The model and actress came in like a dark horse on Sunday night when she stepped out in New York City for a Fashion Week event donning serious stallion swagger.
Fox, who recently admitted to getting liposuction and Botox despite wanting to go natural, is no stranger to avant-garde fashion or head-turning looks — like seriously deconstructed denim and underwear as outerwear. However, this horse-inspired look surely takes the carrot cake.
INDIA – MUMBAI – Rose, a Mumbai-based professional dominatrix, finds femdom and being assertive almost like an alternative form of therapy. While most of us may turn to meditation or exercise to de-stress, she finds solace in exerting domination, allowing her clients—mostly men—to live out their fantasies and fetishes in a safe space, simultaneously exercising the freedom to do it on her terms.
“I was always the Alpha in most of my relationships. Some men I dated couldn’t keep up, but others enjoyed being dominated,” she says. However, becoming a professional dominatrix (pro-domme) was never on the cards. “I was hanging out with my best friend one day when he told me I’d be great at femdom. I laughed it off, thinking he was kidding. But he told me I could channel my dominant side into something that would make me feel powerful.” That’s all the convincing she needed.
AUSTRALIA – New South Wales man James-Robert Davis is facing several fresh criminal charges after having already spent 21 months behind bars on remand over what has been described as an “obedient BDSM relationship” with numerous women.
The alleged leader of ‘House of Cadifor’, and former Australian Defence Force soldier and prison guard was finally released from custody after his third bail application, since being charged with 40 criminal offences including causing sexual servitude and slavery in respect of several women with which he had a polyamorous relationship at his rural property near Armidale in the Northern Tablelands of New South Wales. The successful bail application was made after the most serious of those charges were withdrawn.
USA – A bondage-obsessed Met Police officer who was sexually aroused by handcuffing and arresting women was today jailed for four years for binding the ankles and wrists of a female housemate with duct tape.
PC Sam Grigg also bound the woman’s mouth with tape and cut her with a knife when he eventually took the tape off, after taking ‘pleasure’ in watching her try to escape.
When the woman threatened to report him to the police, he said: ”Who are you going to tell, I am the police”.’
USA – Post-divorce, I wanted to hit the reset button on everything, including my sex life. At 31, I realized I hadn’t yet experienced the type of sex worthy of being included in the pages of my future memoir.
After much introspection, I discovered that sexual shame and misogyny were in the way of my tapping into my sexual prowess. Foresight didn’t tell me that using whips, wax, and ropes and becoming a domme would kick-start my journey to sexual liberation and healing.
My life before BDSM was anything but kinky
When I reflect on my 20s, I have flashbacks to lots of passive sex. I was a missionary princess, and once in a blue moon I’d drive the boat. Many times I wasn’t an active participant. I did just enough to satisfy my partner but wasn’t confident enough to ask for what I needed or to surrender to my sexual urges.
Florida mom, 31, files lawsuit against her sons’ elementary school for banning her from its grounds and helping on trips because she makes a living through ONLYFANS
Victoria Triece, 31, is able to support her two children through the adult website
She was banned from school grounds after a board member shared her pics
She’s suing for monetary damages as well as violation of speech and privacy
USA – A Florida mother has filed a lawsuit against her sons’ school board after they outed her presence on OnlyFans and banned her from school grounds and field trips.
Victoria Triece, 31, is able to support her two children through the adult website and claims she did it so that she could have the ability to be in her child’s life without being hampered by a nine- five job.
Triece – who has nearly 150,000 Instagram followers, 272,000 TikTok followers and 32,000 on Twitter – has sued them for violating her rights of free speech, free assembly and her right of privacy.
USA – NEW YORK – On Monday, January 30, prosecutors argued about guilty verdicts in the terrifying case of Russian-born dominatrix Viktoria Nasyrova. She has been suspected of trying to kill her lookalike friend by giving her a slice of poisoned cheesecake as part of a sick identity-theft plan.
Assistant District Attorney Konstantinos Litourgis, who testified before the jury in Queens Supreme Court, claimed that Nasyrova reportedly left a trail of evidence, including DNA detected on the cheesecake box and multiple jailhouse conversations in which she allegedly bragged about her alleged crimes. “The DNA that was on that container belongs to Viktoria Nasyrova,” he declared in his opening statements, as reported by the New York Post.
UK – A bondage-loving middle-aged mother who ran a fetish Facebook page under the name ‘Rosie Cheek’ faces prison after being found hoarding indecent images of children.
Julie Barnes had her home in Widnes, Cheshire, raided by police after she was linked to the X-rated social media account which contained explicit pictures of children between the ages of five and 16.
The 57-year-old told police that the images, which were downloaded over a three-year period, had been sent to her fetish page as part of a large number of sexual images sent in by fans.
