USA – A man lies on his back on a black bondage table. He’s completely naked, apart from the cloth covering his face and the cuffs locking his neck, wrists and ankles to the table’s base. Oh, and the two clamps on his nipples, which are linked by a silver chain.
Countess Diamond – a dominatrix dressed in thigh-high stiletto boots – kneels between his legs. She takes the man’s dick in her left hand. In her right hand is a thin wooden palette. She brings it down sharply on the head of the man’s penis. “Do you love me,” Countess Diamond asks, a grin playing around the corners of her lips. “Yes,” the man whispers from underneath his face covering.
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USA – DENVER – Behind the one-way windows of a squat warehouse on West Second Avenue is the domain of two professional dominatrixes, one of the premier dungeons in the United States, they say, with clients flying in from around the world.
And you’d better believe them, or you could be punished.
Mile High Dungeon is a sprawling fantasyland of themed rooms in which these dommes bind clients in various positions, engage them in erotic play, and dominate them during all sorts of kinky scenarios (within reason…and the law). Both transplants to Colorado, Domina Elle and Mistress Victoria Marx have lived here for decades, opening their own dungeons and practicing BDSM – bondage, dominance, sadomasochism – for more than twenty years before joining forces three years ago to open the Mile High Dungeon in this space that had been occupied by a computer-security expert until the FBI raided his business in 2015 after he bragged on Twitter about hacking into the controls of a commercial airliner and flying it sideways.
Between private sessions on a recent weekday, Elle and Victoria agree to give Westword a full tour of their business. Elle is dressed in one of her signature latex suits, which are often so tight that she needs lube to get them on. Victoria, who prefers to stick to leather and lace, is wearing a tight corset. Both sport thigh-high boots with six-inch, elevated heels that look so pointy they could probably double as torture instruments. Neither wants her full name used here.
Each prospective dungeon visitor must send Elle or Victoria an email that lists his or her fetishes. There are different categories, based on the colors of a stoplight. Green lights are acts and fetishes that the would-be client is 100 percent okay with exploring. Yellows are maybes. And reds are no-gos. “Most people know what their reds are first,” observes Victoria. “It’s easy to know what you don’t like.”
A common “red light” is heavy pain (though about 5 percent of their clients are really into heavy pain, Victoria notes). “And then a lot of people say, ‘No marks’,” she continues, in reference to the physical reminders of a common BDSM practice: flogging clients with whips and paddles.
“I am fascinated by people’s behaviors, motives and the history behind them,” says Elle, who adds that every client is different, and it’s her job to help them explore themselves, their sexuality and their desires. “Like, I might ask, what’s the first time you remember getting excited about being tied up?” she explains. “And someone might answer, ‘Oh, I saw that Lucky Charms commercial when the leprechaun gets caught in the net.’ The things you hear people say are fascinating.”
Elle declines to say how much a Mile High Dungeon session costs, explaining that prices are negotiable and that all sessions – typically two hours or longer – are customized to fit clients’ individual needs. And although the dommes always ask clients if they have romantic partners, and encourage couples’ sessions, there are some clients who don’t want others to know about their trips to the dungeon.
Client sessions often begin in the Sissy Boudoir, one of five rooms in the facility. It’s essentially an eroticized Hollywood dressing room, complete with wigs, makeup, footwear, coats and even some rubber horse-head masks. The accoutrements help with clients’ role-playing fantasies, explains Victoria. “And it can range from just heels and lipstick to a full transformation.”
While some clients already know what kind of transformation they desire, others take suggestions from the dommes. Elle started dressing up her male friends in her own clothes when she was a teenager, so helping with clients’ makeovers is second nature. “And playing around with the boundaries of gender, I think, is something that’s natural for a lot of people, even if they’re not kinky with it,” she says. “My favorite is when people have been cross-dressing alone for so long, and finally have the courage to step out of that alone place. Then the intimacy between you and the other person acting out this stuff takes on a whole other dimension.”
The Sissy Boudoir also boasts oversized dressing-room mirrors to assist with the costume changes. Then again, there are big mirrors in just about every room of the dungeon; Elle guesses there are forty throughout the sprawling facility.
“The mind-fuck aspect is definitely a big part of all of this,” she says while observing herself in one of those mirrors. “When you can watch yourself in the act, then you have the visual memory. There’s psychological nuances in everything that we do.”
Those psychological nuances extend to all sorts of physical tools and instruments used in various dungeon scenarios. A medical-themed room looks something straight out of a slasher film, with an old-school X-ray machine, an anesthesia device, a stomach pump and a “birthing chair” from the early 1900s with metal stirrups. Elle found that on Craiglist, and says the widow and daughter of a recently deceased urologist sold it to her. “They gave it to me on the condition that I wouldn’t perform abortions, which I agreed to,” Elle recalls. “But they probably wouldn’t have given it to me if they knew what it was really for…”
Adjacent to the medical room is the Black and Blue Room, named after its paint colors; a large suspension frame at the center can be used to bind and suspend people in all sorts of positions. Next to that is the Goddess Room, a relaxing space with a vibe similar to that of a day spa. And finally, there’s a huge room at the back with ceilings that are at least twenty feet high and projection screens displaying looping slideshows with all sorts of kinky imagery, including a guy strapped down on a bench whose erect penis is the only exposed part of his body. In this last room, colored spotlights accentuate a ten-foot-tall suspension frame with an electric winch mounted on top that can be used to mechanically raise up…stuff. There’s also a spanking bench, an X-shaped cross with straps on each of the arms, and a Victorian-styled bathtub in which clients can rinse off before leaving.
The entire dungeon is immaculate. The dommes always use towels wherever bare skin might touch any benches or frames, so, as Elle notes, “there are no snail trails anywhere.” From the music playing over speakers to the smells to the lighting, “every detail affects the situation,” she explains.
