking as a therapeutic method to release stress, explore power play, or let go of trauma.

People can consult a trained spanking therapist for a session or learn how to safely carry out spanking therapy themselves with a partner.



Dominatrix claims DoorDash banned her over sex work: ‘It’s dehumanizing’

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Sun, April 17, 2022 03:41:30

Source: NYpost.com.

USA – NEW YORK – This dominatrix is giving DoorDash a digital tongue-lashing.

See more and larger photo’s on: NYpost.com.

Dr. Olivia Snow, an adjunct college professor in New York City and tech researcher at UCLA and NYU, is virally blasting the food delivery behemoth — claiming it arbitrarily discontinued servicing her due to her part-time gig as a leather corset-donning dungeon domme

“It’s dehumanizing,” lamented Snow, 33, to The Post. “Sex workers bend over backwards to conceal our identities in order to [be treated fairly by mainstream society],” she continued. “And these big tech companies use special software and AI (artificial intelligence) to sniff us out and block us from their services.”

For eight hours, three times a week, the Ph.D.-holder straps herself into silky fishnet stockings and skin-tight lingerie and sexually dominates revelers with a penchant for corporal punishment.

But when it comes to enjoying contactless services like DoorDash and PayPal, she says major tech imprints have unjustly tied her hands. 

In a trending Twitter post, Snow — who’s sporadically moonlighted in erotica for 15 years — castigated DoorDash for apparently banning her patronage due to a detection of unspecified “abnormal behavior” from her account, which allegedly violates the brand’s Terms of Service. But she told The Post that she’s never confronted a DoorDash delivery person in her dominatrix garb, nor has she shared the details of her profession with any of the company’s drivers.

However, her tweet, shared Tuesday, featured a screenshot of DoorDash’s vague dismissal email. And she spiced the post up with a sarcastic caption, saying: “love too be a wh0re” — written with a zero rather than an “O.”

And Snow said that the misspelling was no mistake. 

“Social media sites and tech companies use various AI to monitor keywords that people type on their platform and into other apps,” she explained. “So I have to strategically misspell words pertaining to sex work in order to avoid getting my accounts shadow-banned or deactivated.”

When contacted by The Post, a spokesperson for DoorDash said: “While we have not been able to verify the posting online, we have reached out to this individual for more information and are actively investigating.

“Users are welcome on the DoorDash platform, regardless of a person’s profession or choice of work, and are required to follow our terms of service,” the representative added.

Nonetheless, Snow further claimed that cyber giants like Venmo, CashApp, PayPal, Airbnb and a slew of popular dating apps have also banned her and other sex workers from utilizing their services. 

“Airbnb is uniquely creepy when it comes to surveilling sex workers,” she asserted. “I believe they use software to spy on sex workers and they cross-platform surveillance software to monitor what keywords sex workers are typing into other sites. They go above and beyond to find us out and block us.”

Snow, who’s purportedly done extensive research on the technological mistreatment of sex workers, went on to claim that Airbnb and the like use location data and text-tracking hacks in order to pinpoint sex world staffers and ban them. 

However, in a statement to The Post, an Airbnb rep denied that company’s alleged prejudice, saying: “This is false. Sex workers are not prohibited from using Airbnb on the sole basis of their occupation.”

Snow, however, predicted the brand’s rebuttal. 

“These tech companies will never admit to what they’re doing,” she said. “And even though Airbnb has specifically said that they don’t target sex workers, they do.”

But more frustrating than the organization’s denial of any bigotry, according to Snow, is the fact that the general public refuses to believe that these major online platforms are specifically targeting sex workers. 

“It’s very difficult to get people to believe the qualitative data that proves sex workers are being [marginalized],” the saucy scholar said. “People always ask me, ‘Are you sure it’s cross-platform surveillance?’ And I’m like, ‘I am sure because I do this for a living,’ ” she added, noting her work in higher education and research. 

And as a shame-on-you to the tech companies, Snow added, “When companies non-consensually out us [sex workers], and block us from enjoying basic human necessities, it feels really violating. There’s no justification.”



The Hottie House Airbnb in Northeast Philly is ready to make your sexy backdrop dreams come true

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Thu, April 07, 2022 01:41:31

Snake and dominatrix not included.

Source: Billypenn.com.

