UK – Former soap star Ken Morley once “got a bit hot and bothered” over Barbara Knox’s outfit while filming ‘Coronation Street’, and he used to imagine his fellow cobbles co-star Julie Goodyear “as a dominatrix”
Ken Morley used to imagine his ‘Coronation Street’ co-star Julie Goodyear “as a dominatrix”.
The former soap star – who played supermarket manager Reg Holdsworth from 1989 to 1995 – admitted he had his own crushes on set, including Julie (Bet Lynch), who once gave him a slap after he kissed her toes.
He told The Sun newspaper: “She was another fantastic sex symbol and I often imagined her as a dominatrix – and she did at least slap me once.
“I remember doing this scene where she was on a bed and I was on the floor and I decided to kiss her bare toes, then run my tongue up her legs.
“As I reached her knee, Julie slapped me on the head and the whole place fell about laughing. It was then I realised we’d make a great comedy double act.”
The 77-year-old actor has also admitted he once “got a bit hot and bothered” over Barbara Knox’s (Rita Tanner) outfit on the cobbles.
He said: “For some inexplicable reason Barbara was wearing this fantastically sexy crinoline dress, and without thinking about it, I got a bit hot and bothered.
“As I waltzed out of camera shot, one of the floor managers came across to ask what was going on.
“When I explained something had come up, he suggested we take a few minutes’ break.”
Ken – who married his wife Susan in 1989 – also fancied Sherrie Hewson, who played his on-screen spouse Maureen, and he even had a thing for one of the ‘Corrie’ bosses.
He added: “Back then we all watched ‘Coronation Street’ in black and white, with characters like Albert Tatlock, Minnie Caldwell, Ena Sharples and Stan and Hilda Ogden.
“Leonard Swindley was a great character and Elsie Tanner, played by Pat Phoenix, we all loved her on screen.
“I must confess, decades later I fancied the executive producer Carolyn Reynolds. But we were both happily married and she was the boss.”
IT was a trailblazing career cut short by a “moment of stupidity”, but today Frank Bough, who has died at the age of 87, is being remembered as one of the TV greats.
As one of Britain’s top presenters for over three decades, the ex-footballer fronted BBC sports programme Grandstand and launching the Breakfast TV show in 1983.
But in 1988, it all came crashing down amid lurid allegations of cocaine parties with prostitutes and four years later, he was pictured leaving a “dungeon party” at the flat of a dominatrix prostitute.
The star – who passed away in a care home last week – ducked out of the limelight after the revelations, but remained married to wife Nesta, the mother of his three sons.
He later revealed he regretted the lapse, but hoped to be remembered for the unflappable, reassuring style of presenting that endeared him to millions of TV viewers.
“It was a brief but appalling period in my life,” he said. “Don’t condemn my entire career for a brief episode I regret.”
Two years of pestering for BBC role
The son of an upholsterer from Stoke On Trent, Frank was born in 1933 and raised in Shropshire, where he went to a local grammar school before winning a scholarship to Oxford.
Frank met Nesta Howells while he was doing National Service and the couple married as soon as he left the army, going on to have three sons – David, Stephen and Andrew.
Despite landing a good job at ICI, Frank was so determined to become a broadcaster he pestered the BBC for two years before landing a slot on regional news programme, Home at Six, in Newcastle, which later became Look North.
His sports knowledge soon saw him taking over as presenter of Sportsview in 1964 and fronting BBC’s Sports Review of the Year, now Sports Personality of the Year, for 18 years.
He was also part of the commentating team for the 1966 World Cup, witnessing England’s legendary victory over West Germany to win the tournament.
But Frank’s most famous stint was as the face of the BBC’s flagship sports show Grandstand, from 1968 to 1982, covering everything from the Olympic Games and FA Cup finals to the Grand National.
His fellow presenters praised his ability to remain calm, whatever went wrong on the live show.
Michael Parkinson once remarked: “If my life depended on the smooth handling of a TV show he’d be the one I’d want in charge”.
But he later admitted he was under strain at times.
“There was a lot of bloodshed on the programme, I can tell you,” he said.
“The language and shouting I could hear in my earpiece was, at times, horrific! After four-and-a-half hours of that I would totter away absolutely knackered. It was hard but we were trying to make the best programme we could.”
In 1972 he began presenting Nationwide, the BBC’s early evening news programme and in the same year, he covered the Munich Olympics, which saw 11 members of the Israeli team murdered by the Palestinian terrorist group Black September.
“It was a bizarre situation,” he later said. “The athletics continued while people were getting killed.”
In a lighter moment, he famously appeared in a sketch on the Morecambe and Wise Christmas Show, singing There Ain’t Nothing Like A Dame, alongside Eddie Waring and Barry Norman.
The comedy show attracted a record-breaking 21 million viewers.
Scandal that ruined clean cut image
When the BBC decided to launch the first live breakfast show in 1983, Frank was a natural choice.
His laid-back style and love of cosy jumpers were an instant hit with Breakfast Time viewers and co-presenter Nick Ross praised the “sense of serenity and reassurance” he brought to the show.
But his image as a clean-cut family man was shattered in 1988 after revelations that he wore women’s lingerie at cocaine parties with prostitutes and he was sacked by the BBC.
He soon landed a job covering the Rugby World Cup on rival channel, ITV, but four years later he was snapped leaving a prostitute’s flat in London.
The dominatrix reportedly ran S&M parties in a “dungeon”, involving a cage and school canes.
After the scandal hit the headlines, he told the press: “I have been exceedingly stupid and I accept that.
“I caused a lot of pain to my wife and my family and I bitterly regret all these things – but I have to say that I believe that everybody, when they have difficulties with their marriage or sexuality, surely has the right to sort these things out in the privacy of their own home.”
Loyal Nesta stood by her husband but later admitted she had been angry and had considered leaving him.
Speaking on a Sky News programme, she said: “Obviously I have thought, ‘Do I stay or do I go?’.