The dommes say it took all of their own equipment, as well as items donated from three other dungeons, to make Mile High Dungeon a reality. A now-deceased mistress who ran a combination B&B/dungeon in Pueblo left some tools to Elle. “I invoke her spirit whenever I use her paddles,” she says, adding that she rarely uses fewer than fifteen different whips and paddles on a client in a session. (She credits another mentor, Mistress Diane, with being “the first professional domme to really put Denver on the kinky map of the United States,” back in the ’80s. Mistress Diane is now retired, but Elle says she still has a few loyal clients who fly in from around the world to see her.)
The instruments lined up in various wall-mounted cases throughout the dungeon include such industry favorites as cock-and-balls torture devices, but there are also some unexpected tools, like a metal clamp designed to hold onto deep-dish pizza containers. Elle and Victoria call such commonplace items “pervertables,” since their standard use is perverted once it enters their realm. “When I saw the pizza clamp, I saw a nipple device,” Elle quips. Target and Home Depot, which they jokingly call “Domme Depot,” are both great places to find pervertables, they say.
While it’s sometimes difficult to tell when the dommes are kidding, they take their business seriously. Both advocate for decriminalization of sex work and rail against the SESTA law passed by Congress this spring that conflates sex work with sex trafficking. Not that what they’re doing involves actual sex; they conform to all applicable laws and regulations.
“We’re in a gray area,” notes Elle. “There are no laws in Colorado that govern BDSM. But there are laws in some states — at least one state – where you can’t even spank someone on their bare ass and take money. Plus, the prostitution penal codes are intentionally vague,” she continues. “They say, ‘value exchanged for sexual gratification,’ but that can mean so many different things. There are people locally who’ve been tried and found guilty when they took money to watch someone masturbate — they didn’t even touch the person. We have to be careful.”
They’re also careful about following city code. The Mile High Dungeon receives regular fire-department inspections; Victoria jokes that during the first fire department visit, there were two firemen, and ever since there have been at least four men at every inspection.
They want to be sure that they’re here for the people who need them. “This is our sacred space. Within this space, lives change. People bare their souls. They bare the most intimate parts of themselves psychologically and physically,” Elle says. “For me, I’m about raising energy up, helping people evolve and grow. And the sexual piece of ourselves — gender, what our boundaries are, what we’re okay with — is a development that has been stifled by shame and weirdness in our society. We really need to get real about sex, period. I think a lot of abuse stems from the shaming and weirdness that humans attach to sex. So we need to back up a little bit and look at, in a reasonable and compassionate way, our bodies and sexuality and all these people who think they are entitled to limit what other people do, whether it’s because they’re gay or sex workers or swingers or polyamorous. It’s time to move past all of that and grow up.”
UK – SURREY – Madame C, from Surrey, England, is a fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress who is on a mission to give people everything they need to fulfil their wildest dreams and fantasies
A fetish practitioner and BDSM mistress is helping people explore their deepest, darkest desires.
Madame C, from Surrey, England, has decades of experience as a professional mistress and as a cross-dressing studio owner.
The highly-skilled dominatrix shares her skills with others so that they “can have the pleasure you deserve”.
She achieves this through a variety of ways, such as medical examination, heavy bondage and role-play.
“I am on a mission to give you everything you want to fulfil your wildest dreams and live the one life you have been given and deserve,” she has written on her website.
“I am so excited to teach you the skills to reframe outdated and dysfunctional cultural and social beliefs of fantasy, sex, self-exploration and relationships.
“I will teach you to unlock your innate capabilities to let go and travel even deeper within your mind reaching your ultimate pleasure zones, and then, slip even deeper into a place of absolute bliss.
“The world I have created for you is a playground for the physical and a limitless space for your mind to explore.”
Madame C works in playrooms with bondage equipment and accessories, such as penis pumps, male milking machines, strap ons, chastity devices and exploration toys.
There is also a whole range of outfits for Madame C to wear, such as rubber mistress, headmistress, policewoman, judge, governess and nurse.
Clients can choose a variety of her services, such as heavy bondage in the dungeon, a rubber doll experience, the medical clinic and cross-dressing.
If customers want to experience role-play, Mistress C will help them explore a variety of different scenarios.
“What Studio Kink offers is a platform on which to explore and enact these experiences through role-play,” she explained.
“I devise creative, spontaneous and realistic play in a setting with props and outfits that will trigger past experience feelings.
“I take the dominant role and guide you through your fantasy using role-play.”
Some of the role-play scenarios she offers are The boy who has been sent to the therapist for sissy training, the naughty nephew caught peeking at auntie as she changes and the underperforming male employee in the female-run office.
Over the years Madame C has met individuals who are all on a quest for the ultimate experience of alternative kinky play.
She has said that every single one of them has been different and unique and has helped widen her knowledge about the world of sexual fantasies.
“My passion, experience, and personal exploration of kink, psychology and exploring fantasy play over three decades has been the building blocks for creating Studio Kink,” she shared.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Flove-sex%2Fbdsm-mistress-sets-up-business-27180333&cre=bottom&cip=28&view=web
“I have created a space where you can safely discuss and explore thoughts, feelings and fantasies in a specially designed and equipped environment.
“Your time with me will allow you to close the door on your daily routine and the person you are.
“You will enter a safe space where you can explore and share your deepest fantasies in a non-judgmental empathetic environment.”
The 47-year-old who goes by the stage name ‘Kaz B’ revealed she makes around £35,000 by visiting clients all over the South West as well as through her own Onlyfans page.
“I’ve done all sorts of things. Some people might have a fetish for spanking or extreme bondage, some have a foot fetish and like to massage the feet.
“There’s corporal punishment, whips, paddles and ties. Some men like to be treated like women and crossdress, some like to be humiliated.”