USA – PHILADELPHIA – The most Instagrammable (and arguably sexiest) experience in Philly is located inside a two-bedroom, one-bath home right off Roosevelt Boulevard.

See more and larger photo’s on: Billypenn.com.

Dubbed The Hottie House, this Northeast Philly Airbnb is marketed as “WAP inspired.” It’s designed to host a pretty unique set of activities: bachelorette weekends, lingerie and thirst trap photoshoots, or your first encounter with a dominatrix.

A stay at this cutie crib will currently run you around $167 per night — not counting cleaning fees, of course — and availability appears to be open from mid-April until the end of June.

The house is the project of a local, 26-year-old creative director, makeup artist and YouTuber who goes by the name Siren Redd across her ventures. Think of the space as a mix between a photo-op centric experience (like the new Museum of Illusions) and a classic photo studio, with the goal being to inspire content as much as be enjoyed in a vacation.

“I write and direct and contract for Philadelphia models, artists, and businesses,” Redd, a Delaware native who has been working with Philly talent for the last two years, told Billy Penn. “Originally, I created the space because I felt like it was so hard to find sexy content spaces for the style of my videos and photos.”

Sexy is definitely the operative word here.

The Hottie House comes with plenty of standard Airbnb fare, like a fully stocked kitchen, toiletries, and a dossier of nearby amenities. But it also offers stuff you’d sooner find on the set of a 2008 Lil Wayne video than a hotel room.

The space opens with a bright affirmation mural painted by local muralist and designer 7GOD. Want that extra boost? “I am hot, I am paid, I am sexy,” the wall shouts at guests in bold black type-face.

Each bedroom has a distinct vibe. The first is jungle-themed, with a neon sign over the bed frame welcoming you to the jungle (in case you forgot). Vines drape from the ceiling and the walls are patterned over dense, tropical foliage. Per social media posts, it also appears you can rent a snake.

The master is called the “Lovers Dominatrix Bedroom,” complete with a stripper pole, a custom heart-shaped bed, and a set of dominatrix toys (the Airbnb listing notes they are “props only.”)

The apartment also comes equipped with content creation essentials, such as ring lights, full body mirrors for fit checks, and plenty of neon to set the mood for your photo sesh. (We’re thinking red for boudoir shoots but green to show off your new reptile collection from IllExotics).

Redd said the majority of bookings so far are for personal use, but she designed the space with the up-and-coming artist in mind. The other side of the Hottie House is a creative concierge service, where Redd coordinates prop rentals, video and photoshoots, and even creative direction. 

“I made the house for me, but I put it on Airbnb for everyone to use it,” she said. “It’s very hard to find content spaces that have that sexy, vibrant vibe, and not everyone can afford to have a set built from scratch.”

Redd began storyboarding the Hottie House around 6 months ago, and the goal was to mimic the aura of Cardi B and Meg Thee Stallion’s hot girl anthem, “WAP.” In the fantastical, borderline surrealist music video, Cardi and Meg walk through a mansion filled with aphrodisiacs: animal print, reptiles, and titty-shaped fountains.

The Hottie House is similar, albeit more realistic. It cost about $13,000 to paint, style, and refurbish, Redd said, and she handled most of the manual labor herself. Many of the selfie walls came together like standard craft projects, with Redd ordering materials on Amazon.

Redd told Billy Penn she curated art throughout the house from Philadelphia-area artists. Guests can scan a QR code upon entry that can provide them with details about each creator.

Looking to spice up your Hottie House Experience?

Redd said she can provide video shoots, massages, a private chef, and — yes — exotic animal rentals. She also said more services and amenities are coming soon.

Redd does, however, caution that the space isn’t for everyone, so pearl-clutchers and offline boyfriends need not book a reservation. 

“The house is for girls’ trips,” Redd said, “the sort of situation where people think everything can be an Instagrammable moment.”



Mistress Marley: ‘I’m a Financial Dominatrix—Men Pay For My Home, Bills and Vacations’

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Mon, September 13, 2021 03:17:48

Source: Newsweek.com.

USA – I’m originally from a small town in North Carolina and I have a very close knit family who very much encouraged me to express myself. My first love was fashion and I first moved to New York in 2017 for a graduate school course in fashion marketing. Afterwards, I had jobs in fashion retail and temporary marketing roles, but nothing permanent.