“We have been together a long time. We have brought up a family.
“We have still got a lot going for us. I do feel betrayed by it, but I do not feel that it is anything personal to do with me.”
Tributes to “inspirational” broadcaster
Sadly, despite some stints on LBC and Sky, Frank’s career never fully recovered from the blow.
But today he is being remembered as one of the UK’s best broadcasters – and one of the nicest men in the business.
Jeff Stelling added: “I met Frank Bough when I was a young reporter. He was kind, helpful and generous with his time. His brilliant career was blighted by scandal but I hope people will remember how fine a broadcaster he was. One of the very best in the business.”
Presenter Nick Owen tweeted: “RIP Frank Bough. I regarded him as the ultimate broadcaster who combined news and sport brilliantly. Whatever the scandals that broke around him, he was an inspiration to me when I started in tv more than 40 years ago.”
Piers Morgan tweeted: “RIP Frank Bough, 87. Star of Grandstand, Nationwide and Breakfast Time. His career was ruined by scandal, but he was one of the great live TV presenters. Sad news.
USA – LOS ANGELES – A photo of a dominatrix taking her submissive for a walk through a Los Angelessupermarket has gone viral.
The image, which was taken in a health food store, was posted on Twitter and racked up more than 100k likes.
It was captioned: “Spotted at Erewhon today.”
Erewhon is described as an ‘upscale health-food store’ which ‘earns buzz for its organic, local and sustainable groceries and prepared fare’.
Well, shoppers got quite the shock when they saw the dominatrix, wearing a skimpy outfit and chunky, black boots with another person being led through the store on all fours,.
However, the mystery dominatrix was soon tracked down and named as Mistress Lark.
Speaking to the Daily Dot, Lark said: “I just wanted some juice.”
You can’t argue with that.
She went on to explain: “I was out with my sub and my friends shooting some videos and just doing shopping. We stopped in Erewhon. Lots of cameras and attention, but the security let us through valet and let us check out our pricey basket before finally asking us to leave.”
However, she disagrees with claims from some that she was whipping her client.
She added: “Didn’t have a dog bowl yet. We bought one after. I did paddle him. No more than twice though.
“He tried to touch my leg too high up my thigh and I didn’t like it. There weren’t any children nearby or anything.”
It’s not the first time a similar act has happened in public.
Video footage emerged last year of the bizarre moment a dominatrix led a man on a leash through a busy London train station.
The man – who was not identified – was decked out in entirely black clothing, crawling on all fours, holding a sign which appears to say: “On Probation for Miss Foxx”.
That would liven up your commute a bit, no doubt.
The whole affair unfolded at Waterloo Station and was captured and shared across social media by a user called Dutty Boukmann. He captioned the video: “Whose dad is this?”
The footage showed commuters, coppers, and train station staff all gawping on in confusion and amusement as a man is walked around on his lead. The whole time, a woman – Miss Foxx, we can only assume – is stood nearby holding the chain around his neck.
She was wearing a short leather skirt and high heels, and even seems to have a chat to a few members of the British Transport Police at one stage.
UK – Ever wondered how you can incorporate some kink into your sex life? Daily Star Online spoke to dominatrix Mistress Iris who shared her saucy bedroom tips
Are you trying to mix things up in the bedroom?
If so, a dominatrix has revealed her kinky sex tips for tantalising your partner under the sheets.
Mistress Iris was just 19 years of age when she met a boy who was naturally more submissive.
As a teenager, the model knew she was more dominant – despite not having an experience in BDSM.
After six years of experimenting and honing her new set of skills, Mistress Iris decided to become a dominatrix.
Now speaking exclusively to Daily Star Online, the sex expert has shared her saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom.
She said: “Soon after [I became a dominatrix] I started posting artistic femdom photography I created to promote my career.
“I received a lot of messages from kink curious followers thanking me for inspiring them to explore their sexuality.
“Also I realised how much of a gap there was in representation of kink and BDSM outside of porn.
“So I really began to invest my energy into creating femdom art photography and short films.”
Mistress Iris shared five saucy tips for dominating in the bedroom:
Explore what turns you on – you can’t work out your likes and dislikes unless you experiment
Have a willing participant – find someone who consents to explore power play with you
Talk to your partner(s) about what you both might want to try – always set your boundaries first before getting jiggy
Give your partner an out – picking a safe word is important for keeping both parties happy
Take care of your partner afterwards (aftercare) – once you’ve finished experimenting, have a debrief and talk through what worked and what didn’t
She says it’s important to bring up your desire to explore your dominance if you have an existing partner.
And since people aren’t mind readers, talk about what you’d like to try under the sheets.
When it comes to BDSM, Mistress Iris claims it’s very important to agree on a safeword so know a real “no” from a playful one.
The dominatrix continued: “Don’t think about what other people might think of you.
“Pay attention to what really turns you on and be kind to yourself about it.
“Maybe there are things you’ve seen or thought about but quickly dismissed because it was too embarrassing or weird to you.
“Revisit those thoughts and start searching for how-to videos, articles, etc. I’m sure you’re not the only one with those inclinations.”
Deeper.com (part of Vixen Media Group) is a luxury adult content site that has narrative focused videos depicting kinky fantasies.
It can be a good source for diving “deeper” into what turns you on.
Mistress Iris also collaborated on a short film with their talented director Kayden Kross called the “Interview“.
She recommends watching it if you’re curious about domination that is all about the psychology of power play, and not the whips and chains you typically associate with BDSM.
UK – When you hear the term ‘sex worker’, who do you think of? Does your brain automatically associate the term with scantily-clad women on the street corner or loose women who need to be saved? Do you think of strippers? Do you think of women who lack a moral compass and a college degree shaking all they have?
If so, allow me to be the sex worker nextdoor. Hi, I’m Victoria, also known as “Vivienne”. I have a degree in politics and human rights. I’m a journalist, opinion writer, and a financial and lifestyle dominatrix. The fact that I am a sex worker doesn’t invalidate my intelligence, accomplishments, or work. Sex workers are not a caricature of hypersexuality — we’re the everyday people around you.