The dominatrix, who recently moved back in with her mother in Central Swindon, was keen to stress that while a lot of people get uncomfortable when it comes to fetishes and sex work, there’s a “real, beautiful, human element” to it that often gets overlooked.
“When I first got into it most of my clients were quite well-to-do men over 50, but more and more it’s opening up and I’m seeing a lot of younger clients from all different kinds of backgrounds – everyone has their own kinks and fetishes which they might not be able to express,” she said.
“Seeing me is therapy for a lot of people. I’ve started a podcast where myself and other sex workers talked about the stigma of having a fetish, and how men often face a lot of shame in their lives.”
She explained that a lot of her clients lacked confidence and thought less of themselves because of their kinks.
“Years and years ago another dominatrix and I were domming a young man who wanted to be humilated but it was too much for him and he ended up telling us he needed to stop and started bawling his eyes out.
“We ended up just getting a Chinese and watching a movie with him.”
Asked what her friends and family thought about it, Kaz B said they ‘didn’t mind’ and that while they ask her to share stories she keeps shtum about what her clients get up to.
Kaz B added that she has got to know a lot of her clients at a deep level and has seen them grow as people as a result. She said this positivity doesn’t get acknowledged enough in the industry.
But being a sex worker has also helped her overcome a troubled upbringing and mental hangups of her own and improved her confidence as well.
“I have always been really shy,” she said. “I was bullied at school and I was in an abusive relationship when I was younger.
“Sex work has really helped because it’s fulfilling and rewarding to help somebody be who they should be. You get this private bond with someone which helps them but it also helps you.
“It has helped me work through my own issues and anxiety.”
Kaz B is also an aspiring filmmaker, a novelist and is currently in the process of making a documentary to further break down the stigma attached to sex work and what she does.
UK – Lana Michaels claims she makes around £100k a year through her Loser Club, which helps men get on track in aspects of their life while fulfilling their sexual fantasies
A woman who used to discipline students for a living has revealed how she swapped teaching for an unorthodox new career as a financial dominatrix.
Lana Michaels, who calls herself the Loser Life Coach, earns up to £100k every year for “absolutely nothing.”Ads by
After moving from the UK to Murcia, Spain, three years ago, Lana looked for alternative work due to the pandemic – and discovered adult streaming platform Fansly.
After joining the platform and experimenting with different types of content, she found subscribers started sending her money for no apparent reason.
“I would receive messages saying that they sent it because I am a goddess and they are worthless losers,” she said.
“Some asked me to be mean to them or for certain things in return but it was always simple things like a couple of photos or a voice/video call tipping much more than I would usually charge.”
As these unusual requests grew, Lana realised she had found a niche.
She said: “I began researching the niche and I started to understand it more and more. I joined self help groups for recovering finsubs (what they call the person who is being financially dominated).
“I asked many questions about how it made them feel to keep sending money over and over until they regretted it.
“I found that they often lacked self esteem, were virgins, had humiliation kinks, had controlling parents, gambling, drink or drug addictions and many more things.”
However, after she realised many of the men sending her money were suffering from poor mental health, Lana realised she needed to change her approach to financial domination in order to protect them.
She founded the Loser Club, where she took on clients who needed to make changes in their lives – but who also wanted to pay for her steamy content.
“I could use their sexual urges to help them make some changes and also satisfy their sexual needs and fetishes all in one with my content,” she explained.
She added clients now pay her to take control of certain aspects of their lives – which could include personal training, improving their social skills, being their agony aunt or even training so they can last longer in sex.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.mirror.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fweird-news%2Fi-ditched-teaching-become-financial-26997207&cre=center&cip=21&view=web
Lana said she gives the coaching in the form of sexual roleplay – so she’ll assume the position of a dominatrix by talking down to her client until he shows progress (at which point she’ll praise him).
She explained: “The subscriber receives new daily tasks and has to send back video evidence for sexual content rewards or attention. The ‘loser’ has to call me Mistress Lana.
“Most of my clients make real improvements over time in many aspects of their lives for example holding down their jobs better, physical appearance, meeting the love of their life, overcoming addictions and some have even claimed to have cut down or given up antidepressants altogether.”
After ditching a career that she claims brought in £21,000 a year, Lana is now raking in the cash and has spent tens of thousands on cosmetic surgery.
USA – Julia Enright, 24, lured her ex boyfriend into her treehouse sex lair and then brutally stabbed him to death before his 21st birthday in Ashburnham, Massachusetts, US
Julia Enright worked as a phlebotomist at a clinical laboratory and was used to taking samples of blood – but her interest soon spilt into her private life.
Enright, who was 21 at the time, advertised herself on business cards as Mistress Jasmine and enjoyed BDSM on the side in 2018.
She created art from animal bones and kept creatures, known as “wet specimens” and vials of blood in jars inside of her home in Ashburnham, Massachusetts, USA.
Two years earlier, she had been studying at a vocational-technical high school and met Brandon Chicklis while travelling on the bus.They later started dating.
Brandon, a former boy scout, was known for being kind and thoughtful and was described as quirky, with a goofy laugh.
It was reported that they would meet for sex in her neighbour’s treehouse, where Enright set up restraints. But by 2018, they had split but remained friends.
Then, on June 24, Brandon’s family reported him missing. He’d told them he was visiting a relative the day before – but never showed up. He’d been looking forward to turning 21 and his disappearance was very out of character.
And a week after that, a jogger found Brandon’s body dumped on the side of a highway in Rindge, New Hampshire, a town just across the state line from Massachusetts.
He’d been stabbed a dozen times and his remains had been wrapped in a blanket, tarpaulin and sheet, then stuffed into two rubbish bags that had been duct-taped up. While his body was badly decomposed, his shirt had 12 slits in it.