One day, I was on Craigslist and I saw a listing for a hostess at a swingers club. I applied, went in and got the job. I had a background in sex work as I had done some stripping in North Carolina while I was in college but that club opened my eyes to the sex industry in general. For the most part, the clientele were 50 and above and the whole club was white. Coming in as a younger Black woman and seeing older white people having sex was a little strange at the beginning. But I’m very open-minded.

At the time, there was a dominatrix who worked at the coat check in the club. She was the first dominatrix I had met in person, and she was amazing. She told me so much about her work.

Eventually I came to a point where although I was working that side job, I lost my retail role and I was having to call my parents each week to pay for groceries. Even trying to pay rent was almost impossible. But I’m a determined person and I refused to move back to North Carolina; I’d told my parents I was going to make it.

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I went online and typed in: “How to make money online as a woman, being sexy.” I knew about webcam sex work, but then I saw the term “financial domination.” I researched and saw that financial domination—or findom as it’s known—is a psychological kink where submissive men give their money to dominant women, but get nothing in return. They are basically paying women to exist.

I had the same initial reaction that everyone has now when I tell them what I do: I thought it couldn’t be real.

But I went onto Twitter, typed in “#findom” and saw so many financial dominatrixes. One thing that stood out to me was that I didn’t really see that many Black women in the space. At first, that discouraged me a little, but I’m also someone who doesn’t believe in being held back by anything, so I made my own Twitter page.

When I started, I would occasionally reach out to other dommes asking for advice and offering to tip them for their time. Most of the time, other white dommes would either block me or be super rude. No-one really talks about the trauma that Black women often have to go through to even get into these spaces.

Still, within my first week I made $50 from an anonymous sub—I still don’t know who it was. In findom, we don’t ask, we demand. We say: “Hey. I just went out and spent $50 on dinner. Reimburse me.” That’s what I did. I posted my receipt on Twitter and said that someone needed to reimburse me. And I received $50.

The money started increasing, from $50 to $100 to $200. Sometimes these submissive men send you something called a tribute; it’s a tip or token of appreciation. They’re saying they love your page or they’re grateful for you. I’ve gotten so far in my career that the standard now is that you have to send a tribute to even have a conversation with me. Tributes can range from $5 to $500.

I also do wallet draining sessions, which is when you’re on a video call or talking on the phone and you’re draining a sub’s digital wallet as you’re talking to them. It could be a 30 minute session where they start by sending $10 and then two minutes later they send $20, and so on. You’re literally draining their wallet.

In the Spring of 2018, I had my first in-person “cash meet.” That’s where you meet with a sub in a public place. For safety reasons, I always select somewhere public. I go up to the sub and humiliate them by saying something like, “loser, give me your money.” They give you the money, you might slap them if that has been agreed, and then you walk away.

It’s humiliation. The men get sexual satisfaction from the loss of control. They know they’re giving their money to someone they’re not going to meet and who doesn’t truly care about them. Something about that makes them sexually aroused.

But this all happens between two consenting adults and usually, a responsible domme will make sure that they are checking in with their subs to ensure they can still afford it. You’re never forcing anyone to send you money. At the end of the day, the subs have to log into whatever app they are using and send you the money themselves.

In the past four years, I’ve made more than $100,000 from dominatrix work, and had everything from people putting me onto their life insurance policies, to people paying my rent. I just moved into a fabulous new three-bedroom apartment in New York City and I don’t have to pay a dime for it. People pay for my furniture and my bills and I can go to any of my subs and say that I’m going out for drinks with my girls, tell them to send me money, and they send it. The most expensive single item a sub has paid for was when I went to Tulum for my 27th birthday. The vacation cost more than $5,000 and a sub sent me all the money for it. The money I make separately is barely spent, it’s in savings and I’ve paid off loans. I’m just spending money from subs.

I went from someone who had to text their parents every week for help to buy groceries, to now buying so much for my parents. It’s truly changed my life.

Besides being a financial dominatrix I am also a professional dominatrix. I do impact play and foot worship and I go to dungeons in New York City. In findom I have 10 regular subs who send me money every morning, or we are on a weekly schedule and in my pro domination work, I have five dedicated subs, or slaves, who I work with.

The demographic for my subs is 99 percent white men. I have had Black subs, but for the most part they are into things like foot worship. BDSM is not something that is widely accepted in the Black community. I can do an event now and have a sub on a leash and a Black person will look at me, as if to say, “wow.” I love having white subs. To me, they are paying me reparations. And, a lot of white subs love to serve only Black dommes. They get a thrill from it.

