The beauty of the BDSM world is the consensual exchange of power and trust between the parties involved.

Source: Glamourmagazine.co.uk.

UK – I recently watched the documentary We Need to Talk About Cosby, based on the allegations that Bill Cosby* drugged and sexually assaulted multiple women.

See larger photo on: Glamourmagazine.co.uk.

Like many, I was extremely concerned by the comments made by Sonalee Rashatwar, a sex therapist, who argued that in an “idyllically sex-positive world,” someone should be able to “pay conscious women to come and be drugged” so that they can “get [their] kink out” for their “fetish of having sex with unconscious people.” Rashatwar argued: “There’s a consensual way to do that.”

This is not only problematic; it’s impossible. Rashatwar has since apologised for the comments, but it’s worth interrogating them in further detail.

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