Investigators looked at Brandon’s phone records and found that the day he vanished, his mobile could be traced to Enright’s address. She’d invited him to visit her and had told him to keep their meeting a “secret”.
When police went to her home, they discovered animal carcasses and a bucket of animal organs. There were also used condoms and several knives.
Officers then found blood splattered across the neighbour’s treehouse, which was confirmed to belong to Brandon.
Investigators also found a message that Enright had sent to her new boyfriend the night before the killing that read: “Do you think we could add bubbles to the blood bath?”
Moments later, Enright had invited Brandon to meet her at the treehouse the next day, before she stabbed him to death.
After his death, she had suggested in her journal that she had done something for her boyfriend and admitted that she’d been aroused by an event.
It read: “It was a form of a present. I did it just for him. That was my intention.” She’d also written that her boyfriend may not have liked her “surprise”.
Two weeks after Brandon’s body was found. Enright was arrested and charged with first-degree murder.
Prosecutors discovered that before Brandon’s death, she had tried to bribe staff at an abortion clinic to let her take a foetus home. But she claimed she wouldn’t have done it and the request was just part of her “outrageous persona”.
Her trial started in November last year. The prosecution said Enright enticed Brandon to the BDSM-themed treehouse and stabbed him to death as a surprise for her new boyfriend.
Before Brandon arrived at the treehouse, Enright had covered the floor with the tarpaulin and the blanket. She had also bought ropes and chains, which were never found.
While on the stand, Enright said that after the killing, Lind had helped her cover it up by dumping Brandon’s body.
Lind was arrested and charged with accessory after the fact of murder. He pleaded not guilty and awaits trial.https://get-latest.convrse.media/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dailystar.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fworld-news%2Fblood-obsessed-dominatrix-killed-ex-26968881&cre=bottom&cip=34&view=web
Enright was found guilty of second-degree murder. She was sentenced in March this year.
Brandon’s mum, Trisha Edwards-Lamarche told the judge: “Every day when I drive to work, I get to choose: Do I drive by where she dumped my son’s body today, or do I drive by where she dumped his car?”
“What I would give for one more moment with my son. Just one more moment.”
Enright issued an apology in court.
Now 24, she has been given life in prison with the possibility of parole after 25 years.
NIGERIA – ‘#WomenTalkS3xByPulse’ is Pulse’s weekly series designed to capture the thoughts of everyday Nigerian women on s3xual health, pleasure, and what women expect good s3x to be and feel like.
Among other things, the subject of this week’s edition of #WomenTalkS3xByPulse opens up about discovering s3xual domination and how it became a game-changer for her. Read on.
Tell me about your first time
Well, I was messing around on one cold, rainy night when I was 10 years old and discovered that it felt good when I touched myself. Didn’t know what it was, of course, but after that first time, I kept doing it. It was much later that I found out what it was.
I see.
You know what was more interesting?
I love hearing interesting things. Please tell me
So my folks are Catholic and they raised us to be. So you know that at that age, they were already telling me and my siblings to stay away from sex. The message was mostly for my older siblings who were well in their teens at that point, but I understood it too. The wild part however was that, even though I had heard that sex was bad and I had promised myself that I would stay away from it till I was older and all, I didn’t know that touching myself was actually part of it!
LMAO
In my mind, it was just a thing boys and girls did.
Awwww. It’s giving innocence
I know, right?! Kids will always be kids
You can say that again. So for how long were you able to stay away from doing it with boys
Oh. That didn’t last too long oh. LMAO. Let’s just say by the end of secondary school, I was already doing things that would give my Christian dad serious heart palpitations.
Then let’s hope he never links this interview to you
Hahaha, the chances of that are slim but yeah, it’ll actually be insane. But I kinda think that he already knows I am no longer a virgin so his shock may not be that great.
Oh? Y’all that close?
Not really oh. But look at me now, I am 25 years old and I’ve been to uni and back. I’ve travelled abroad for months on my own, I live alone now… if he still thinks I am not having sex, then good luck to him oh.
Hahahaha. Parents like to think their kids aren’t getting down till they’re married
Not my own mum sha. That one knows for sure that her baby girl is already knacking seriously. In fact, that is why I think my dad knows. She has probably done aproko to him. You know these old people always give each other gist.
True that. Tell me about your sex life though. How’s it going for you?
Great, actually. Can’t say that I have a lot to complain about. I get it when I want it. So, yeah, I’m good.
Can we talk about the changes you’ve experienced between when you were 10 and now?
Well, for one, I couldn’t have known that I like dominating when I was in those formative years. I think as a woman, the more you grow into your own skin, the more you discover about yourself.
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For example, I stumbled on the dominatrix part of myself by mistake, LOL. I read this novel where the woman liked taking charge and dominating her partner. The sex scenes in that book turned me on so much that I read up on becoming a dom. Then it became my fave porn category to watch. So I knew it was my thing and thankfully my man at the time loved it too.
So you’re now a full-time dom?
Hahaha. You say it like it’s a job
LMAO. No be so, please
Yeah, I get you. But yeah, it’s my thing now. It makes me feel good. I mean, it’s not like I can’t have sex without dom’ing but I really like that feeling of being in charge. You know, controlling your partner and watching them squirm and do your every bidding. It’s so exhilarating. I actually think it’s something everyone might want to experiment with at some point in their sex lives. If you can’t dominate anywhere else, then at least do it in the bedroom. It’s very liberating.
Another. Banger!
Hahaha. That’s it.
Have you had any weird experiences so far?
LOL. I wouldn’t call it weird but I was with someone a little while back who was very freaked out at the sight of my cuffs. I had to do a long pep talk to get him to relax so I could cuff him and get on with it. Only God know what the Nigerian police have done to him.
What made you think it wasn’t another woman? Did you ask?