But I’m also trying to do away with the idea of Black women being seen as a fetish. There are subs who will contact me specifically saying why they want a Black woman. I had one sub say that they knew Black women are mean and rude so they wanted me to be their domme. I had to block him. But I am very privileged to have never been in a position where a sub has made me uncomfortable.

In November 2019, I took sub on a leash to my college homecoming at North Carolina Central University, a historically Black university. To me it was the imagery: I was a Black woman walking an old white man on a leash in a Black school. That in itself was powerful. But I treated it as a professional session with a sub, he paid me for my services and I checked in on him throughout to make sure he wasn’t in pain. It’s not like I disregarded him because I was in a public space.

People were definitely shocked. A video of that moment went viral, although I didn’t realize it was being filmed. Overnight I went from 1,000 followers on Twitter to around 13,000. My DMs were flooded with Black women asking me to teach them. I knew I had to teach so I created my Sexcademy in early 2020, and now I also earn money from teaching domination.

Because I felt like I didn’t have a safe space as a Black dominatrix, I created the Black Domme Sorority. I didn’t want other Black women to experience what I had been through. We now have 90 members across the U.S. and internationally, and are hoping to bring in 60 new members this fall. It’s the most cherished space I have ever created in my life. Along with two other members, I’m also planning to open a dungeon in New York.

The best lesson I have learned is to be able to separate work from my personal life. I’m not Mistress Marley 24/7. There are times when I have “vanilla” weeks where I want to go to museums, parks and or go shopping.

I’m also dating someone now who knows all about my work and is very supportive. In my personal relationships, I’m actually submissive. I definitely go for alpha males, but I don’t expect them to be dominating and tell me what to do. It’s still all about me, but I’m definitely attracted to confident, secure alpha men.

I always want to be part of the dominatrix community; I’ll always have a place here. I want to be taking money from men and whooping a** until I’m 100 years old.

Mistress Marley is a financial dominatrix and professional dominatrix based in New York. You can find out more about her at thechocolatedomme.com or follow her on Instagram @__mistressmarley. Mistress Marley’s identity has been protected in this piece due to safety concerns.



Priest recorded having group sex on altar of Louisiana church, cops and records say

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Sat, October 24, 2020 03:07:58

Source: Sunherald.com.

USA – LOUISIANA – The lights inside Saints Peter and Paul Roman Catholic Church in Pearl River were on later than usual on Sept. 30, so a passerby stopped to take a closer look.

Peering inside, the onlooker saw the small parish’s pastor half-naked having sex with two women on the altar, according to court documents. The women were dressed in corsets and high-heeled boots. There were sex toys and stage lighting. And a mobile phone was mounted on a tripod, recording it all.

The eyewitness took a video and called the Pearl River police, who arrived at the church and viewed that recording. Officers then arrested the Rev. Travis Clark, pastor of Saints Peter and Paul since 2019, on obscenity charges.

The Archdiocese of New Orleans announced the priest’s arrest Oct. 1 but would not give specifics about why he was arrested. Nor would the police.

POLICE AND RECORDS: ROLE PLAY WITH DOMINATRIX OCCURRED

New details, however, have emerged in court filings that paint a lurid picture of a priest recording himself engaged in sexual role play while desecrating a sacred place within the church. Public records additionally show that one of the women, Mindy Dixon, 41, is an adult film actor who also works for hire as a dominatrix. On a social media account associated with Dixon, a Sept. 29 post says she was on her way to the New Orleans area to meet another dominatrix “and defile a house of God.”

Dixon and Melissa Cheng, 23, were booked on the same count as Clark, 37. Police said the charge stems from from “obscene acts [that] occurred on the altar, which is clearly visible from the street.”

The arrests mark the latest scandal to befall the Archdiocese of New Orleans, after a different north shore priest, the Rev. Pat Wattigny, reportedly disclosed on Oct. 1 to Archbishop Gregory Aymond that he had sexually abused a minor in 2013. Aymond removed Wattigny from public ministry last week and added him to the archdiocese’s list of clergy whom the church believes have been credible accused of molestation.