I am not seen as the “typical candidate” to become a sex worker by society, but I was a survival sex worker all the same. I was 21, in college, and already accepting financial help from my loved ones when I realized I was in a bind as the job market for women in journalism isn’t exactly promising. As a type one diabetic, I wasn’t able to afford food, bills, and medication with the money I had in the bank. I had heard of online financial domination a few years earlier, when a man on Tinder paid me to speak to him after a few weeks of ignoring his messages. I had nothing to lose and everything to gain, so I dove into it. I didn’t see much of an option: I had to get the medication and food I needed to survive.
In the year I’ve been in the industry, I’ve learned a lot about myself, my values, goals, and interests. My mom knows. I’ve become a better, more emotionally intelligent person. I understand men in a way I never have before, which makes me a better romantic partner. I’m debt-free and financially secure at 22, which is a gift in and of itself during a catastrophic pandemic.
What I found through sex work, in addition to the money I needed to survive, was a community unlike any other I had been in before, and five best friends. In kink and through BDSM, people are allowed to be their most true and authentic selves, free of judgment or obligations that trail them in everyday life. While the idea of a money fetish may seem odd to some, financial domination is the ultimate power exchange. To forgo luxury and give the literal fruits of your labor — your income — to someone who you value and enjoy being in the presence of is a wonderfully intimate experience, even if that might sound strange to some.
Money has its own sexual energy — we eroticize the security it gives, and we value wealth and security in our partners. FinDom takes that a step further and allows admirers to give something tangible and real to their dommes: wealth.
There’s a social stigma attached to young women who seek out elderly partners to benefit financially — so-called “gold diggers” — but why are the women criticized for seeking out these partners and not the men, who are wielding financial security to create unequal relationships? Frankly, because patriarchy and its toxic values are so deeply entrenched in our perception of what women should do, be, and even look like.
Financial domination is what happens when women realize their value to men and attach a price tag to access. It’s a reversal of that power imbalance that has been weaponized against women for generations. Weaponizing femininity is a result of oppression and I won’t apologize for using “what my mama gave me” in an uncertain economy.
I never planned on writing about my sex work — until I was subjected to targeted harassment. A disgruntled submissive was encouraged by their dominatrix to find my personal information and publish it, repeatedly, with the intention of ruining my career in journalism. But I’m not ashamed to be a sex worker. It’s simply another job, a particularly lucrative one that I enjoy, and one I want to de-stigmatize.
Some people have told me financial domination is “immoral”, but I don’t see anything wrong with taking from men in a consensual power exchange where both parties benefit. Those outside of the kink often call financial dominatrixes leeches or manipulative while failing to understand that this is a conscious choice, and calling our submissives “crazy” devalues the fact that the men and women who choose and consent to send are of sound mind. Our submissives aren’t forced into it — they’re equal participants who seek us out for personal, mutual enjoyment. When you’re practicing risk-aware consensual kink, there’s no harm done.
The adult star was caught filming an S&M porn with the priest and another woman and following her arrest she said she has been having nightmares and panic attacks
USA – A dominatrix who was allegedly caught filming an S&M porn video with a priest at a church altar has said that she is having nightmares and panic attacks following her arrest. She has started a fundraiser under GoFundMe and is aiming to raise money for the payment of her lawyers’ fees and medical leave. Her fundraiser launched on October 9 has raised at least $9,000.
Melissa Cheng was arrested last month for engaging in a threesome that involved fellow performer Mindy Dixon, 41, and Louisiana priest Travis Clark, 37, in the Saints Peter and Paul Roman Catholic Church in Pearl River. We had earlier reported that the incident came to light on September 30 when an unidentified witness reportedly saw the two corset-wearing dominatrices having sex with a half-naked Clark while filming equipment was set up, cops said.
Following her arrest, a reportedly distressed Cheng wrote a long note in her fundraiser message. The 23-year-old wrote that her conduct was not criminal. “It is unfortunate that I am being presented to the world as a criminal when, in fact, I have done nothing wrong. All parties involved were consenting adults. Everything that occurred took place behind closed doors, on private property, and none of the conduct alleged was criminal in nature.”
She stressed how she is being demonized after the incident. “The fact that I am being vilified like this is quite frankly, appalling. I understand that people may be upset by this situation, but that does not make this conduct illegal or criminal in any way.” She said that she would have to take a break from work after this incident. “In order for me to come out of this in a strong, empowered, and healthy way, I must take a hiatus from work, and social media, as my life has been overtaken by the publicity of this scenario.”
The dominatrix further wrote, “The bail <which has already been paid>, the time off work, time spent in jail, content lost and seizure of My belongings <film lighting equipment, 1k worth of makeup> lawyer fees and the toll on My mental and physical well being has amounted to no small price.” She also spoke about her deteriorating mental health after the incident. “The trauma and mental & physical stress of the situation has caused My chronic preexisting health condition, P.O.T.S Syndrome to flare up again, when previously in recovery up until this present moment.”
Who is Melissa Cheng?
Melissa Cheng is an Atlanta-based adult star. She is a dominatrix and says is a believer of “safe, sane, consensual, and private BDSM practices”. She goes by the name ‘Satanatrix’ on her Instagram handle and often posts her semi nudes.
The Sun reported that Cheng, known in the BDSM community as Empress Ming, charges $350 for one hour, $700 for two hours and $1,050 for three hours for her work. After the recent case, she had to seek monetary help as she takes time off work.
UK – A dominatrix has insisted that people should ‘accept this sort of behaviour’ after her and her ‘slave’ were barred from a gastropub in Cumbria for public sadomasochistic display.
Dominatrix Lydia Chadwick, 30, had tied her ‘slave’ to a roof beam with a dog lead and spanked the masked person with a paddle on Sunday evening at The Mill in Ulverston – in full view of other diners.