He wouldn’t say. But nice angle. Maybe his ex cuffed him and flogged the hell out of him for cheating. I am sure there is something there even though he claimed everything was ok.
LMAO. Rate your sex life over 10
Right now? 10 over 10. I doubt it can get better than this right now.
Kieran (K) and his partner, Miss Gold, work as photographers at festivals, snapping pictures of racy scenes in underground clubs.
In their private lives, they are also members of the BDSM community and have a “DS relationship.
This means that the couple enjoys allowing the female partner to be dominant, with Kieran relishing his girlfriend’s humiliation and degradation.
“None of my friends are into it,” Kieran admitted on Channel 4’s Love Against The Odds series. “It was always quite an insular thing, and I did wonder, ‘Should I be doing this?”
One of Miss Gold’s raunchy fetish videos was discovered by her father, she revealed.
Despite his reservations, Kieran stated that his family had always been supportive of his unusual interests.
“My mother hаs аlwаys known becаuse I brought in а professionаl dominаtrix to the house from the beginning.” He аdmitted, “I wаs obviously indulging in certаin things.
Miss Gold’s pаrents, on the other hаnd, hаd а less thаn cordiаl reаction аt first.
Miss Gold аnd K аre fetish photogrаphers аnd hаve а DS relаtionship.
“Unfortunаtely, а video of K sucking my toes wаs discovered by my fаther,” she explаined. And аs I wаs wаlking down the street, this vаn swerved in аnd pulled up аlongside me.
“I rаise my heаd, аs if to аsk, ‘Whаt’s going on?’” ‘Why is there а video of you on the internet getting your toes sucked by K?’ my fаther exclаims from the bаck of his white vаn. Isn’t he а proper blunderer?’
Despite this, the dominаtrix emphаsized thаt the couple’s pаrents hаd been “proud” of their hаppiness аnd hаd been overwhelmingly supportive of their work.
K clаimed thаt his pаrents hаd аlwаys encourаged him to pursue his unusuаl hobbies.
And now thаt Kierаn аnd Miss Gold аre pаrents, they’ve hаd to defend themselves аgаinst criticism аbout how they bаlаnce childcаre with their fetish photogrаphy cаreers.
“It’s gotten to the point where it’s а little bit offensive becаuse there аre plenty of vаnillа people who hаve sex.” Miss Gold explаined, “You go to bed, close the door, аnd the kids аren’t wаtching.”
“It’s not thаt there’s аnything wrong with missionаry sex; it’s just not for me.” However, I enjoy аctivities thаt push me to think outside the box. And I believe we cаn concoct these fаntаsies within the confines of BDSM.”
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USA – NEW YORK – A model left her Instagram followers sweating after sharing her hot and heavy workout — but it wasn’t the exercises that sent hearts racing.
See more larger photo’s and video’s on: NYpost.com.
“I love to sweat and I love to drive men crazy,” Yotta told Jam Press matter-of-factly.
The OnlyFans model and dominatrix is seen using several exercise machines at Gold’s Gym in Hollywood to strengthen her glutes as the camera zooms in to her
The video clearly excited many of her 638,000 followers: In a week, the video had accumulated more than 24,000 likes and hundreds of thirsty — and sometimes critical — comments.
“Hell, yes, people stared,” Yotta proclaimed to Jam Press. “I got five cell phone numbers and two clients for my dungeon.”
The brunette bombshell joined OnlyFans in September 2020 and has since turned her five — yes, five — OnlyFans pages into her full-time job.
“Men love me, women hate me — they think I just want the attention and they are right,” she said. “I am a slut and I love it.”
Yotta’s fans also seemed to love it. Her comments are filled with men drooling over the videos, leaving peach, fire and heart-eyed emojis along with her viewers lusting after her.
“I have never seen anyone workout in latex, this is so awesome!” one fan commented on the racy video, while another admitted, “Holy s – – t. I could not imagine this in front of me in a gym. I would stare and have zero shame about it.”
“I’m glad you don’t go to my gym because I’d never be able to concentrate on working out,” one more dazzled devotee declared.
One apparently jealous commenter suggested that her husband “is a very lucky man.”
Yotta’s hubby, German multi-millionaire Bastian Yotta, is actually the reason she first joined OnlyFans and has remained her biggest fan.
“It was a competition between my now-husband and I. We were like, ‘Okay, why don’t we try it and see who gets the most fans and who makes the most money in the first month?’ Okay, game on,” she told the Daily Star.
“We started with just our main accounts — his main account, my main account. We currently have five accounts,” she explained. Yotta now manages three for herself, her husband’s main one and the couple’s joint account, while her husband records — and encourages — all of her content.
And who knows where all of the popular content could lead?
“If I were the owner of that gym I would give you the membership for free,” one fan even suggested.
GERMANY – Sarah Keller, 32, from Germany, claims sex work and being a police woman are similar and the only difference ‘is the uniform’. She was inspired after meeting prostitutes on the job
A former policewoman has revealed she spent seven years moonlighting as a dominatrix after being inspired by sex workers she met on the job.
Former police commissioner, Sarah Keller, 32, from Germany, is now a full time dominatrix and says the only difference in the jobs is the uniform.
Sarah, who goes by Calea Toxic when doing sex work rose to the senior ranks of the police while in her 20s.
But, after visiting a fetish party in 2011 a friend persuaded her to hang up her handcuffs and pick up the latex.
Having always been fascinated by BDSM, bondage and domination, Sarah lead a double life for seven years.
She investigated sex crimes and regularly spoke with prostitutes who would tell her about their lives.
But, Sarah’s desire to be a dominatrix was only furthered by their testimony.
And, while she was on her way to the top of the police force, the 32-year-old found images of her donning a long leather suit circulating at the station via WhatsApp.
And, her decision to get a boob job to increase her D-cup breasts to a 34F made her tenure difficult.