Clark, who was ordained in 2013, had recently been named chaplain of Pope John Paul II High School in Slidell, in addition to his duties at Saints Peter and Paul. At the high school, he succeeded Wattigny, who had resigned from that position this summer over inappropriate text messages sent to a student. Pope John Paul II’s principal on Tuesday sent a letter to school parents criticizing Aymond for waiting until last week to tell him that Wattigny had been under investigation for those texts since February.

The archdiocese announced it had suspended Clark from ministry the day after he was arrested.

Attempts to contact Clark, Chen and Dixon weren’t immediately successful. All three have bonded out of jail pending the outcome of the case.

The archdiocese would not comment Thursday on Clark’s arrest, saying authorities were investigating the matter.

In Roman Catholic tradition, the altar is among the most sacred of church spaces, serving as the focal point of the Mass and the place where a priest consecrates the Eucharist during the sacrament of Holy Communion. According to church law, known as canon law, when sacred places are violated they must be “repaired by penitential rite” before they can be used again in the Mass.

WHAT COURT FILES SAY

Days after Clark’s arrest, Aymond went to Saints Peter and Paul and performed a ritual to restore the altar’s sanctity.

The church is vague on the specific acts that would constitute a desecration, but the Code of Canon Law says a violation of a sacred place occurs “by gravely injurious actions done in them” that are “contrary to the holiness of the place.”

That description appears to apply to the alleged tryst as outlined by police in documents filed in Louisiana’s 22nd Judicial District Court in Covington.

On Sept. 30 just before 11:00 p.m., an unidentified person was walking by the church on St. Mary Drive and looked inside through windows and glass doors because the lights were still on. Police allege that the person “observed and had video of Ms. Cheng and Ms. Dixon” using plastic sex toys while engaging in intercourse on the altar with Clark, who was still partially wearing his priestly attire.

The person called the police to the church. Officers arrived to see two women clad in corsets and high-heeled boots by the altar, with “lights set up around them as if they were filming some type of event,” the documents said.

Clark wasn’t on the altar, but an officer who knew Clark to be the church’s pastor tried to call him on the phone. Police then ordered the women to let them inside and, in addition to the lights, noticed a mobile phone as well as a camera, each mounted on tripods.

The women reportedly told police they were there with Clark’s permission and were recording themselves in “role play.”

Clark soon arrived at the church and reportedly gave a similar account to the police, describing Cheng and Dixon as his guests and friends, police wrote in documents filed in court.

Officers determined everything that had happened was consensual, but they arrested Clark, Cheng and Dixon on accusations that the three had broken a law prohibiting people from having sex within public view. Police said they confiscated the sex toys and camera equipment as evidence.

Clark was later released from jail on a $25,000 bond. Cheng, of Alpharetta, Georgia, and Dixon, of Kent, Washington, posted bonds of $7,500, records show.

Each could face six months to three years in prison if convicted of obscenity.

Aymond sent a letter to parishioners at Saints Peter and Paul on Monday saying the Rev. Carol Shirima would replace Clark beginning Oct. 11.

ARREST ‘SHOCKED’ PEARL RIVER

Pearl River Mayor David McQueen said the arrest shocked the town. “There hasn’t been a whole lot of talk, they’re kind of hush-hush about it,” McQueen said.

McQueen said he was aware that the two women had been in Pearl River earlier this week to give statements to police.

Town Council member Kat Walsh, a lifelong member of the church, echoed McQueen. She said parishioners, especially those who are more deeply involved in the church, are the ones who were the most upset by the arrests.

Clark was well-liked by the congregation and considered easy to get along with, she said, and seemed to work diligently with different groups within the church.

“What upsets me is, why did he have to do that there?” Walsh said. “I’m upset for all of us, the parishioners of the church. Why there?”




Lingerie brand faces accusations of Satanism over kinky video ad

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:24:32

Source: NYpost.com

USA – This lingerie advertisement hasn’t just scared the pants off its viewers — critics have also begun blasting the brand on social media, alleging the racy promo promotes Satanism.

Honey Birdette, an Australian label with several stateside locations in California, released a roughly one-minute-30-second advertisement on Sunday, which shows a red devil seducing a scantily clad model dressed in a red one-piece with straps and hooks.

The video aims to promote the brand’s “666 Club” line, and begins with the message, “Don’t forgive them, father, for they do know what they do,” — a riff on “Forgive me, Father, for I have sinned,” said at the beginning of confessions in the Catholic Church.