Customers who witnessed the sadomasochistic session filmed the bizarre episode and shared it online.
But Lydia defended her actions, telling The Sun: ‘People should get out of the dark ages and accept this sort of behaviour.
‘Most people are just treating it as a laugh.’
Lydia added that she had taken a friend from Camden, who identifies as a woman, into the pub because she wanted to be publicly humiliated.
She said: ‘She said she wanted to be publicly humiliated so I was going to take her to a local beauty spot where the walkers go.
‘We thought we would give them something to laugh at. I did that for another customer before the lockdown.
‘But we were running out of time and decided to go for a drink in The Mill.
‘I was going to walk her on a dog lead, but she got embarrassed with everyone looking at us.
‘We signed in and went to the roof terrace, where I chained her to the rafters.
‘I blindfolded her and pretended to walk away and leave her as part of the humiliation. I was videoing it and we didn’t think anyone else could see.’
In the video, the sound of the spanking could be heard above the soundtrack of Lovely Day by Bill Withers.
The ‘slave’ was dressed in black fishnet stocking and suspenders and red knickers, while the mistress wore a black dress as she beat his bottom with a black paddle.
Lydia, who said being a dominatrix is ‘just a job’, said she did not mean to upset The Mill and will ‘apologise to them’, adding that her family were upset after the video was shared online.
But the owner of The Mill has slammed the couple for their exhibitionism after the X-rated incident and barred them from the pub.
A picture on social media also shows a message allegedly written by a member of staff after the incident.
It read: ‘I sat them upstairs on the terrace, these lads came down that were sat up there ten minutes later telling us to go up and see what’s happening – and she has tied them up with a dog lead on one of the beams, whipping them.’
Michelle Wood, general manager of The Mill, told The Sun that it was not ‘behaviour that we wanted to encourage’.
She said: ‘The couple signed in as all customers are asked to do for pandemic regulations and it was obvious that the man was dressed as a woman.
‘But in 2020 if you turn men away because they are dressed as women then it is discrimination.
‘One of the other customers started filming what was going on and then came to tell the staff.
‘They just embarrassed us for her financial gain.’
The couple are believed to be part of the BDSM community. BDSM refers to often erotic practices which can involve bondage, dominance or submission.
One witness wrote on Twitter: ‘Unreal scenes coming from The Mill in Ulverston.’
Lydia, a self confessed ‘mistress’, said most of her clients are in the UK but also has some overseas, adding that she does what ‘people ask me to do for them’, including humiliation and cross-dressing.
Phil Simpson, owner of The Mill, believes the couple has ties to the Ulverston area and hit out at them for seeking to ’embarrass small local businesses’.
Mr Simpson added: ‘As soon as we spotted this couple’s activities they were told to leave our premises.
‘They are now barred and having seen their post on social media the police have now contacted us for more information.
‘We believe that the woman involved is Ulverston-based and we find it quite depressing that such people should seek to embarrass small local businesses in this manner for financial gain.’
UK – Coronavirus has forced the world into lockdown and now sex dungeons are having to go ‘above ground’ and online to start streaming their kinky content and keep their businesses afloat amid the global pandemic
Coronavirus has changed everything about the way we live. Social distancing has made it difficult for many self-employed people to stay afloat. And that’s especially true of dominatrixes.
n the US, for example, the massive government Covid-19 bailout bill specifically excludes legal sex workers from protection.
Swarm, a sex worker-led collective, says that it has already used donations to support over 200 sex workers.
But many more dominatrixes are just making the best of a bad situation. Top UK dominatrix Mistress Evilyne explained to Daily Star Online that she has always had a sideline in online video, and the lockdown has just made that side of her business more important.
She uploads a new “socially-isolated” video every couple of days and broadcasts a regular live stream of herself reading erotic stories: “I also interact with my followers via private message and make extra money from them sending me tips to show their gratitude and appreciation,” she says.
But Mistress Evilyne was in a better position to make the switch than most of her peers: “I started camming as soon as I became a dominatrix,” she says. While she has video stores on a few platforms “my online income mostly comes from OnlyFans.”
She says that most of her regular slaves have followed her online now, and more are finding her every day: “I rank very highly on Google,” she explains, “and I have close to 50K followers on Twitter.
It isn’t easy though, she says, there is a lot of hard work involved in establishing an online presence. “It took me years to create not just a persona, but also enough content to earn a decent living from. It doesn’t happen overnight,” she said.
One of the biggest problems is making sure that her content isn’t copied by unscrupulous fans: “Unfortunately, none of us are immune to the laws of the internet.
“Once I finally did have a large following, I started to see my content being pirated left right and centre. It happens on such a scale that it is impossible to keep up. New pirated material appears faster than you can get it taken down.”
Still, Mistress Evilyne has built the following and the expertise to weather the storm: “Thank goodness I had already built up my online presence before this hit.
“It will be a very difficult transition from realtime to online for a lot of sex workers. My business has barely been impacted at all because I already had a strong online presence and established sources of online income which are booking in the current climate.”
Mistress Evilyne also uses social media to share knowledge about monetising content with other dominatrixes: “We all support each other with tips and advice,” she says. “I run a private group chat dedicated to kinky content creators using subscriptions services such as OnlyFans, LoyalFans and AVN stars.”
She’s also one of the organisers of The Femdom Ball – a regular annual event for dominatrixes and their slaves – but she isn’t completely sure whether this year’s will be going ahead yet: “The annual International Femdom Ball is still very much on the cards for October. We shall wait until closer to the date to make a definite decision on whether or not it will take place this year. “
Coronavirus has changed everything about the way we live.
But maybe people who are used to living differently have already made a head start on that.
UK/BIRMINGHAM – The coronavirus lockdown has been a financial disaster for £150-an-hour dominatrix Mistress Lagertha.
Most of her income is generated from one-on-one sessions which she decided to suspend shortly before the official ‘lockdown’ advice was issued.