After 11 years in the police, Sarah left her job to be a full time sex worker.
She said: “I felt at home with the police and it certainly was a great job. But something was missing.
“I wanted to do the things in life that really give me joy. In my private life, I’ve always had a passion for BDSM. It gives me a satisfying feeling to lead people and exercise power.
“I had my breasts enlarged, put on flashy make-up and posted seductive pictures as well.
“I noticed that my lifestyle was becoming more and more different from that of most colleagues.
“Values such as owning your own home or saving for retirement were much less important to me than the aspect of feeling good in your own body and enjoying freedom.”
She added: “In some ways the jobs are pretty similar.
“You have a lot of responsibility. You have to guide and direct people.
“I guess the main difference is the uniform.”
Sarah has had recurring guest appearances in the best dominatrix studios in Europe, but also takes part in exclusive photoshoots.
Plus, the ex-policewoman provides a “bizarre escort service” for the “more solvent gentleman”.
And, she’ll help couples to push the boundaries of their sexual enjoyment.
With a growing Instagram following of over 26K, cover appearances on the fetish magazines Bedeseme, Darkside and Massad as well as being featured in a television documentary Sarah says she’s earning more than ever.
And, that’s saying something as a police commissioner in Germany can make upwards of £100,000 a year.
Sarah allows clients to try out their deepest desires and try humiliation role-play such as wearing a dog lead.
Sarah added: “Playing games with latex, whips and bondage allows me to disappear into a completely different place.
“On Facebook, Instagram and Twitter I can only give very limited insights into my life, so my OnlyFans is really important to me.
“For me, money is not the most important part of why I do what I do. I want to pursue my job independently and out of my own motivation.
“I work as professionally as a dominatrix as I did as a police officer.
“My guests enjoy letting go, giving up control and simply having a good time.
And Stacey Dooley, 35, does not disappoint in the new season of Stacey Dooley Sleeps Over with an elderly dominatrix and the woman classed as ‘Britain’s most hated woman’
In episode two of the third season Stacey finds herself sleeping over with a proud and successful 70-year-old dominatrix.
Sherry Lever, from Swindon, decided to take up ‘domming’ after her daughter encouraged her to pursue the career as she would make more money compared to her previous job, a phone sex worker.
The grandmother who goes by the stage name Mistress Sofia, runs her business from home and has her play room set up for customers in the family conservatory.
As it is a rather unique way to grow old gracefully Stacey didn’t hesitate when given the opportunity to discover more about the family.
Back in 2020 Sherry appeared on This Morning and explained how everyone of her customers are different, she said: ‘They all have their own agenda.’
She continued: ‘Some just do it because it’s a little quirk, others it’s a need, they need to be submissive’.
Stacey explored the family relationships and how Sherry’s career impacts their life.
During an interview with Stylist the Strictly winner shut down rumours that she doesn’t actually sleep over, she said: ‘People always ask if we actually stay over, but I promise you, it’s legit.
‘We get there on Friday and we don’t leave until Monday, we completely immerse ourselves in these families’ lives.’
Stacey also spent her weekends with Harnaam Kaur, a body positive advocate, and Clara Belluci who owns the title ‘Britain’s most hated woman’.
Dr. Olivia Snow, an adjunct college professor in New York City and tech researcher at UCLA and NYU, is virally blasting the food delivery behemoth — claiming it arbitrarily discontinued servicing her due to her part-time gig as a leather corset-donning dungeon domme.
“It’s dehumanizing,” lamented Snow, 33, to The Post. “Sex workers bend over backwards to conceal our identities in order to [be treated fairly by mainstream society],” she continued. “And these big tech companies use special software and AI (artificial intelligence) to sniff us out and block us from their services.”
For eight hours, three times a week, the Ph.D.-holder straps herself into silky fishnet stockings and skin-tight lingerie and sexually dominates revelers with a penchant for corporal punishment.
But when it comes to enjoying contactless services like DoorDash and PayPal, she says major tech imprints have unjustly tied her hands.
In a trending Twitter post, Snow — who’s sporadically moonlighted in erotica for 15 years — castigated DoorDash for apparently banning her patronage due to a detection of unspecified “abnormal behavior” from her account, which allegedly violates the brand’s Terms of Service. But she told The Post that she’s never confronted a DoorDash delivery person in her dominatrix garb, nor has she shared the details of her profession with any of the company’s drivers.
However, her tweet, shared Tuesday, featured a screenshot of DoorDash’s vague dismissal email. And she spiced the post up with a sarcastic caption, saying: “love too be a wh0re” — written with a zero rather than an “O.”
And Snow said that the misspelling was no mistake.
“Social media sites and tech companies use various AI to monitor keywords that people type on their platform and into other apps,” she explained. “So I have to strategically misspell words pertaining to sex work in order to avoid getting my accounts shadow-banned or deactivated.”
When contacted by The Post, a spokesperson for DoorDash said: “While we have not been able to verify the posting online, we have reached out to this individual for more information and are actively investigating.
“Users are welcome on the DoorDash platform, regardless of a person’s profession or choice of work, and are required to follow our terms of service,” the representative added.
Nonetheless, Snow further claimed that cyber giants like Venmo, CashApp, PayPal, Airbnb and a slew of popular dating apps have also banned her and other sex workers from utilizing their services.
“Airbnb is uniquely creepy when it comes to surveilling sex workers,” she asserted. “I believe they use software to spy on sex workers and they cross-platform surveillance software to monitor what keywords sex workers are typing into other sites. They go above and beyond to find us out and block us.”
Snow, who’s purportedly done extensive research on the technological mistreatment of sex workers, went on to claim that Airbnb and the like use location data and text-tracking hacks in order to pinpoint sex world staffers and ban them.