Filmed in Sydney in September, the red-filtered shots also show the model walking through an orgy, in which same-sex couples wearing bondage gear kiss.

The clip has earned about 64,000 views and a flurry of angry comments on the Instagram upload, which Honey Birdette captioned “Feeling a little devilish? Enter this way . . .”

“What in the satanism,” said one commenter, while another remarked “What’s next . . . child sacrifice?”

Others soon followed: “Why the blatant Satan worship? Who is paying you?” said another, while another, more matter-of-fact, said, “Huge fan of the brand but really don’t enjoy this marketing choice.”

The fire began burning last week, when Honey Birdette offered a quick online preview of the ad, with brand officials telling The Post that ticked-off viewers went into Australian store locations to see if they actually do worship Satan. But they brushed the backlash off.

“With everyone going through COVID, we just wanted to stimulate people,” Honey Birdette’s founder, Eloise Monaghan, said in a statement. “It’s time to have some fun and we need to do that visually at the moment.”

Honey Birdette releases a Halloween-themed campaign each year, and this year’s video took inspiration from a Berlin nightclub full of models in latex, leather and chains. The 666 Club collection includes seven looks, one of them named “Kukuro Leopard,” which has leopard-print bras, bottoms and bondage kits, and a garter belt set priced at $315.

“Kukuro is the bondage set that has 14 different sex positions you can use it with,” said Monaghan.

But sex wasn’t on the mind of the online critics.

“Holy f - - k in hell wtf did you ladies of honeybirdette sell your poor soul to the devil during this pandemic?” wrote another. “Next scene: these beautiful ladies are sacrificing underage little girls and drinking their blood wtf.”

“There’s always someone who’s got a problem with sex, isn’t there?” Monaghan said in the statement regarding initial criticism. “Anyone who doesn’t fancy women being empowered to use their sexuality is generally who the complainers are.”

Not everyone took to Instagram with complaints centered on Satanic allegations. One person sought to challenge those critics.

“If any of ya’ll actually sat down for like 2 minutes and actually learnt what Satanism is and not stick to whatever the f - - k you have been taught you’d probably get some enlightenment oddly enough,” wrote one user.

Others offered support.

“Favourite collection ever hands down,” said one. Another, more descriptive, said, “People are so triggered while I’m over here panting like HOT HOT HOT f - - king YES.”

Meanwhile, a user named @naughty_little_vixen, said “The Devil just gives it that forbidden touch of SIN.”

See more and larger photo’s plus video on: NYpost.com.


What it’s like to be a dominatrix who whips and degrades her ‘sugar daddy’ for a living: ‘The whole point is to make them feel completely worthless.’

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 03:03:35
  • Mistress Ree is a New Orleans-based dominatrix who verbally and physically dominates her clients. 
  • She took Insider for a “ride-along” to observe one of her sessions. 
  • Ree told Insider most of her clients enjoy the psychological aspect of domination over the physical.
  • Because of the pandemic, Ree has had to reduce her clientele and stick to only a handful. 

Source: Insider.com.

USA-NEW ORLEANS – It begins innocently enough, like any other FaceTime call. Mistress Ree waves at me on the screen. She’s dressed in black lingerie and her hair is in box braids. 

“Hey dude, I have a surprise for you today,” Ree, my friend, a 21-year-old dominatrix from New Orleans, tells me with a smile. Ree and I have known each other for years, so FaceTime check-ins like this aren’t anything out of the norm. 

But this time, she steps back to reveal a bed. On it, is a 30-year-old man on his hands and knees, wearing nothing but his boxer briefs and a black latex mask. 

“Do you want to introduce yourself,” she asks me, grinning. I knew I was going for a ride-along on one of her sessions, to see how she works, but I didn’t expect to get into it this quickly. I regained my composure and said my name, that I’m a sex reporter, and that I go by “they/them” pronouns. 

“Introduce yourself to them, slave,” she tells the man. He says his name, but he forgets to mention his pronouns. Ree doesn’t take that kindly, hitting him with the belt she has in hand.

“They told you their pronouns, now you have to say yours.” Trembling, he whispered: “He/him.”

Ree’s style of domination involves far less physical aggression and far more emotional degradation than I expected

Dominatrices like Ree are usually women and femmes who dominate their partners physically, mentally, and/or financially. They fall into a category of sex work under the BDSM umbrella (or, bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, and sadism-masochism).