And, despite her best efforts, she hasn’t been able to generate much money by doing more online work.
Mistress Lagertha – named after a Viking warrior – was earning up to £400 a month before the lockdown but now her income is down to just a few pounds from video sales and phone line work.
“This has hit me really badly,” she said.
“Clients have cancelled visits but the worst part of it, as someone who lives alone, is being on your own in lockdown. It is no fun at all.”
The 40-year-old dominatrix, who did not want to reveal her real name, had been seeing around four clients a month until the lockdown.
Now, she only sees one client – a ‘sub’ (submissive male) – who buys her food from the supermarket and drops it off on her doorstep.
“I started staying in one week before the lockdown became official because I am in one of the vulnerable categories as I have asthma and my immune system is compromised.
“Because I live alone, it has been very difficult. Normally people visit me but that has been taken away.”
Her income has dropped and she won’t be able to manage financially for much longer.
“I am self-employed and I don’t have any savings. I have previously applied for Universal Credit but did not qualify so I am hesitant to apply for it now,” she said.
“My income was between £200 and £400 per month with phone line work as well. Since the lockdown started I have earned £100 – that was for a video cam. Other nights I have earned nothing.
“Now that everybody has moved to online working, everyone has had their income watered down.”
Mistress Lagertha, who is single and based near Birmingham, with clients in Bradford and Manchester, is very fond of her clients and counts some as her friends.
“Most of my clients see me on a regular basis and are friends. They are missing my company and, on a physical level, they are not getting their kinks indulged,” she said.
But working online and doing chatlines are not as lucrative as some may think, she says.
“I made 17 dollars from two chats,” she added. “I can also sell videos but I recently found someone had stolen my content and was giving it away for free. In February I earned 95 dollars for videos and now I can only do solo videos.”
Mistress Lagertha had just began to make her name for herself as a dominatrix when the coronavirus crisis arrived.
“It has taken me three years to get to this point. When the lockdown started I had just got back from Spain which was the first holiday paid for by a ‘sub’.”
Since then she has been unable to see regular clients including a man who flies in from Germany, a self-employed carpenter and a businessman.
“Financially, I am OK for four weeks. I will have to make a decision soon whether I can afford to isolate or go back to work as a dominatrix. Some sex workers cannot afford to isolate.”
And, she says, clients are feeling desperate too.
“They are getting desperate (to see me). They are getting pushy. A few have asked to see me. Some still need to get their fix of escapism which I provide them with.
“Doing something over a video camera isn’t enough.”
She added: “In the last week I have had three people contact me and I can tell they are desperate. I am getting messages from people saying they can’t cope and they are struggling.
“People who are single can feel as lonely and as isolated as I feel. Personally, I am missing the contact with a lot of them.
“They help to keep me mentally happy. They are loyal, they are a distraction and they provide friendship. And they help pay my bills.
“What I do is part of who I am. It (lockdown) is almost like having an arm chopped off. I do what I do for the love of it.
“But now I am at the point of begging clients for money. Some have paid for sessions in advance but some cannot afford to pay for sessions as they have had their wages cut.”
Mistress Eva is one of the most in-demand Mistresses in the BDSM world. She writes about the large increase in sign-ups to her BDSM training website during the COVID-19 pandemic.
As quarantines went into place around the world due to the novel coronavirus pandemic, signups on my BDSM training website surged. The first wave came when China went into lockdown in January, but an even larger one arrived when major cities in the U.S. started shutting down.
The world of BDSM, fetishes, and power dynamics are a comfort for many in the best of times. So it isn’t surprising to see people moving toward websites and services such as mine in times where they seek even greater levels of reassurance, understanding, and intimacy.
When news of COVID-19 first hit me I reacted like many of us may have: I thought about my family and my personal safety. I felt an uneasy uncertainty about what was to come. But as my Dominatrix side kicked in, my fetishes for latex hoods, imprisoning others, and mummification (where you literally wrap someone up in different materials like an Egyptian mummy) started to titillate and perhaps distract my mind.
BDSM is made up of many parts that include specific fetishes, such as feet or bondage, and power dynamics like those between a Dominant and submissive. These interests and needs can be considered taboo, and identifying with them tends to already isolate you from everyday society. So when you do find people who accept and appreciate your desires it can lead to heightened levels of shared honesty, understanding, and intimacy. It can create a bond and provide a comforting space where supposed extremes of personality are treasured and maybe even relished within.
Then there are the roles and the comfort that they can provide in and of themselves. Be it Mommy-baby, Mistress-slave or Dominant-submissive—when you choose to subscribe to a specific role it can lead to a sense of liberation. It can offer a chance to leave everyday life behind and step into the surrender that being a “baby” may allow or to embody a sense of control that the role of “Mistress” may require.
In these times, I am seeing my pool of submissives move a little more toward their “baby” sides—embodying a sense of helplessness and rolling around in it. Now, as someone who identifies as a Dominant and Mistress, I attract personalities who seek to offer their vulnerability to me regardless. But what I have seen since quarantines and lockdowns arrived is that a slightly higher need for attention, reassurance, and a sense of protection has come with it. Those who are new to me are spending a lot of time logged in to my BDSM training site, and the dedicated ways that they are completing their courses and tasks is endearing. But among those who I’ve known for longer and on a deeper level, I see how their usual desires have acquired an added intensity, and their need for my support in the events of their lives is elevated. Their particular kinks—be it for latex, anal play, or chastity—haven’t shifted but they’ve had to become more virtually-administered, and I predict that 2021 is going to be quite an exhaustingly pleasurable year for us.
“Among those who I’ve known for longer and on a deeper level, I see how their usual desires have acquired an added intensity, and their need for my support in the events of their lives is elevated.”