USA – Despite it only being a few weeks into 2023, the trending topic “Pee Diddy” let me know that this won’t be the year we accept sexually liberated Black women as members of society. On a recent episode of her show Caresha Please with guest, rapper Trina, “Yung Miami,” aka Caresha Brownlee, revealed that she enjoys having her partners urinate on her. “Golden showers,” also known as “watersports,” involve urination as part of a kink. A golden shower is when someone urinates directly onto another person; however, it can also involve someone drinking urine or gargling it.
Whether or not you’re into golden showers, it’s never okay to kink shame someone for their sexual desires, especially if those desires are among consenting adults. Unfortunately, it’s common. Conversations about sexuality are often regarded as taboo or inappropriate in the Black community, but this shouldn’t be! Being able to talk openly about sexual desires and interests without judgment or fear of repercussions is essential when looking at sex holistically as something that can bring joy and pleasure instead of shame or guilt. And furthermore, as Black women, we should be leading the charge to help normalize talking openly about sex instead of playing respectability politics.
USA – A chain used to measure the first down marker broke during last weekend’s New York Giants vs Philadelphia Eagles playoff showdown, but it may have just been the best thing to happen to the NFL
A professional dominatrix has made a saucy officer to the NFL following the chain fiasco that held up the New York Giants 7-38 Philadelphia Eagles playoff game last weekend.
But the chains that Ana Kalistasia is used to working with aren’t really designed to measure first down markers in American Football. Not that that’s stopped her from offering her services to NFL Commissioner Roger Goddell, which while unorthodox – may just boost ratings.
USA – Gigi Sohn, President Biden’s pick for a vacant seat on the Federal Communications Commission, is a proud member of a nonprofit that wants to uphold sex work online, and which honors sex workers including a dominatrix who boasts about urinating on people’s faces.
The organization is called the Electronic Frontier Foundation and is designed to protect free speech online.
The group protested against SESTA – a legislation introduced under the Trump administration – that cracks down on sex trafficking in 2017, claiming it would ‘censor’ sex work.
WORLDWIDE – We’ve all seen the videos—life hacks, cooking videos, and more that are so ridiculous you think, “no one would ever actually do that.” Sure, many of them are courting the engagement that can come from our confused reactions, that thought of “let me ridicule this by sharing it,” but some of these videos are straight-up fetish videos disguised as life hacks and other types of content. Like, check out this video that purports to show the application of a spray-on tattoo, or this video of a bride cutting the dress of a bridesmaid. It’s clear there is something going on here—maybe it’s not clear what is going on, but you can be sure that someone, somewhere is getting off to it.
TikTok policy prohibits videos that depict sexual fetishes, but how “sexual fetishes” are defined can be be slippery. These life hack, comedy, or prank style videos might not show people in latex and chains, but they share so many familiar tropes and structures with fetish content and depict things that are so out-of-the-ordinary, it’s hard to not see them as porn. Porn for someone, anyway.
The Miami rap icon opened up about her relationship with the incarcerated Toronto rapper. During her appearance on REVOLT’s “Caresha Please,” she revealed that Tory had a crush on her, but they never took it any further.
THAILAND – Thailand’s Ko Pha-Ngan is revered for its hedonistic party scene and full moon festival, but on the other side of Tantra Island is a community of untrained sexual healers ‘helping tourists recover from trauma’
Jade sex eggs, Japanese shibari rope bondage and tantric massage might not be the most obvious therapeutic tools – but for one tight-knit island community, they are the keys to unlocking ultimate “sexual healing”.
Thailand’s Ko Pha-Ngan is more commonly known as a bucket list destination for revellers hoping to experience a boozyfull moon party – but the island has a very different side where untrained sexual “healers” from all over the world gather to share their tantric practice.
Also known as Tantra Island, Ko Pha-Ngan is home to a “conscious tantric community” who engage in a swathe of unusual practices all in a bid to heal their psychological wounds – and in a new documentary by VICE, reporter Tir Dhondy flew from London to the island to investigate the bizarre retreat.
“Within this community, expats from all around the world have claimed to have created a tantric utopia,” Tir explained.
Tir spent a week on Tantra Island, barely enough time to get a taste of the various classes on offer, which included bondage workshops and “moving meditation” lap-dances.
During a five-hour Japanese ropes session, attendees were encouraged to “find control, lose control”, and tie each other up – even in ways that didn’t feel good.
“Meet those wounds, meet those pains and let them f***ing go,” the instructor said.
“The body is very uncomfortable and reaching many different layers of uncomfort, and that begins to open up the mind.”
Describing the session, Tir said: “It’s long and laboursome. It’s hot and sweaty. I’ve got marks all on my arms. I wouldn’t say ‘enjoying it’ is the right word.”
Another session saw Tir watch on as a tantric masseuse, Roxi, wrapped herself around a very eager client named Yannick, before giving him a full-body experience to stimulate his lingham – another word for his penis.
“When you can relax certain parts of your feet, the lingham will actually get aroused,” Roxy explained.
Each member of the expat community that calls the island home teaches a different form of sexual healing – but the process to become a teacher here isn’t particularly challenging.