Unlike many of the Hollywood depictions of dominatrices clad in leather, equipped with whips and chains, Ree prefers the psychological aspects of domination. 

Ree’s “submissive” (the term used to describe a person who likes to be dominated in a BDSM dynamic) defines as a masochistic cuckold, meaning he likes to watch as his partners sleep with other people while demeaning him. He also likes to be watched as he’s humiliated – hence the idea to have me watch, putting him on the spot, and giving me insight into how this all works. 

I learn that he has been engaging in BDSM since his early 20s. He’s “dommed,” or been a dominant person in a BDSM dynamic, before. But now he prefers to sub for most recent sugar baby. A sugar baby-sugar daddy relationship typically means an older person (sugar daddy) who dates a younger person (sugar baby) in exchange for money, gifts, and trips.

During the session, Ree spends most of the time talking to me, keeping the conversation casual. She talks about her day, her undergraduate classes, and her internship, all while her submissive massages her feet and rubs shea butter on her calves. 

“Ugh, you went too far up my leg,” she says as he gets it to her knees. “Suck on my toes now. Anyways, like I was saying —,” then it’s back to catching up as usual.  

Namecalling, degradation, and the occasional smack of a belt are what Ree’s clientele generally prefer. “The whole point is to make them feel completely worthless.” 

“A lot of men, presumably heterosexual, cisgender men — especially if white and lighter-skinned men – they present themselves as these ‘alpha males,'” Ree said. “Because they wear that mask all day, when they get into the bedroom, they like to retreat into submission because they get to take a break from that performance of masculinity.” 

Raceplay is high on the agenda for her sex ‘slave.’ As a Black dominatrix, Ree has mixed feelings about it.

One element I didn’t expect to watch was raceplay.

Raceplay falls into a subsection of BDSM in which people use race as a form of dominating or submitting to their partner. 

“Tell them what you said about Black women, listen to this,” she laughs. 

“Black women are superior in every way,” he says. 

Ree tells me later she also makes him send her daily “book reports” as part of the psychological thrill, asking him to read different works of racial justice like “The Autobiography of Assata Shakur” and “The Combahee River Collective Statement” and message her with a summary of what he’s read.  

Ree said her sub made it a point to bring up race when they were negotiating their boundaries and expectations for their sessions. 

“He felt that one of the things I should enjoy out of that dynamic is that he is presumably well-off, corporate, white, white-collar guy and that he’s being dominated by me, a Black woman,” Ree said. “A lot of that is white guilt. I’m sure the recent protests, outcries, and things that are happening in the news has pushed a lot of white men to be more willing to be submissive to Black dominatrices.” 

As a Black dominatrix, Ree told Insider she has very mixed feelings about this aspect of her work. While her sub repeatedly told her — both during the session and prior to them meeting in person — that his admiration of Black women is not a fetish, Ree is doubtful this is true. 

“You claim that you’re not fetishizing me because I am Black but all the ways in which you approach my Blackness happen in a really fetishizing way. By talking about my skin, my attitude, all of those things come from stereotypes about Black women.”

As a college student, Ree juggles her clients, classes, and an internship all during a pandemic 

Ree began domming in Spring 2019 as a way to pay her bills in addition to her 20-hours-a-week internship as a full-time college student. She sees clients in exchange for money and gifts, usually in the form of a sugar baby relationship. 

Since the pandemic led to lockdowns across the country in March, Ree said it has been hard to find clientele. While restrictions are loosening in New Orleans, her university has strict rules about who can enter student housing, meaning Ree is left to request hotel rooms from her sub to do their sessions. 

“I try to stay tested and self-monitor. That’s also why I’m not trying to have a bunch of clients,” Ree said. “I don’t want to be a carrier and pass it on to each client so I only stick to a couple. Especially when I know it’s someone who doesn’t have any symptoms and can get tested and has the money to pay for me to get tested.”

Things escalated, and I tapped out

About 30 minutes (and countless slaps and insults) into our chat, Ree told me we should probably say goodnight, as she needed to get into the more “X-rated” portion of the session. 

“I don’t know how PG-13 we have to keep it for your viewers,” Ree laughed. I thanked them both for their time and we hung up the call almost as abruptly as it had begun, with Mistress Ree standing calmly beside the bed, and the sub a little shaky, his back red from spanking, but his eyes eager go a step further. 