Pre-coronavirus I would travel to meet with my inner circle of slaves and submissives each month and we would share two or three days together in cities around the world. We would visit fetish shops, attend BDSM events, and meet up with my network of Dominatrices. I hung on to this routine for as long as I could. But three weeks ago, on my way to such a trip in London, I had to turn around at Singapore’s Changi Airport and return to Bali. They were closing the Indonesian borders to U.K. arrivals and I didn’t want to be barred from where I have come to consider home. But with this I had to leave a slave of mine on their own, already in London, and perched right on the cusp of lockdown. My slave was also there for a work trip, but regardless of that distraction their tone shifted, and despite my efforts for more frequent interaction there was a hint of panic in his voice.
Now this slave is back in their home country—albeit in quarantine, and thankfully his tone has quietened. But that edge and panic soon began to show itself among all of my submissives as my other travel plans came to a standstill and the prospect of us meeting up went on an indefinite hold. My submissives began to reach out through messages with greater frequency, and as the reality of being grounded in Bali took hold I began to devise a strategy for us. I have now started a roster of weekly or fortnightly video calls where we mostly talk about our lives and families, we make plans for once these times are settled, sometimes we swap business crisis-management ideas, and occasionally we play to our kinks. In between these calls I assign them tasks to enliven their quarantines and remind them of us: business shirts and latex chaps during Zoom meetings, YouTube-ing various handwashing techniques, and one slave and I are even about to embark on an academic online course together.
With that being said, I don’t feel too much has changed in our relationships. There may be an extra sense of the unknown but my role as our leader and them as those under my care continues. When these times pass and borders re-open our routines will shift again, perhaps even back to what it was before. I may go back to traveling with my submissives every month, and we may even find ourselves at fetish events among their thousands of attendees. Some may have acquired new kinks for being washed thoroughly or may be embracing a newfound desire for spit as edgeplay.
The initial lockdown may have taken hold of many of us, inspiring an influx of interest in my BDSM training site and a panic among my nearest and dearest. But what has shown itself so far is that the need for connection, intimacy, reassurance, and stability prevails, as always—and BDSM and the nature of the power dynamic that I practice as a Mistress over my submissives seems to provide for this. The times simply make it more obvious.
NEW YORK – Aviva Diamond, 33, has worked as a dominatrix in New York City for more than six years, specializing in slave training, humiliation, foot fetishes and more. But after pivoting to online sessions only, she now finds herself in a bind.
I started getting concerned messages from clients in mid-March as the coronavirus became more of a threat. They were wondering if it was safe to meet for sessions, or if their business trips to New York would even happen.
I’ve now had thousands of dollars of cancellations this month, and I have no physical sessions scheduled for the foreseeable future. A typical week consists of eight to 15 hours of in-person sessions — making up 90 percent of my income — and another 20 to 30 hours of administrative work.
It’s been a challenge for me to make this shift from mostly in-person sex work to exclusively operating online. I am producing more femdom videos, adding content to my online subscription platforms like Onlyfans, promoting and expanding on social media, and offering phone and Skype sessions.
But online sessions and content are sold at a fraction of my rate for physical sessions, so I have to hustle much harder to make less than what I was making before.
And there’s really no substitute for the physical contact of in-person BDSM sessions.
I’m concerned about the long-term economic effects this will have on me. Luxury experiences are one of the first things people stop paying for during a recession, so my work is likely to be jeopardized for many months.
UK – The Pussycat Dolls’ tour may be postponed due to the coronavirus, but that didn’t stop Nicole Scherzinger from teasing fans on Instagram on Wednesday.
The lead singer, 41, posted a throwback clip of herself in a plunging latex bodysuit and military style peaked cap from a photoshoot with the band.
Nicole appeared in her element as she struck a series of sultry poses in the dominatrix costume.
Nicole flashed plenty of cleavage as she went braless in the rubber leotard which cinched in her tiny waist thanks to its corset detailing.
The Don’t Cha hitmaker amped up the sex appeal with thigh-high latex boots, pearl earrings and a matching necklace which drew attention to her ample assets.
Dancing to Kelis’ hit Milkshake, Nicole captioned the racy video with the lyric: ‘I could teach you, but I have to charge’ #PCD.’
The X Factor’s judge’s latest steamy post comes after she and boyfriend Thom Evans shared an energetic dance routine on Monday night after jetting out of London despite the UK coronavirus lockdown.
The songstress and former rugby player, 34, took to Instagram to reveal they had ‘finally’ got viral video app TikTok.
In the TikTok video, the star and Thom shared an energetic and synchronised dance routine to a remixed version of U Can’t Touch This by MC Hammer. They captioned it: ‘Well… I finally gave in to @tiktok.’
Nicole showcased her toned figure in a black crop top and figure-hugging leopard print gym leggings, while Thom displayed his ripped torso in a black vest top with shorts.
The fun videos comes after Nicole and Thom were spotted jetting out of London on Saturday despite the UK coronavirus lockdown.
The American singer and former rugby player were pictured outside Gatwick Airport wearing face masks amid the global pandemic.
The Foreign and Commonwealth Office (FCO) has advised that all ‘non-essential’ travel abroad should be avoided until at least April 15.
While last Monday, Prime Minister Boris Johnson ordered the immediate closure of all non-essential shops and threatened people with fines or even arrest if they do not ‘stay at home’.
UK – EXCLUSIVE Francesca Freeman would inflict pain on doctors, bankers and lawyers earning up to £3,000 a week but having tormented more than 1,000 willing men, she has become a sex therapist
High-heeled dominatrix Francesca Freeman made a decent living out of lashing men – but now has hung up her whips to have a crack at a new job.
Francesca would charge £250 an hour to inflict excruciating pain on eager, submissive clients.
Kinky regulars included doctors, bankers and lawyers.
In tight black latex, Francesca made them plead for her to walk all over them.
She blindfolded them and beat them with cat-o’-nine-tails, canes, whips and paddles.
And they lapped it up. Business was good for Francesca, who earned up to £3,000 a week and made the most of it with a lavish lifestyle.