However, in a statement to The Post, an Airbnb rep denied that company’s alleged prejudice, saying: “This is false. Sex workers are not prohibited from using Airbnb on the sole basis of their occupation.”
Snow, however, predicted the brand’s rebuttal.
“These tech companies will never admit to what they’re doing,” she said. “And even though Airbnb has specifically said that they don’t target sex workers, they do.”
But more frustrating than the organization’s denial of any bigotry, according to Snow, is the fact that the general public refuses to believe that these major online platforms are specifically targeting sex workers.
“It’s very difficult to get people to believe the qualitative data that proves sex workers are being [marginalized],” the saucy scholar said. “People always ask me, ‘Are you sure it’s cross-platform surveillance?’ And I’m like, ‘I am sure because I do this for a living,’ ” she added, noting her work in higher education and research.
And as a shame-on-you to the tech companies, Snow added, “When companies non-consensually out us [sex workers], and block us from enjoying basic human necessities, it feels really violating. There’s no justification.”
Take, for example, South Africa. Although it’s a country of awe-inspiring history, culture, and cuisine, it’s not particularly well known for its BDSM scene.
Recently, I was fortunate enough to discover Mistress Baton. A South African-based Dominatrix, disciplinarian, and well-established producer of BDSM content.
The scene was a big hit amongst my readers with a penchant for S&M, and not just because of Mistress’ caning skills which she honed with training from various specialist punishes ranging from an SA Correctional Services caner and a SAPS cancer.
“This particular BDSM implement is so severe and infamous, that it is outlawed in certain countries like Spain.”
The question on many of your lips was: “What an earth is that divine caning instrument in her hand?”
To answer that question, I called upon the knowledge of Mistress Baton herself. Today, she will lead us by her skilled and disciplined whip hand to explore the fascinating world of the Sjambok and other BDSM tools from the heart of Africa.
The Sjambok: The notorious African whipping stick
Other names: Sambok (Afrikaans), Imvubu.
The Sjambok is sometimes called a type of whip, which is misleading – It is a rigid and stiff implement – quite the opposite of a whip.
It was traditionally made from hippopotamus or rhinoceros hide. It has been used for centuries by cowherds and wagon drivers, to drive large cattle on the African plains. Additionally, it is also used to look for and drive away snakes in the long grass.
During the Apartheid era in South Africa, rubber sjamboks were used to break up riots by the Apartheid police, sometimes causing deaths.
These days, plastic sjamboks are most commonly used and most readily available – it’s even sold here in South Africa at traffic lights at intersections! Typically from a mixture of heated plastics bonded together.
It is widely used in informal township courts, by Oqonda (township vigilantes) in South Africa, to significant effect. Mostly on youths who steal, use drugs or sell drugs.
During the transition post-apartheid, some Comrades (left-wing activists or particularly militant supporters of the African National Congress) became what you call ComTsotsi: a slang term used to describe a Comrade with criminal element motives.
There was a DC, a Kangaroo Court, and the sentence was commonly 50 lashes. This was seen as a solution to get rid of that criminal element to a Comrade.
A particularly dark fact about the Sjambok involves Adolf Hitler. The former dictator of the Third Reich was said to be so fascinated by Sjamboks that it was borderline obsessive.
It’s also said that Hitler imported sjamboks from South Africa and was rumoured to have quite a collection.
Another variation of sjambok variation is the “Lerala” (Sepedi/Northern Sotho). This was a leather implement crafted as a flexible stick and used to punish specifically men who raped/stole/etc.
The wooden spoon in BDSM
Other names: Paplepel (Afrikaans) or Ukhezo (Zulu).
This is an implement primarily used as a swift form of justice on small children in the kitchen across South Africa. In BDSM circles, they’ve found a new role for lovers of impact play.
When used in BDSM play, a wooden spoon can achieve a quiet but forceful impact on a sub. This often results in a rather intense stinging sensation.
Tree Switches for Birching
Whipping as a form of corporal punishment goes back to the Medieval era in the British Isles and was commonly used to enforce discipline or enact punishment, particularly in the military.
In 1862, Victorian courts were granted access to Birching. This form of corporal punishment saw victims struck repeatedly, often on the behind, with a bundle of leafless tree switches, twigs or branches.
Birching was only entirely outlawed in the UK in 1962, although the self-governing Isle of Man only repealed the law in 1993. It has since found an active role between consenting fetishists in BDSM.
But it is not only the British who have a fondness for tree switches and Birching in BDSM! It is widely used in South Africa too. The trees mainly used here, where we don’t have birch trees, are fruit trees like peach and apricot or willow trees.
Other names for the birch in South Africa:
Uswazi (Zulu/Swazi) – thin switch
Induku (Zulu/Swazi) – thick stick
Umqaqongo (Xhosa)
Umpetshisi (Xhosa) – twig from a peach tree.
Umpentshisi (Zulu) – peach tree branch.
Moperekisi (Sepedi/Sotho/Tswana) – peach tree switch.
Bulls Pizzle whip
Other names: Bultrilsambok/beespielsambok (Afrikaans), picha de toro (Spanish).
This is made from the cured, dried and stretched skin of a bull’s penis. It is a type of Sjambok, though it’s shorter, less pliable, more rigid and more sinewy than a sjambok.
Historically, the Bulls Pizzle Whip can be traced back to the 16th century. Stemming from the Dutch word for “sinew” (pees), the modern name is said to derive from the Low German pesel or Flemish pezel.
Traditionally, these implements were used for moving cattle. But they were also widely used as protection against thieves and pickpockets in other countries, such as Spain.
They are made from a slaughtered bull’s penis which is stretched out before being left in some water to naturally expand. Finally, it’s left in the sun to dry out.
The Bulls Pizzle Whip is so severe and infamous, in fact, that it is outlawed in certain countries like Spain.