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Latex-clad ‘CDC inspectors’ and zipping clients into body bags — these are some of the requests a dominatrix has had in the pandemic

Worldwide BDSM News From The Media Posted on Thu, October 01, 2020 01:41:51
  • Victoria Rage is a dominatrix who has adapted both her in-person sessions and her digital ones to the COVID-19 pandemic.
  • As the disease spread, some of her clients began to work the situation into their requests. 
  • In some instances, she has played a “CDC inspector” who needs to punish an “infected” client.
  • More of her clients have also moved online, which presents unique challenges to physical domination.

Source: Insider.com.

USA – Victoria Rage, a dominatrix, has enacted a lot of creative kink scenarios before — from trussing up a man as a Thanksgiving turkey to getting others to play “fetch” like a dog.

By its nature, the Seattle-based dominatrix’s work has pretty dark themes. But in the current pandemic, a portion of her clients’ requests are now explicitly related to COVID-19, she told Insider. 

The spread of the coronavirus has produced numerous challenges for sex workers, whose previous close contact with clients has been interrupted by lockdowns and social distancing measures. 

As Rage explained to Insider earlier, BDSM work already has high hygiene standards, and she has adapted many aspects of how she handles in-person clients to lower the risk as much as possible.

Rage spoke to Insider about the kinds of requests she’s had since the pandemic started.

Time to call the ‘CDC inspector’

Rage noted that medical play has always been popular in the BDSM community. But in her personal dungeon, she said, there has been an uptick in requests for “very invasive” medical scenes. 

And the pandemic has provided a newer twist to the genre: performing a “CDC inspection” scene that is likely a great deal more kinky than in real life. 

Rage’s version of a CDC officer wears a full rubber cat suit with a gas mask, and sets about determining whether her client is “infected.”

“They must be, you know, completely inspected medically up and down,” she explained. “They’re often found to be infected, and therefore must be tortured for being in society.”

Scenes like this can take an even darker twist, she said. “A couple of people have wanted me to be their ‘executioner,'” she said. “I obviously don’t kill anyone, but I have a body bag and I do this whole psychodrama.”

Every sensory detail of the experience is thought out. Rage sets the scene with dramatic music and red lights, and uses an aroma diffuser to spread a sharp ginger scent around the room. 

“I tell them it’s a poisonous gas,” she said. “And I’ll say: When I count down from 10, this is going to have stopped your heart. I’m the last face you’re going to see.

“And then I’ll say something really dirty and count from 10,” she continued. After the countdown, she abruptly covers their face “so it looks like ‘lights out’ to them.”

“And that’s their scene and they love it,” she said.

Socially-distanced domination online  

Lockdowns and, later, social distancing, forced many sex workers to find ways to handle clients digitally. 

As with many dominatrices, video calls became a key tool, at the cost of most of the physical aspects of BDSM. 

Mistress Amandara, a Berlin-based dominatrix, earlier told Insider’s Canela López and Barbara Corbellini Duarte how she “whips” and teases her clients over video.

As she pointed out: “You cannot expect to spank someone online.”

Video work used to represent about 5% of Rage’s clients, but now it’s around half of her work. So for that, she has had to get creative. “It was coming up with the ideas digitally that I found really hard at first,” she said.

Clients who enjoy following orders, and those who enjoy what she calls “tease and denial,” can be easily dominated over video, she has found.

One client who loves to dress up and behave like a dog can be easily told to sit, beg, and eat over video. But playing “fetch” presents a little more of a barrier.

Rage explained how she will throw a ball at the screen, and the client will also throw a ball themselves and “fetch” it for her.

Those who are into bondage save Rage the bother of having to tie them up, by tying themselves up before a call. Then they’re “tortured” by seeing, but being unable to touch, a distant Rage through the video screen. 

Masks, but with a twist

As part of her hygiene regimen when taking in-person clients, Rage asks them to wear masks on arrival.

Once inside, a whole range of head coverings common in BDSM — whether a black cotton hood or a fully encased latex mask — will do pretty much the same job. 

Rage often completes her own outfit with an advanced-looking black mask with a breathing filter on, through which only her eyes can be seen. In terms of hygiene and aesthetics, it kills two birds with one stone.

“It’s just normal PPE and I think it adds to the look,” she said. “No one’s complained so far!”

See more and larger photo’s on Insider.com




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