Satisfied clients, who knew her as Angelica Andrew, showered her with gifts such as £3,500 Ralph Lauren bags and Louis Vuitton boots.
One man flew her business class to St Lucia for a three-day session and paid her with a £16,000 BMW.
As well as physical punishment, Francesca would set the men strict homework – ordering them to send her raunchy pics of themselves while at work.
One client, a surgeon, sent rude snaps to her between performing operations.
But after 15 years of sadistic entertaining, Francesca decided to knock it on the head.
Having tormented more than 1,000 willing men, she has become a sex therapist.
Today she is more likely to straighten out men’s kinks rather than indulge them.
It was a painful episode in her own life that made her seek a fresh path.
Francesca had a romance with a man she met in a pub in the summer of 2017.
He was the love of her life but he split up with her and it broke her heart.
She recalled: “I was devastated and completely broken when he left me and I realised the men who came to see me were in pain too.
“I was masking their pain. I decided I wanted to really help them and help myself too. And that wasn’t hitting men with a whip.
“I look back now and think thank goodness I had this spiritual awakening or I could have ended up in prison.
“The things I was doing to these men were becoming increasingly extreme and could’ve easily gone wrong.”
As a life coach, Francesca, 56, a single mum with an eight-year-old son, is helping men with kinky fetishes and submissive tendencies beat their sex addictions.
She said: “I had an incredible lifestyle as a high-class dominatrix and thought I was really happy.
“But after I was dumped I was heartbroken and fell into depression. I carried on working but realised I was taking out my anger and hurt on the men who came to see me. I thought ‘what am I doing? This is mad.’
“I’d always known that the men who came to see me were in emotional pain but I didn’t care about that.
“I didn’t care about the pain I was causing them either.
“At some point I began talking to my clients and realised they were seeking escapism with me because of their traumatic pasts.
“It was a cycle of abuse I needed to stop.
“I wasn’t helping them or myself, so I decided to quit and re-train to help men.”
She found many of her clients were vulnerable and some were simply trying to escape the monotony of their daily lives.
She said: “I didn’t want to carry that on and vowed to help them battle their demons and sex addictions.
“Men and women tend to think their masochistic tendencies are wired into their core but they’re usually a result of past trauma.
“Leaving the industry was an easy decision and I cried with disgust at the end of my last session.”
Francesca, who has not had sex with any of her former clients, sold all her possessions and spent a month at a retreat in South Goa, India, learning meditation, yoga and healthier ways to combat trauma.
Back in the UK she moved to a rented two-bed bungalow, converted a room into a studio and set up life coaching business Mind Body Men.
It aims to “empower and release men from stress” and steer them from the darker side of the sex industry for instant gratification.
Her one-on-one sessions for men include life coaching, guided meditation, yoga and massage.
She offers life coaching sessions for women – though none of her female clients are sex addicts or have masochistic tendencies. And she plans to train in hypnotherapy.
Her income has taken a hit. The rates are £80 an hour instead of £250 for S&M sessions.
Flash cars and holidays have been replaced by a modest Fiat Punto and gentle family breaks.
Francesca, of Milton Keynes, Bucks, says: “My life isn’t about money any more.
Instead of weeks in the sun while staying in all-inclusive hotels, I’ll take my son camping in Wales.”
Old clients still beg her for dominatrix sessions but she refuses them.
She said: “I’ve helped 30 men fight sex addictions and kinks, including five previous clients. I’m really proud of that.
“Focusing on my son and business is so much more rewarding.
“The men I’ve helped recently thanked me so much for helping them.
“They said I’ve changed their lives for the better.”
(A professional dominatrix, according to the book, is someone “educated in BDSM technique (bondage, discipline, sadomasochism) who safely, ethically and skillfully manifests her client’s kinky fantasies. A “true dominatrix deeply enjoys the feeling of exerting power and control.”)
But, Goldwert adds, the book “ended up being a much more nuanced examination of what it means to ask for what you want and how to ask for it in the workplace and also from ourselves.” Indeed, these professional dominatrixes taught Goldwert a ton about power — of her words, mind, body, desire — as well as key money and career lessons. Here are four lessons from dominatrixes that could change the way you approach your finances and career.
Make your money “serve you”
When I asked Goldwert the No. 1 money lesson she learned from these dominatrix interviews, she told me this: Your purchases and lifestyle should be “serving you.”
“Outside of our bills, our discretionary income is a tool to get us to our goals. And yet, we spend our money to please other people’s expectations of how we should live our lives. This can mean going out for friends’ fancy birthday dinners, attending destination weddings, or buying or leasing a fancier model car. I started to think about all my purchases and the purpose they serve. And if they don’t serve a purpose that will make my life better, I try my hardest to avoid making them. Who is this purchase for? How will it help me? There needs to be an answer,” Goldwert explains.
“Only we know what we need; we can’t let others dictate it for us,” she adds
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Create a “personal code of conduct” to find out if your job is “serving you”
“I was very inspired by the idea of having a personal code of conduct. Your company does, why shouldn’t you? This can help you figure out if your job is serving you or if you’re serving your job,” she explains, laying out these examples:
I deserve to be paid on time
I deserve to be spoken to with respect
I deserve to know what’s expected of me
I need to be able to take my vacation days
“If your workplace or boss continually violates your code of conduct, you may want to think about whether or not you want to work there,” Goldwert adds.
Find your “position of power” when asking for a raise
“Dommes taught me a lot about power dynamics. No one is in a position of power when they’re asking for a raise. However, if you’re doing a good job (and you have the data to back it up), you’re in more of a position of power than you realize. After all, if you leave, your boss will have to find a replacement, train that person, and it will likely be a huge inconvenience for her. So you should go in there not from a position hoping you get a raise but from the stance of raising yourself in her eyes so that it becomes a conversation about keeping you rather than can they keep you happy for a job well done,” Goldwert explains.