One interviewee said: “This is not a regulated industry – there’s no code of conduct. Someone can just take a two-day workshop and they are a massage therapist.”
Another practitioner who identifies just as a “healer”, Heather, explained she’s similar to a sex therapist but “without the licence”.
And it makes sense – throughout the documentary, no practitioner provides a concrete definition for what “tantra” actually is.
Tir’s says she understands the word to mean: “Living in the moment, even at dinnertime; manifesting my will; having a strong yoni [vagina]; knowing how to verbalise my sacred sexuality; and being connected to the fire, air and water of my being.”
But the lack of defined parameters means that some rogue healers are able to take advantage of the guests who come to Ko Pha-Ngan seeking relief from their trauma.
In 2019, a yoga school on the island, Agama, was forced to close its doors after its owner was hit by a swathe of sexual assault claims – although Tir explained that it has quietly reopened recently.
But even its closure didn’t eradicate dodgy practices from the island – one of the tantric healers estimated there was a complaint of sexual abuse on the island every week.
One woman claimed in a Facebook post that a man had offered to clear her vaginal chakras by penetrating her with his fingers.
“So much of the teaching involves being touched by strangers, and it involves doing things that make you uncomfortable,” Tir explained.
“Some men have figured this out, and I think they’ve taken advantage of it.”
AUSTRALIA – SIDNEY – As Sydney springs back to life, we reveal its untold stories. In the first of our series about the things we don’t speak about, we look at the challenges in the sex industry.
There’s more to Mistress Lucilla than her tight corset, high-heeled boots and riding crop. There’s also her master’s degree in psychology, the book she’s writing and her intricate understanding of society.
When I ask her about the large neon crucifix on her wall, she responds, “it’s a place of worship isn’t it?” And, she’s right. Some people worship her for the things she can do.
Even though sex work has been decriminalised since 1995 in NSW, the sex industry still operates largely behind closed doors, and is spoken about in whispers. That is, of course, unless you speak to the people who work in it.
“You often get the question of ‘Why do you do this? Are you being coerced into it?’ Or ‘How can I save you?’ ” Mistress Lucilla said.
“I don’t need saving. I am here to save you, really. I don’t do this for the money. It’s about how many positive life experiences can I offer somebody.”
More people have started to dip their toes in the bondage waters, says Mistress Lucilla, taking the opportunity post-lockdowns to try something new or explore sexual fantasies.
“I’m seeing a wave of what I am calling ‘the bucket listers’. People wanting to try it once, see what it’s like and most likely never do it again.”
The pandemic has had a diverse effect on how the sex industry operates, and with inflation and interest rates on the rise, Mistress Lucilla said that sex is one of the first industries to feel the pinch.
“People get nervous about where they’re spending their money, how they’re spending their money, and pulling inward in the hope to survive.”
Just like any other business, there are peaks and troughs when it comes to demand.
Despite the popularity of her bridles and gags around Melbourne Cup time, Mistress Lucilla said that the racing carnival marks the start of people taking their money elsewhere.
“From Melbourne Cup Day, it starts to get really quiet because everyone’s transitioning to party season.
“And then Christmas parties start, and everyone starts preparing for holidays … so client money will be going to Christmas presents, holidays, and then kids go back to school and people have to pay their credit card bills. So normally, about November through to about the end of February it gets very patchy.”
Jess and Lawrence, owners of swingers club Our Secret Spot in Annandale, had a similar experience to Mistress Lucilla, in that the pandemic sparked a stampede of people who wanted to spice up their sex lives.
“It’s de facto prohibition,” Bates said.
She says that brothels don’t belong “out in the boondocks around smash repair yards” because it “is a most unsuitable and dangerous place for a mostly female workforce to be. Once the sun sets, everybody goes home … There are no trains, no transport, and the clients are scared too.”
As the industry continues to shed stigmas around sex work and workers, it allows services to become more accessible to people who have previously had difficulty accessing premises and finding sex workers.
Rachel Wotton, an academic, sex worker and activist, has been working for more than 20 years to increase the rights of sex workers, as well as the sexual rights for people with disability to access sex worker services if they choose.
Her PhD research is on exploring the experiences of people with disability who access sex work services in Australia.
She says that “the sexual rights of people with disability is still an incredibly contentious issue”, and that these issues are often coupled with poor accessibility of venues, society still not viewing people with disability as sexual human beings and unclear policies in disability organisations around supporting peoples’ sexual and relationship needs.
“Third-party support and support workers can either be the best advocates or the worst gatekeepers,” said Wotton.
Although a lot of progress has been made in dismantling stigmas around sex work and those who access it, Wotton said that there is still a long way to go.
“Things that need to change include … More positive media outlining sex work as real work and for people to stop demonising clients.”
And also, “allow sex workers from other countries to get work visas equal to other occupations and industries”.
Put simply, allow them to work, pay their bills and provide for their families equal to any other occupation. Because, at the end of the day, they’re just doing their job.
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