African whips
Whips are widely used throughout Africa and are used primarily on livestock. But it is not uniquely South African like the other implements in this guide.
Anecdotes overheard during research:
“Isitswebhu – normally used to whip livestock, but stings ever so bitterly on your ankles. Made from plaited leather with a wooden handle.”
“Umqaqongo – teachers at primary school would ask the older boys to bring sticks, they knew who brings the fattest, bendiest, hheyi futhi!”
“Umpetshisi – twig from a peach tree. My babomkhulu (father) had this trick of hiding it in his back, inside his red PPE coveralls to ambush us with.”
“Ukwipili/cane – some high school teachers claimed to buy their canes from Enduduzweni, a home for the blind in Umlazi.”
“Kgati – this is a slender (very bendy) tree branch that is/was used by men in the mountains to teach each other some lessons. I’ve done this with my friends and I went home with a couple of wounds but you should’ve seen the other guy.”
“Mozacha – this is what my mother used to Moer (beat) us with. It is normally picked from a shrub tree and the target spots are legs and everywhere else magriza thinks will effect more pain.”
“Lepara – this is a dried thicker tree branch crafted into a walking stick by the elderly. Rakgolos like pointing stuff with this thing, and they’ll swing it to you fast. I still have a scar on my hand for a fall I took fleeing from this thing from an old Pirate supporter madala in Mbombela whose parking I stole with my lightning-fast Golf around 2011.”
They make a delightful, sickening dull thwack when it hits the target. I love the sound it makes almost as much as the involuntary sounds emanating from people when I use it on them.
Why involuntary? Some pain is too great to contain, it cannot be endured in silence.
A sobering summary to these types of whips used for BDSM punishments in Africa
In conclusion, Africa is a continent that is never short of surprises and discoveries. Its criminally underrated contribution to BDSM implements like the Sjambok is just one of them.
When it comes to explaining these divine whipping implements in accurate native detail, there are few people who are qualified as Mistress Baton.
As well as being a highly respected figure in the BDSM scene, Mistress Baton sells hippo hide sjamboks made by a South African master craftsman to fetish connoisseurs with a taste exotic implements made with exquisite quality.
To discover more of her unique fetish content, inquire about obtaining a handmade hippo hide sjambok, or test your limits in person during one of her notorious BDSM sessions, you can reach her at mistressbaton @ gmail.com.
The dominant narrative today about men, women, and power is that men prefer women to be subservient.
In truth, many men respect, love, and are excited by strong women.
Most people, regardless of gender, seem to desire a lover who can hold their own both in and outside the bedroom.
USA – A dominant narrative today about men, women, and power is that men prefer women to be subservient. But in my sex therapy practice, I frequently hear otherwise. Many men respect, love, and appreciate strength in women. They enjoy interacting with strong women, having sex with them, and fantasizing about them. But guys in my therapy room aren’t the only ones with these sentiments. Here are a few other examples.
Pornhub is the most popular English-speaking porn site in the world. It publishes an annual report categorizing who is searching for and watching what kind of porn. In the 2019 list of “porn searches that define 2019,” guess what slid in at No. 10? Femdom porn. In case you don’t know, femdom porn is exactly that—porn depicting a person identified as female assuming the dominant sexual role. Out of the hundreds of porn categories out there, femdom is strikingly high on men’s list of favs. If men really preferred passive women, it’s very difficult for me to believe this would be such a popular outlet for their arousal.
The simp phenomenon
Urban Dictionary defines simp in several ways, including “when a male is overly submissive to a female and gains nothing from it. So overly submissive that other guys cringe and feel ashamed when seeing them. This applies to males in relationships when they are so submissive that they say literally anything to be in favor with the female.” This phenomenon has been getting a lot of airplay in the last few years. “Simps” are considered hetero guys who take pleasing their dominant female partner very seriously. Again, not a group of men who we would generally describe as disliking powerful women. Instead, pleasing a powerful woman becomes a priority in their lives.
The younger guy trolling for older women
It seems increasingly common to hear stories of a 30-something guy on dating apps trolling for older women. So often when 40- or 50-something women enter the online dating scene, they are hit up by younger guys. Some women find it appealing and complimentary, while others find it offensive or pitiful. Nonetheless, the fact of the matter is that it’s hard to be a confident, independent woman on a dating site and not get this kind of male attention. Men who dislike powerful women would not seek to date or hook up with more mature females.
The sexual challenges of couples in long-term relationships
I work with many couples trying to keep their long-term relationship sexually satisfying. So often I hear hetero guys tell me they love their wife’s or girlfriend’s power and intelligence—they like the challenge of being with a strong woman both in and outside the bedroom. They are excited by a lover who knows what she wants in bed and isn’t afraid to get it—a woman who has sexual experience and isn’t shy or careful between the sheets. If anything, these men hope that their partners will gain sexual power from seeing me for sex therapy. In my close to 25 years of private practice, I recall very few men who felt their partners needed toning down in the bedroom.
Ironically, I often hear these same sorts of comments about power from hetero women in my therapy room. Women tend to want more confidence and assertiveness from their men in bed, not less. I rarely hear women say they want their partners to be more careful, more polite, or more passive between the sheets. Instead, I hear women wishing their hetero partners would take charge in the bedroom, lead rather than follow, and touch them with confidence and passion. It’s unlikely that I’m the only sex therapist hearing this message. Yet, sadly, this is not our cultural narrative, and it’s not how we are guiding men today.
Today, most people seem to desire a lover who can hold their own in the bedroom. Of course, there will always be a subset of people who identify as male and people who identify as female who prefer submissive sex partners. But I don’t hear most men (or women) say that they want more passive, subservient lovers. If anything, it’s the opposite. Let’s look at the facts and recognize that many modern men love and are turned on by dominant women. It’s time for our cultural narrative to reflect reality.
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