Make a “safe space” to talk about money with your partner
“Dominatrixes are communication ninjas. Every aspect of what they do in a session is negotiated beforehand. Every aspect is consensual. Everyone needs to know what will and can happen in a session so no one gets emotionally or physically hurt and everyone will have fun. There’s no room for mixed signals, passive aggression, or not being sure what the other person wants or can handle. How can this be sexy? Well, there’s freedom and joy when you understand how much you can do within boundaries,” says Goldwert.
This is a lesson, she says, that you can apply to how you talk to your partner about money. “Couples cannot be afraid to talk about their finances in detail. Yes, it may feel like torture, there may be shame and fear … A lack of financial communication between couples is just as damaging as a lack of sexual communication. Put your cards on the table early, tell the other that they’re in a safe space to share their financial truths and fears, and then you both can make plans for a future that you can live, love, and grow with,” Goldwert explains.
UK/Ireland – Eva Oh is a 35-year-old Chinese-Burmese-English-Irish professional dominatrix. She grew up in Asia, Australia, and Europe and now works in several cities around the world. She has a network of slaves, including one she lives with. She also hosts podcasts, workshops, and a web series.
Iwas not always a dominatrix. I went through multiple careers, like being a performance artist and a writer. I also started a sustainable design company and worked for the United Nations.
At first, I was doing things that were nurturing for my value system. I could see results that were helping, or could help, people. But when I started working in the corporate world, I realised that what I was doing benefitted the companies more than their consumers. I needed a switch.
I was about 26 years old when I remembered how an ex-boyfriend said that I would make for a good professional dominatrix. I wasn’t into kink, but I must have said or done something that made him think that.
So I did a Google search, found a dungeon in Australia — where I was living at the time — and went in for an interview. They asked me, “Have you ever been in sex work?” and I was like, “Is this sex work?” They said not necessarily; only if I wanted it to be. There was so much I did not know but within my first hour there, I was already helping another dom wrap up a guy.
Navigating all the strong dom women was a big challenge at first because I was the lowest in the ladder. But because I grew up in Asia, I was used to the hierarchy and didn’t question it much.
When you are working in a dungeon or doing professional domination, you are given a list of kinks to carry out. You are a fantasy machine of sorts, which can be fun and suits some people. But my personality is not like that at all — I like to give, but not on that level all the time. I want to decide how and when I please someone’s fantasy, and do it on my terms. So I made being a dominatrix my lifestyle, and quit doing it as a job. I still have clients, but instead of seeing them for a set time in a dungeon, we would establish and build long-term relationships as a dom and slave.
In the dungeon, I was taking all kinds of slaves. As long as their kinks suited me and I was paid according to whatever the house charged, I would do it. Now, I have an application process to ensure that we are compatible.
They have to prove that they know who I am. They must have done their research because they will literally become my partner. If I like what they write, I’ll set up an introductory session that lasts an hour and a half and costs $1,000. I’ll do what I want and see if I like them. If I do, I’ll start dating them, and they pay me monthly or in other ways, like company shares.
It’s like regular dating in the sense that we see each other regularly, but when we are together, it is within the slave-dom dynamic. We can be watching a movie, but I’ll be on the sofa and they will be on the floor. They also sleep on the ground and have to kiss my feet in the morning when I wake up. That’s the job of my main sub, whom I live with. I also have a group of inner-circle slaves whom I see regularly.
Another slave is rebuilding my house now. I have research slaves. I have slaves who post for me on Reddit. A scheduling slave. I have a sub-girl who does my styling and makeup.
If I take you on as a partner, our relationship is not structured by the hour. Rather, it’s like you are my partner, and you pay me to be my slave.
I don’t really work on a daily basis. I wake up, my sub makes me tea, I check in on my other subs. I organise when I’m going to be where, and with whom. I basically live like a retiree, which is nice.
But I am very picky when it comes to my slaves.
People who achieve a lot in the corporate structure are more suited for me. If they run a company and are successful, then it could work, because it could mean that they understand something about responsibilities and outcomes. They have had to adapt, struggle, and understand how outside forces navigate life. I think those are great skills. My slaves, in particular, have them because I can be quite challenging. You have to be a high-functioning individual to survive me.
All of my slaves are either CEOs or board members and those kinds of people can make good slaves because you can’t be a good leader if you don’t understand how to serve those that serve you. You have to understand all the moving parts.
It’s the same with me.
On a personal level, I give a lot in these relationships. I need to see what my slaves’ needs are on a daily basis, and preempt the things they will win and fail at in life and at work. That’s the only way for us to grow. It’s a symbiotic thing. I do it from what looks like a place of power, and yes, I have the last word, but I am always serving the relationship in doing so to make sure they are satisfied throughout.
My slaves are from diverse backgrounds. They were born in Western countries but have traveled a lot or lived in Asia for a long time. I like that because I am a third-culture kid. I like people who can pull from different cultural paradigms.
However, I would say it is much easier to inculcate a slave to understand my hierarchy when they come from a community-centric society like many in Asia.
Western societies are individualistic and work in less hierarchical structures. Therefore, when westerners want to be slaves, they tend to know what their needs are and will ask how they can be fulfilled.
That’s great but when they have no concept of hierarchy, being a slave is a lot less natural and there’s more learning that needs to be done. It’s not impossible, but I need to train them.
One of the sweetest things I learned as a dominatrix is that clients in all types of sex work just want human connection — to be vulnerable and be cared for. This is especially true when it comes to kink because when you are into certain things, you are often marginalised in society. People say, “You are crazy, what is wrong with you?” all the time. Through encounters with sex workers, you find someone who validates you for things others call you crazy for.
Desire looks different for every person, but the core need is always the same — wanting care, connection, and validation. So it is hard for me to be shocked by kinks. I believe that as long as someone is really connected to the idea and it satisfies them, who am I to say that it is not OK?
Correction 01/08/20: A previous version of this article wrongly stated that Eva Oh was a researcher for the World Bank. We regret the error.
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